Beta-Male Buffoonery Series: These Guys Just Don’t Understand What Confident And Direct Means

Okay fellaz, it’s been long-overdue since I put together the “Beta-Male Buffoonery Series”, which are series of short posts, exposing Beta-Male-ism coming from the average male online.

Let’s get right into it.

On Facebook, a female friend of mine posted the following status about confident and direct men.

The men who commented, have not 1 clue of what it means to be direct and confident with women (online).

Now, where did these buffoons go egregiously wrong?

Telling a girl she’s sexy in such a context (online), doesn’t classify as “direct”, rather cheesy, lame, generic, socially un-savvy and desperate.

The idiot Marcus tooled himself out when he made the ultimate faux-pas of “asking” the girl if he could inbox her. On top of that, he referred to her as “queen”. No wonder he never got a reply from the girl. That was chode city type of shit right there. Asking a girl for her permission to message her is an instant deflation to the guy’s perception of confidence in the girl’s eyes.

Every other guy made similar mistakes. Bill only got a reply because he used flattery, and the girl was compelled to reply out of social norms…and just to be friendly. But Bill stood no chance either.

Fernando was the worst! Giving a girl your # is so far from confident and direct, that you could probably see the North Pole from South America before this buffoonery would ever be deemed confident and direct!

What these guys are missing ultimately, apart from the fact that they were supplicating and qualifying to the highest degree, is that directly trying to communicate that you are confident and direct, is the opposite of confidence and direct.

If I were to comment, my comment(s) would’ve been very neutral and witty, steering clear of anything that would inadvertently give off the vibe that I’m trying to be/look confident and direct.

More Chode Shit

So this morning, a guy who’s a fan of mines, friend requested me on Facebook.

As usual, I screen the profile just to ensure that it’s legit, then I accept the request.

The guy then hits me up via Messenger, and the exchange went as follows.

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I got so frikkin’ frustrated that I posted the following status with the above screenshots.

This the type of chode shit that makes me want to close my Facebook account. After explaining to this guy that race means shit in picking up women, and that if you’re good with 1 set of women, you’ll be equally as good with another, he goes on to pry about me picking up Indian girls, totally missing the points I made prior. He wants to know how many East Indian girls I’ve slept with. I mean, really!? What the fuck does that prove if I were to say 2 or 200!!? That’s that chode mentality.

Okay, if you want to get me real upset, make insinuations that looks and race are impediments in the game.

With this guy, his insistence on seeing me pick up more East Indian women was hair-pulling!

I mean, what part of me saying to you that game works on every woman, don’t you understand!?

What part of me telling you that on an intrinsic and biological level, all women are the same, don’t you understand!?

Since you know that I can (and do) pick up East Indian girls, why the heck would you want to know how many I’ve picked up!?

Why should the quantity matter?

Why even ask that?

What the fuck does it prove if I were to say 2 or 200!?

I feel that this guy is indirectly calling me out, but in a slick way.

I am very much attuned to this sort of trickery and psychological ploy, where guys try to call other guys out, but by not actually doing it directly, instead through insinuations.

Furthermore, this guy’s fractured frame is deeper than that. And it goes back to what I told him initially, that game works straight across the board, transcending racial, ethnic and national lines.

If you’ve been following my blog for a good while now, you would’ve known that I have a quasi-fetish for East Indian women.

Additionally, you would’ve also known that following black girls, East Indians are 2nd of my proverbial hit-list (or fuck-list).

I’ve picked up and banged lots of East Indian women here in the Caribbean islands.

They are no different than black girls in that I don’t get a more difficult time gaming East Indians than I do black chicks, Orientals or any other woman for that matter.

The race of the girl doesn’t mean shit to me!

My approach remains the same with a few minor adjustments and tweaks here and there.

For instance, if I’m chatting up and picking up a French chick, I will tweak my game in the sense that my conversational thread would be based more on geography, asking the girl about France, etc.

Those aren’t game-specific tweaks. Hence, my game remains the same, no matter the girl standing before me!

These AFC chodes, and I’m quite sure you reading this post are one [sorry for being so harsh], are always under the impression that girl A is harder to game because she’s white, Asian, black, Russian, Martian, whatever!

They fail to realize that game is game, and women are women! What works on a British-white chick will work on a British-black chick, or a British-Pakistani chick!

