How To Captivate And Hold A Random Girl’s Attention [Online]

Interesting convo and how to carry it

There are few notable sticking-points that most guys have. Most notably is the lack of conversational skills.

What do I mean?

Most guys don’t know how to spark nor carry interesting conversation.

You’ve seen me do this time after time, getting a girl’s attention and keeping it for the duration.

Like I mentioned in the previous article, you must bear in mind that women have short attention spans and they suffer from ADHD (attention deficiency).

What this means is that any little external stimulation is liable of hijacking their attention away from you- and “POOF”- you’re done!

With that, when I get guys asking me, “why is it impossible for me to get and hold a girl’s attention online”, the reasons are 2 folds:

1.) Women have short attention spans.

2.) You aren’t giving them enough stimulation through your conversation, game, or whatever have you.

Therefore, the solution to this problem men face is to provide stronger and harder stimulation by registering hard on the girl’s radar!

You have to captivate her attention firstly, within your opener/ice-breaker/first message.

Saying, “hi sweetheart, you look beautiful”, isn’t fucking going to captivate the girl’s attention because she’s accustomed to hearing that lame-ass shit!

Sure she may reply- initially (out of respect and social politeness) with a pitiful “thank you”- but she’ll blow you off right afterwards by ignoring your 2nd message.

Hence, getting a girl’s attention is paramount to getting the girl.

If you can’t get and keep her attention then you have no shot!

In this post, I will show you how to achieve just that by adhering to my text-game format.

If you’ve been here for any time now, and read a post or 2, you would have been privy to my texting format and how I get girls hooked and instantly chasing me.

Here’s the deal and the trick: strike hard!

What do I mean?

Your initial message to the girl on social media or any online-dating site, should be of shock value!

The only how your initial message could be a bland one, yet still register on the girl’s radar, is if you already possess social value in her eyes (usually from your online posts or profile bio). In such a case, your initial message doesn’t have to pack a punch.

This is why on the rare occasion, you would see me open a girl in a blandish sort of way as you seen me do with the MILF in the previous post.

I opened blandly because I would’ve already established myself (through my status updates) as a rockstar. So there would have been no real need to shock the girl with my initial message.


Hope I didn’t confuse you guys there.

In any case, it is the safer bet for you to open the girl with something eye-catching and or eyebrow-raising.

This begs the questions: “but Kenny, why should I break the ice in such a manner”?

As I mentioned previously, since most girls have the attention span of an ant, and they respond to colorful stimuli, you have to make a fucking impact with your initial inbox, DM, etc!

That is why!

Moreover, bear in mind that chicks are being inundated by the second with tons of messages from all sorts of guys!

Ninety-eight percent of those initial messages will have constituted lameness, thus ignored!

With that in mind, that is why your initial message has to stand out from that of the generic lame’s, or else you run the risk of being flat-out ignored!!!

I made a point of this before- perhaps 3 years ago- that hardly any of my initial messages on social media goes unnoticed and ignored by women!

Ninety-nine percent of my initial messages are reciprocated!!!!

Isn’t that astonishing!?

Why so? Because I strike hard, thus registering hard and high on the girl’s proverbial radar!

Hence, my messages cannot go unanswered since they pack such an intriguing punch!

Your message gets ignored because it shows up as a mere blip in the galaxy of trillions of other faint blips. So you want an explosion and not a blip! And this is where the pick-up community comes in, and why we emphasis so ardently on the topic of openers/breaking the ice.

To be more clearer here, by “opening hard”, I am not necessarily saying that your opener/ice-breaker has to be provocative and shock-and-awe as some of my openers are.

You want to grab the girl’s attention by saying something that she might not have heard or seen before.

In such a case you instantly stand out from the crowd.

Your opener can be cute, amusing, humorous, somewhat insulting or a mixture of the aforementioned. Just as long as it’s different!

Before I proceed, here are some random examples of me breaking the ice (over Facebook) with total strangers whom I went on to picking up.

There you have it.

Those are some examples of how to grab a girl’s attention online.

Your opener doesn’t have to be eye-catching. But your follow-up lines must be eyebrow-raising as you seen me demonstrate.

