There’s a reason why I always opt for drinks at my hotel, drinks at an eatery joint, or drinks wherever it is I’m to meet up with a girl.
In any case; I prefer drinks be involved.
Random street pulls with alcohol inducement
Is it because I want to get the girl inebriated and date rape her?
Of course not you sick fuckers!
Why I always try to ensure that alcohol be present [even if we barely consume it] is for “Plausible Justifiability” purposes.
Plausible Justifiability [let’s just say “PJ” in the interest of time] in its rawest definition, is an excuse; a would-be plausible excuse for some sort of action taken- in this case- by the girl in the equation.
Therefore, alcohol acts as justification [plausibly so] in the girl’s mind, whereas if she sleeps with Joe Blow, having consumed some alcohol, she can justify said action [fucking Joe Blow] by saying to herself [and others], “I was under the influence. I had a few drinks”.
This will not only give her comfort and justification in her actions, but others will excuse her, since after all, having consumed alcohol is a plausible reason for fucking some random guy.
She is justified in being slutty!
Without alcohol present- let us say on the date- there must be something else [likely unknown to the guy] which the girl can latch onto, claim Justifiability, then sleep with the guy.
Therefore, not having alcohol, and not consuming any, will only make the guy’s attempt for sex that much more difficult…unless there are drugs involved, or other mind-altering agents.
Here’s the thing- and I have no personal experience with this since I don’t smoke anything at all- but judging from what I see and stories that I’ve heard, it is much easier to sleep with a girl while she’s under the influence or high…basically.
I don’t believe it requires rocket-science to see the obvious logics in such a statement: that a girl who’s high will have been more susceptible and easier persuaded towards sex.
Now, here is the thing- and here is where I pontificate with my own theory on the drugs and sex connection: it isn’t the drug or alcohol itself [their content] that makes the girl pliable and easier, but “Plausible Justifiability” in the girl’s mind which facilitates her actions to go along with sex.
Though the girl may have knowingly been under the influence of whatever it is she consumed or ingested, that alone would not have tipped the scales towards sex with the guy who’s there, partaking in the act of inebriation or getting high along with her.
The effects of alcohol do NOT lead to sex!
The effects of drugs do NOT lead to sex neither!
Again- this is my hypothesis.
However, there is no proof of this, and no way possible to prove this as factual [that drugs and alcohol consumption chemically induce sex].
Why this may seem so is simply as I explained above: having consumed alcohol or drugs, women more specifically, justify to themselves why doing something they otherwise wouldn’t do, would be justified plausibly. Not only to herself, but to others on the outside…and to the guy who may have slept with her.
Hence, it isn’t the content of the alcohol or drug that pushes a girl towards sex.
She leads herself into that action while justifying it by being under the influence of something other than herself.
Thus, she cannot be held responsible for her actions.
If it was really so, that alcohol and drugs actually lowers one’s inhibitions and pushes him or her into having sex besides their own will, then why aren’t women who drink and do drugs, for example sake, sleeping with any random guy they come across on the subway, streets, bars, nightclubs, parties or over Thanksgiving dinner?
Why isn’t horny Tina, who has had a few drinks at the family reunion, hooking up with uncle Bob who’s been fondling her ever since she was 10 years old, and wanting to shove his old-dirty pecker inside of her?
Why aren’t women under the influence walking down the street naked, fingering themselves on the park benches or at restaurants, letting themselves go while under the influence of something?
Why not? Because they [we] still have the vast bulk of control over their actions and thoughts while under the influence. So that is why we aren’t just blowing our brains out at random after downing a few cocktails. Even the hardest drugees know better than to dive off of a 10 story building, being driven and controlled by whichever drug they had shot up.
The most sex-deprived guys on Earth, or even virgin men who’ve never tasted poon, aren’t downing booze or doping up, to then stagger around town raping random chicks all about the place!
No one does this sober, nor under the influence for that matter, because the risk outweighs the reward.
Additionally, no matter how horny a girl is, being under the influence won’t at all drive her to ripping off the male bartender’s pants and fucking him right then and there!
She has control! Not only some. But she has full control of her actions!
Whether drunk or high: we know right from wrong, and we do right most of the time, even while under the influence! Or else, there would be mass casualties at bars and nightclubs all around the world, where drunk guy kills other guys for checking out his girlfriend…then jumps off a bridge while at it.
You get the point, right?
We still have actionable and mental control over what we do and say while under the influence.
With all that which was said, and in relation to dating, women justify their actions to have sex with a new guy by placing responsibility upon anything other than themselves.
She’ll even lay blame upon the guy who had fucked her!
