KINO Escalation: Touching A Girl The Right Way With Zero Objections

KINO Chart

KINO Chart

Physical Interaction AKA KINO (Kinesthetic)

Sparing you the drawn-out details of what KINO is, I’ll just make it concise as possible.

KINO is the act or the art of physical contact or touching.

That’s it!

How it applies and pertains to your face-to-face interactions with a girl, be it on a date or at your place, is that you want to establish touch as early as possible.

The sooner and more frequently you touch her; the more she becomes accustomed to your touch.

Whether she will like your touch or get repulsed by it is another story. And that’s what this article is all about- teaching you the right way to KINO (touching) with zero or least chance of rejection.

Now, whenever you touch a girl or attempt to [primarily a new girl who isn’t used to you yet], the best time to do this is with a fabricated excuse to touch her.

Having a plausible reason to touch her will allay her fears. Not that you always need a plausible reason, but if you’re new to this, it’s best to use this guideline.

Lemme take you back to my latest pull from the other night where I’d picked up a 23 year old hottie.

I’ll only cite the KINO (touching) and how I touched her and when I touched her [proper calibration].

Alright, the dreaded-boyfriend topic came up, she revealed that he’d cheated on her twice in the past.

This is an opportune time for me to go KINO with a fabricated-plausible reason. So what did I do/say?

Me: “To be honest, that’s pretty fucked up and I feel sad for you. I can see a tear falling from your eye. You sure you don’t need a tissue ’cause I have 1 for you” :lol:.

As she laughed, I got up, dug into my back pocket and took out a piece of napkin and wiped her face with it in an exaggerated manner as if she was really crying.

We both laughed out loud about it.

That was a perfect example of KINO with a plausible reason to touch.

It was also my first touch on the insta-date and it was obviously successful as the girl felt that it was natural, called-for and harmless.

Accidental KINO:

Accidental KINO is touching the girl by accident…or by what appears to be an accident :twisted:.

This can also be fabricated and should be orchestrated by you (the guy).

A great example of Accidental KINO:

Let’s say you’re sitting @ the bar counter with a girl (or date) and there’s something across the counter (in her direction) which entails you having to lean her way to get it.

Instead of asking her to pass it, or trying your darn best to finesse it in order to not touch while you reach across her, purposely make physical contact with her!

This will fly under her radar simply because it’s accidental, harmless and very common.

Now in my case from the other night, we sat across from each other (face to face) on a bench, so our knees were virtually touching. Every now and then [5-10 minutes], I would purposely brush my knees against hers. Once again, this will come across as accidental although it wasn’t on my part.

We sat on a bench exactly like this

We sat on a bench exactly like this

No big deal.

No objections. It was an accident :twisted:.

Ok, another orchestrated moment of accidental KINO between us.

While both of us were gazing into the skies, as part of my seduction routine, I told her let’s play a little game of who can draw an animal shape in the sky with the star formations.

The purpose of me running this routine is to get closer to her covertly :twisted:.

We took turns and I made out a camel in the sky. Total bullshit by the way :lol:.

Her turn!

She draws a dog-man or some shit like that.

I pretended as though I couldn’t make out the figure in the sky just so she can get closer to me to show me what she sees.

Me: “Where is it!? You sure!? That doesn’t look like a dog”

HB: “The cloud is covering the legs. Look to the left”.

At that point, my face was virtually pressed against hers.

This is appropriate in that the moment called for it.

It was also accidental…so it seemed :twisted:.

She never recoiled nor appeared weirded out.

Intentional KINO:

Now, this’ where the real stuff happens and finesse and calibration are prerequisites.

You can’t spend the entire date or time with the girl relying strictly on accidental and situational KINO.

There comes a point where you have to go direct and phase shift into intentional/overt KINO (direct touching).

The feel-out process is over!

As we gazed into the stars, I mentioned something about a romantic setting, told her that her hair smells nice then I touched it. I stroked her locks for about 10 seconds as we both continue to gaze.

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Warning: An Overt KINO move/touch should only be done BRIEFLY! Between 1-5 seconds!

