Peacocking Is Real


The first peacocking item I ever purchased which predates the VH1 Pickup Artist show.

I bought this necklace and talisman from a homeless white Jewish guy peddling on the streets [I know what
you’re thinking: “a fucking Jew who’s
homeless”!?].

Anyway, truth is; every time I wore this to the club or bar, I got a same night lay pull.

Not only that, but as insignificant as this necklace appears, every time I wore it to night game, various women would open me by commenting on it: “Hey, interesting necklace. What does it signify”?

Even while in convo, girls would almost always notice it and comment on it…which goes to show that women have eyes for details and they notice every minute thing.

Crazy enough about this talisman and necklace, I lost it once and recovered it from my grandmother’s garden…buried in dirt literally. This really belongs to me, and meant that it would never lose me.

I’m wearing it tonight for the first time in about a year. BTW, I am NOT wearing it in hopes of getting lucky tonight [since I’m already banging a
rotation of new girls]. But just for old-time sake and the memories of killing it in night game some years back.

#PeacockIsReal

Revenge Of The Bearded Men

Once upon a time in the seduction genre, the bearded guy was looked down upon with scorn, disdain and ridicule.

If you were bearded: you were deemed un-dateable.

there were no bearded figure (of prominence) in the seduction community apart from Paul Janka.

Paul Janks: seduction guru

Paul Janks: seduction guru

Having a full beard + scruff was unheard of and seen as bad grooming, tasteless and a lack of style and social intelligence. Hence 99.9 % of the instructors in this genre of seduction were either clean-shaven or wore a very light beard and goatee.

I’d never worn the clean-shaven look [no beard, no mustache]…sorta gives men a pedophile look if you ask me. So I always kept a beard & goatee but the remaining facial hair was completely wacked off.

Prior to just 6 months ago, I would’ve strangled you had you ever insisted that I should grow my sideburns with connected facial hair on both sides- or even the neck-beard look.

However, over the last 5 months, I’ve been rocking out in my full-bearded profile, not giving a shit about social and societal norms and implications nor what anyone thinks. 😯

Kenny going rogue

Kenny going rogue

It’s a liberating feeling to not have to fucking shave or hit the barbershop every few days…plus I get to penny-pinch $20 which I can instead spend on booze! 😉

Ok, so what attributed to this shift in the Pickup/Seduction community among the coaches, instructors and gurus: from clean-shaven to semi to fully bearded?

My rigid hypothesis leaves me to surmise that It’s a rebellion against the mainstream media of dating.

The mainstream-dating world has it that a guy ought to be well-groomed or clean-shaven in order to become a viable candidate on the proverbial-dating market.

The PUA Community ate this up like a fat kid in a candy store, hence the reason why prior to 2 years ago, 99% of the PUA blogs were saturated with articles encouraging guys to get those razors and trimmers out if they wanted to attract women and make it to pussy-banging paradise.

We were frikkin’ duped! 😯 😡

With the re-emergence of the dominant Alpha-Male character perhaps 2 and a half years ago, guys in Pickup quickly started to drift away from the beard-less avatar towards adopting the manlier-caveman profile.

As much as I hate to admit, my nemesis RooshV might have been onto something with his consistent adherence to the bearded-Alpha profile, while steering clear of being sucked into the mainstream narrative that a man should be cleanly shaved as to facilitate his journey to pussy-paradise.

RooshV; Turkish-American game-coach out of Washington, DC

RooshV; Turkish-American game-coach out of Washington, DC

Ok, so is this resurgence of the bearded Alpha just a passing fad?

I suppose.

However, I’ve gotten swept up into the windmill for the past 5 months. So much so that I only been to the barbershop once, when prior, I was going every weekend religiously since growing a bear over 15 years ago.

My girlfriend steady busts my chops trying to get me to shave it all off but I won’t budge. 😡 😉

My boss inquires as to the recent-rogue look while subtly insinuating that I would look more attractive chopping it off, but my resolve is strong and I really DGAF! 🙂

I have an electrical trimmer at home which I use to level my beard and keep it at a reasonable length. But apart from that; I wear a full set of facial hair.