Moreover, your opener should consist of humor. It doesn’t have to, but it’s the safer bet until you become calibrated enough to get away with outright provocativeness and bluntness.

In any case, by following my method of breaking the ice as a template (if not verbatim at times), you will have realized maximum returns (return messages) on your investments (sent messages).

However, that is just the beginning!

It is 1 thing to hijack the girl’s attention to have her returning your messages. But it’s another thing to KEEP her there and engaged long enough for a pull (a pickup, i.e. secured phone number).

The problem with most men is that they are boring to a fault! As a result of that, their messages [essentially their Game] are pitifully boring and sleep-inducing, hence the reason they get ignored 99% of the time when trying to message a stranger online.

Although you’re dead tired of hearing me repeat this again and again, I must do so- again and again- in hopes that it sticks. So what is that? Women have short attention spans!

They are easily distracted! Thus, your messages- initial, and your follow-up messages- MUST be attention-grabbing enough to keep women engaged and invested!

The best way to achieve this after you would have opened, is to use humor and wittiness!!!

Check back the screenshots above of me opening dozens of girls.

After I’d successfully opened, got an initial response, I managed to keep the girl’s attention and focus by being funny, witty and or shocking (usually all 3 in concert).

Low stimulation will not keep a person interested!

You don’t stick around watching a boring movie to the end if you’re at liberty of simply switch channels!

Likewise, if your messages are boring and they don’t stimulate the girl’s attention, there’s no reason for her to stay! And she won’t! She will simply change the channel by ignoring you in search of something stimulating.

This is why jumping into a girl’s inbox with, “hi beautiful”, will almost always get you ignored. Even more pathetic is saying “hi” alone.

Additionally, the hotter the girl, the more attention-grabbing and provocative your initial message should be.

In any case as I said, a good opener as the ones I outlined, needs to be followed up by stimulating dialogue.

You cannot foolishly continue to go from attention-grabbing opener to “can I get your number”, within 1 swoop!

That is the other problem faced by guys who get a hold of some good and creative openers from me. They bank on the opener alone, get flat-out ignored afterwards, then blame me (the opener, or any other instructor) for their dismal strikeout.

In this post however, I won’t waste valuable time posting a how-to of picking up a girl online when there are dozens upon dozens of articles on this blog with screenshots and dialogue galore on picking up chicks on social media and online-dating sites.

This post was merely intended to open your eyes to the most common pitfalls you may encounter, why, and how to nuke them!

Thus from now on, when looking to capture the attention of women online, always keep at the frontal cortex of your brain: constant stimulation!

I’ll leave you with a great example of how to carry conversation with this article of mines on Mid-Game

For 1 of my favorite opener which I’d originated; you may want to Check This

Attraction Lies Within The Absurdity [Pimpin’ Your Facebook For The New Year]

For the so-called new year, I want you to be more shameless and less shameful.

A huge part of my success with women online is the perception that I’m carefree, whimsical and absurd.

Women who read my Facebook bio and scan my timeline, are often left aghast (yet intrigued) by what they see/read.

It’s all about captivating a girl’s attention through absurdity and provocativeness.

Here’s a good example from the other day with a girl I’d picked up and invited her to add me on Facebook.

This’ the reaction I want the girl to have.

Needless to say, this was all a front on the girl’s part, and she did go on to add me. But some women want and need the drama in order to become attracted.

To Ask Or Not To Ask Her…Questions?

As you get good with the understanding of the female’s mind, you get to see their justified frustration with men and their approach to women and courtship.

This chick posted the following status to Facebook the other day.

Here’s my response and a bit of exchange with the girl.

“I find that some men ask some really annoying questions”.

She ended out string of replies on that note.

Very telling isn’t it?

I clearly articulated it better than the girl did as to why women are annoyed and turned off by the questions men ask. It isn’t the questions, but the type of questions (as I pointed out to her).

Asking the girl a bunch of questions is 1 of those things we frown upon in the pick-up community.

It is terrible game to engage in 21 questions.

However, it isn’t so much the questions that annoy girls. But the type of questions that get under their skin.

