“I Don’t Do Social Media/Tinder/Online-Dating Sites”: Trick To Easily Getting A Girl’s Phone Number…Online [Examples From Cassidy Sinatra]iuI


There’s a little trick which I use sparingly over the years in order to force a girl to give me her phone number.

Last night, a buddy of mines, fellow PUA coach (Cassidy Sinatra), posted the following screenshots to his Facebook.

I was shocked to see that he used the exact same format which I used a time or 2 in the past. Pay close attention to the very last screenshot.

See what he did there?

“I don’t so social media…”.

That’s the trick!

Simple, wasn’t it?

For instance, when a girl suggests connecting on (another) social-media site, you can always say to her, “I don’t do social media like that”.

The same can be said when meeting girls on online-dating sites and they suggest or hint at following each other on social media, or adding each other on Facebook. Simply say, “I don’t do Facebook”. Or, “I don’t have a Facebook”.

You get the point, right?

Whenever I’d done this in the past (chatting up a girl on Facebook), this was the format used:

Me: “Hey, by the way, I’m rarely ever on Facebook. I literally check my messages once every 2 months. So…it’s best we exchange numbers”.

This doesn’t have to be factual 1 bit! The point is, you want to propel the girl into coughing up her number through fear of losing you.

By saying to the girl, “I don’t do Facebook”, or, “I don’t do Tinder. Don’t know how longer I would be on here”, you force her hand (proverbially).

Now, there’s a little catch to this. I think “catch” is the wrong word, so bear with me.

In order for this to work for you, you would’ve needed to attract the girl on some level before telling her you don’t do this or that, and you’d want her # instead.

For instance, if your text game sucks ass, there’s no chance in hell that you could successfully use this trick to get the girl to cough up her digits.

She will simply laugh at you and keep it moving.

Hence, the success of this simple trick is relevant only to the amount of perceived value the girl has for you.

This (perceived value and attraction) can be sparked solely by having a solid opener and an interesting follow-up sequence.

For example; you cannot do the following and expect to get the girl’s number.

You: “Hi”

Girl: “Hi”

You: “How are you”?

Girl: “Good”

You: “You are beautiful”

Girl: “Thank you”

You: “You have a boyfriend”?

Girl: “Single”

You: “I don’t usually use Facebook. kinda tired of it actually. Let’s exchange number’s instead”.

That is terrible text game! Ironically, that is how most guys kick off their conversations.

Now, here’s how you should do it (as an example) in order to create attraction, interest and value for the quick number-close trick.

You: “They say girls from your city don’t know how to have fun. You seem quite fun to me”

Girl: “LOL why do they say that? My first time hearing that. And yes I’m fun”

You: “Screw them. We don’t need to address the naysayers. Since you’re fun and I’m fun, let’s become fun buddies”

Girl: “LOL. Fine. That sounds interesting”

You: “By the way, I don’t do social media. It’s kinda annoying getting tons of messages per day on here, so I won’t be logging on for a while. Let’s exchange #’s instead”.

That’s how you do it.

You open with an interesting opener, get the girl engaged and laughing, which builds interest and attraction, and then you go for the # close via the “trick”.

Did you see there difference there between the 2 mock dialogues?

The one (in red) was bland, boring and typical of every AFC chode online.

The 2nd mock dialogue is what you should aim for.

If you look back at the screenshots above from Sinatra, you would see how and why he was able to get the girl’s #.

Now, just as I mentioned at the top of the post: I don’t usually close that fast by using this little trick. It is something that I’ve done years ago [telling the girl I don’t use this or that platform so let’s exchange #’s].

However, there are ample situations where and when I could’ve opened solidly, charm the girl up, then go straight for the number while telling the girl that I don’t do Facebook/social media.

In any case, if you wish to utilize this “trick” in order to get the girl’s phone #, it can be done on any platform: social media or online-dating site.

Another Easy Online Pickup [Forgotten Girls]


I’m sure you remember the following interaction (the opener) which I posted some weeks back in order to demonstrate how to open total strangers online with sexualized comments.

I’d totally forgotten about that girl. But that interaction had continued. So here’s the complete dialogue.

[Her messages in gray]

Above screenshot: since telling her I would message her back sometime after Christmas, I purposely waited until the 2nd of January to appear non-needy. So that’s why she said she was waiting since boxing day.

By the way, she’s not fat. But I used that line as a Neg when I made mention of her gaining 70 lbs. over the holiday.

[Her texts in gray]

Screenshot above: I dropped some sexual innuendos when I said to her that she could burn off the calories by doing something besides exercise (i.e. sex).

From that comment, I was setting a sexual frame. Essentially, I was letting her know that my intentions are of a sexual nature, and not just to become text buddies.

Note: never compliment a hot girl on her beauty. So, how did I compliment her? On her humor, and the fact that she enjoys a good laugh. My compliment also had a greater impact when I mentioned that it’s kinda rare to come across a girl with a combination of looks and humor (though I never directly mentioned looks).

