New Video–> Silence That C**k-Blocking, Self-Doubting, Excuse-Making Inner Voice [PUA Inner-Game Video]

New Video—> “SILENCING that cock-blocking inner voice within”. Even the best of us in the game such as myself, periodically has that inner Beta-Male who tries to talk me out of making certain moves which would’ve resulted in securing the lay or even just a meet up. I also cite 2 recent field reports and also how and why an associate of mines who has mental instability issues gets laid a ton for the simple fact that he’s a bit crazy and lacks social inhibitions.
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New Video—> The Ben Carson Effect And Why You Suck S**t With Attracting Women [Low Energy]!

A topic which is very under-addressed in the pick-up community: low energy and poor-voice projection.

In this latest video of mines, I shed some insight on how and why being meek and subdued in your tone and voice actually kills your chances with attracting women.

Not only does it kill your chances (low-voice projection) but it makes you appear non-confident and weak.

At the end of the video, there are few snippets of real-world examples where I demonstrate infield (on hidden-camera) how to be clear in tone/projection when chatting up women with whom I’m not acquainted.

She Will Respect You For Trying And Detest You For Wussing


When it comes to escalating on a girl: you have nothing to lose.

You only lose if and when you neglect to take meaningful action via physical contact and man-to-woman communication.

Most of us tend to get freaked out and jittery over the idea of ‘making a move’ on the girl.

Why is this?

Because we want it to work too badly.

We are attached to the outcome and results rather than enjoy the process and the ride.

Just as attempting to kiss a (new) girl.

Guys always seem to become carried away with the fantasy of pulling off the kiss in Don Juan and James Bond smooth fashion, where the girl submits and gives way to being kissed on the 1st attempt.

This isn’t fucking Hollywood nor some fictitious-romance novel.

In the real world; mating and courtship have friction.

Those entities consist of push-pull.

Pickup consists of push-pull.

You [the guy] push- the girl pulls back.

Men chase; girls retreat.

Whichever way you want to put it, thus is the game between the sexes.

Therefore, I want to leave you with 2 key points:

1.) Women will respect you tremendously just for trying to make a move on them.

2.) Don’t expect to be flawless or perfect when trying to make a move on women

I usually have my attempts blocked, rejected or deflected on the 1st few tries.

Only about 20% of the time I will have a successful-kiss attempt on the initial attempt.

Bear that in mind.

By not getting the kiss or the touch [let’s say you try to take her hand but she deflects it], it doesn’t mean you’re done neither have you failed.

Hence, don’t become discouraged.

If the girl rejects your ‘Move’, simply laugh or smile at it.

Whatever your reaction is: ensure that it is lighthearted, fun and playful.

Don’t be fucking butt-hurt!

Don’t be taken-aback!

Having a look of rejection on your face will have communicated to the girl that you are socially inept, weak and you haven’t gotten a clue about flirting and women.

When you take rejection lightly, the girl’s respect for you soars out the fucking roof! So don’t fear being rejected by taking action and making moves.

Not making a move at all will get you branded a wuss!

Ever hear how chicks talk about men whenever they gather for 1 of those customary-gossip sessions?

Which of the 2 guys do you think gets shamed, crucified and gets to bear a bad name in chick court?

Is he the guy who didn’t try to make a move on her? Or the one who did?

Of course the guy who did NOT try a thing physically/sexually/romantically.

Hence, women will always respect the guy who acts and detest the guy who wusses out.

Oh- and the same goes for simply approaching the girl!

Even if she rejects you, she will still respect you.

The Motivation You May Actually Need

I was sent a link by a friend of mine to a video of Todd Valentine, the PUA dating coach, which I found to be super motivational as once again, it shatters the perception of what we all believed before getting into pickup: that in order to get girls, you had to do it the traditional way.

If you’ve been reading my blog for any time, you will have known that such an outlook is the wrong way to approach meeting women.

Nice motivational booster from Todd Valentine.