What questions are those that you should avoid?

Interview-type questions!

Contrary from popular belief, asking rapport-type questions don’t win you points with women, neither do they make you appear interested, concerned nor sociable. Instead, asking a girl whom you’re trying to pick up (or bang), questions such as:

“Where did you grow up”?

“How was school”?

“You have brothers and sisters”?

Such questions make you come off as land, boring, lame, redundant, repetitive, scripted and socially inept.

That is why women get jaded and fed up whenever those lame-ass questions are put to them.

You can ask questions by the way! But I’ll address that in just a bit.

Okay, so in response to the chick’s post, I also said to her that, “Personally, I don’t ask women questions at all”.

That is true nearly 99.8% of the time: I do not ask girls questions!

Look back at the hundreds of screenshotted conversations I had with dozens upon dozens of women, and you will hardly ever see me asking them questions.

The reason I don’t is because it annoys women. And asking a bunch of questions doesn’t achieve 1 thing in helping the pickup’s progression (but stagnates it).

Are there questions that you could and should ask a girl whom you’re trying to pick up, bed and date?


In retrospect, I want you to think back on my many chats and try to think of the questions that I do ask women (upon the initial online pickup).

What are they?

There are 3 main questions I ask women…in no specific order (I ask in various ways by the way):

“Which part of town do you live”?

“How’s your scheduling/when are you mainly free to meet up”?

“Do you drink”?

I typically don’t ever ask the girl if she drinks. But I threw that in there just for the fuck of it.

Anyways, so those are the 3 questions I ask a new girl upon trying to pick her up (or after the pick up).

What do those 3 questions have in common?


The only question(s) I care to ask women are those which facilitate our potential rendezvous: logistic-based questions.

1.) When I ask a girl where does she live, the reason is quite obvious and logical: I want to know how far she or I will have to travel in order to meet up. If she lives real far, I want to know whether I would want to pay for her cab fare to come by me if a bus ride would consume much time.

2.) When I ask a girl about her availability, it is quite clearly a ‘must-know’ since I would want to find out if our schedules meet or conflict. So it’s a must that I ascertain that critical piece of information.

3.) As for drinks, I don’t really ask girls if they drink. In fact, I don’t ask at all. I would suggest meeting up for drinks. And if she doesn’t consume alcohol, she will undoubtedly say so.

With that, the only questions I ask the new girl are those that pertain to the meet-up.

Anything other than that as far as questions, is irrelevant! And that should also become your mindset!

I don’t care to know where she grew up, her age, siblings, if her parents are still alive, did she attend college, her future goals, etc.

None of those questions are important to ask before actually seeing the girl or fucking the girl!

Oh- and I must say this- as I eluded to earlier, it isn’t that you shouldn’t ask questions, but the type of questions is what may sink your ship or keep it afloat.

I do ask other questions besides those 3. For instance in the case of sexting with a new girl on the verge of being picked up online by me. I may ask about her favorite sexual position, 3-somes, could she deepthroat a dick, etc.

No lame interview-type questions. So, the type of question and the topic is key.

Lame questions run the risk of killing your chances.

Interesting and pertinent questions should help your cause.

This also begs the question, a question in which I touched on the other day; why do men go into the 21- question mode?

The 2 primary answers are very simple: they have nothing else to say, and they are also under the impression that that is how you go about sparking interest.

You see, most guys get their courtship and dating advice from the wrong sources: music (love songs), Hollywood, Cosmos and women themselves.

What makes those sources so wrong when it comes to this? Because they give men poor advice based on tradition, status-quo and surveys of women.

Ask any girl what type of guy would interest her and she’ll pretty much say the guy who seems interested in her life and story on a whole. The guy who asks her about work, kids, schooling, upbringing, etc.

Present her with such a guy and she’ll quickly judge and dismiss him as boring, lame, generic and uninterested. Hence, it is never a wise idea to listen to a woman tell you what she wants/likes.

You can appear attentive and interested in the girl without asking those boring questions that annoy women.

You see me do this all the time: no questions, strictly statements, comments and observations.

