Pulling Curvy-Arab Girl Who Rejected My Friend Request But Now Desperately Wants To Hook Up [The Psychology Of My Pick-Up Method]


Ok guys, another ultra-instructive post, delving into the minds of women while simultaneously picking them up.

Let me not waste any time on this one.

Weeks back, perhaps almost 2 months, while browsing Facebook, I came across the profile of an Arab chick who lives here on island.

I ascertained that she was indeed living on island and not in Lebanon somewhere. So I cold sent her a friend request which normally defies my usual approach of sending a humorous or witty message along with the request.

Apparently, she never accepted my friend request. In fact; she declined as you will see below!

I’ve come to find out that whenever you see there’s no option to add the person whom you’d friend requested prior, it means that the person had declined or hit delete on your friend request, thus enabling you from friend requesting them a second time.

It’s somewhat of a shitty feature yet great in the event of stalkers and unwanted requests.

In any case, I didn’t actually know that she declined my friend request from about 2 months ago until I came across her profile again by chance (Friday morning). I had totally forgotten that I friend requested her on a prior occasion until I scanned her profile, and also noticed that she’d declined my initial request.

With that being the case, as you can see from the screenshot above, I am unable to send her another request since she declined the initial request. So the only recourse I’m left with is to just cold message her, and hope that she gets/reads the message and reply.

Honestly speaking, I didn’t give a rat’s ass whether she replied or not, which is why the initial message I sent to her, was pretty much non-gamey and bland.

I didn’t care for a reply. Luckily, she replied anyway…soon after.

Here’s the chat in detail with breakdowns in between.

By the way, here’s a pic of her just to show how curvaceous she is.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 1: I’ll be the first to admit that my opener was a lame one, simply because I didn’t even expect her to get my messages. Lo and behold she responded within about 5 minutes.

I guess she thought I knew her which was why she asked “u know me from”? I added some humor by saying I think I seen her on Ahdam Shi, which is a Lebanese show (in Arabic) that I used to watch. Apparently she doesn’t know about the show.

At least I knew she was open to conversing since she asked “what’s up”?

I always use my language skills as a way to impress girls as a form of DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value). And when I say “impress”, don’t get it misconstrued. I don’t mean in a supplicative try-hard way, but in a way which conveys worldliness and that I’m well-traveled. And when it comes to seducing Arab girls, knowing how to speak Arabic as a non-Arab is a HUGE fucking plus out the wazoo! So that’s why I put that out there just to grab her attention in a solid way.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot 2: It was kind of a buzz-kill that she doesn’t read and write Arabic. But at least she claims that she could speak it. I then sent her a voice note of me speaking Arabic, telling her that it is real bad that she sucks at Arabic while I’m fluent. All in all, she’s now enthralled by my language skills which I used to my advantage in seducing Arab girls.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 3: Immediately laid out my pitch about a drink and snack rendezvous. You want to always do this early as it totally eliminates any possibility of the girl thinking that you’re merely looking friendship.

I negged her about having bad taste if she doesn’t like pina coladas. For crying out loud guys: that is how you neg a girl! Lightly and playfully! Most guy’s negs come off like grenades blowing shit up. And then guys wonder why the vibe goes South from there. Also, I commended her on her willingness to try new things. I did a bit of cold-reading tactic while telling her about her willingness to try, and that she’s free-spirited. I don’t know for sure if she’s free-spirited. But always ASSUME as I taught you the other day (using the assumption frame).

At this point, I am slowly steering the vibe into a sexual direction as you are seeing when I talked about stuffing her mouth with food. This is code word for stuffing my dick into her mouth. 😉

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 4: typically, I would never tell girls what I do for work as far as a 9-5 since it’s pretty lame. But since I knew this girl was so attracted already, it wouldn’t have mattered. As for the age thing, I strategically/purposely threw a false disqualifier by saying to her that I’m old enough to be her grandpa. Why did I do this, and what does it achieve? It communicates to the girl a sort of “I can take it or leave it” vibe.

