When She Doesn’t Get Back To Your Message: “What Do I Do”?


In keeping with the theme of the previous post on Congruence Testing, I was asked the following question on my Facebook page:

Great post! What’s the procedure if she doesn’t respond? And how long do you give her?

Now, that question was predicated on the fact that the girl never got back to me promptly.

My quoted answer:

Good question Dan. I was anticipating such a question which is very logical. When, or if she doesn’t get back that day, you ought NOT to
send another text that same day. And definitely not reminding her about the fact that you asked her for her #. What you do is to allow a few days to go by (perhaps 3 days), then hit her back with something cheeky and funny. Something totally unrelated to the last convo where you tried to get her #. You want to essentially show her 2 things:
1.) You didn’t get desperate.
2.) You didn’t hold it against her or get all butt-hurt that
She didn’t get back to you.
Now, after getting back to her 2-3 days later with something humorous and unrelated, you then go for the # again. 99.8% of the time she will give it up right away since you did pass her congruence test the last time (and she remembered). So that’s how you go about it. Totally do NOT bring up the fact that you asked her for her # last
time. It’ll only make you look attached and worried

There isn’t much I can add to the answer I gave Dan.

If a girl ignores your last message, the quoted format I laid out above is the most effective strategy in order to re-engage her.

By all means: do NOT bring up the fact that she didn’t get back to you, or that she ignored your last text(s).

If you do take that risk, ensure that it’s done HUMOROUSLY!!!

At times, I would message the girl with something like:

“Hey bad ass, I like how you flatly ignored my last message like a worthless lad. But don’t worry…I would punish you so harshly for your bad behavior” 🙂 .

I would ensure to put a smiley face at the end just to hammer home the fact that I’m being humorous and not butt-hurt.

Beware Of Female Trickery Through Congruence Testing [Text-Game Advice]


When she hits you with the, “hold on”, congruence test, the only logical explanation for that, is to see whether you’ll get all desperate and send 100 follow-up messages. 

With this chick right here, we’ve flirted back and forth on each other’s statuses . So I hit her up yesterday, after she’d hit like on a comment of mines.

We texted before (a while back), but I never attempted to get her digits or anything tangible besides running some flash-game stuff.

Anyway, so she hit me with “hold on” (a Congruence Test), after I told her to cough up the digits so I can hit her up later in the week about meeting up. 

Now, here’s the trick: she was replying fairly quickly until she said “hold on”, and didn’t get back to me in a long while (few hours).

At that point, a large number of guys would get all chody, worried and desperate, thus sending some lame-ass follow-up messages such as: 

“Did I say something wrong, Darlene”? 

“Hey Angie…are you there”?

“Hey Jessica…I was asking for your phone #. You might have missed that message. Can I have it”?

“You told me to hold on but it’s been a while now. Are you okay or did I say something that offended you”?

Yep! Most guys would go chode fucking mode by sending 1, or all of the above messages (or something similar), after the girl says “hold on”, but doesn’t get back (in a timely fashion).

Panic will set in, the guy will get desperate and blow himself out, not realizing that the girl was just testing his resolve and Alphaness by making him wait, in order to see whether he’ll go all AFC Beta-Male, or remain cool, unaffected and allow her to respond. 

If she doesn’t respond at all (after telling you to hold on), there’s a procedure for going about this, which I’ll address in a subsequent post.

Anyway, so check how she did that to me, but I never panicked after she said “hold on”.

She took almost 2 hours to respond with her digits. So…I essentially passed the Congruence Test with flying colors. 

It’s imperative that you learn how to read women and their modus operandi.

Innocuous and seemingly innocent moves like those can make or break your chances with women. So be on the lookout for the tricks women play.

What You Don’t Get About Girls Calling You Ugly


Two posts ago, I wrote about a girl on Facebook who called me ugly during our little texting session.

My overall point was that you shouldn’t take this stuff seriously.