Had I kept stroking her hair for an extended duration (over 10 seconds), it would’ve gotten awkward, she would’ve pulled away or motion for me to stop thus dampening the vibe a lot.
Keep it brief!

Ten minutes after the hair touching, I feigned being a bit chilly:

Me: “Damn I’m cold. Feel my hand, isn’t it cold”!?

She then feels my arm, essentially reciprocation of touching.

You want her to participate also.

That was the purpose of me pretending as though I was cold and getting her to feel my arm to gauge my superficial temperature.

Great move.

Now that she’d touched me, I now have psychological justification to touch her (arm) in return. So I touched her arm to see if her skin was also cold.

No objections.

That’s a great way to get her to touch you.

As I cited above; make it brief! Touch and let go. The longer you allow your touch linger, the more awkward it gets.

Extended touching comes later.

Now, what is taking place here is slow acclimation to each other’s touch, feel, hands, body, skin, etc.

It’s a crawl before you walk principle.

It doesn’t apply to ever situation, but it should within a date setting.

Rapid KINO escalation is NOT for newbies and guys who aren’t advanced in seduction.

A mechanical approach to escalation (as I’m breaking down) is advisable for starters until your Game gets to the level where you’re then able to see through the matrix and read certain non-verbal signals emitting from the girl.

Ok, so the date and I had become acclimated to touching and being touched.

No objections yet.

By the way, token resistance/objections should be expected.

It just so happened that this girl never threw any resistance my way. This is rare but does occur.

Ok, after gazing away @ the stars, the topic of planets came up. I said there were 9 planets: she claimed 10.

We debated and decided to google it. Remind you, the entire time, she’s sitting on 1 side of the bench while I’m on the opposite side facing her. Therefore, I wasn’t able to get a good view of her phone while she googled the planets. So what did I do?

I got up and sat right behind her:

Sort of like this but my legs were on both sides of her

Sort of like this but my legs were on both sides of her

Me: “I can’t see. No cheating please”.

HB: “How you gonna cheat by googling something”?

At this point, the KINO was heavy in that my cock was pressed up against her backside.

Did she get all weirded out?


Although I didn’t need a plausible reason at this point to touch her, the fact alone that I wasn’t able to see her phone’s screen that well, gave us all the reason for me to be closer to her and right up behind her. So it felt natural and plausible which induced zero resistance.

The KINO escalation was in overdrive as I began caressing her bare shoulders and her neck while we both looked at her phone.

A key thing to note here is that when you’re touching her; never acknowledge (verbally) what you’re doing.

Don’t say to her, “Your skin feel so soft”.

There’s a 75% chance that her ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) will get activated just from your statement of acknowledging what you’re doing.

The result will be she pulling away (however playfully), telling you to stop or any other form of resistance.

Therefore, never call attention (verbally) to what you’re doing.

If you’re rubbing her ass, don’t say: “Your butt feels nice”. Just do what you’re doing and talk about anything else.

Remember to be talking as you’re doing heavy KINO.

Silence will cause her to think.

Talking will distract her from thinking of the moment and what is happening.

Thinking is what you don’t want her to be doing at this point in the game.

Tell her to talk about her childhood days in school or something if you have to.

Anyway, so while I was rubbing her bare shoulders (for a few minutes), guess what we were talking about?

Muthafucking Saturn’s rings 🙂 😯 .

After seeing how receptive she was to such heavy KINO, it was time to double down and get sexual.

I kissed her on her neck once.

No objection.

Took her hand, led her to the pier’s edge while straddling her around the waist from behind.

Ass and hips grabbing ensued, which is an overt class of KINO.

No objections.

As we walked, I held her hand and fingers.

This sounds cheesy to some guys, but this form of PDA (Public Display of Affection) isn’t done to look romantic but to gauge how receptive she is to being touched and held.

I’ll talk about this more in another post [finger holding].

Now, as I mentioned in my previous article, the girl and I had kissed a combination of 7 times: she kissed me 3 times, I kissed her 4.

No objections.