If you’re a guy who has any sort of intelligence about females, you would accept every ounce of responsibility for the sex: prior to, and after the sex.
Whether you as the man accepts responsibility for the sex or not, the girl will always lay blame on you for it having happened.
She doesn’t want to be perceived as slutty [a woman’s greatest fear].
This is why she will blame the guy, alcohol or drugs for having coerced her into the act of sex.
Without a doubt- she fucked the guy on her own volition- even if she had a drink or 2, smoked some weed or snorted some cocaine! But she needs a source/outlet of “Plausible Justifiability” upon which to cast the blame.
The following may not be a popular declaration, but I’ve made it before without trepidation: I personally believe that a fair amount of rape cases was actually false-rape accusation, alleged by the female involved.
She might have wanted sex, and even verbally consented to it, but for whatever reason [a bitter fallout for instance], she subsequently decides to call foul/rape.
This is also common among collegiate-level athletes, where subsequent to gang-banging a chick at a campus function, the girl- though she was a willing participant- because of shame, or perhaps she felt threatened that the guys would go public about the romp [remember this is a girl’s #1 fear], she decides to call foul about the entire incident.
Perhaps 1 of the jocks involved was an ex-fling. Now the girl feels shitty about herself, so she confronts the guy about the gang-bang but she was blown off and made fun of. Girl then decides to go public [as in report the incident to authorities] as rape, and not that she was a willing participant in the orgy.
These things happen on and off of campus, at parties, concerts, etc.
This however hearkens back to my previous point that women will rarely ever take personal responsibility for having sex [this is with a new guy]. They were either drunk [or drinking], high [or smoking], pressured or raped: alcohol, drugs and men get the blame.
As the man- if you were wise- you would want to take the burden of responsibility for sex happening [I definitely don’t mean in the cases of false-rape accusations nor anything egregious].
A woman [mainly one whom you haven’t bedded yet] will NOT go through with sex, if she, even for a split second, feels that the burden will be left with her.
This is where alcohol comes in to save the day as far as my methodology of getting laid is concerned.
Rendezvous with professional photographer from Vancouver, British Colombia...and a few beers. 😉
Make no mistake about it: I do NOT have to have alcohol handy in order to get laid.
It is used solely as a psychological red herring.
In fact, I don’t even keep alcohol at my place as most guys do.
Yea- so- basically, having a drink or 2 while on the date or meet-up, will have created a dynamic where the girl uses “Plausible Justifiability” in order to coerce herself into having guilt-free sex…which she wants to have anyway, but she only needs an external source in which to lay blame…in this case: the alcohol.
Furthermore, we’re all familiar with stories of girls getting hammered and going wild: letting go of their inhibitions.
What if I were to tell you that this is just a ruse: a sham, and that the girl-gone-wild while under the influence, isn’t because of the alcohol at all, but that she really intended to go wild anyways, but only used the pretence of alcohol as a smoke-screen for “Plausible Justifiability” to justify her actions of going wild and getting slutty?
Well- that is the truth…at least my theorization on it.
Chicks often consume alcohol in order to use “alcohol” as the culprit for their capricious behavior. Not that the alcohol was ever a true influence, but she only used it as such while creating that impression to observers…or to the guy she’s hoping to have sex with.
Men are also guilty of this shit, however, not to justify having sex, but aggression.
We would drink [or get high] just to show aggression, start a fight or to do something even more egregious.
Not that the alcohol transformed us into an aggressive beast of a man by injecting us with a dose of liquid courage. But we “CONSCIOUSLY” justify our acts of aggression- like bashing a guy over the head with a beer bottle- while using alcohol, drugs or being under the influence as the reason of justification for said actions.
It is all bullshit!
We consciously do our wrongs and good deeds. And we have FULL control over whether we do them or elect not to do them [whatever “them” may be].
I mean- such actions are even legally justified to a considerable extent by the judiciary.
Someone who had committed a crime while “claiming” to have been under the influence of some substance, can justifiably claim that he wasn’t [fully] responsible for having committed that offense. And the law will likely take that claim into consideration, more so once the person’s legal council makes this known within the proceedings. There are provisions within the law [Westminster system that is] which have to take this into account.
The only offense in which the judiciary does not accept “I was under the influence” claim [at least in America], is driving while under the influence which may have resulted in an accident or vehicular homicide. The law does not show leniency towards an assailant’s claims of being under the influence of a controlled substance [alcohol] in such cases.
Therefore, alcohol [or drugs] often times gets culpability for one’s actions: legally, socially and sexually.