Other note-worthy guys in the community who have recently, or for a while now, gone rogue: Liam McRae (Australia), Johnny Berba (of England), James Marshall (Australia), Ace (California, USA), RSD Julien (Switzerland), Nick Sparks of New York, USA (my nemesis)…just to name a few PUA coaches around the globe.

Liam-Mcrae

Liam-Mcrae

James Marshall

James Marshall

Jay Ace

Jay Ace

Johnny Berba

Johnny Berba

RSD Julien (of Switzerland)

RSD Julien (of Switzerland)

Nick Sparks

Nick Sparks

The guy who really did it for me though, was the Pickup guru RSD Owen.

RSD Owen/Tyler

RSD Owen/Tyler

After he went rogue some years ago and his game skyrocketed 1,000%, I was like “WTF; so having facial hair isn’t bad for your game”!? 😯

My reality was fucking shattered like a fallen chandelier from 3 stories high!

Now, are there lessons here for us?

Sure!

The most important 1 is what I’ve been heavily preaching on this website over the past 6-9 months: “Social Deviance”!

Whichever way you’d like to term it; it’ll be a fundamental PLUS to your overall game and attraction value when you can deviate from what society considers normal to then going against that perceived norm.

Sounds radical?

Lemme explain!

Being a social rebel is a tremendously powerful statement with loaded-attraction value that gets those little vaginas of sexy women pulsating and flowing like Niagara Falls on its most fluent days!

It’s not about having facial hair per say which gives you an advantageous edge. It’s the implications and the fact that you’re willing to against the grain.

I wrote about this before, where on a personal level, I made a note-worthy observation in respects to my results with women, and the conclusive findings were staggering: 😯

I got laid 60% more when I donned the scruffy-bearded look than when well-groomed and shaved.
Did you fucking hear that!?

I said I got laid far more as a bearded bad ass than when I had fewer facial hair which was kept neatly trimmed!

I’m not gonna get into why having facial hair gets you laid more [that’s for another article] but it involves sex, primates and animals…and no it isn’t bestiality you sick muthafuckers! 🙂

It’s actually rooted deeply in human evolution [pretty fucking deep huh?].

Digressing…

Basically, my lay count shot up when I effectively had an older appearance (bearded) in contrast to my shaved avatar.

This totally annihilates the common myth that the younger you look (facially), the more attractive you’ll look to women, hence the more you’ll attract women and effectively get laid more.

Let’s not even get too deep into the subject of human evolution but it’s undoubtedly clear that throughout history (pre- and modern), the bearded man was deemed manlier, more attractive and simply- well- a real man of course.

After all, the only thing which visibly separates and distinguishes a boy from a man is the growth of facial hair. So it shouldn’t be surprising to hear me say that a guy who looks unkempt should get laid more than a guy who looks as though he’d skinned a baby’s ass and superimposed its skin onto his face to give himself a glossy countenance. 😯

As for detractors and men who will say: “But Kenny, girls tell me that they love men who are clean-shaven and are turned off by dudes with facial hair”!

To that- Kenny says: “STFU”! 😯

Need a common analogy which makes it crystal clear that you should never listen to women?

Chicks say that they love prince-charming nice guys yet they don’t fuck nice guys. Instead, they’re out fucking Fernando, the bearded asshole auto-mechanic who hasn’t had a bath in 10 days, doesn’t change his clothes and hasn’t seen a razor in a month! Or they’re fucking the bearded rebel with stinky-breath who does nothing but puff cigarettes and chug beers for a fucking living!

Hence, if your barometer for measuring success in dating and hooking-up, is based on what women claim they want, then you might as well castrate yourself NOW! 😯

A little word of advice: whatever a woman says she likes, loves or wants and is attracted to; always look at the antithesis (the opposite) as true.

Ok I’ll admit- “ALWAYS” might be a slight overstatement so I’ll restate that by saying “almost always”; 80% of what women say they want and like in dating and in men, should be highly contested and contradicted.

You might wanna read this super insightful and controversial article of mines which a month ago, had made it to the front page of Reddit, pulling in a whopping 10,000 views in less than 24 hours of being posted there…and that was just the first few hours of 2 weeks worth of viral traffic. My blog literally crashed for some hours from the sheer influx and volume of traffic in such a short-time span from 1 source!