Also, I used lots of curiosity loops as when I told her I have my theories as to why older men hit on her, and that I would explain to her another time…when the time is right. Why do I do this? If you’ve been following my posts over the weeks, you would’ve known that this is 1 of my signature techniques (curiosity loop) in order to give the girl something to anticipate by giving her a quasi teaser of something to come.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 5: I continued to get sexual by leading the chat into a sexual direction when I told her she got booty and boobs, and that is perhaps the reason old(er) men hit on her. 🙂 Again, the primary reason I go sexual is to avoid any misconstruedment about my intentions…which is solely to hook up. So that is what you want to do also: always drop sexual hints if not outright get sexual and forward.

Moreover, humor is the key to everything here. Be sexually humorous as you seen me demonstrate. And you will see me continue that (sexual humor).

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 6: so I created a kind of sexual play where I act as though I’m rushing over to her place to ravage her sexually while she awaits my arrival. She’s clearly enthralled with this frame of mines, and is playing along, which is indicative of her saying “just come”, “waiting”.

Okay, another key note here on a common stumbling-block that guys encounter: when the girl called me perv, I took it as nothing egregious nor negative because it’s not! Hence I “LOL” about it. Most guys however, being so socially unaware and self-conscious, are often taken-aback whenever a girl calls them pervy, perverted or crazy. Most guys would’ve gotten inside of their heads and totally run from such a label. But I on the other hand, don’t give a fuck, plus I am aware that the girl meant nothing negative by it (it was a neg and a shit test in the sense of pickup jargon). So I sent her a thumb up, LOL, and a grinning emoji, all of which communicates to the girl that “I get it”.

In conjunction with the shit test that she threw at me about being a perv, I also turned it around on her by saying “it takes 1 to know 1”, to which she agreed. So, shit test passed with flying colors, 😉 simply because I didn’t get all defensive and offended in the least. On another level; all girls are pervy-little creatures! Women only mask and conceal their perversion because of social stigma. But once you’re a guy who demonstrates to women that “I DON’T JUDGE”, they will often become comfortable in embracing their pervy, sexual and deviant side. So that in part is what is taking place here, as is the case with any girl with whom I interact: she feels comforted and un-judged.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 7: a quick exercise for you. I want you to scroll up a bit and take a look at the previous screenshots. What is readily apparent? Ninety percent blue. The blue is indicative of my messages, while the sparing gray is the girl’s. Now, you were taught by the pick-up gurus that you should NEVER over text, and never send this much messages in comparison to the girl’s! I mean, what you see in screenshot #7 (above) for instance, is like sacrilege in pickup! It isn’t just a sin in Game, but it’s a surefire way to get the guy rejected as a desperate loser who sends 10 messages to the girl’s 1! By the way; that is GREAT advice (not to over-text as you see me doing). So, why haven’t this blown me out and killed me dead with this girl (the fact that I’m blasting her with message after message, doing 90% of the texting)? As long as you’re sending high-valued and interesting shit: it doesn’t fucking matter how long and frequent your text messages are!!! So that is the key here in why I routinely get away with breaking solid text-game rules and never having to pay a negative price for them! The content of my messages overrides the fact that I’m breaking texting rules by sending 5-6 lengthy messages while the girl sends 1 short message! So I want you to bear that in mind whenever you’re texting. If you have interesting shit to say: don’t get caught up with adherence to text-game rules! On the other hand, if you don’t have anything of interest to share, then do NOT send 10 lengthy messages asking the girl lame, generic questions about her boring life!

Anyway, so in screenshot 7 above, I continued my fictitious script by telling her I’m at work with a hard-on because of her pervy ass. Meanwhile, I was really at home lying in bed multi-texting other girls at the same time. 👿 🙂 But it’s the play that counts. It doesn’t have to be genuine. I am only doing this (running a sexual script) in order to get her horny, thinking of sex and wanting me so much more.