This sort of low-value mindset harbored by guys new to the game (that race matters), is equivalent to guys who peddle the looks matter bullshit.

Both ideologies are flawed and incorrect!

If you’re entering the game with “race matters”, then of course it will matter!

I don’t!

Whenever I approach a girl, be it online or in person, I don’t see race! I only see vagina!

My game and lay percentage with white and East-Indian girls are higher than that of black girls [“percentage”-wise].

It is just that I have a preference for black and Indian women why I game them more. But I find white girls no harder to game than blacks or Indians.

It is all in your fucking head!

That chode mentality has to be rooted the hell out if you ever wish to get a solid grip on your dating life as it relates to variety in women!

You shouldn’t have to see me game and pick up a Hawaiian girl to know that I’m capable of doing it. You shouldn’t have to know how many Canadian women I’d slept with to know that I can bed Canadian women!

Why not? To reiterate: Game works across the board!

The only how your game would somewhat struggle is if there’s a language barrier. But that’s not even a big deal since your verbals are less important than your nonverbals.

Anyway guys, I have less tolerance for chode shit as of later.

How would you like to be bombarded with dozens of emails and social-media DM’s per day, where the subject line reads: “I’m not good looking enough to attract women. Help me”!

You would go nuts too!

Listen, before learning about pickup when I sucked ass at getting a woman to even look at me, the very last thing that I factored into the equation of why women weren’t giving me the time of day, was my looks!

Even as a fucking Beta-Male, AFC, low-value frame chode, I still didn’t attribute my inability to get laid to my lack of good looks!

I didn’t believe that women were repulsed by my big nose, elongated face, bulging eyes or irregular-looking smile!

My looks were far from the reason I thought as to why I sucked!

Do you know to what I attributed my lack of success with women before discovering pickup by a chance Google search?

A lack of game!

I didn’t even know there was such a thing as game in the sense of one can learn how to become good with women!

I literally thought that you were either born with game or without game, and that dictated your entire life until death!

I wanted fucking Game!

Not better looks! Because something inside of me told me that even if I were blessed with better looks, a lack of game will still render my good looks null and void! And that is very much true!

Hence, it sorta weirds me out whenever I hear guys attribute lack of success with women to lack of good looks, when even as a guy who couldn’t get laid, looks didn’t even factor into the picture for me.

Anyway guys, you may very well think that I’m being a giant dick as of late by harping on the looks stuff. But bear with me.

I’m just trying to show you that unless you resemble that ugly character from the Goonies, then looks are the least of your problems when it comes to getting poon!

How Not To Respond To A Girl Being Cold

This is totally the wrong way to go about a girl being unresponsive.

In fact, with this guy, the girl was responding. However, she was somewhat cold.

Days ago, a female on Facebook posted the following screenshots, in order to shame and out guys who show their lack of game and so forth.

The guy’s messages are in gray. Hers in blue.

Okay, so where did he go wrong?

First of all: never ask a girl, “what are you doing”, or, “what’s up”!

It is lame, generic and ticks women off because of its generic nature. So he went astray from right there.

Secondly, he didn’t have compliance from the girl, yet he tells her he’s going to be in (her) town tomorrow morning.

Okay- fine! But so what!! What the fuck do you expect the girl to say to that!!!? Did he expect her to say, “Okay that’s lovely that you’ll be in my town tomorrow! Let’s grab a smoothie”!


As the guy, he was supposed to tell the girl his plan and intention: “Hey, I’m gonna be in your town tomorrow. We should grab a pizza and bore each other to death with small talk”.

Point is: he foolishly neglected to give the girl a reason (or a point) to want to meet with him, since he neglected to mention any meet-up plan! Because of that, the girl rightly replied with, “what does this (coming to the girl’s town) have to do with me”?

He then further went on to drop more points by complimenting the girl in the cheesiest way possible (without having compliance) by telling her, “you look so beautiful and sweet”!

No dude! Haven’t you read my fucking blog!!!?

You don’t dish out a cheesy-generic compliment; especially when the girl has already deemed you as clueless via of her snarky remark!

Complimenting a stranger on a whole- in and of itself- is bad! But it is EXTRA bad when you do so on a downward spiral, where the girl had basically said something bitchy to you!

Why do guys choose such a moment (when the girl is acting bitchy) to go cheesy with the compliments? Because AFC’s (Average Joes) are still under the illusion that complimenting a bitchy, and or hot girl, will defuse her bitchiness and gain her favor by getting on her good side.