For an article or post to make it to the front page of Reddit [the odds are like the lotto], it has to either be super controversial or highly insightful. That viral article of mines had much of both, so I advise every guy to read it after you will have read this article!

Women are transient creatures who live in the moment- for the moment. The linked post on Reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1xu9qb/women_are_transient_creatures_of_the_moment_a/

The gist of the article was that women really don’t have a clue of what they want or like. She may claim to exclusively date men over 6 feet yet with a little research, you’ll be shocked to find out that she’s banging a 5’8 club-promoter.

Ok, back to the subject at hand: how long will this social rebellion of the bearded men lasts before infiltration by shady characters aka internet-marketing gurus?

I have no idea. But while it’s here; I’m gonna fucking enjoy the proverbial decline to the fullest!

Kenny's current-bearded look

Kenny’s current-bearded look

As tribute to the bearded men who brought this to the awareness of many during the years of the seduction community’s peak to present, I’ll leave you with some interesting videos on the topic, such as the following from Paul Janka, which speaks to the issue of communicating sex with women.

Hidden-camera video from Janka running day-game pickup.

As another tribute to the bearded seducer, an instructional video from James Marshall (of Australia) as he demonstrates attitude and skills over looks.

Also, a video from RSD Owen/Tyler, the guru who indirectly encouraged me to take the plunge, speaks of breaking your self-image paradigm and perception and tying that into getting laid and so forth.

Another great video from the bearded ginger [Tyler] which encapsulates the “social rebel” frame which gets guys laid.

Can’t forget one of my favorite bearded caricature: RSD Julien. Pertinent video on being breaking social norms and being comfortable in that skin.


All in all, you will have learned from this post and videos that looks don’t matter but attitude and self-perception do. And the reason you fail and suck with women is due to your self-imprisonment by society, women and the mainstream media which convince us that we have to conform in order to have women in our lives when it’s actually the opposite.

The more you believe looks matter and that you need to fit a certain quota that society sets; the more you’ll get fucked out of your dating potential.

Ciao!

“Just Be Yourself”: The Worst Piece Of Dating Advice Ever

Why this piece of advice won’t get you anywhere.

In essence and theory: this is sound advice!

One should have comfort in knowing that he can be himself and still attract women, still get laid and still maintain a harem of hotties in which to chose from.

Great!

The reality is: being yourself doesn’t guarantee this in the least [assuming “yourself” isn’t up to standard].

This’ the worst piece of shit advice you will have ever gotten from your parents, relationship counselors, buddies…women…

My rebut to “just be yourself” would be: “It depends on who that self is”.

That is a key piece of information that the average guy doesn’t want to face since the average guy isn’t up for introspection neither changing his sucky ways.

Guys take comfort in mental masturbation, wanting to take the easy route to success in life, unwilling to fucking grind and put in work for optimal results!

Therefore, when such a guy comes across theoretical bullshit and blissful cliches like “Just be yourself”, he immediately feels a sense of self-appreciation in knowing that he can live a life of slobbery and it’d all be ok.

WRONG!

Now for argument sake, if being yourself means that you’re already a well-put-together dude, then sure: “be yourself” is a great piece of advice and you should run with it.

However, judging from the virtual statistics and what the eye can see, the average dude does NOT have his shit together as far as the components in which he’ll need to incorporate into his lifestyle in order to attract women and have a fruitful life in accordance with that.

Hence to say to a slob: “Just be yourself dude”, is tantamount to treason against humanity in my book. 😯

Why Men Are Enamored With The Idea Of “Just Be Yourself”

What most men are opposed to are drastic-lifestyle changes, or even minuscule tweaking for that matter.

Humans are inherently lazy and adverse to change.

Adult men unfortunately are at the bottom of the totem pole as far as lifestyle “changes” are concerned.

“Why change”!?

“It’s so much easier to just remain the same, be the same-old sloppy couch-potato I am and have my women feed me grapes while I do nothing but channel-surfing all day”!

“Fuck changes”!

