Women Are Lazy And Suck…At Conversation


Social-media post of mines:

I’ve always held the opinion that women have no Game and they suck at trying to make conversation.

What really irks me though is when a chick hits me up with a bullshit “hi”, and expects for me to start, hold and carry the conversation!

Most guys would die for a chick to hit them up first. But as you get accustomed to being around and inside of countless number of women, you begin to tolerate less of their female-privilege crapola…like when they hit you up and expect you to take the convo somewhere.

I find it to be laziness on the part of women, more so than the fact that women aren’t socially equipped to chat up guys.

In any case, this chick whom I’d picked up about 2 days ago, is a classic example of this. She doesn’t have much to say (just as the case with the vast majority of women). So she hits me up with “how are you” messages. And if I don’t carry the convo, she would basically go silent. 

I mean, I can definitely spark shit and make shit happen! It’s just that I get a bit annoyed when women expect me to do the bulk of the work. Often times I have to do it if I intend to create attraction and get the meetup. But it still gets annoying

[Her texts in white]

At the end of the day, perhaps it isn’t quite fair to knock women for their complacency and laziness (no matter the area).

Why do I say that?

Well- it is men’s fault!

Men on average require so little investment from women that they (women) effectively are saying, “well, since he wants to do all the work, might as well let him”!

It’s like when you spoil a child or train him or her in a certain way and they begin to act accordingly.

What then do you expect?

How Not To Comment On A Girl’s Social-Media Pictures

How Not To Comment On A Girl’s Photo…Unless You Intend To Get The “You Don’t Even Exist” Treatment.

When it comes to commenting on girl’s pics, as you would’ve already known from following my stuff, the worst thing you could possibly do/say is to tell her how beautiful she is. 

Whenever I comment on a girl’s pic, it is almost always a NEG or something cheeky or smart-ass!

I bust chops! Not kiss ass with some generic-ass compliment that gets guys ignored. 

Once you realize that women hardly respond to niceness from men (nice compliments, etc), you’ll begin to see the light; which is that women respond to cheekiness and rudeness from men.

It grabs their attention while niceness (generic lame-ass compliments) don’t even register on women’s radars.

Once you become “that guy”, most women will respect it and act accordingly. 

It’s about the attitude: the “IDGAD about being on your good side” attitude.

Most guys play the nice-guy shit with women because they’re afraid to get rejected and shut out.

Hence, they leave comments on women pics saying, “You’re so gorgeous”!

Little do they know, such comments/compliments won’t make the grade.

Therefore, in order to get a girl’s attention online, you ought NOT be afraid to give her shit! If she’s used to getting attention/compliments from tons of guys, you coming with the same-old shit as every other guy simply won’t cut it!

Case in point, this chick posted a pic earlier. As usual, I leave a snarky, smart, NEG kinda comment, knowing it would propel the girl to engage and respond.

Every other guy on the pic left the usual cheesy-ass “you’re so beautiful” comment…and they all got ignored…except me. 🙂

Game is 80% psychology. Along with that is your attitude: are you scary or ballsy?

Women aren’t attracted to men who are scary and afraid to say/do what they wanna. 

When you learn to adopt that mentality with women (on or offline)- that you won’t kiss her ass like the rest of the pack- you’ll begin to experience a shift in the way women respond to you. 

You will go from being ignored to never getting ignored again!

When She Doesn’t Reply To Your Messages On WhatsApp [+ the recent WhatsApp updates]




Everyone’s been cursing up a storm since the recent updates on WhatsApp Messenger which disabled text statuses.

Admittedly, I too was pissed off since I found great Game value in being able to say/post what I wanna as my WhatsApp status.

Interestingly enough though, the new update features are actually godsends when it comes to attracting women and getting their attention.

By the way, I had this post sitting in my draft basket for nearly a year now as I was somewhat disinterested in the topic of women on WhatsApp.

With the new updates and how ingenious they are for game purposes, I felt compelled to finally knock this post together in order to share some tips with your guys.

Okay, so there’s a little technique which I engineered and dubbed “Haunt Her Periphery”.

It’s a nifty trick of mines, particularly geared towards getting an ex-girlfriend, ex-flame or a girl who’s been ignoring you, to chase you (again).

I’ll talk more about this a bit later.

Okay, so here’s the thing: girl ignores you (your messages) on WhatsApp, what should you do?

