Aah, the most dreaded question and answer a guy can ever ask and receive from his precious sweetie-pie.
Just as women do, we men expect honesty also in our relationships, but this is the only exception to that rule where you should lie your fucking ass off girl!
If your spouse or BF asks you this dreaded question, please be wary that he isn’t expecting to hear the truth…unless the truth of that # is significantly minuscule for today’s standards.
Assuming you’d banged over 15 guys in your lifetime; he doesn’t want to know that!
Now, if you’re a chick reading this, you may be saying to yourself, “Well what # is appropriate where I can then be truthful with my significant other”?
The most psychologically acceptable # is 8!
“I’ve slept with 8 men in my entire life”.
It’s single digit, but it’s not too small of a figure as to cause the boyfriend to believe you’re lying your ass off.
To say 3 or 4, even if you’re being honest and had only slept with 3-4 guys before him, that # is still so low by today’s sexualized standard, that it will set off the bullshit alarms in his head.
Between 7 and 9 should be your default #, even if you’d banged over 40 men in your heyday.
Why is this Q&A so important to men?
Every guy, no matter where on the globe he resides, no matter the society he was reared in, he would love to believe that the girl with whom he’d chosen to go exclusive, was the closest thing to a pristine virgin without actually being a virgin.
Every guy wants a slut in bed but not a slut outside of the bedroom.
He doesn’t want a virgin per se, which would mean an inexperience woman who lacks the know-how to give a great fuck…he merely wants a chicks with enough sexual experience to rock his little world, but at the same time, he can be proud to strut the neighborhood without being a laughingstock among the bachelors who’d probably all fucked her at some point prior.
In retrospect, the youngest girl I’d ever slept with was a 17 year old Jamaican who had lied about her age and told me that she was 19 :shock:!
Thank heavens this was in the Caribbean where the legal age of sexual consent is as low as 14 in some islands, so a statutory-rape charge was not on the table!
Anyway, out of sheer curiosity, I’d asked her how many guys she slept with thus far.
She casually replied: “22”, all of which were admittedly over the age of 19 including a few in their 40’s!
Are you fucking kidding me!?
Are you fucking kidding me!?
Nah, that wasn’t my response. I really didn’t give a shit if she’d said 90. She was just a one-off.
However, I said to her verbatim, with a non-judgmental viewpoint, “And do you think 22 guys are plenty”?
Jamaican girl: “No. I know girls who fucked 40 guys”.
As a guy who’s deeply immersed in the Pickup Artist (PUA) lifestyle, it isn’t in our proverbial constitution to judge women as sluts and whores, irrespective of how many guys they’d shagged.
With this girl though, I had to say to myself, “She’s 17 years old and already fucked 22 dudes…I being the lucky 23rd”!
Based on that trend, presuming that she’s still alive, or sexually active (which she should be), she’s now around 24 years old, so it’s quite conceivable to estimate that she will have slept with over 60 dudes by now…at the age of 24.
Now imagine that bombshell being dropped on her Beta-Male boyfriend :shock:!
She has no business divulging such info to any guy who possibly has romantic interest in her.
She’ll be better off lying by shaving that # down by about 80% and roll with my suggested 6 to 8 men in her sexual history.
As I stated at the top, 3 or 4 guys would be too low of a # to strike a believable chord within your significant other.
No guy on the face of this Earth would honestly believe that a sexually active girl has only had 3-4 sex partners…especially if she’s attained the age of 30…and is sexually component to give the most marvelous blow-job in town :).
Now if she’s 18 years old; maybe- just maybe, she could get away with it, but that’s still a hard-ass pill for us men to swallow.
On the flip side, there must be women going:
“Not fair! Why should we be castigated for our # while guys get off the hook and probably had slept with thrice as many people as we (women) have”!?
It’s a man’s world; live with it!
Pun intended :)!
Nah seriously, I hear the sentiments, but the justification for such perceived injustice would warrant a whole new article…and some.
It comes down to evolutionary science and a man’s primal instinct and purpose to survive and replicate, replenish and multiply as he was put here to do.
In summary: a man’s value and worth in the eyes of his fellow man, are judged based on how many women he’d conquered and taken to bed, and not how fat his 401K is [although having a fat-ass retirement/saving account in these times is a blessing].