“Kenny can suck it”!

That’s just a peek into the psyche of the average guy who’s adverse to changes.

It’s so much easier to remain wallowing in filth instead of purchasing a bar of soap, shampoo, body-scrub and get to cleaning up the bodily mess we guys tend to call our lazy lives.

Such a guy doesn’t want to entertain jack-shit on the subject of lifestyle alterations, fitness, wardrobe tweaking, going out, learning social skills, etc.

“Just gimme my remote and cable TV and the hot bitches will just stroll on into my humble abode”!

This is “being myself”!

“I wouldn’t waste my time on that Pick-Up Artist crap! That’s for losers…unlike myself”!

Such sentiment is often thrown my way via social media by guys of all walks of life.

Every guy wants to believe that he has it all figured out and he needs no changes…although the evidence shows otherwise.

A huge part of this unwillingness by men to change their Beta-male habits, originates from the ego, pride and self-image.

To “change”, is a subtle confession that you were wrong.

No one likes to admit that he or she was wrong.

It takes a humble guy to shoot me an e-mail saying:

“Hey Kenny bro’: love your website and I’ve been learning a lot”.

Not every guy is wired that way where he’s able to subdue the ego and self-image in order to allow humility to shine even for a second.

Every guy who gets inducted into the art of seduction or at least skim the message, has got to possess some semblance of humility as a prerequisite, or willing to become a humble lad in order to make the process work.

Guys who fail to become good with women [via Pickup], are often times the ones who feel as though they’re above the process [pride and ego at play again]:

“I have it all figured out already”!

This is the reason why it’s so difficult for the average guy to comprehend and adhere to our proverbial curriculum of seduction:

1.) It stresses change and alteration in lifestyle.

2.) It requires that you keep the ego in check.

These 2 factors aren’t up for debate with most men.

Therefore, “Just be yourself” is a very ego-comforting quote that they can latch onto like a life-raft in turbulent waters.

Women Will Lie To You And Have Been Lying To You About “Yourself”

We men tend to get our dating-advice tidbits from 2 main sources:

Women and the media.

Taking dating, sex and relationship advice from women is akin to a pilot taking navigation lessons from Ray Charles. 😯

Women are absolutely the worst source by far, from which men should take advice on lifestyle, dating and relationship matters.

It’s not that women are incompetent at doing this. It’s merely because a woman will give advice from a female’s standpoint through an effeminate lens of a woman’s psyche.

Such advice as “Just be yourself” has been fostered and peddled by women over the decades.

Men on the other hand, for some crazy reason, not aware that women and men think differently, would instantly gobble up cliches advice from women as gospel and viable.

“I mean, who best to give advice on how to get laid, get a girlfriend and attract girls, than women themselves”?

“After all- they are women so they should know best in relation to what gets them going”.

This sounds good and very rational but it’s far from the reality of what works.

To be fair to women, they don’t actually know that they’re giving terrible advice and causing more harm than good whenever declaring to their male friends: “Just be yourself Tim! If she doesn’t like you then it wasn’t meant to be”.

Everyone wants to be a dating expert. And humans in general love to give advice as their opinions are valued and show them up as being “well-rounded and wise”.

Therefore, as a guy, whenever you seek dating advice from a girl, it isn’t likely that she’ll not share something with you.

She must give you something, right?

Usually, that “something” is some bullshit cliche or outdated advice like:

“Just be yourself”

“Women like nice guys”

“Take her on a lavish date if you want her to like you”

“Wait 4 dates before sex”

“Call her right away”

“Calling her every will show her how much you care and like her”

“Ask her out”

“Be a gentleman”

The list of hilarity can steamroll on for days…but I’ll stop there.

Such tidbits of tips look and sound nice: But they aren’t effective and would serve to turn the girl off opposed to attracting her.

Hence, you should never take dating, sex, courtship nor relationship advice from a woman.

She will almost always steer you down the wrong road…inadvertently so. But she means well…I think. 😉 😉

If “Just Be Yourself” Is Terrible Advice: What Works Then?

What works is exactly what most of us aren’t willing to do…and that is change.

For the record: you shouldn’t change just for women or just to placate any 1 chick.