First off, and this should be no grand revelation if you’re familiar with my advice; Stop Texting Her!

If she hasn’t replied to your messages, and clearly read them (whether she did or not), which is indicative of the 2 blue ticks, you should discontinue your texting campaign and allow a day or 2 to elapse.

Bear in mind that:

  • A woman gets hit up by tons of guys by the minute, so it is humanly impossibly for her to entertain/reply to every message she gets…and she won’t.


  • Perhaps she was busy at the moment and genuinely couldn’t reply, so she forgot about your text(s)


Here’s the thing to bear in mind also: because women are inundated with messages by the second, even if you’d messaged her 60 seconds ago and she read it, if she happens to not reply (perhaps she got distracted), by the time she gets to it- let’s say a minute later- she would’ve likely gotten blasted with 6-10 other WhatsApp messages from her BFF, loosely associated girlfriends and a fraction of her groupies…and that’s just over the course of a minute.

Saying that mouthful to say: you ought to give and take, and give her the benefit of the doubt, that she either lost track of your message(s), or she simply didn’t have the time at the moment to reciprocate.

Oh- just for reference sake- few weeks back, the 19-year old Latina whom I’d picked up about a month back, she and I had a little discussion about texting while we were watching a movie at her place.

She demonstrated something that really stood out as confirmation for a claim of mines, which is that women get flooded with so many texts that they simply elect to not reply.

In fact, “elect” is too strong of a word. Let’s just say that it is more of an auto-piloted and automated response for them to not respond.

She said to me while showing me her WhatsApp messages:

   I got like 70 unread messages, and some of them from days ago that I just choose to not answer.

Upon demonstrating that to me, I quickly realized that it isn’t personal most times.

Women aren’t exactly screening whom they chose to respond to. They simply ignore messages and get to the ones that happen to present themselves at the moment on their phone screens.

Either you’re lucky or you’re not.

Now, that may very well be a cop-out. You may very well accuse me of going soft on women for their bullshit.

Noted!

Anyway, so those are just the most common reasons why women seemingly ignore your WhatsApp messages:

   1.) Just too much messages for them to handle


   2.) Your message(s) got lost in the fray of new messages she got

Now that you know why you’re likely being ignored (that it isn’t personal…most times), you can feel a bit more comforted in executing the game plan ahead.

On an additional note, it doesn’t really change the dynamics much if the girl is an ex, a chick whom you barely know and just picked up, or a girl who’s pissed at you for some reason or the other.

Whatever the reason she’s ignoring your texts, whatever the relationship you 2 have, it doesn’t matter; ignoring you is ignoring you.

Now that that’s out of the way, let’s get back to what you’re here to find out: “What should I do when she doesn’t reply”?

Firstly, after you would’ve allowed a day or 2 (perhaps 3) to go by since you last whatsapped her, you can then go ahead and text her again.

However- and listen to me fucking carefully- Do NOT message her saying anything along the lines of: “Why haven’t you messaged me back since last time”?

Your message should be void of anything related to your previous message(s) that she ignored.

Essentially, you are changing the subject.

To what you change the subject is pretty much up to you. But by no means should your text say, “Hey Brittany, I was wondering if you got my messages from 2 days ago”?

Not only do such text messages reek of neediness, but they sub-communicate to the girl that you’ve been thinking about her and obsessing over her…which are bad signs (if you didn’t know already).

Hence, you want to give the chick the impression that you totally forgot that you’d even texted her days ago.

Feign ignorant!

In concert with that (texting her a day or 2 later), you want to haunt her periphery as I touched on earlier.

How do you do that?

This is where the new WhatsApp updates come into play. But before I delve into that, let me touch on profile-pic usage, and how to use your profile pic to get her attention.

Using Your WhatsApp Profile Pic To Your Advantage

Here’s the thing: women change their profile pic as frequently as they change outfits.

They would change pics like 3 times per day.

Men on the other hand, because we’re more stable-minded about these things, we would have up the same-old profile pic that we’d been displaying for the last 6 months.

To the observers, this becomes tiring and weary on the eyes.

Women instinctively know this, so they are shrewd and smart enough to constantly change their profile pic as a way to give people (men) a new look. By doing this, they (women) remain fresh in the eyes and minds of onlookers (i.e. men).

As a guy, you can simply do the same thing in order to grab the attention of women on your WhatsApp, and to remain fresh, changing and appealing.