Now, here’s the most crucial part of the entire pull: “…I hope I don’t get pregnant…”. Why would she even go there? She already had full-blown sex on her mind/agenda for whenever we meet up. So she gave herself away big time, indicating that she’s also thinking sexually, and expecting me to creampie her! 😯 Note: a total stranger will NOT go there (verbally or through text) with a guy with whom she doesn’t share comfort. After all guys, I don’t know this Arab chick from a whole in the wall! We’d only been messaging for that day, and she’s already dying for me to come over and impregnate her.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot 8: what does she mean by “knowing u you would”? She doesn’t know me! We don’t know each other…apparently! So why did she say that? It’s all in reference to my sexual vibing. From that (our convo), she knows that I’m a sexual guy. Hence, I am liable of ejaculating inside of her, which was why she made the comment “knowing u, you would” (get me pregnant).

Along with that is the stalker factor which I’d clued you guys in on over the months. And even in FB Bang, my first Facebook pickup guide/product, I talked about how once a chick receives an inbox message from you, before replying, she will have swiftly scanned and browsed your timeline in order to discern whether you’re a chump or winner. Additionally, she will attempt to gather intel on you, by briefly getting an idea of the stuff that you post and share by digging through your timeline.

This is why I continuously preach to you guys who are looking to get laid via social media, that it is of paramount importance that you post high-value shit that grabs the girl’s attention! Because the instance she gets that initial-inbox message from you, she is bound to scan your timeline before replying, during the chat, or immediately after the chat. And she will have done so, in part, in order to get a better sense of your personality through the stuff you post. If what she’s allowed to see consists of lame shit such as posts, memes and shares about Lebron James, Connor McGregor, sports in general [male-centric stuff], posts about how boring your life or job is, etc. the girl will have instantly gotten turned off and declined to return a message. And you’ll be left there wondering WTF had you done or said in your initial messages to warrant being ignored.

Therefore, when this sexy Arab chick (total stranger) said that she knows me, it’s a clear indicator that she had dug into my profile and browsed what was visibly displayed on my timeline [provocative stuff/posts and pics]. So she immediately surmised from her brief homework, that I was the type of guy who would get her pregnant if I were to bang her.

[Her messages in gray]

Clearly she’s invested in the possibility of having me creampie her pink pussy. Do you for 1 second believe that this chick talks like this with every random guy who hits her up on the internet (as I did)? Of course not! The sole, or main difference here, is that I gave off a nonjudgmental vibe. And I also simultaneously gave her permission to be slutty, by virtue of the fact that my chat is completely devoid of innocence, saintliness, prudishness and formal gibberish. That is how you give a girl permission to become slutty and sexually receptive over text for instance: you lead her there by staying away from anything that runs the risk of giving the girl the impression that you’re the type who would judge women for their sexual desires. Instead you encourage this (for her to be sexually open) as you had witnessed me do throughout the potential pickup here.

For instance, earlier during the chat, she mentioned school, and that she graduated back in August (she’s 24-years old). Now, school(ing) is a super-lame topic. It is 1 of those subjects which has the potential to kill your chances of sleeping with the girl- because after all- which kind of guy is interested in having an extensive discussion with a sexual item about her schooling, except he be a lame and a square who likely judges women poorly on their non-scholastic and un-saintly conduct. So in a nutshell, that is why nerds, so-called nice guys and profession types don’t, or struggle to get laid. Those types of guys give the women they encounter the impression of perfection, morality, piety, conformity and so on. Conversely, when I interact with new women whom I encounter, I wisely give off an air of imperfection, deviance, slutry, rebelliousness, etc. Hence, the women I converse with, have no choice but to quickly come to the conclusion that I am NOT the type to judge them as deplorable whores for wanting to get bent over and creampied by a total stranger! So they are comfortable in sharing their sexual desires with me, without an ounce of fear of being outed, castigated and rejected for their lurid desires.