In any case, I went straight to the point: to meet up. FYI: I always keep my dwelling place vague as I’d pointed out in numerous posts. Girls generally get mixed messages on my location. Some think I live in their town. Others think I live out of the country completely (outside of the Caribbean region that is). Why do I do this? To create an air of mystery surrounding myself. So I told this chick that I usually come to her side of the island biweekly- when in fact- I live on her side of the island.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above: she verified that she doesn’t work on weekends (nights). So that is perfect for logistics. Lately, I’ve been coming across lots of women who work nightly on weekends. So this was refreshing to say the least.

I then told her where my hostel’s (guest house) located, and she’s familiar with the area.

Screenshot above: the thing is, I never grabbed her # from the last we spoke. So I messaged her today [January 16th] and got the easy number.

In any case, that was just another example of an easy-breezy pickup of a total stranger over Facebook.

I’d forgotten about her honestly since I picked up so many other chicks prior to her.

Easy Guide To Picking Up Girls On Facebook

How To Captivate And Hold A Random Girl’s Attention [Online]

Interesting convo and how to carry it

There are few notable sticking-points that most guys have. Most notably is the lack of conversational skills.

What do I mean?

Most guys don’t know how to spark nor carry interesting conversation.

You’ve seen me do this time after time, getting a girl’s attention and keeping it for the duration.

Like I mentioned in the previous article, you must bear in mind that women have short attention spans and they suffer from ADHD (attention deficiency).

What this means is that any little external stimulation is liable of hijacking their attention away from you- and “POOF”- you’re done!

With that, when I get guys asking me, “why is it impossible for me to get and hold a girl’s attention online”, the reasons are 2 folds:

1.) Women have short attention spans.

2.) You aren’t giving them enough stimulation through your conversation, game, or whatever have you.

Therefore, the solution to this problem men face is to provide stronger and harder stimulation by registering hard on the girl’s radar!

You have to captivate her attention firstly, within your opener/ice-breaker/first message.

Saying, “hi sweetheart, you look beautiful”, isn’t fucking going to captivate the girl’s attention because she’s accustomed to hearing that lame-ass shit!

Sure she may reply- initially (out of respect and social politeness) with a pitiful “thank you”- but she’ll blow you off right afterwards by ignoring your 2nd message.

Hence, getting a girl’s attention is paramount to getting the girl.

If you can’t get and keep her attention then you have no shot!

In this post, I will show you how to achieve just that by adhering to my text-game format.

If you’ve been here for any time now, and read a post or 2, you would have been privy to my texting format and how I get girls hooked and instantly chasing me.

Here’s the deal and the trick: strike hard!

What do I mean?

Your initial message to the girl on social media or any online-dating site, should be of shock value!

The only how your initial message could be a bland one, yet still register on the girl’s radar, is if you already possess social value in her eyes (usually from your online posts or profile bio). In such a case, your initial message doesn’t have to pack a punch.

This is why on the rare occasion, you would see me open a girl in a blandish sort of way as you seen me do with the MILF in the previous post.

I opened blandly because I would’ve already established myself (through my status updates) as a rockstar. So there would have been no real need to shock the girl with my initial message.

Alright!?

Hope I didn’t confuse you guys there.

In any case, it is the safer bet for you to open the girl with something eye-catching and or eyebrow-raising.

This begs the questions: “but Kenny, why should I break the ice in such a manner”?

As I mentioned previously, since most girls have the attention span of an ant, and they respond to colorful stimuli, you have to make a fucking impact with your initial inbox, DM, etc!

That is why!

Moreover, bear in mind that chicks are being inundated by the second with tons of messages from all sorts of guys!

Ninety-eight percent of those initial messages will have constituted lameness, thus ignored!

With that in mind, that is why your initial message has to stand out from that of the generic lame’s, or else you run the risk of being flat-out ignored!!!

I made a point of this before- perhaps 3 years ago- that hardly any of my initial messages on social media goes unnoticed and ignored by women!

Ninety-nine percent of my initial messages are reciprocated!!!!

Isn’t that astonishing!?

Why so? Because I strike hard, thus registering hard and high on the girl’s proverbial radar!

Hence, my messages cannot go unanswered since they pack such an intriguing punch!

Your message gets ignored because it shows up as a mere blip in the galaxy of trillions of other faint blips. So you want an explosion and not a blip! And this is where the pick-up community comes in, and why we emphasis so ardently on the topic of openers/breaking the ice.

To be more clearer here, by “opening hard”, I am not necessarily saying that your opener/ice-breaker has to be provocative and shock-and-awe as some of my openers are.

You want to grab the girl’s attention by saying something that she might not have heard or seen before.

In such a case you instantly stand out from the crowd.

Your opener can be cute, amusing, humorous, somewhat insulting or a mixture of the aforementioned. Just as long as it’s different!

Before I proceed, here are some random examples of me breaking the ice (over Facebook) with total strangers whom I went on to picking up.

There you have it.

Those are some examples of how to grab a girl’s attention online.

Your opener doesn’t have to be eye-catching. But your follow-up lines must be eyebrow-raising as you seen me demonstrate.