Imagine dating a frikkin’ girl who hasn’t changed her outfit nor her hairstyle within the last 6 months.

You would go fucking crazy looking at that drab!!!

Well, that’s the same negative reaction women have towards your WhatsApp Profile when they see the same never-changing profile picture from 2 months ago.

On that note: how often should you change your profile pic?

As often as possible!

Every fucking day if possible!

Two to three times a day if possible!

Don’t allow a week to go by without changing your profile pic.

I mean, just observe the way in which women on your WhatsApp operate.

They are constantly changing shit. They know that the changes (however minuscule) will play on the onlookers’ minds.

Therefore, in essence, women are haunting our periphery by indirectly taunting us with those subtle changes.

Once you do the same, you will have accomplished the same thing too: getting the attention of onlookers (i.e. the girl who’s ignoring your texts) who undoubtedly see your profile.

Additionally, what should you put up as your profile pic?

Preferably photos of yourself.

Memes won’t really cut it, except in the case of status updates which I’ll speak on shortly.

You want to think “variety” when changing your WhatsApp profile pic [“change” being the operative word].

Don’t go from using your current photo to one similar to it.

Always change it up…as women do.

Now that we’ve gotten that out the way, let’s get to the more finer stuff.

Tweaking The Status-Update Feature

When WhatsApp rolled out their radically different status-update feature some weeks back, my Facebook erupted over the change!!!!

I then updated my app and got smacked with the new changes! I was utterly distraught and disappointed that they took away the old feature which enabled one to post text status updates as you’re able to do on Facebook and other social-media platforms.

“With that featured gone, how would I be able to attract girl’s attention”, I pondered.

At that point, I didn’t even realize there was still a status-update feature. Just that it was more image and video based instead of text.

I mulled and mulled and mulled over a resolution.

“There must be something here that could attract women”!

“Viola”!!!

I figured it out! Or some chick had told me (if I recall correctly)!

Anyways, so I learned that there still existed a status feature (albeit image and video), and it still sort of enables me to attract girls in an even greater fashion than the older versions of WhatsApp.

What made this new update (status-update feature) 10 times as better, is that you’re now able to see the women who are stalking your profile. 🙂 😈 👿 🙂

With that, you can gauge your reception and gauge what women are more responsive to.

Ironically, tons of women are livid that they can no longer stalk guys incognito!

WhatsApp actually outs the folks who have checked out your photos and vids.

Thus, women don’t particularly like this feature.

In regards to us men who find it difficult to discern whether a girl likes us or not, this new feature where one can see who views his statuses, is a HUGE fucking plus!

Talk about cheating the system or having an unfair advantage in the game! 🙂

Nevertheless, what is the hidden beauty of this (being able to see who views your stuff)?

Well- in essence- you get to find out which chick(s) potentially likes you, likes your photos, memes, style, your interests, etc.

If a particular chick happens to view your stuff once (over the course of days and weeks), then it is likely just a fluke or sheer accident.

However, if there’s a pattern of Angela viewing every, or every other status/pic/meme of yours, then it’s safe to say that Angela has you on her radar.

Now, how does this all tie into the situation of a girl who hasn’t responded to your whatsapp?

The trick here is to try to bait her into wanting to hear from you again.

The Bait Technique

While she’s ignoring your texts (be it consciously or not), seeing the interesting stuff that you regularly post about (via memes or pics) will have gotten her re-engaged.

She will either then message you first, comment/reply on your pic status, or keep stalking your posts in hopes that you will take the bait, hear her silent cries and then message her again.

This is achieved by haunting her periphery by indirectly attracting her through the stuff you post as your WhatsApp status updates.

On that note, and this begs the following question; “What kind of stuff should I be posting in order to get the attention of the girl who’s been ignoring my messages”?

First off, allow me to make this crystal clear that by “getting the girl’s attention”, I do NOT intend for you to actively try to get her attention.

You’re not doing this for her!

She is NOT the prize!

You are doing this because it makes you look cooler, socially ept and attractive to people in general. Not for the girl who’s blowing you off!

It just so happens that she will have gotten swept up in the fray of those who will become keen on your profile’s activities.

By no means are you doing it for a particular girl!

Got that?

Good!

In order to get a girl’s attention through status updates, you have to post interesting shit!

If they are memes: they ought to be interesting, funny/humorous and preferably about sex, relationship and other male-female related stuff.