Therefore, in the event that you’re stuck on what to do instead of asking a gazillion questions, just focus more on making observations, assumptions, opining on things and letting her engage you on the thing which you’d brought up.

As you go along, the girl will divulge information without a need for you to ask (at least not directly ask).

If you genuinely do care about her upbringing, schooling, career, goals, etc. you will find out eventually, perhaps on a so-called date where those things are more likely to surface.

However, those things shouldn’t be popping up during the initial approach and pre-pickup phase of the game because they will likely turn the girl off!

Oh, before I conclude this post, I just want to address the guys who may say, “But Kenny, you said that it’s never good to agree with women, yet you agreed with this girl that men asking bunch of questions is annoying”!

Here’s the thing: agree with women whenever they voice their disagreement against chode/lame shit.

That is a no-brainer!

For instance, if a woman says or posts that she thinks that rebellious guys are sexy, there’s no reason in the world why you should disagree with her since you would want to set yourself up as a rebellious guy since it is an attractive quality.

However, if a woman posts that men should always pay on dates under any circumstance without a question, totally agreeing with that is some chode shit. So it’s not that you can’t agree with women. It’s that you shouldn’t agree with them once they’re pushing some pro-chody agenda. As is the case with asking question. It isn’t that you shouldn’t ask. Just that asking generic shit is a pet peeve of women because they hear it too often.

Sunday Morning Casual Pickup Of A Security Guard [raw-infield video]

​Hey guys, another raw PUA infield video without the flash, colors and effects which accompany the usual PUA infield videos. This was uploaded directly from my Android phone.

I had intended to post the full 45 minute footage. But I reconsidered in the interest of time. Plus I didn’t want to bore you guys with the monotonous details of a normal pickup. So I snipped and chopped the footage to include some key moments.

Okay, so Sunday morning [Oct’ 9th] while waiting to catch a ferry from the city back to the other side of the island, I came across a security guard (on duty) who was sitting in a cornered-off area. Since she was virtually glued to her post, I had no choice but to chat her up from nearly 20 yards away. Because of that (great distance), you won’t really hear much of her dialogue too well. But you can hear me clearly leading the dialogue and you’ll get a great idea of what’s happening and what you should do. 

BTW, this was about 7 AM, so I totally wasn’t “in state”, but it didn’t matter since I’m always in state because it comes naturally once you become masterful at this [you won’t have to get in state per se].

At the end of the day, what I want you to take away from this raw 8 minute infield video of me picking up a random security girl on her job are these:

1.) I, Kenny, am always approaching! Instead of just sitting/standing there where there are women among you; spark up a conversation!!

2.) Learn the art of chatting away!! Chat about random shit! As long as you believe it’s interesting shit, the girl will also fall into that frame as when I randomly brought up Donald Trump.

3.) Learn how to poke fun @ women and use humor to your advantage! Attract women through humor! Be a test!! By doing this, you sub-communicate to the girl that you don’t give a shit about the outcome. Being free from outcome will tilt the pickup in your favor. 

4.) Quit being intimidated by women! This girl here said that no guy has ever approached her on her job, let alone to try to chat her up on her job. I totally believe her since most guys are pussies!
Most Importantly:

5.) FUCK LOGISTICS! You do NOT need perfect logistics in order to chat up and pick up a girl! Just as I’d demonstrated here, you can do so from across a room. 
Quit waiting for the perfect time, perfect situation, perfect setting, perfect whatever!! 

Work with the fucking environment! 

Work with what the girl presents you! 

If she cannot exactly move from her post in order to chat with you; chat her up from a distance instead of using distance as an excuse to pussy your way out of chatting to her!! 

Lastly; make note of my vibe! I wasn’t nervous and afraid to get testy. I was free spirited with an air of IDGAF because I’m the prize! Also, I hope you would have taken away another key aspect to this pickup, which is that I never ran out of things to say because I was never filtering myself to begin with. I said what I wanted, not giving a shit whether she would find it appealing or appalling. 

Now, I’m not exactly telling you to say any lame shit you want. But say anything that tests her which causes her to invest…as you see me do in the video.

BTW, I’d opened her about a can of Arizona that was left on a table.

“Be A Challenge”!

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