When Gaming Hot Girls…Part 3…Learn The Correct Order: Attraction Before Rapport!

[Originally posted to social media]

Why is it a TERRIBLE idea to open a girl with, “Can I get to know you”? And why do girls shame guys for such a lame opener?

Here’s the deal: Pushing for Rapport before you even establish attraction isn’t normal. It’s fucking weird!

This is why in classic pickup, the order is: Attraction, Rapport/Comfort then Seduction (the 3 phases).

You cannot try to fucking gain rapport before making the girl attracted to you (to your vibe)! For instance, if a bum comes up to you on the street, and opens you with, “Can I get to know you”? How would you take to that? You would blow him the fuck off and get weirded out by such a request!

Why is this? Because the bum hadn’t built anything via dialogue before going for rapport! Had the bum showed you an interesting magic trick first, or shared with you a tip on how to do a certain thing [this would be considered Attraction material], and then he says to you, “what’s your name man, and where you come from” [this is a Rapport question], you would likely share rapport information with the bum by saying you are so and so from so and so.

However, had the bum gone straight into that (“who are you and where are you from”) as his opener, or before sharing something of interest/attraction with you, you would tell him to fuck off…or leave yourself.

How does this tie into women online?

Saying to a girl (early), “can we get to know each other”, is equivalent to the bum doing the same with you. The girl would get weirded out and turned off!

Why the fuck would she want to get to know you [enter the Rapport phase] when you haven’t given her a reason to want to know you [i.e. by building interesting convo beforehand]?

Hence, the classic mistake the vast majority of guys make, when they hit chicks up on social media with the lame, “Can I get to know you”?

They’re trying to skip Attraction and go straight into Comfort/Rapport.

It won’t work!

This is why under no circumstances, would you ever see me open a girl with, “can we get to know each other”?

I firstly open with HUMOR which equals Attraction, then build on that, then enter Rapport (which is optional via text).

Also, another reason why girls will blow you out whenever you come with that lame shit, “Can I get to know you”, is the usage of the word “CAN”!

“Can” is a killer in Game! Whenever you use “Can”, you are essentially asking the girl’s permission!

What the fuck would give you the impression that you should have to get someone’s permission to fucking TALK!!!?

That is an extremely Beta and Weak way of approaching women! Women aren’t attracted to men who seek their permission; especially not when it comes to freedom of speech!

Therefore, saying “Can I”, or, “Can we”, should totally be eliminated from your Game! It is low value!

All in all; you don’t have to verbalize to the girl that you want to get to know her! The mere fact that you DM’d her, says that you want to get to know her! So why the fuck state the obvious!? It makes you look inept, stupid and lacking social awareness and intelligence. Plus it makes you look unsure of yourself!

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Awkward Silence When In The Company Of A Girl [Date Tips]


What is your greatest fear when in the presence of a woman, perhaps on a so-called date, or during the initial conversation upon meeting?

Running out of things to say!

The impending Awkward Silence which follows!

Now- why does this happen [apart from the given, that you simply run out of things to say]?

For starters: your aim to make a great impression.

Everyone knows that it’s awkward as shit to bomb in set. But the pressure of always having to have something to say, actually works to inadvertently cause you to clamp down.

By all means, you should always have something to say! And this is very critical during the pick-up phase upon approaching a girl; whether in person or online.

However, it generally happens, even occasionally to master conversationalists like myself, where silence finds a way to creep in.

The only major difference whenever this occurs within my sets [or so-called dates], is that I manage it [silence] differently rather than allow it [silence] to get awkward.

The nifty trick I use is to Call it out or call for it! 😈

Shit- I’d used this up to a night ago while on a rendezvous…2 nights in succession actually.

If you sense that a moment of silence is pending, whereas you will have ran out of things to say, Mention it!

Say to the girl:

“Don’t you just hate those pesky-awkward silences”?

Girl: “Yea”

You: “Well…1 of them is coming now. Let’s embrace it”!

Bam!

Managed before it came!

As long as you call something out prior to it’s arrival, it has no chance, or less chance, of becoming awkward.

Call it out!

Secondly, what I also do along the lines of calling it out [pending silence], is to say to the girl:

“Hey, hush”!!!!!!!!!!!!

The girl will often rebut with, “Huh? How come”!?

Me: “Let’s just have a moment of silence and embrace it”!

Additionally, I was joke with it and say:

“Hey! We talk too much! Our mouth need a break! Let’s have some silence for a bit”!

Then we would have some silence!

It would NOT feel awkward at all!

You are taking preemptive measures in order to thwart awkward silence.

Therefore, you call it out and usher it in [silence].

The worst position to be in is to just allow it to happen.

Even in that case, it will only feel awkward once you allow it to become awkward by feeling awkward in the first place.

Hence, it is all about the way in which you manage those awkward moments before they come or as they come.

Remember: women feel what you feel!

Emotions and states are transferable!

If you’re nervous: the girl will be!

If you’re jubilant; the girl will also mimic your state of jubilance!

What you feel; she feels!

Hence, under any circumstance; do NOT allow awkward moments of silence to make you feel awkward and uncomfortable, or else the girl likewise feel uncomfortable. So to avoid this altogether, take preemptive measures by:

1.) Saying to the girl that “things seem awkward, so let’s embrace it”!

Or

2.) “Let’s give our lips a rest just for a bit and enjoy some silence while staring at each other”!

Nothing has to be done verbatim…but you get the idea.