An occasional pic post of your meal can’t hurt you.

When it comes to picture status posts of yourself, they too ought to be interesting.

No frikkin’ lame-ass head shots, or a pic of yourself in the bathroom staring into the mirror taking a selfie.

Your photos should have something- at least 1 thing- interesting in them, that stands out.

For instance, I would take shirt-less pictures of myself lying on the bed. On face value; this sounds pretty lame. But then again, I would have something interesting (or funny) in the picture…such as an HD camera laying on my chest as though I were to record a porn. In fact, my caption would hint at porn making.

Not only do they (the cam and the caption) make the photo much more interesting, but it gives me originality points in the same breath. So even if you post an otherwise lame picture as your status update, your caption can actually have an attention-grabbing impact!

When you would’ve started all of that- regularly changing your profile pic and posting interesting shit (memes and status pics or vids)- you can either play the bait and wait game or take the initiative to hit her up in the meantime.

On that note, should you wait for her to reply to your previous messages from days ago, or should you act first?

Wait, Bait Or Act?

If you know me by now, I am HUGE on being proactive as a man!

“Huge” is actually an understatement!

Here’s the deal: if the girl eventually replies to your messages within the process of you waiting 2-3 days before texting her again- touché! Good for you!

However, you don’t want to rely on the girl being the chaser (for lack of a better word). But before I go there, allow me to take a tippy-toe back to the status-stalker element.

Okay, so let’s say that on day 1, you got Kim’s phone #, added her to your WhatsApp, messaged her whatever it was as your opener/ice-breaker, the conversation went good (or bad), but she no longer replied to your last 1, 2 or 3 texts.

You begin to panic and wonder what was it that you could’ve said wrong.

On day 2, you happen to find this article of mines, so you read it, digested some pointers and decided to give it a shot.

With that, and also on day 2, you began to post interesting shit as your status update, partly in hopes that the girl sees/views your memes or pic posts.

Chances are, she will have likely done so. Even if she hasn’t, regular changes of your profile picture might have caught her curiosity.

In any case, on day 3, whether she had viewed your status(es) or not, you want to then go ahead and shoot her another text! So that is where we are right now.

By the way, 1-3 days aren’t fixed intervals. They are merely templates and guidelines. But you can very much decide to wait a full week or two (even months) to text her again. And if the girl happens to text you (back) before you text her again; your path is even clearer to proceed.

Lemme not digress further.

You as the man should always take the initiative to get the ball rolling.

Waiting for the girl to text you first is a losing strategy.

Again- if she does- then it’s all to the good. Chances are; she won’t! So you will have to re-engage her days (or weeks) after she’d disregarded your last message(s).

At this point, you may very well be asking, “But what should I say Kenny”!?

For starters, you can check out this post of mines just to get an idea of how to restart texting.

The Restart Text…

At bare minimum though, you can say something among the lines of:

“Hey stranger. Looking forward to chitchatting a bit when the time is right. Kinda had something interesting to share”


This is called a low-investment text.

In other words, you aren’t requiring, nor expecting much investment/input on the girl’s part, besides some form of agreement in the positive such as:

   “Okay,

   “Cool,

   “Hmmm,

   “Sounds nice”

   “K”

   “NP (No Problem)”

Such a restarter text doesn’t warrant a drawn-out dialogue. You’re basically testing the waters to see how receptive the girl is to communication.

Hence, you require little to no investment on her part besides the ones cited above.

Now if the girl takes it upon herself to force conversation- then by all mean- have a conversation!

In other words, if you say to her:

“Hey stranger. Looking forward to chitchatting a bit when the time is right. Kinda had something interesting to share”, and she replies with, “Hey Kenny! Yea it’s been a while. You’re a stranger too”.


By all means, get into some small talk.

However, if you say to her:

“Hey stranger. Looking forward to chitchatting a bit when the time is right. Kinda had something interesting to share”, and she replies with, “Okay cool”.


Drop it there!

That isn’t the moment to force dialogue!

Be satisfied with the feeler/tester, and strategize for a later time.

Now, why such a text as a restarter [telling the girl that you’re looking forward to chat some other time, and that you had something interesting to share]?

It communicates to the girl that you aren’t desperate, which is why you elected not to pounce upon her.

With that, you get major points for being reserved and somewhat blasé about things.