Thus, that is why I quickly changed the subject upon her making mention of finishing school this year. I simply told her, “welcome to the big leagues now (adulthood)”, and I moved on, adhering to my agenda of setting a sexual frame. Had I gone into a lengthy discussion about her schooling (just as every guy would), I would’ve inadvertently been setting a friends-only vibe. And that is where and how guys get friendzoned! So make note of that!

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot 9: there should exist no doubt in your mind whether this hot Lebanese wants to fuck me ASAP or not! At the top of the 9th. Screenshot, she mentions that I’m so far (meaning from her part of town/the island). Bear in mind that I’m a New Yorker who currently resides in the Caribbean islands. On the island in which I reside, there are tons of Lebanese, Syrians and Palestinians.

Now, here’s a key thing strategically which I’m employing. She wants to hook up right away but said I’m far. I told her that I’m usually in her part of town/the city every other weekend. Is this true? Not quite. What do I mean, we actually live in the same part of town (as far as I gather from her profile). But as a ploy, and as a way to deepen her attraction for me, I gave her a sense of loss by giving her the impression that I was out of reach, and we would have to meet up next weekend instead.

Knowing that we live in the same city on island, although she thinks I live on the other side of the city, I could’ve simply gotten a ride, hitched a bus or hopped into a cab and sealed the deal with this chick. But I didn’t!

By essentially putting it off for a week, I give her the impression that I am high value, non-needy and not desperate. She clearly wanted me to come pick her up that same night, take her to my abode in order to shag down [she did ask if I drive so that I could come for her]. But what did I do? I exhibited James Bond cool by scheduling for next weekend.

This has got to fuck with a hot girl’s sense of value!

Here it is- a guy- moi- with a chance of sealing the deal with a new girl whom I’d only met (online) about a few hours ago, yet I push it on the back burner.

Who does that shit but a guy who has abundance of women (or at least gives off that impression)!?

All of this deepens her attraction for me. The fact that I can have it/her but chose not to at the moment, blasts a hot girl’s perceived social value to Smithereens!

Women absolutely never come across guys who give off such a non-desperate and nonchalant vibe towards hooking up. And when they (men) do, they (women) become insanely desperate themselves as is the case with this chick.

Additionally, what gives? Apart from trying to show her that I am not desperate, and to get her to chase me even more, what gives? Why did I not just hop into a cab and go see this DTF chick? Well- I had previously scheduled plans for Friday night, and my weekend was completely booked. With what you may ask? GAME! Night-Game that is! 😯

Are you shocked!?

Are you shocked that I virtually passed up on sure DTF poon to go hang out at the bar and hit on women!?

I confess: that is a bit lame of me. 😦 But that is the ultimate reason why I didn’t go see this chick. Had it been a weekday night which is likely to have been slow and monotonous, I can foresee my ass getting into a cab, or having a cab pick her up and deliver her to me.

However, as strange as this may sound; I enjoy the process and thrill of pickup and hitting on women at bars and clubs, more than I enjoy actually penetrating a girl.

In fact, I wrote about this some years back, that sex for me is sort of a buzz-kill. It should be the climax of the pickup/seduction.

The chase is essentially over once sex goes down.

Hence, I don’t quite look forward to shagging girls with much optimism and anticipation since sex would’ve signaled the end of the proverbial-courting dance. So I get a much greater thrill from flirting with testy girls at the bar, than I do from having a submissively DTF girls for the taking.

I literally go out every night- Sunday to Sunday- gaming girls because I love the fucking thrill of the chase, the challenge, the fights, the resistance, etc! So that is why I routinely blow girls off in order to go game.

In any case, I got the curvy Arab girl’s # as a formality (I gave her mines also).

Oh- if you haven’t noticed- who ended the conversation first?