Any guy or gal who advises you to cut your mullet or dreadlocks just to appeal to the girl down the bloc who digs men with short haircuts, should be fucking shamed into exile!

Changes should be made with a holistic approach and not for 1 individual…unless that’s yourself.

I’ve heard tons of stories over the years of men who purchased sports cars just to appeal to a certain girl who’s rumored to like guys with sports cars.

That is fucking despicable!!!

Such lifestyle change or alteration in going from a Toyota Carolla to something out of Fast & Furious, just to get some poon, will serve no purpose but to make you look like a try-hard tool in the end.

Now, had you done that for yourself: FINE!!!

Or even to become a rad guy who lives on the edge: FINE!!!

However, you don’t want to “change” in the sense of appealing to 1 chick, who after she gets to date you for a month, will be looking to upgrade to another guy…that’s after she’d realized you changed exclusively for her [women are very ungrateful to say the least].

Anyway, (lifestyle) change is the way to go but for the right reasons!

No more adherence to mental-masturbation quotes just to make yourself feel happy!

If you’re a fat-unhealthy guy living in the middle of nowhere, can’t get a decent date to save your life: then you need to change your routine PRONTO!

Just being yourself won’t make the goddamn grade buddy!

Sure a woman should love you for you, but you can’t expect to not bring a presentable package to the table and expect decent chicks to hop on your cock!

Even guys who have their shit together, like myself, still have to periodically implement changes and tweaks in order to remain a viable candidate on the dating and mating market. So what does that say for a severely-overweight slob who never graced the insides of a fitness gym before?

Plus I never said this shit would be easy!

Anywho, so if your idea of physical activity is walking up a flight of stairs at work or at home, then you really need to be smack with the force of a speeding train in hopes of waking you up. 😯

Guys tend to get the idea of physical activity misconstrued.

I’m not advising you to hit the gym in order to pack the muscles on or get ripped.

Having muscles don’t get you laid.

The reason why hitting the gym or hitting the road to exercise is so key, is that it gives you a sense of doing something and having a ritual and a purpose.

Staying at home pumping iron robs you of this sense of “I’m doing something”. So it’s worth it to go somewhere where others will see you, which will force you into your head and also motivate you at the same time to continue.

You don’t get this by exercising in seclusion in your mother’s basement.

Capiche?

Incorporating a fitness routine is a lifestyle change and habit that will serve to attract women and people in general into your life.

Even if you’re a 300 pound man: doesn’t fucking matter!

What matters to people is to see and know that you are doing something, motivated and on a mission with a purpose.

Passion is attractive to women!

Hence this video of mines which I’d posted not long ago.

The additional benefit of a fitness regimen is just to get you off the frikkin’ couch and out of the house!

Guys are programmed to want the lazy-man’s route into getting women into their bedrooms: lay there, do nothing and women will come.

Doesn’t work that way!

You have to get out and about!

In conjunction with a fitness regimen as a lifestyle change, should be auxiliary activities which entail getting out of the house once again.

This runs contrary to “being yourself” if you’re a guy who doesn’t get out much.

Having a social life is key to attracting women into your life.

By “social life”, I don’t mean social media as in cultivating a life around Facebook and Twitter and thinking that that’s “being social”.

A product of thinking that social media and online dating beat meeting women in the real world

A product of thinking that social media and online dating beat meeting women in the real world

Social media classifies as a lazy-man’s way to being social. Just as online dating is a way to try to minimize real-social interaction with women, hence turning men into antisocial androids or what I’d like to term: Big Pussies.

Therefore, if you don’t currently have a hobby which entails you getting off the couch and go be social: then find 1 now!

Go enlist in a Yoga class!

Go join a social group or club!

Go take some improv classes!

Make it a habit to go partying, clubbing and hit up some bars after work or on the weekends instead of continuing the self-torturing routine of work to home, work to home.

Break the cycle by making it work, bar, home, work, home bar, or bar, home work. Whichever order suits your schedule.

Going to the bar or going out on the weekends for a change, would mean a wardrobe upgrade or change.

If you aren’t trendy: get trendy!