Also, with the utilization of my favorite trick in Game (Curiosity Looping), you leave the girl curious and wanting to know more. By saying to her, “I kinda had something interesting to share”, it builds intrigue, suspense and curiosity.

Okay, so after you would’ve done that, you allow another day or 2 to sail by without contacting her.

There’s a good chance that she would actually text you first before those 2-3 days pass.

The fact that she’s curious to know what it is you have to share with her, might drive her to contact you first.

If she doesn’t- no worries- stick to the original plan of waiting the 2-3 days before hitting her up again.

The thing is to bear in mind is that you don’t actually have to have anything to tell her as far as something you promised to share with her.

That was just a psychological ploy to keep her on the hook.

This flies beneath her radar. So she will not even know that you were just stringing her along.

Therefore, have no worries about the girl thinking that you’re playing games.

She won’t know! And even if she’s astute enough to sense it: doesn’t fucking matter!

The ultimate objective here on your part is to get the situation back to where the girl no longer ignores your messages.

These little gaps and breaks of a day or 2 in texting her, will have created a new dynamic to where the girl begins to get this pressure-free air about you since you aren’t going text crazy by hitting her up with barrages of WhatsApp messages by the day.

Do Unto Her As She Does Unto You!

Now that you would’ve gotten the girl to re-engage you upon telling her you’ll hit her up when the time is right, and that you wanted to share something interesting with her, and after you would’ve texted her 2-3 days later, what you want to bear in mind is that everything should be low investment.

Your texts should be low-invested on your end, and they should require little investment on her end too.

In other words, you’re not looking to create lengthy dialogue by asking the girl to give you a break down of her thesis on- “why men are dogs”!

Your objective for now is to Shoot and Go!

Whatsapp her today, have a 3-4 text exchange chitchat, then bounce/disappear!

Do the same thing 2-3 days later: in and out!

Again- by doing this- you are taking the psychological pressure off of the girl by electing to not bog her down into lengthy dialogue.

Note: Please take note that you shouldn’t take it personal if she doesn’t reply to future texts!

Take nothing personal with women!

On that note, you want to do unto women as they do onto you!

Giving women a taste of their own shit has a powerful and sobering effect on their psyche. And that is what men rarely ever do. Only the bad boys, jerks and players do this to women (ignore them).

You want to adopt the same approach that she has towards guys. Just as she ignores guys’ texts on purpose and allow them to sit there, checked and unchecked for days; do the same to her!!!!

This should be the way in which you operate with women in general over text.

You shouldn’t be replying to every text.

Treat texts from women with a quasi-prioritization approach.

In any case, you want to treat her messages with less respect as she does with your messages by blowing them off periodically.

Women aren’t used to men treating them like dicks and 2nd. class citizens…unless those men are players.

Am I telling you to become a player like I am?

That would be great for you!

However, what I’m actually advising here is for you to adopt a few playeristic ways.

For instance: a player doesn’t give any particular damsel priority over other women.

One way in which he exhibits this lack of prioritization is by blowing women off without explanation.

Through texts, he blatantly ignores certain women, regardless of beauty, and replies to some of them whenever he feels like it.

With such an approach, just as how women wantonly blows guys off, he gives them a taste of their own medicine.

What net effect does this have?

   •It keeps women honest

   •It gives women a sense of loss

   •It makes women chase you

The hidden beauty, and perhaps curse about WhatsApp, is those 2 blue ticks which indicate that the person had read/seen your text.

You can disable this feature. But most people don’t since it’s no big bother.

When it comes to getting women all antsy and unsure of themselves, this tick feature is PERFECTLY tailored toward that!

In a way, and I mentioned this before in a Facebook post of mines, WhatsApp is like a secret wingman for us guys.

Most of its features, new and old, are actually more helpful to guys than gals.

It’s no shocker to me why women were up in arms upon the new feature which shows you who’s been viewing your stuff.

This feature isn’t helpful for women. In fact, it outs them!

For men though, this feature is a godsend since it gives away our stalkers and secret admirers. So when you think about it (as I have); the WhatsApp team probably comprises of aspiring Pick-Up Artists looking to rig the game in our favor. 😆 😆

Just kidding!

Digressing.

Nevertheless, those 2 blue ticks are nightmarish for women.

If a girl whatsapps you (back), you read her message(s) and she sees this because of the 2 blue ticks, but you haven’t replied to her; this will really really fuck with her!