Common Questions Pertaining To KINO (Touching)

FAQ [Frequently Asked Questions]:

➜ “Kenny, do I need to do all this monotonous touch escalation? Why can’t I just skip all this slow stuff and just grab her ass right off the bat or make out with her right away”?

As I said eluded to earlier, if it’s a girl whom you’re chatting up during night game and you’re short on time (she has to go), you can escalate rapidly.

If it’s a girl whom you’re chatting up at the club; you can rapidly escalate.

Whenever your time is limited with a specific girl, you should always try to escalate faster.

However, if it’s a girl whom you’re on a so-called date with where you’re guaranteed at least an hour of time spent, you have no true need to escalate rapidly…unless you’re advanced at seduction and reading a girl’s body language.

➜ “Ok Kenny, so what is the point of KINO and touching anyway? Why can’t I just NOT touch her at all…or touch her later on during the date or whatever”?

Not touching her right away in the right ways (right steps), and if you do decided to get physical with her as the date whines down, 2 things will happen:

1.) You would’ve been too late which means less time to get physical.

2.) She will feel weirded out and often times violated.

You gave her ZERO clues that you were the touchy guy, and all of a sudden as if you got possessed by something- you decide to grab at her.

She will object in some form.

This will have been too sudden and unexpected.

➜ “What do I do if she objects to or rejects my attempt at touching and getting physical/sexual”?

Stay composed and try to be none reactive as possible.

If you try to hold her hand and she pulls away, you can either:

1.) Playfully hit her, “You are so fresh”!

2.) Continue talking, ignoring what just happened. After some time has elapsed, try again when you think you’ve done a bit more at warming her up to the idea.

➜ “I tried kissing her but she pulled away or said no”.

Once again, if you want to kiss a girl with the least possibility of rejection, you have to gradually initiate touching as I’d done on my recent insta-date.

Surly I could’ve kissed her from the inception, but her vibe didn’t permit for such rapid and spontaneous escalation.

So whenever you try kissing a guy who isn’t receptive as yet to it; it will backfire.

Touching and getting physical right away eliminates all of this. So when you do decide to kiss her or embrace her, she won’t be caught totally off guard (physically and psychologically).

Whenever a girl rejects your attempts to get physical with her, 9-10 times, it comes down to mis-calibration (bad timing) and a failure to read her body language correctly.

It also comes down to a failure in warming her up to the idea of being touched or kissed, etc.

➜ “Kenny, how did you learn to become so adroit and good at KINO and touching women”?

Vin Dicarlo aka Woodhaven, PUA and Seduction guru

Vin Dicarlo aka Woodhaven, PUA and Seduction guru

The greatest article I ever read on KINO and touching women was The DEL, Dicarlo’s Escalation Ladder.

It absolutely transformed my dating and sex life!

I read that post many years ago when I was still scared shit at the mere thought of touching women.

With the discovery of the DEL Escalation Ladder method of KINO Escalation, my game shot up 500%!

I slept with way more women from One-Night Stand pulls to girls whom I knew prior but was afraid to escalate on.

Practically everything I’d laid out in this article was straight out of the DEL [what I’d remembered] by the Pickup guru Vin Dicarlo.

His KINO method consists of touching but in a gradual manner: from light to heavy touching.

You guys who had read this article, please, and I mean fucking please, do NOT let in be in vain or just a form of entertainment to pass some time on a boring day.

Don’t be keyboard jockeys as we’d say in the pickup community.

Use the RLA principle: Read, Learn and Apply!

Had I been a keyboard jockey who read for the sake of reading or just to pass time, knowing I needed help with women, I would’ve never gotten my shit together!

When I first read Vin Dicarlo’s Escalation Ladder article, I instantly went out and put it to use the same night.

I failed miserably of course as would be expected, but gradually mastered it as I kept applying over the months upwards of a year.

Guys who are successful in life don’t (just) read! They act! So please re-read this article and take notes if you’re trying to take your game to the next level just as I did years ago.

Related Content:

The Dicarlo Escalation Ladder (DEL) by Vin Dicarlo.

KINO lesson the Arab way by Socialkenny.