PUA Field Report: Hooked Up With My 1st British Girl For The Year

A great portion of my lays during my pick-up tenure come by way of British girls.

For the year however, I haven’t been as fortunate to come across a fair share of Brits.

Earlier in the year, I picked up a British chick from Leicester, England but never got to seal the deal because of her sudden departure.

Before she left, we were supposed to hook up- under the guise of “meeting up” 😈 – at her mother’s place, hence the logistical information in the following screenshots from a recent convo we had over Facebook.

Anyway, some weeks ago, hadn’t already forgotten about her since she departed, something told me to message this chick on Facebook just to say hi…so I did.

To my surprise: she was on island. 🙂

I got straight to work, resuming from where we left off in January, 2015.

The following Facebook Messenger screenshots- though disjointed- says it all.

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After getting lost a couple times I managed to find her place.

The night culminated with some action. 😉

All in all guys: you don’t have to take a chick out on a date to get laid.

There are some cases where a so-called date is a given. But there are lots of cases which don’t call for date.

It comes down to your ability to persuade/influence and to make a woman feel comfortable with your vibe…and to use subtle cues which women lay out there for you to capitalize off of.

The reason why women will rarely tell you to come to their place is the lack of comfort factor.

Some guys just do a good job at weirding chicks out.

Bear in mind that over 65% of the girls I slept with, either came to my place [hotel] or they invited me to theirs.

This takes tremendous amount of trust/comfort and persuasive vibe to get the bulk of your lays outside of the traditional-dating realm.

I’ll speak more about this in a future post.

Ciao!

Video-Chat Apps Just May Be Your Ticket To Poon-Town [Comfort-Phase Game]

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There are dozens of mobile-phone apps which include video chatting, popping up every week.

You’re talking about everything from the customary Skype video call app, to Tango and Viber Messengers…which are free by the way.

I routinely hear about Face Time for the iPhone. However, it isn’t a cross-platform app, so it’s much better to deal with Tango or any other app that allows you to connect and video-chat across various smartphone brands.

Honestly speaking; I’m no fan of any of these applications besides for texting and the occasional voice and VOIP capabilities.

However, being somewhat of a mad scientist in the field of seduction and dating: a light bulb flicked on inside of my head, bearing with it a brilliant revelation to facilitate the path towards SEX! 😉

‘Comfort’.

In the old school pickup format of Mystery Method, there existed 3 phases of a seduction:

1.) Attraction

2.) Comfort

3.) Seduction

…each leading to the other.

Inherently, this format is applicable to every pickup and seduction which leads to sex.

In order to sleep with a girl, it is a prerequisite to make her feel comfortable…hence the “Comfort Phase” of a pickup and courtship.

What does this all have to do with video chatting over your smartphone?

I’ll explain.

When meeting a girl initially- and this is a stranger to be more specific- your biggest hindrance in getting her to psychologically and physically commit to seeing you again [or for the 1st time], will have been the lack of ‘Comfort’.

When you think about it: she has great and valid reasons to not feel comfortable meeting up with a stranger…especially in such a fucked-up volatile world.

Therefore, safety is an issue. And the fact that she doesn’t know you and isn’t familiar with being in your presence, this will have created much discomfort.

It is up to the guy to make her feel comfortable…hence the comfort phase and comfort game in pickup.

On a side note: this is why social-circle game is much much easier, and why most guys get laid through their social circle of friends, relatives, a peer group, etc.

In such a common situation, the girl doesn’t have much to fear since she already shares mutual friends with the guy.

In essence, he is deemed safe, therefore the girl isn’t likely to bullshit him or fabricate some half-ass elaborate story as to why she cannot meet up.

With that, meeting strangers with the desire to take them to bed, is much more challenging in contrast to trying to hook up with someone with whom you’re familiar.

Digressing.

With video chatting, or even web-cam to web-cam interactions over the computer which is the pioneering apparatus to mobile video-chat apps, this form of communication eliminates the whole stranger dynamics like never before!

The problem with solely texting a girl is that it is super impersonal and has no emotional value attached to it.

This is why girls are notorious as fuck for lying over text.

They aren’t attached to those messages!

After all, they are only characters and words punched into a mobile device and sent off nonchalantly.

This is also why girls are notorious for flaking and standing guys up when they might have agreed to the plans/date over text.

That was just a side tangent to the greater picture.

With the girl actually seeing you in real time- in fact, it doesn’t have to be real time [could’ve been a recording of a video message]- it gives her a sense of familiarity and builds comfort and trust…which is what you want.

Lack of comfort: no pussy…unless it is a case of a one-night stand where everything kind of “just happened”.

Over the past weeks, I’ve been dibbling and dabbling and field-testing this theory of mines, in order to gather some actual proof as to whether this formuli is workable or just a fluke.

To my amazement, the girls whom I’d engaged in video chat were 10 times more likely to actually follow through and rendezvous with me, as opposed to the girls whom I’d only texted.

Talking over the telephone, and even sending voice notes, carry this same weight though to a lesser extent.

Overall, texting is absolutely the worst form of communication when it pertains to trying to set up a date with a girl.

This is why in the old-school pickup philosophy we advised men to only set up the date over the telephone: voice-to-voice.

Voice carries more weight than texts. Just as video interaction carries more weight than voice only [phone conversation]…just as in-person communication- vis-a-vis – packs a way greater punch than any other form of communication between the sexes as it pertains to trying to hook up.

For whatever it’s worth though: always try to move away from the text-only platform towards something more powerful: voice notes, phone calls and video chat.

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