I mean, as guys, whenever women do this shit to us (read but don’t reply), it peeves us too!

Bear in mind that women are hyper-emotional and sensitive in comparison to men. So if this irks you in passing, just imagine what it does to women to know that they are being bypassed and ignored.

Since men are accustomed to getting rejected by women, we learn to live with rejection as a normal part of the daily soap-opera script called life.

Women on the other hand, process rejection from men on a heightened level since they aren’t accustomed to it.

Saying all that to say, by turning the tables on a girl who’d been ignoring your messages, it will jolt her reality and rattle her world like a fucking jackhammer on the tarmac!

You’re not doing anything special besides doing to her what she’s been doing to most guys (read and ignore their texts).

This just may be the most potent trick of mines shared in the article (purposely ignoring her messages).

Now this begs the following question: when should you reply to her after ignoring her text?

For example: you text her, she replies, you text her, she replies, you strategically ignore her.

“When should I reply”?

You don’t have to!

By that I mean you don’t have to reply in relation to the text of hers which you’d been ignoring. But you can though.

Either way, your response time isn’t that crucial.

You can decide to finally reply to her after a day of letting her message sit there. Or you can wait 3 days, a week, 3 weeks!

You get the point, right!? Just as she has little regards for your texts, you shouldn’t have much regards for hers either.

In Conclusion

Okay guys, I should’ve cautioned you earlier to grab a pen and pad since the article is extensive and may require some lightening concentration just to keep up.

That is why I HATE composing these long-ass article.

The reader is likely to get drowned in information, and find it much easier on the mind to simply move along to the next shiny thing.

Needless to say, I’m assuming that your brain isn’t as fried as mines, so the keynote tactical tidbits shared in this article would be easily noted by you.

Hopefully you would’ve learned some valuable tips as to why women seemingly ignore your messages, what to do in the even that they ignore your messages and how to level the playing field by turning the tables on them.

In essence, every tip shared within this article about girls ignoring you on WhatsApp, is applicable to any other texting-based platform.

If a girl ignores your inbox messages on Facebook, then the same concepts shared here for WhatsApp Messenger apply.

The only difference here is that certain tidbits of advice are specifically tailored towards the WhatsApp platform.

At the end of the day, if your intention was to get a particular girl to start responding to your messages again; then call it a mission success!

I just gave you the most effective format.

However, I have to continue to put you on notice, that the reality is, there will likely come a future occasion where she happens to ignore your messages again.

It will happen again!

Women are too erratic and they have the attention span of an ant. So this creates a ripe recipe for continued state breaks (missed texts, forgetting to return texts, purposely ignoring some, etc).

The way to neutralize this is to not take anything to heart as I advised you earlier.

Secondly, as long as you give women a dose of their own meds (periodically ignoring their texts too), you will keep the playing field leveled, keep your sanity and keep women in guess mode.

On a grander level, if your intention is to get a date, secure a rendezvous or what have you, then in conjunction with the format you’d learned from this article, you can then take the appropriate steps towards making this happen [the transition from small talk to so-called date proposal] by Reading This Article of mines.

If for whatever reason you don’t quite know how to hold and captivate a girl’s attention over text, I implore you to check out the Text-Game Archive.

Why I Don’t Rate Women Better Than An 8 On The Looks Scale


The mind, however vaguely defined, is a very powerful tool.

It can make or break you.

Psyching oneself out is a strange occurrence of the mind.

Where am I going with all this ambiguous mumbo-jumbo?

Well, just as the mind creates or eliminates your obstacles in life, it does just that in courtship and pick-up.

One of the biggest ways that a guy goes about creating unnecessary obstacles for himself is by rating women’s looks

Now, I know we all in pickup are guilty of this: “She’s an HB1, HB20, HB8.6”! But I find that to be more of an illustrative factor than something taken seriously by the guys.

Nevertheless, this rating of women will produce a back-firing effect on most guys: be they Aspiring Pick-Ap Artists or your Average Frustrated Chumps trying to get by. And that is because unskilled PUA’s and AFC’s lack the internal wherewithal to keep their shit in check.

When most guys get the privilege of having a hot girl say hi to them, their giddy hearts begins to flutter, their nerves go topsy-turvy and their palms begin to perspire as though they had used an entire bottle of baby oil to moisturize their hands before leaving their abode.

The more women you sleep with, the less this spontaneous reaction occurs (if at all).

