Interesting convo and how to carry it
There are few notable sticking-points that most guys have. Most notably is the lack of conversational skills.
What do I mean?
Most guys don’t know how to spark nor carry interesting conversation.
You’ve seen me do this time after time, getting a girl’s attention and keeping it for the duration.
Like I mentioned in the previous article, you must bear in mind that women have short attention spans and they suffer from ADHD (attention deficiency).
What this means is that any little external stimulation is liable of hijacking their attention away from you- and “POOF”- you’re done!
With that, when I get guys asking me, “why is it impossible for me to get and hold a girl’s attention online”, the reasons are 2 folds:
1.) Women have short attention spans.
2.) You aren’t giving them enough stimulation through your conversation, game, or whatever have you.
Therefore, the solution to this problem men face is to provide stronger and harder stimulation by registering hard on the girl’s radar!
You have to captivate her attention firstly, within your opener/ice-breaker/first message.
Saying, “hi sweetheart, you look beautiful”, isn’t fucking going to captivate the girl’s attention because she’s accustomed to hearing that lame-ass shit!
Sure she may reply- initially (out of respect and social politeness) with a pitiful “thank you”- but she’ll blow you off right afterwards by ignoring your 2nd message.
Hence, getting a girl’s attention is paramount to getting the girl.
If you can’t get and keep her attention then you have no shot!
In this post, I will show you how to achieve just that by adhering to my text-game format.
If you’ve been here for any time now, and read a post or 2, you would have been privy to my texting format and how I get girls hooked and instantly chasing me.
Here’s the deal and the trick: strike hard!
What do I mean?
Your initial message to the girl on social media or any online-dating site, should be of shock value!
The only how your initial message could be a bland one, yet still register on the girl’s radar, is if you already possess social value in her eyes (usually from your online posts or profile bio). In such a case, your initial message doesn’t have to pack a punch.
This is why on the rare occasion, you would see me open a girl in a blandish sort of way as you seen me do with the MILF in the previous post.
I opened blandly because I would’ve already established myself (through my status updates) as a rockstar. So there would have been no real need to shock the girl with my initial message.
Hope I didn’t confuse you guys there.
In any case, it is the safer bet for you to open the girl with something eye-catching and or eyebrow-raising.
This begs the questions: “but Kenny, why should I break the ice in such a manner”?
As I mentioned previously, since most girls have the attention span of an ant, and they respond to colorful stimuli, you have to make a fucking impact with your initial inbox, DM, etc!
That is why!
Moreover, bear in mind that chicks are being inundated by the second with tons of messages from all sorts of guys!
Ninety-eight percent of those initial messages will have constituted lameness, thus ignored!
With that in mind, that is why your initial message has to stand out from that of the generic lame’s, or else you run the risk of being flat-out ignored!!!
I made a point of this before- perhaps 3 years ago- that hardly any of my initial messages on social media goes unnoticed and ignored by women!
Ninety-nine percent of my initial messages are reciprocated!!!!
Isn’t that astonishing!?
Why so? Because I strike hard, thus registering hard and high on the girl’s proverbial radar!
Hence, my messages cannot go unanswered since they pack such an intriguing punch!
Your message gets ignored because it shows up as a mere blip in the galaxy of trillions of other faint blips. So you want an explosion and not a blip! And this is where the pick-up community comes in, and why we emphasis so ardently on the topic of openers/breaking the ice.
To be more clearer here, by “opening hard”, I am not necessarily saying that your opener/ice-breaker has to be provocative and shock-and-awe as some of my openers are.
You want to grab the girl’s attention by saying something that she might not have heard or seen before.
In such a case you instantly stand out from the crowd.
Your opener can be cute, amusing, humorous, somewhat insulting or a mixture of the aforementioned. Just as long as it’s different!
Before I proceed, here are some random examples of me breaking the ice (over Facebook) with total strangers whom I went on to picking up.
There you have it.
Those are some examples of how to grab a girl’s attention online.
Your opener doesn’t have to be eye-catching. But your follow-up lines must be eyebrow-raising as you seen me demonstrate.
Moreover, your opener should consist of humor. It doesn’t have to, but it’s the safer bet until you become calibrated enough to get away with outright provocativeness and bluntness.
In any case, by following my method of breaking the ice as a template (if not verbatim at times), you will have realized maximum returns (return messages) on your investments (sent messages).
However, that is just the beginning!
It is 1 thing to hijack the girl’s attention to have her returning your messages. But it’s another thing to KEEP her there and engaged long enough for a pull (a pickup, i.e. secured phone number).
The problem with most men is that they are boring to a fault! As a result of that, their messages [essentially their Game] are pitifully boring and sleep-inducing, hence the reason they get ignored 99% of the time when trying to message a stranger online.
Although you’re dead tired of hearing me repeat this again and again, I must do so- again and again- in hopes that it sticks. So what is that? Women have short attention spans!
They are easily distracted! Thus, your messages- initial, and your follow-up messages- MUST be attention-grabbing enough to keep women engaged and invested!
The best way to achieve this after you would have opened, is to use humor and wittiness!!!
Check back the screenshots above of me opening dozens of girls.
After I’d successfully opened, got an initial response, I managed to keep the girl’s attention and focus by being funny, witty and or shocking (usually all 3 in concert).
Low stimulation will not keep a person interested!
You don’t stick around watching a boring movie to the end if you’re at liberty of simply switch channels!
Likewise, if your messages are boring and they don’t stimulate the girl’s attention, there’s no reason for her to stay! And she won’t! She will simply change the channel by ignoring you in search of something stimulating.
This is why jumping into a girl’s inbox with, “hi beautiful”, will almost always get you ignored. Even more pathetic is saying “hi” alone.
Additionally, the hotter the girl, the more attention-grabbing and provocative your initial message should be.
In any case as I said, a good opener as the ones I outlined, needs to be followed up by stimulating dialogue.
You cannot foolishly continue to go from attention-grabbing opener to “can I get your number”, within 1 swoop!
That is the other problem faced by guys who get a hold of some good and creative openers from me. They bank on the opener alone, get flat-out ignored afterwards, then blame me (the opener, or any other instructor) for their dismal strikeout.
In this post however, I won’t waste valuable time posting a how-to of picking up a girl online when there are dozens upon dozens of articles on this blog with screenshots and dialogue galore on picking up chicks on social media and online-dating sites.
This post was merely intended to open your eyes to the most common pitfalls you may encounter, why, and how to nuke them!
Thus from now on, when looking to capture the attention of women online, always keep at the frontal cortex of your brain: constant stimulation!
I’ll leave you with a great example of how to carry conversation with this article of mines on Mid-Game
For 1 of my favorite opener which I’d originated; you may want to Check This