Situational Confidence + A Lesson On Being “In State”

Being “In State” is probably the most popular concept and ideology in the Seduction-Pickup community.

In non-PUA jargon; it simply means “being in the zone”.

Whichever field you may come from, you will have been familiar with the ethereal sensation of being in the zone.

A basketball player who’s in the zone (“In State”) is essentially at the peak of his performance ability during that game.

Being in the zone or in state, propels an athlete to having his best game ever: think Michael Jordan scoring his career high or a professional boxer landing 60% of his power punches.

He is “In State”.

The driving force behind being in state (i.e. in the zone) is situational confidence.

If you’re confident enough in the situation where positive results are yielded, you’ll begin to experience the feeling of being in the zone/in state.

This “flow state” isn’t easy to come by, nor can it be summoned at will.

Just as a basketball player cannot actually dictate whether he’ll have a great game or dismal one.

You can only hope for the best and try to have a stellar performance.

As for pickup and dealing with women, getting in the zone via situational confidence is much like the athlete’s position in that 1 bad set can fuck your state and sap your confidence as fast as you can say “POOF”!

You’ll need the mental discipline to stay focused in the face of a proverbial hurricane.

A girl tells you to fuck off! You’ll need the wherewithal to smile at her, keep teasing her…until she fucks off instead.

Now you can continue to build state until you’re in that flow state or zen-like zone where nothing can faze you!

Sounds great?

I bet!

With Situational Confidence, why it isn’t “true” confidence (or core confidence), is because you’re gaining confidence off of a particular situation or occurrence.

Whereas core confidence is being confident regardless of the situation.

Also the point of origin. Some situations may make you feel super confident.

For example, as much as I don’t advocate getting phone #’s, but for argument sake, getting a hot girl’s phone # will make you confident in or from that situation. This is situational confidence.

You’ll be brimming with quasi confidence like it’s nobody’s business.

Your aura will have been illuminated and other women whom you approach will sense this confident state around you.

This is situational confidence while being in the zone/in state.

Each PUA will have experienced this on some level.

The average guy however, who doesn’t go out to hit on girls as we do, being in the zone with women would have been a foreign concept and experience.

This is why as you continue to learn skills of seduction (as through my blog), you will have separated yourself from 99.9% of men on the globe who don’t get out solely to chat up girls.

In my latest infield video where I took a 17 year-old girl home in less than 45 minutes. After sending her home, the sheer nature of the pickup itself had put me on such a psychological pedestal, that I was able to draw state which propelled me to get in the zone from that situational alone.

That’s the workings of situational confidence: you have success with 1 girl [whatever success means to you], you gain confidence from that success which leads to further successes with other women (albeit for a time).

Have a killer Saturday!

Build Situational Confidence Through Quick Affirmations & Mantras

Situational Confidence is akin to a quick pill, quick fix approach to your lack of confidence issues. However, over time, you’ll be able to deal with Inner Confidence at the core.

Ok, in a recent article, I briefly touched on “Affirmations” as a mode of getting yourself “in state” and boosting your confidence (temporarily).

In this post, I’ll get a bit more detailed of the practical and applicable aspects of having a mantra.

Temporary boosts of confidence is well needed.

Even the most confident guys experience bouts of non-confidence which call for temporary fixes.

Affirmations have been staples in the PUA’s developmental arsenal as Newbies on the journey.

When first getting this part of your life handled [dating], coming from a state of “low value”, being non-confident is a given.

It’s next to impossible to feel totally comfortable and inner confident in a new and foreign environment [that’s if you’re new to dating and pickup], hence you’ll be faced with severe anxiety and confidence-deficiency issues.

Brief affirmations where you look yourself in the mirror and really get comfortable with what you see, are powerful tools for that temporary fix.

Honestly, I no longer use affirmations since I’ve attained comfort and confidence within my own skin. But this is the way in which I started years ago whenever I needed that quick jolt of Situational Confidence before heading out to the club or simply to run some day-game pickup.