Hot women become regular items on the shelf instead of commodities.

In my case, I never get the jitters when faced wih women of impeccable beauty [my fingers almost fell off just from typing those words: that a woman can have impeccable beauty].

How come?

I do NOT put women on pedestals! I do NOT rate women above an 8 on the looks scale!

I rarely even classify a woman as hot.

It isn’t that I’m actively trying to be a dick about things. It is merely because I know the psychology of psyching oneself out by his or her own mind!

The instant your eyes, heart and dick begin to sell yourself on the idea that Jane Doe is a 10, your mind concurrently buys into your own bullshit, believes it (that Jane Doe is a walking, talking Madonna), and the process of pedestalization kicks off to where the girl becomes larger than life, having more value than you do- and “bang”- your chances vanish like a magician making poofing the trick before your eyes.

Admittedly, when it comes to genuinely rating women high, just as every other dude, I too was a victim of such social mind-fuckery until I realized that it was having a stymied effect on my chances with hot women.

To clear the air on something here, just to avoid possible confusion about my position: I am not making a case that all women are equal on the looks scale, or that there isn’t such a thing as a super-hot girl.

Surely there exist ugly chicks, not-so-ugly ones, cute/cutish girls and gorgeous ones.

What I’m actually saying to you here is that outwardly, you should react to super hot girls no differently than you do to ugly ones.

Treat them no differently!!!

By virtually (and literally) separating the hot ones from the ugly ones, you inadvertently create a situation where your mind says Girl A has more value than Girl B because Girl A is way hotter.

Girl A- the way hotter girl- then begins to play on your mind…in a bad way. Not only will you not have a shot with Girl A because you’ve put her into the goddess frame, but it’d be next to impossible to contain your nerves when in her presence or via some form of communication with her.

Therefore, to avoid this whole clusterfuck, just as I began doing some years back, Rate no woman higher than a fucking 8!!!

I DON’T GIVE A RAT’s ASS if she’s a reincarnation of the youngest version of your favorite porn queen from back in the days to whom you wanked to bed every night as a teen! She’s no hotter than an 8!!!

Now, what does this achieve on a psychological level?

Not only does it level the playing field in respects to you and her, but it humanizes your perception of the girl.

If she’s no longer deemed an HB10.10 goddess in your mind; there’s no reason to fear her.

There’s no reason to get all jittery and iffy about your approach to her.

Look at it this way too in illustrating a point that I made previously: would you get all nervous and petrified if for some reason, an ugly chick were to approach and try to make conversation with you?

Of course not!

You may feel uneasy by the thought that people may mistakenly put 1 and 2 together and try to pin you both as a couple: you and the ugly duckling. But by no means would you feel intimidated, un-confident and afraid to engage her.

Shit- you may likely even carry an air of aloofness and condescension!

Conversely, let’s sub that ugly duckling in the illustration for a drop-dead gorgeous birdie.

How would you feel if that drop-dead gorgeous chick were to approach you to strike up a random convo…for whatever reason?

You would probably shit your undies! 😯 😆

You would likely stutter, pant, gawk, experience a chilling air of non-confidence and insecurity, you name it!

A question: who’s actually causing this?

Is it the girl or you?

You!!!

Your mind fucks you into believing that because the girl is hot(ter), she’s worthy of more value, deified, cherished, thus rendering you neutered and petrified.

This isn’t the girl’s fucking fault!

It’s yours!

“She’s hot”!

“So what”!

It’s all perception at the end of the day!

You, as the beholder, determines whether she’s hot or not!

Hence you determine how you’ll treat her, and how you’ll react to her accordingly: if she’s hot, you treat her graciously. If she’s not hot, you treat her derisively or with an air of nonchalance.

Well I’m saying to you that you should treat every prospective lover with an air of nonchalance, regardless of her hotness!

Is this easier said than done?

Sure!

However, you can shortcut this process and ultimately nip it in the bud by re-framing your perception of hotness and the way in which you reaction to women based on their hotness.

For starters:

   •Rate no woman higher than an 8!

Secondly:

   •Fight the impulsive drive to want to separate women based on their facial affectations.

Thirdly, and this is the most frightening of the 3 hacks:

   •Get accustomed to approaching hotter girls!

As you become acclimated to the exclusive environment in which hot girls breath [pun intended], you ultimately/gradually become desensitized to their hot-girl ways, charms, wits and glams.