I’d simultaneously posted this to Facebook as a status.

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I want you to pay attention to the comment by Fenohasina. His take on it was being all defensive, which I warned you about in the other post.

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You never want to get all defensive whenever a girl rejects you or calls you ugly.

With that being said, the guy in the screenshot below (Jason) makes a great point.

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If a girl truly sees a guy as unattractive or ugly; she won’t say it to the guy!

Women (people in general) are social cowards.

Here’s the thing: a girl will say that you’re ugly as a shit test. She will say that to a guy whom she’s truly attracted to.

That is why I laugh it off whenever a girl calls me ugly. I know she doesn’t mean it.

I know it’s a congruence test.

Keep that in mind for future reference.

Girl I Seen On A Morning News Program Calls Me Ugly. How Do I Handle It?


Every now and then, I get guys ask me, “Kenny, how do you handle girls calling you ugly”?

Essentially, this is a shit test and or congruence test, whenever the girl you’re chatting up calls you ugly, or say anything that would traditionally be deemed a rejection or an IOD (Indicator Of Disinterest).

Few days ago while watching the good-morning news program, there was a segment which featured a sexy girl, a small-business owner, who happens to be a friend of mines…on Facebook only.

I didn’t quite get to see what the segment was about, nor was I privy to the girl’s entrepreneurial ambitions. But at the very tail end of the segment, I noticed that her face’s familiar, included her name.

I browsed my timeline in search of confirmation on whether or not I had the right person.

“Bingo”!

Her profile pic includes a selfie which was taken on set of the program, along with the hosts of the morning show.

I then messaged the girl.

By all means; this was NOT a pick-up attempt.

I was merely talking shit and making an impression. Not that I wouldn’t try to pick her up. But it just wasn’t the time. I merely wanted to register on the chick’s radar for another time.

Anyway, so I inboxed her. Firstly, I want you to take note of my vibe, and how I wasn’t kissing her ass and giving her the celeb treatment because I seen her on TV.
[My messages in blue]

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In the 2nd screenshot (below), I maintained a frame that I am not gawking over her, but merely making an observation that she’s a sexy girl who knows how to have fun.

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Wow! Did that hurt or what!?

Of course not!

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How did I handle her calling me ugly?

I took it with humor.

Here’s the deal: whenever a girl calls you ugly, particular one whom you’re chatting up, Always agree with her!

Did I make myself clear!?

Always agree with the girl saying you’re ugly!

Doing so will have beaten out her frame, beat her shit test while taking away the play from her all at the same time.

Why is it such a powerful thing to agree with the girl saying you’re ugly, and to take it lightheartedly?

#1 No girl, or any person for that matter, expects you to agree with their assessment of you being ugly. So this totally fucks their frame

#2 You show the girl that you aren’t thin-skinned

More importantly, by agreeing with the girl to whatever her shit test was (in this case: she saying I’m ugly), it shows that you aren’t about to try to defend yourself and get all defensive just because a girl calls you ugly.

It also shows the girl that you aren’t about to qualify and try to prove your worthiness.

What would most guys have done?

Firstly, they would get all butt-hurt and sensitive.

Secondly, they would rebut with something like, “I’m handsome. Lots of girls find me attractive”.

Thirdly, they would throw a tantrum upon feeling rejected, thus cussing the girl out.

It is never a good idea to qualify yourself to a girl!!!

In other words; if she calls you ugly, the worst reaction ever is to try to convince the girl that you’re not ugly!!!

By telling the girl “I appreciate being ugly”, it allowed me to pass her shit test with flying colors.

Moreover, after you pass a shit test, you don’t dwell on it. Move on by changing the subject just as you seen me do.

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In any case, I don’t take rejections as rejections.

I take them to mean “not now”, instead of “never”.

Lastly, girls calls me ugly all the time.

In fact; I rarely have girls call me handsome. But it doesn’t affect me 1 bit. 🙂

Ciao!

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