It doesn’t exactly mean you should have to dress like everyone else. But if your idea of “dressed” is similar to that of the guys in the photo below: then you have some serious wardrobe troubleshooting to do…unless you live in Tennessee…which still might not cut it.

Guys with grand egos tend to shun the idea of having to work on themselves as far as fashion and style go.

A woman should accept them the way they are: sloppy, grungy and drab.

This would be fine in a perfect world but not in the 1 we live today.

As for personality, this is another aspect of “change and alteration” you’ll have to implement in order to become an attractive man.

It isn’t news flash that nice guys don’t get laid but for the pity-fuck or occasional “luck” factor (or hookers).

A nice guy being fed the usual bologna of “just be yourself”, after 40 years of just being himself, I think he would’ve had enough of the bull by now don’t you think?

I was once an ardent-nice guy [what an oxymoron] who’d wholeheartedly swallowed the “just be yourself” pill while simultaneously getting fist fucked by evil women who were also helping to cram more pills down my throat while saying:

“It’d all be ok. Women love nice guys. Just be yourself Kenny”!

The same women who were consoling me with the BS and telling me it’d all be ok, were the same ones to snub me cold-heartedly on prior occasions when I was totally “just being myself”. 😦

This picture was all fucked up to say the least [women going contrary to the advice they give men to follow].

I knew drastic measures had to be taken in order to get laid, get dates, get women into my life and to live a well-rounded life altogether.

Just being myself wasn’t cutting it.

Being a nice guy damn sure wasn’t cutting it neither.

This personal need for change and an urgent lifestyle and personality overhaul were what led me to the Pickup/Seduction community some years ago [by sheer chance of a Google search].

This is what the average guy just isn’t willing to do: a major overhauling of his life, lifestyle (or lack thereof) and personality.

It’s too much fucking work!

“Why change when I can remain the same, be who I am and just check out porn whenever I have the urge to get off”?

Along with drastic change comes an admission that you do need help.

Which guy is comfortable admitting that he needs help with women [putting pride in check]?

Not many of us.

The nice guy, which most of us are, is faced with this life-altering decision: either get an edge to his personality or remain a bland-boring dude who repels women.

It’s much easier to remain the same and not change a thing. It takes no effort to be static and stagnant, but it does require effort to get shit done!

Presuming you’re a nice guy reading this article right now: I’m talking to you!

Get a bit edgy!

You don’t have to become a total asshole to get laid [although that helps] but you should incorporate some elements of the badboy into your persona which will give you an edgy appeal in which women are inherently attracted to.

If you’re clean-shaven: grow some fucking scruff in order to look like a real man: an Alpha Male!

I said scruff now. Not Hippie. 🙂

Having some facial hair will give you that badboy’s edge (at least in the looks department). Conversely, having no facial hair will give you that effeminate-boyish look [now you go figure which is more appealing].

Perfect example of the scruffy look with a badboy edge

Perfect example of the scruffy look with a badboy edge

In accordance to the “new self” which you’ll be required to cultivate, is the acknowledgment that lifestyle change is a good thing.

You will have detractors from every direction trying to derail your progress:

“Nightclubs are for losers”

“Why don’t you shave”?

Listen not to such non-technical verbiage.

You’ve been listening to everyone over the years to no avail, so you can listen to me, a novel voice for a change, when I say that you suck, your life sucks and you being yourself sucks even more!

Being yourself will not cut it!

After all, if “just being yourself” was the answer to your women problems, then why the fuck are you single!?

Why are you married, bored and unhappy?

Why don’t you currently enjoy a steady rotation of at least 2 hot girls in whom you can fuck on a weekly basis?

If “just be yourself” worked, then why the fuck are you a 40 year-old chode loser, married to a woman whom you didn’t select nor wanted by the way, but was cajoled to peer up with as you didn’t have any alternatives or options in which to screen and chose from.

Most men under the age of 50 [80% of them I’d say] are with the women they’re with, not through natural and free selection but subtle coercion and compulsion.

This is the underlying theme of “settling”.