Hot girls will have no longer impressed you based on sheer looks.

All of her hot-girl bullshit gets neutralized as you become accustomed to them. But this can only be achieved by jumping into the proverbial fire or the frigid pool (i.e. approaching so-called how women)!

Over time, those HB10’s, those dime pieces, become 5’s in your eyes.

Their looks are obviously still the same. But your perception of them (hot women) will have changed, hence the way you react to them and around them.

In conclusion and summary: it does matter how stunningly beautiful a girl is to me, I rate her no higher than an 8, and I treat her no differently than I would an ugly duckling.

Therefore, on an internal level- within my being or psyche- this otherwise super-hot 10 is reduced to a -minus 8. Externally, because of my inner reframe, I behave towards her accordingly (like a -8), whereas I no longer perspire like a gym-rat on cardio day, nerves in check, speech in check (I no longer stammer and fight for words) and everything goes much smoother from thenceforth.

With that, if you’re having difficulties getting over this hump where you pedestalize hot girls, simply reframe your outlook and perception by firstly verbalizing it (internally and externally):

“There is no such thing as a 10”!

Then act like you really believe this!

Over time, and with the previous 2 tips I’d cited above, you will have massacred your fear of hot women.

What is the benefits of that you may ask (no longer fearing and pedestalizing hot women)?

Well- clearly- attracting the hottest women whom you were previously petrified of, becomes a reality.

Sleeping with those hotties whom you would’ve deemed 10’s, becomes a reality as you will have psyched yourself up into become a confident chap in the face of goddesses on Earth!

Ciao!

If you need some one-on-one encouragement or clarification on this, hit me up on Skype by booking your session at the link below.

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/need-coaching/

Just A Bit On Romance

The other night I had a girl say to me:

Kenny, you’re so romantic and sensual with women”. Most men I meet aren’t like you, and they don’t know shit nor do shit romantic. Most guys I meet don’t do foreplay. They just want to pull their pants down and stick it in”.

Almost every girl I hook up with feed me that story…which is true actually.

This makes a whole ton of sense now, why 99.5% of the girls I sleep with are either in relationships or marriages.

Their husbands or boyfriends suck shit at romance, intimacy and don’t do foreplay.

Listen dude, before I even penetrate a girl’s pink flesh, I would’ve already done about 45 minutes to an hour’s worth or foreplay (depended on how long she can stay over).

Sometimes, I don’t even bother penetrate the girl because she would’ve already came alone from the foreplay. And I would in turn settle for a blowjob if that’s all I wanted.

What kills most guys when it comes to the prospect of romance is the notion that romance equates to weakness.

Most guys hooked on the idea of machismo, let it overshadow their senses when it comes to getting a woman hooked and compliant to the idea of being penetrated over a long duration.

The truth is: romantic isn’t weak, and doesn’t have to be.

I mean- I am uber-romantic – but I’m never ever perceived by women to be soft and weak.

A simple way in which I manage this is by incorporating the dominance with the romance.

For example, even if I were to be kissing, licking and sucking a girl all about her body- let’s use her neck and shoulders for instance- although my kisses would light, gentle and tender (i.e. romantic), I would do something dominant and rough in order to balance things out (i.e. pull her hair back/down while I kiss/suck on her neck or bite her chin ever so gently).

With such an approach of mines, you don’t risk much as far as the dominance factor. And you maintain the romance aspect at the same time.
By the way guys, I’ll be putting together a document exclusively based on being romantic and dominant when making a sexual move on women.

Cougar Insta-Date Pull Field Report


A quick infield-video post which cites:

•How I cold approach women on the streets, and why this is the best way to do so

•How you can make any opener/ice-breaker work…as long as you buy into your own shit!

In the following video from over the weekend (Friday evening), I cold approach this white chick (a Cougar who’s part of a movie-director team) while heading down the bloc.

Once I found out that she’s only going to be here for 2-3 more days, I decided to go for the insta-date instead of the phone # which would’ve been quite useless with such logistics.

Trying to get a random stranger to come along with you sounds like a mammoth task- and perhaps it is- but with time and practice (trial and error) you’ll get a hang of it (how to be persuasive and convincing without being pushy and aggressive).

For one-on-one coaching via Skype, on how to approach and pick up total strangers on the streets, book your session at the following link!

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/need-coaching/