My well thought-out hypothesis remains as mentioned earlier: those “supposed” controlled substances aren’t responsible for one’s action, nor do they truly compel nor sandbag one into action. But we only lay blame on such external substances in order to avoid taking personal responsibility for our not-so palatable actions…like committing crime, breaking laws, sleeping with someone we barely know and so forth.
The so-called professionals and experts in this field [substance abuse] would likely disagree with my theory here, because they truly believe that someone who’s been drinking or is high, is considerably under the influence and control of something other than himself/herself.
Again, I disagree with the so-called experts. Because if this was truly the case- that alcohol and drugs “TRULY” control our actions- then those of us who drink and get high [I only drink] would be careening to our deaths on a wholesale daily basis in highly irrational fashion: jumping from bridges and skyscrapers, instigating an unprovoked shootout with an entire police precinct, violently storming an army barrack as a civilian itching for a fight, catapulting ourselves into the middle of oncoming traffic…on the highway.
If we were truly under the influence and power of any substance outside of ourselves, we would be doing some crazy-fucking shit…REGULARLY!
Thus, there is a limitation and boundary, or something within us [which is our ration-thinking mind], which tells us that diving through the window of a 10-story building, will not be a smart idea…hence we elect not to do so…even when drunk or high. BUT- while drunk or high, shouldn’t we technically become irrational and highly liable to do irrational shit?
Therefore, how can we truly claim “I acted under the influence”, or “I was controlled”, when we are rational and mindful enough to not do anything as stupid as jumping in front of a speeding train…even while under the influence?
You may respectfully disagree with my thesis here. I’m cool with that!
Certainly these irrational actions happen somewhat with regularity! But they aren’t committed by any sane person who might have had a few drinks or snorted some coke. Crazy people, who are truly acting outside of their logical minds, are the ones running into oncoming traffic, laying themselves on a railroad while a freight train chugs along, diving from a building, etc.
They have no control!
However, don’t tell me that a rational-thinking person deciding to strip their clothes off at a party, is doing so because he/she is being controlled by a substance, having downed a few Tequila shots or snorted a line of coke.
I would hazard a very good guess that the person decided to strip at the party because that person wanted to do it anyway! But he or she had only used alcohol or drugs as pretext to justify their actions…of stripping at the party for example.
Anyway, so when you adjoin everything together which I’d touched upon within this article [“Plausible Justifiability”], and apply it to women in courtship, mating and dating, you will have gotten a very very precise picture of how and why women operate the way they do while claiming to be “under the influence”, and how and why I prefer to have alcohol present in order to feed into this myth, and encourage the girl to want to hook up.
If she believes that alcohol makes her horny [I’ve come across many girls who hold this belief]- FINE- I’ll bring some, or invite her on a rendezvous with alcohol being handy.
Surely there is no real study which shows that alcohol makes one sexually aroused. But the girl buys into this myth because it suits her hidden agenda of wanting to have sex while needing something upon which to cast blame and culpability [the alcohol] so she doesn’t appear slutty for conceding to sexual intercourse with the new guy on her own free will while sober.
She truly wants sex! But she won’t ever admit this unless she’s been drinking or getting high.
Get her to drink, it increases the chances of her having sex. Not because the alcohol is in control of her actions, but she needs the alcohol as a source of blame for her “conscious” decision and action to have sex.
Lastly, women will often excuse a man’s behavior while he’s “under the influence”.
This is secretly why guys who drink and pretend to be intoxicated, get aggressive and sexual with women.
They consciously know what the fuck they’re doing!
The so-called drunk guy at the bar [he may very well be drunk] is consciously aware of his actions of trying to grope or kiss some random woman in the venue.
He’s also aware of the fact that because he’s been drinking, others will excuse his actions by saying, “Oh- he was drunk”! Hence, he rids himself of culpability/blame.
He would not have attempted this act while sober [trying to make out with a girl] because he doesn’t have the cover of alcohol to hide behind as plausible justifiability. But by no means is the drunk guy unaware of his actions, except in the cases where he doesn’t quite have full conscious control of his limbs [particularly the legs]. Hence, a guy who’s pissy drunk is liable to trip or stumble over himself. But it doesn’t at all mean that his wants, desires and intentions aren’t clear to him.
In any case, people will often excuse our actions once we’ve been drinking.
This can turn out to be a positive or negative depended on the situation and the results.
For instance, if on a date having wine with a girl whom you’ve never gotten intimate with before, and you decide to escalate physically and sexually by caressing her hands sensually; in most cases, she isn’t likely to react negatively…especially if she’s been wanting this to happen.