KINO escalation step by step by A Dark Heart.

Escalation Windows: Move Fast by Chase Amante.

PUA’s acronym and term list

Gym Openers [Picking Up Girls At The Gym]

For those outside of the PUA loop,openers are NOT, and I mean NOT pick-up lines!!!

They are conversational starters and ice-breakers aimed towards starting the chat.

They are not meant for the girl to jump into your lap as cheesy pick-up lines are supposed to do (which never happens).

Over @ the Master Pick-up Artist forum(where aspiring PUA’s go for advice on pickup), Pirrhyc Pearl, a newbie/student, posed the following question:

“I always see gorgeous women at the gym working out..I doubt girls really want to bothered while
their working out, I know i don’t!. I have had several female friends tell me they don’t want to talk to guys because they are sweaty and don’t look good! Any good gym openers? Advice”?

Socialkenny replied:

That’s good that you at least recognize that
women aren’t too keen on being picked up while sweaty.

But gym openers are pretty simple. It comes down to banter and being playful. You don’t wanna approach her with a serious
tone. Do it light-heartedly.

PUA:” Hey, you’re cheating over there”. I actually
seen you doing 2 reps instead of 5 that every woman is required to do. Haven’t you read the

Obviously you want to throw this opener in a humorous semi-smiling/shocked expression.
You CANNOT deliver such opener with a serious face and serious tone. And of course you should modify the opener to suit whatever exercise she’s doing (be it the treadmill, jump rope, curls with dumbbells, etc.).

“5 Perfect-Gym Openers By Socialkenny PUA”

Ok, so you’re eyeing that tight-ass HB10 at the fitness gym and you’re all frozen with AA (Approach Anxiety) wondering what to say!!!

Before I give away my routines, do me a favor first: smack yourself to get back into your head and realize that hot women DON’T bite!!

Ok, now that you’re back to senses and composed as an Alpha should be, open the target with 1 of the following openers (ice-breakers):

Fore-Note: Remember, be playful!! Deliver the routines with a semi-smile so the target knows that you’re obviously bantering.

1.) “Hey, you’re cheating over there”. I actually seen you doing 2 reps instead of 5 that every woman is required to do. Haven’t you read the notice”?

2.) “Come on…gimme 1 more,you can do it, come on, come on…”[in an exaggerated tone]!!!

3.) “Hey, I’m fitness coach Kenny, and I just wanna say that you’re totally doing that wrong”.

4.) “Hey girl, I’m looking to hire a personal trainer. You accept cash or check”?

5.) “I got a little secret to tell you. You see that guy over there? He’s totally been checking you out for the past hour. He’s so mesmerized that he hasn’t even worked up a sweat yet. Do you do this with every guy who comes here”?

With some of the openers, gauge distance well between you and the target.

You don’t wanna be directly in her armpits making her very uncomfortable (being that she’s sweaty).

But if it’s a case where she just came in, warming up, etc.,feel free to KINO (touch) and get closer than if she was saturated in perspiratory juices.

Also, you can obviously modify the openers depending on the situation and the type of exercizes she’s doing.

Now go out and fucking have fun seducing hot women at the gym!!

Check out the short-video version where I give some examples of gym openers and the tonality for delivery.


“Flirting, KINO Escalating And Being Playful To Get The Girl [In-Field Video]”

Ok guys,I’ve been pretty friggin’ busy as of the past week with Sarging[PUA term for looking girls] and shooting amateur infield videos of picking up chics.

The point of it all [in-field videos], is for men reading this blog (aspiring PUA’s) to get a visual idea of the concepts we teach in the PUA/Seduction community.

You can tell a person anything, but it only becomes real and legit when you can actually show it.

And BTW, this’ what we PUA’s do anyway, “Walk The Walk”, opposed to your generic,media-hyped dating experts and matchmakers who have no real-world experience in pulling ass.

What is KINO and KINO Escalate?

A PUA term for “Touching”.

KINO is like the 1st.commandement of pick-up; every successful PUA lives by it.

KINO Escalation is touching rapidly and more sexual, opposed to standard KINO.