I did! Upon getting her #, I told her I would hit her up a bit later when I’m free. Again: hot girls aren’t accustomed to meeting guys who end shit on them! They are used to being the ones who shut the show down on hapless Beta-Males. When you can flip the script just as I did (telling her bye), it fucks with their ego, pride, self-worth, esteem, value, etc! Thus, they begin to see the guy who subjects them to this value-deflation as someone of higher value, greater importance, superiority and the like (essentially an Alpha-Male).

The Race Factor

Here’s the deal, and this is no great secret: guys of darker complexion and ethnicities, be they western blacks, Africans, South-East Asians, Indians, negroid Latinos, etc, tend to put girls of lighter complexions and ethnicities on a grand pedestal.

Socially, women of lighter/whiter complexion are clued in on this perceived pedestalization of them by darker men.

Given the opportunity, I would put my head on the chopping-block to unequivocally assert that most black or Indian guys would’ve desperately sought to pedestalize this curvy Arab chick while begging for her time like packs of ravenous vagrants.

Coincidentally, Euro, Arabs (whiter ones) and Asian women (the whiter ones) sense this automatic pedestalization and desperation vibe emanating from darker guys. Hence their somewhat autopilot rejection of darker types (men) by the lighter types (women).

With that, I can guarantee that this Lebanese chick was expecting our interacting from the following frame: “black guy will desperately chase me because I’m white”.

She’s likely accustomed to snubbing tons of black guys because of this (low-value frame).

Here I come along, not playing by the rules at all, and completely flip the script on her, getting her to chase me for sex within less than a few hours of meeting…online!

Isn’t that some powerful shit!?

How did I manage such a feat? By Simply avoiding to put her on a pedestal: I refrained from complimenting her, never told her she’s cute, pretty, beautiful, etc.

I never asked her if she’s ever dated a black guy because I sensed that would’ve made me come off as low value. So everything I did was strategically placed to make me seem high value.

I never brought up race because I knew the moment I did, it had the potential of back firing.

In essence, I treated her as I would’ve treated any other girl, regardless of race.

Women of lighter complexions aren’t used to this non-needy vibe from darker-skinned guys. So the moment I told this girl that we would have to meet up next weekend instead of tonight- essentially brushing her off for a later time- it totally fucked with everything she has ever grown up to learn about her perceived social value in the dating marketplace.

I mean, “black guys aren’t supposed to reject whiter-skinned girls”!

This is unheard of! Hence how I managed to flip the attraction switch and have her desperately chase me.

With that, if you’re a black or Indian guy looking to game, pick up and bed white, Arab or Oriental women, you now have the most perfect template for making this happen.

Anyway, being so captivated by my non-needy, yet sexual vibe, she’s now stuck in desperate chase mode. So upon giving her my phone #, she immediately utilized it by hitting me up on Whatsapp, in spite of the fact that I told her I would get back to her another time…and that I was busy. 🙂 🙂

Needless to say, we went on to sext a bit and she’s been blowing up my phone with messages through all sorts of angles and via all sorts of apps. 😦

I’m beginning to see clear signs of a potential stalker here. So if and when I do lay this girl, it may turn out ugly if she’s expecting more than just a fling.

In my defense, I generally don’t have this problem (girls getting emotionally damaged) since I never mislead women, nor give them false hope about a future together.

The vibe I give off strictly spells hookup and hookup alone.

Girls undoubtedly know that I am not boyfriend-material, simply because I give off the vibe of a philandering bachelor.

This is why you should always aim to give off a sexual vibe, and not an “I wanna be with you forever” vibe…unless you mean it.

I am not in the game of duping women in any egregious way.

I dupe them into wanting sex. But not into wanting more. 🙂

On that note, if you enjoyed reading this article and picked up a tip or 2 on gaming women online, you will also enjoy my comprehensive and concise guide on picking up women on Facebook.

Easy guide to picking up girls on Facebook

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