She will excuse your intimate escalation by telling herself, “he’s had a bit much to drink”. Having been drinking some wine herself, she is likely to accept your physical and sexual escalation under the guise of intoxication.
Thus, she’s pleased to give her date the impression that the wine had made her pliable, easy and receptive to his sexual advances.
This is why it puzzles the shit out of me that guys can take a girl out, 2-4 dates, have wine or cocktails, yet not get intimate with her at all.
Dude- the alcohol is your goddamn ally! Your date expects you to escalate having been drinking! But you constantly blow it by being a giant pussy!
The girl is more than likely to excuse your actions and blame it on the alcohol!
What is the worse that could possible happen by taking your date’s hand and trying to sensually caress her fingers?
She either tells you to stop, pulls away, calls for the bill, pays for her stuff and leave!
Worse case scenario!
You won’t die!
You won’t even collapse from a nervous breakdown!
What the hell is there to lose?
On that note, I want you to realize that almost everything I do as far as women and dating are concerned, is logistically strategic in hopes of getting me inside of her little-pink flesh.
Do I always get laid from my rendezvous and so-called dates?
However, I believe in maximizing my chances of getting laid by being strategic and using psychology to facilitate sex.
Though I may not leave from every so-called date having had sex with the girl. But you best believe that getting physical, making out, mutual groping, etc. will have undoubtedly taken place 100% of the time…even though the meet-up may not have culminated in sex.
Furthermore, whenever I introduce alcohol into the picture, it is NEVER with the intention to get the girl drunk in the least!
In fact, I have a 1-drink policy [2 if she’s lucky] where I get her 1 drink, and 1 for myself also [2 if I’m feeling generous 😉 ]. So, my intention isn’t to get the girl nor myself inebriated. I just want enough alcohol [1 glass or 1 bottle will suffice] to create the impression that we both are buzzed, hence she gets to give herself justification for allowing me to physically and sexually escalate upon her.
Not that she’s actually buzzed or tipsy [for crying out loud; she would have only had 1 drink]! But the impression is the most important factor here.
Rendezvous with photographer from Vancouver...and a few beers. 😉
At the end of the meet-up, if sex does happen, she can rationalize it to herself [and to me indirectly] that it wasn’t her conscious decision to fuck me [while sober], but the alcohol made her fuck me…even though she only had 1 drink and was completely operating from a sober frame regardless.
It’s all psychological guys.
Now, imagine this: on your so-called date, you grab for yourself and the girl water or juice [anything nonalcoholic]. What is there to now give the girl [false] justification to allow you to get intimate with her, without her recoiling or drawing herself back because she’s uncomfortable?
I hope you’re following.
If the girl had only drunk water, juice or had tea [non-intoxicants], why would she fuck you?
What would have been her “plausible justification”?
Are the cranberries in the juice aphrodisiacs? Not that I know of.
Hence, you are liable to receive a “WTF is he doing” look as you escalate on your date in the absence of alcohol.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t sleep with a new girl for the first time without having drinks [alcohol]. Half of my lays have happened without any drinks involved. However, it only complicates things a bit [not having alcohol] whereas the easiest avenue to achieving sex [having alcohol] is inadvertently sealed off, which means you’ll have to revert to a plan b or c.
By the way, this quasi tip is more so directed at the guys who suffer from social anxiety and have escalation issues.
If you’re comfortable, confident and adept at making a move on women [as I am], then you can very well escalate and get sexual with your date without trepidation of anything going South [as in real objections]. Having to need alcohol as a psychological crutch will not be that necessary.
Where and how guys find themselves in sticky situations like date-rape and so on, is by trying [intentionally] to get the girl drunk by buying drink after drink, or trying to take advantage of the situation [the girl] while she’s already pissy or black-out drunk.
I mean, chicks aren’t stupid. They know when you’re intending to get them drunk and capitalize off of the perceived handicap.
In lots of cases, the guy ends up forcing himself upon the girl, believing that she’s had enough drinks and is now incoherent, so he forces the issue, the girl resists [knowing that she’s been duped] the guy persists, then everything blows up in everyone’s face.
To avoid such a dumb situation that lots of guys get themselves into, I adhere to my 1-2 drink policy, and the girl will have had no reason whatsoever to believe that I was attempting to get her drunk and take advantage of her. After all; why would I only buy 1-2 drinks if I had villainous intentions like to date rape her via intoxication?
Be as it may, in a future article, I’ll deal with the topic of strategic logistics and how I structure my dates in order to maximize the chances of sex.
If you haven’t seen my 36 minute hidden-cam date video from earlier in the year [with a girl I picked up online], I suggest you check it out to see some of the concepts I talked about here being put into action.