Wealth and material acquisitions do not make a man! Nor do they make a man feel like a real man.
I’ve always said that you could offer a man the option of having a sexless life but with abundance of wealth, or a life full of sex and women but with meager material possessions, and 9 out of 10 times, a sane man would elect the latter option of sex with less wealth opposed to much wealth with no sex.
Now, 90% of wealthy men live a sex-less life, but it isn’t by choice, but they were too insulated by the accumulation of wealth (which they cannot take with them when they kick the bucket), and also never made the time to harness their skills with women. So the closest thing to sex these men will ever attain is internet porn or fucking a Craig’s List lady-boy hooker whenever the risk of being caught by their sex-deprived wives isn’t too high. But those men are sexless.
An abundance of wealth and resources but no one of the opposite sex to share and enjoy it with, is a classic case of why rich men end up marrying girls half their age who are only there to deplete the resources of an old guy while fucking some hot-young stud on the side…who’s dirt poor.
Having 3 mansions and leading a Floyd Mayweather-esque lifestyle don’t make a man a man according to the male’s genetic wiring.
You can possess all of those tangible things, but if you’re not getting laid (often) albeit in your physical prime: then you have no social value as a man!
Men instinctively understand this social barometer.
What makes a man feel like a real man, is having the credentials to show and prove to his fellow man that he has choices of women in which to fuck on a regular basis…or he has a hot-desirable wife at least.
Such mercenary mentality seems foreign to women, but it’s just more proof that the sexes are different and that we operate under distinct guidelines.
The more men a woman sleeps with; the more she’s perceived to be a wanton whore.
The more women a man sleeps with, and puts this out there in the public eye; he’s hailed as a God incarnate!
Kenny didn’t make the rules baby!
Saying all this to say, women get that this double standard exists within society, so they’re well aware as to what is appropriate to disclose from what is not.
However, when it comes to the subject of “How many guys have you slept with”? A woman of truth might be pressed to be forthright and spill the bag of beans in the name of “honesty in a relationship”.
If there is 1 time you should guard a secret with a vise grip and lie your ass off is in the case of the # of guys you’d slept with.
Same rule applies to 3-somes and gang-bang orgies.
A boyfriend will NOT be doing fucking back flips at the revelation that his beloved damsel was once the protagonist in a male-orgy gang bang fest.
This is another secret that should be kept in the closet.
The only how such a revelation would be a positive, is if the boyfriend has such a fetish of knowing his girlfriend or wife has been shared between multiple men at once.
If he’s not the swingers-type; then don’t tell him you’d tried or done a 3-some before of MMF, that is 2 males and she being the sole female.
Many years ago, I had a girlfriend, while during casual chat about past-sexual experiences, revealed to me that she’d fucked 2 brothers at the same time [Male, Male Female 3-some].
That shit had fucked me up on the inside!!!
That’s like shattering a man’s idea of what an ideal girlfriend should be.
We fought over this constantly, in spite of the fact that this had occurred many years before I’d even entered the picture.
This is just 1 of those things where time doesn’t mend the situation for most men/boyfriends.
Shortly after [maybe 2 weeks], we’d broken up primarily due to other reasons, but you can bet a mill that her sexual past of fucking 2 brothers at the same time had played a significant role in the bitter severance of our LTR (relationship).
Every unrelated argument we got into, I would constantly throw that back into her face as to why I don’t think it could work [she having a 3-some in her past].
So if you have to lie ladies, and I urge you to lie, whenever the topic of 3-some and “how many men you slept with” comes up, Lie, Lie, Lie!!!
He wants you to lie about it [though he wouldn’t admit to the encouragement of lying]!
It will save your relationship!
Being truthful in this case, has the realistic potential to ruin the relationship!
Please do not fall for any artificial-bravado bullshit from the guy saying, “I really don’t care about your sexual past babes. You can tell me anything”!
Yea, you can tell him anything, just not that you’d had a very promiscuous past, nor that you’ve enjoyed 3-somes and gang bangs…unless he’s turned on by the idea.
Plus lots of men really believe that if a girl says she’s slept with 10 guys; multiply that figure by 4 or some shit like that ;).
Withholding a # won’t do you any favors neither. That would only make him believe that your # is so abominably HIGH…like in the 80’s, which is probably why you’re being so reluctant to reveal it!
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