You settle for what you can get at the moment, even if that means a crappy non-sexual girlfriend who doesn’t nearly rev up your sexual engines…but at least it’s a girl…I guess. ❓

Nevertheless, when you begin to seriously implement and apply lifestyle changes, you’ll begin to attract more women than you know what to do with.

However, do not fool yourself into thinking that women will and should accept you the way you are and that it’s OK to be the way you are, even if the way you are is unhealthy, unsanitary and unappealing.

Remember- you’re not changing your lifestyle and sprucing up your personality in order to please women, neither solely to get laid.

You’re doing it for yourself firstly, then others will quite naturally gravitate to a new and radiant you.

If you’re an anti-social dweeb who does nothing but insulates himself into the world of video games all day: find something else to do! Get another hobby! Change that shit! It hasn’t been working for the past 15 years. It’s broken- so fix it!

With that, I leave you with the following video from RSD Owen and Brad Branson as they expound upon “lifestyle” upgrades in conjunction with becoming a more attractive and put-together guy.

Also, a nice-short video from RSD Julien on the topic of letting go of the ego and change!

To familiarize yourself with the seduction-community jargon, check out the acronym and term list: PUA acronym and term list.

Become A Sexier Man: 4 + Outer Components [video included]

Want to become a guy who’s perceived as a sexy man by his peers [hot girls included]?

Who the hell wouldn’t!?

I empathize with you on the basis that I was once a very un-sexy man.

The belief that you’re a sexy man is the first step in the right direction.

Furthermore, which barometer will actually be utilized to measure and discern whether you’re a sexy man or need some work in that department?

When women jokingly say stuff to you like:

“Hey Jimmy, you think you’re God’s gift to mankind”!

“You think you’re all that”!

Have you ever heard such idioms coming your way from women?

If not; you have some work to do…continue reading!

1.) Walking-Swag Factor

Is your Swag turned on or barely making its presence known?

Honestly, I hate the term “Swag” because it has become 1 of those cliche sound bites and pretty-much misused.

Nevertheless, we can all agree that swagger in one’s mannerism and movements is a sexy tool to have in a guy’s arsenal.

Now, how do you put this into action?

Take stock of the manner in which you walk: meaning your hands, shoulders and head movements.

Are you (too) stiff and (up)tight?

Perhaps.

Ok, so that’s something you need to tweak pronto!

A.) Get your hands moving while walking (opposed to being held stationary at your side)!

B.) While walking, slightly swing your arms and shoulders in a swaying motion [don’t over exaggerate this].

C.) While walking, instead of keeping your head straight-ahead, always look left to right while slightly and slowly turning your head simultaneously as you take a quick stock of what’s to the left and right of you.

Incorporate the A, B and C’s of walking with swag.

2.) Slow Motion

In conjunction with #1, you want to slow down your movements.

This may be difficult for you to manage at first, especially if you’re living in a congested city where you’re accustomed to “hustle and bustle”.

It took me a while to slow down, being used to the fast pace of New York City where I grew up and lived virtually my entire life.

Also, Brits have the tendency to move like speeding-bullets as they walk. I’ve never come across a set of individuals who can out-walk Brits (especially the women). 😯

This is very un-sexy and incongruent (for a man to be moving this way if he doesn’t have to).

You want to create the impression as though you’re walking in slow motion or under water.

Think astronauts in space.

Literally- walk in slow motion!

Hustling and hurrying indicate nervousness, antsiness, social awkwardness and jitters: 4 sure-fire components of anti-sexy.

3.) Standing Sexy

The way in which you position yourself as you stand.

The other day while brewing a cup of Joe at my grandma’s house, the stove area is so congested with discarded appliances, I had to contort my body in order to fit semi-comfortably through there.

Where am I going with this?

I took note of my torso positioning and immediately felt like I was standing atop Mt. Everest surrounded by hoards of hot women propping me up. 🙂

When standing, your hip or torso area should be pushed outwards or to 1 side opposed to standing straight up [if you get my illustration], whereas your body would take on a sort of “S” letter shape instead of an of I.

Sorta like the image below where the guy’s entire upper body slants:

Point is, you don’t want to stand straight up as a statue (though your shoulders and back should be straight up and back and not hunched over).