The reason behind KINO (touching the target, i.e. the girl) is quite simple yet powerful.

The earlier, or the more you touch the girl [non-sexually], the more she becomes psychologically acclimated and used to your touch.

The more you touch her (KINO Escalate), the greater your chances to touch her sexually and lay her (later on).

The average guy(AFC’s as we call them) makes the mistake of NOT touching the girl he’s chatting up,thus he comes off as a-sexual and a pussy.

They fail to understand that the less you touch a woman, the greater the chances of her saying to you “LJBF” [putting you in the friendzone].

So KINO (touching) from the get-go says to the chic that you’re a physical, sexual, confident Alpha-Male.

However, there’s an art to KINO and touching women.

You don’t wanna go KINO and come off as sleazy, groping and annoying.

Many newbies/students to pick-up will do KINO wrong and actually piss off the target or get a , “Why are you touching me” shit test.

But over time with experience, one should learn how to CALIBRATE properly,touch her properly at the right moments, right way and right body part.

Field Report:

Ok,so I was sarging the other day and ran across some chics and a dude chillin’ in a park.

I approached them,opened the seated set and did my usual thing.

Found out she’s actually 18 and waiting on her BF at the park[classic lie].

I immediately fucked with her, toyed and bantered with her, push, pull, tug, tap and hit her.

Essentially being flirty with this random stranger chic.

At 1 point (in the short vid clip), her phone rang (some guy), and I playfully got closer to her to listen in and teased her and try dragging the phone from her.

This sort of vibe is the quintessential way you want to communicate with the target: light, fluffy, playful and fun, opposed to serious, quiet and reserved.

Especially when gaming teenagers, they’re so hyped and easily distracted, that you really have to use this sort of fun , flirty vibe to keep her attention.

The video was actually about 20 min. long, but I cut it just to display few playful moments of KINO and being playful.

I intentionally masked over the audio with some electronic music so guys will NOT pay attention to the “WORDS”, but more importantly, to the vibe and mood I’m creating.

At the end of the day, what should guys learn from this article and vid’ clip?

That girls love to have fun, and they won’t kill you for teasing them.

And the fastest way to a girl’s panties is through banter, touching and playfulness.

If you desire to take forever to f-close her; then do the opposite.

*Related article by the top female PUA coach, Kezia Nobles: Being Playful With Women.

Last Night’s LMR (Last-Minute Resistance)

LMR (Last-Minute Resistance) is a PUA community coined term, where a girl resists before point of sex.

LMR (Last-Minute Resistance) is a PUA community coined term, where a girl resists before point of sex.

Had a girl (HB5) at her friend’s place last night (alone)…on the bed, but expected LMR (last-minute resistance) surfaced and fucked things up.

Ok, I had her on the bed,went KINO (touching her fingers), stroking her fingers and hands while saying to her, “Your skin is so soft. Tell me the secret to your soft skin”.

Stroked her bare shoulders and neck with my fingers, but she brushed my hand away, so I re-calibrated and went back to stroking her hands while talking and breathing heavily into her ears.

I visibly notice her quivering as I talked with my lips virtually touching her ear.

Things she said during LMR

“We shouldn’t be doing this”

“We’re going too far. I just met you”.c

“I can’t believe this is happening. I just met you days ago”.

“If my friend finds out I have a guy in his place: he’s gonna kill me”!

“It’s time to go”.

Calling her bluff,I said to her, “Ok, you’re right: I’m gonna leave now”. I put my sandals on and said, “Are you sure you want me to go”. Her reply, “You don’t have to”.

“I’m not ready for this”

“How I know you’re not gonna fuck me and forget me”?

“I never done one-night stands before [SHH]”.

“I feel like I’m disrespecting myself”.

“I have a boyfriend. And I’d feel guilty. My conscience”.

While all this verbal LMR was taking place, I was pretty much using a combination of backing off, re-engaging touching (KINO), massaging her shoulders,stroking hands, rubbing her tits (in bra)…

Last-Minute Resistance (LMR) is a bitch!

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