Essentially, it is a strategic ruse by clueless men in hopes of flattering the bitchy girl into being nice.

This absolutely never works!

Anyway, to make matters worse, from the screenshot (on the left side), I’m seeing that he contacted her again saying, “good morning”.

In a recent post, I touched on how generic texts such as, “good morning” and “what’s up”, are tantamount to nailing your own coffin shut…with yourself inside the coffin.

If you don’t have value in the eyes of the girl, she will react to a simple and innocent “good morning”, as if you’d told her to “go fuck yourself”!

This guy, clearly in the eyes of the girl, had no (social) value, no compliance and no attraction (based on his vibing…or lack thereof). So messaging “good morning” with such a deck stacked against you, will only cause Perturbation.

The uselessness of the ranting in the guy’s messages (in gray) on the right side of the screenshot above, was self-explanatory.

What’s so ironic about this (their text exchange) is that the guy could’ve totally turned this around by attracting the girl through drama.

Here’s the deal: as long as the girl is responding to your messages (whether positively or negatively), it means that she is invested. And as long as the girl is investing, it means that she is open to being picked up.

This guy clearly didn’t know that, just as hardly any of us guys would’ve known that.

It was Todd Valentine, the PUA instructor for the RSD company, who said: “I would rather get a negative response from the girl than no response at all”.

No response from the girl is absolutely the worst-case scenario. If she doesn’t reply; you have no shot of picking her up.

Saying that bit to say, I could’ve totally flipped this debacle, and I always do.

It is a treasured yet sorta complex routine/technique of mines, dubbed “seducing girls through drama”.

The reason I developed it was by chance actually. I’d gotten myself in a few sticky situations trying to game girls on online-dating sites some years ago. But then I realized that although the girl and I were arguing, I could still flip the set and get her to like me. Then it became a routine of mines in handling bitchy, snarky, attitudish girls.

Okay, back to the end of the text exchange. So even when he called her a fat cow, her response was rather relenting and non-combative. At that point, he could’ve totally turned around the set by relenting also, even apologizing, then work some charm game.

In either case, this was just a great example of how not to respond to a girl being cold via messaging.

Chode Shit: Telling Girls To Smile More

Low-valued activities from men, really tick me off!

Not only do they tick me off, but women are also fed up of the chodery and the Beta-Male behaviors which are exhibited by the vast majority of men.

The other day on Facebook, this female whom I know, posted the following meme about smiling.

Seems innocuous.

Here was my response.

Men are indeed full of shit when it comes to things like these!

Give the girl something to smile about instead of trying to tell women that they need to smile more.

I generally hear this complaint a lot from scores of men over the years.

They perceive that a non-smiling girl is a bitchy girl, hence their unwillingness to approach the girl who doesn’t have a cheery expression plastered across her face.

Furthermore, why do men wish for women whom they come across to smile (more)?

It (a smiling face) signals to coward men that they have an easy target, thus having a shot.

If you are guilty of such low-valued expectation as a man; then you are a social coward and an Omega-Male graveling at the bottom of the totem pole, unable to climb.

Sure we all wish that every woman had a pleasant and inviting grin on her face, because that would somehow be encouraging for us to approach her. But whether the girl is smiling or frowning, that shouldn’t discourage you at all from approaching her.

Quit going for the perceived easier targets in women who smile a ton. Looking approaching by having an inviting-facial expression, doesn’t at all indicate how receptive a girl is or will become. So if you believe that telling the girl who works the cash register, that she should smile more, would make your day (or your chances) easier; think again brodie!

I spoke about this a long time ago, and it still rings true to this day: I’ve had more successes with approaching girls who looked bitchy and aggravated than I did (and do) with approaching the ones who were all cheery-looking.

I then accepted the realization through experience, that the girls who appeared to be icy and cold on the exterior, are actually sweethearts once you approach and open!

Go out and field test it!

You’ll be amazed to discovered that the ice queens are often times charming souls just waiting to be greeted. Instead, you either cowardly prance on by them, or make an equally coward move by remarking that they should smile more.

Upon approaching a girl, the absolute last thing I take into consideration is how inviting (or not) her facial expression is.

I can literally care less whether she’s smiling or sulking. So you’ll never hear me ask a girl, “why don’t you smile more”?

Women hate to hear it! So quit saying it because it makes you look low value!

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