Men who radiate sexy generally assume this posture while chatting with women, or simply while in the zone (if you know the feeling).

This position is great to hold whenever leaning against something (the bar counter, a wall, etc).

You never want to be standing straight as a stick [an “i”].

4.) Assume The Letter “A” Position

In conjunction with #3 [“S” shape], you also want to assume the “A” stance.

Presuming there’s no physical structure in which to prop yourself against (while talking to someone), this is when you assume the shape of the letter “A”.

Once again, you want to avoid a tight and restrictive-body posture by standing with your legs apart; not vertically but at an angle.

This stance [the A] exhibits comfort and confidence, while a straight-up stance is the antithesis (opposite): uncomfortable and non-confident.

Bonus Tip: Foot Against Structure

Assuming there’s a structure in which you can prop yourself up against: lean against it (also while talking to women).

This video from Chris (Good-Looking Loser) demonstrates how powerful it is to lean back against an available structure while chatting up a girl.

However, incorporate the “1 foot against the wall” stance as the photo of myself illustrates below.

Not only is this sexier [according to women], but it comes off as confident and comfortable in the environment and the interaction.

Examples From The American-Political Arena

Mitt Romney is the poster-child of non-sexy, un-calibrated and someone with very poor mannerisms and idiosyncrasies which turn women off.

On the other hand, Barack Obama, a younger Bill Clinton and Rick Perry (of Texas), just to name a few, are great examples of guys with swagger, sex appeal and great movement.

Rick Perry never moves too fast, turns his head slowly and also speaks slowly [speaking slowly is confident while rushed is the opposite].

A younger Bill Clinton’s the same: deliberate movements, walks with swagger and a pep.

Barack Obama, just as Clinton, has swagger and a pep in his step with the added shoulder motions.

Mimic those 3 guys’ movements while avoiding Mitt Romney’s like the fucking plague [his body movements that is].

Before I go, a quick point which I must clue you in on [if you didn’t know]: A girl already knows if she’s gonna fuck you within a nanosecond of spotting you (or you spotting her).

Even before your mouth opens to utter a pick-up line or ice-breaker, she already knows whether she’ll fuck you or not.

Most guys are pre-rejected before saying a word.

Why is this?

Poor mannerisms, poor idiosyncrasies and poor-body language which equal non-sexy.

Hence, within a split second, she has already decided that you aren’t a sex-worthy candidate, not because of what you might say while approaching her, but due to your non-sexy mannerisms and body language.

Therefore, it’ll be beneficial and life-changing to fix your posture and the mode in which you walk and move around.

When in doubt: simply ask a hot girl of her honest opinion on whether you’re sexy or not. 🙂

Also bear in mind: “sexy” has nothing to do with your face (features)!

Looks [facial features] do NOT fucking matter in determining whether you’re sexy, fuck-worthy or not!

Sexiness or sex appeal, comes from within, in conjunction with one’s physiological mannerisms and body movements.

Likewise, by the way you move (physically), a girl can and will immediate judge whether you’ll suck donkey balls in bed or whether you’ll be a decent sex-partner!

Looks (the features of your face) has absolutely NOTHING to do with this split-decision making process by women.

She isn’t looking at your face to determine whether she’ll fuck you or not [face/looks has nothing to do with how masterfully you’d fuck her].

She’s sizing up [within a flash] the way you walk, move, position your hands, body, feet, torso, head, etc [subconsciously so most times].

This is why 1st. impression is key and means so much to women.

If you enter a bar in a non-sexy way [jittery, shifty, nervous…], little do you know, you will have already killed your chances with 95% of the women in the venue who might have spotted your lame entrance.

This has ZERO to do with you facial structure, how big or long your nose is, etc.

Once again, the “Looks Matter” theory has been debunked by myself: Looks don’t matter.

Lastly, this begs the question: “can I still attract women and get laid with having poor-body posture and movements”?

Sure!

It only makes your job harder, whereas if you had sexier or more fluent posture and movements, your work will have been cut out for you.

In the video below, I encapsulated every aspect of a sexier man [mannerisms] as far as body and head postures and movements are concerned.

Also some examples of un-sexy.

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