Moreover, your opener should consist of humor. It doesn’t have to, but it’s the safer bet until you become calibrated enough to get away with outright provocativeness and bluntness.

In any case, by following my method of breaking the ice as a template (if not verbatim at times), you will have realized maximum returns (return messages) on your investments (sent messages).

However, that is just the beginning!

It is 1 thing to hijack the girl’s attention to have her returning your messages. But it’s another thing to KEEP her there and engaged long enough for a pull (a pickup, i.e. secured phone number).

The problem with most men is that they are boring to a fault! As a result of that, their messages [essentially their Game] are pitifully boring and sleep-inducing, hence the reason they get ignored 99% of the time when trying to message a stranger online.

Although you’re dead tired of hearing me repeat this again and again, I must do so- again and again- in hopes that it sticks. So what is that? Women have short attention spans!

They are easily distracted! Thus, your messages- initial, and your follow-up messages- MUST be attention-grabbing enough to keep women engaged and invested!

The best way to achieve this after you would have opened, is to use humor and wittiness!!!

Check back the screenshots above of me opening dozens of girls.

After I’d successfully opened, got an initial response, I managed to keep the girl’s attention and focus by being funny, witty and or shocking (usually all 3 in concert).

Low stimulation will not keep a person interested!

You don’t stick around watching a boring movie to the end if you’re at liberty of simply switch channels!

Likewise, if your messages are boring and they don’t stimulate the girl’s attention, there’s no reason for her to stay! And she won’t! She will simply change the channel by ignoring you in search of something stimulating.

This is why jumping into a girl’s inbox with, “hi beautiful”, will almost always get you ignored. Even more pathetic is saying “hi” alone.

Additionally, the hotter the girl, the more attention-grabbing and provocative your initial message should be.

In any case as I said, a good opener as the ones I outlined, needs to be followed up by stimulating dialogue.

You cannot foolishly continue to go from attention-grabbing opener to “can I get your number”, within 1 swoop!

That is the other problem faced by guys who get a hold of some good and creative openers from me. They bank on the opener alone, get flat-out ignored afterwards, then blame me (the opener, or any other instructor) for their dismal strikeout.

In this post however, I won’t waste valuable time posting a how-to of picking up a girl online when there are dozens upon dozens of articles on this blog with screenshots and dialogue galore on picking up chicks on social media and online-dating sites.

This post was merely intended to open your eyes to the most common pitfalls you may encounter, why, and how to nuke them!

Thus from now on, when looking to capture the attention of women online, always keep at the frontal cortex of your brain: constant stimulation!

I’ll leave you with a great example of how to carry conversation with this article of mines on Mid-Game

For 1 of my favorite opener which I’d originated; you may want to Check This

Spotting Token Resistance, Plowing By Feigning Ignorant And Getting The Girl To Chase [textbook online pull]


Token resistance coming from a woman being pursued, usually throws guys off.

Token resistance is so indiscernible for most men, that I even get advanced PUA dating coaches hitting me up on Facebook, wanting to know why a particular girl suddenly went from down to not down within a heartbeat. So token resistance can even throw off the elite in Game since there’s no clear indication to point to token or real.

In this post however, I will show you how a recently picked up chick (via Facebook) gave me (token) resistance, then wind up chasing me to death within minutes!

Before I get into the actual pickup with screenshots as your guide, I just want to give you guys little heads up in regards to token resistance: every woman will have put up some form of (token) resistance throughout the pickup, and even while you have her in bed ready to slay [LMR=”Last Minute ‘Resistance’ “].

What happen though is that most guys- since men are fucking clueless- get psyched out by the girl’s sham attempt at resistance and rejection.

In this post, I will show you how to handle that in 2 ways, by simply plowing and feigning ignorant.

Anyway, 3 days ago, I came across a chick on Facebook, apparently a MILF who passed my proverbial boner-test, so as part of my pre-game method, I briefly scanned her profile to ensure that I encounter in the bio, evidence that she lives nearby, as in the same city or town, so that I don’t waste valuable time gaming a chick, to then find out that she lives in fucking Antarctica! So she passed that prerequisite, and that was my cue to proceed with the seduction.

By the way, if you could recall, this is the same girl with whom I was chatting in the previous post. However, this is a continuation of that interaction.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 1 (above): she was correct. That was a routine and a way for me to inbox her by setting myself apart from the boring losers who open with, “good morning. How are you”? So she realizes that this was “creative”.

Always learn how to seize opportunities to go sexual and forward as when I told her that I’m sexually attracted to her and want to impregnate her. I knew she would find it humorous and not offensive! You should adopt such a frame also by spotting those windows of opportunity to go sexual early!

As usual, my uncanny approach and lines catch women off guard, which was why she said she wasn’t ready…meaning ready for me going sexual so soon with a total stranger [her]. Always shock a woman’s reality and what she believes is normal, by doing/saying something out the box! Be unpredictable! That is the only way in which to captivate and hold a new girl’s attention!

You have to remember that women online have the attention span of an ant! You must do/say something shocking in order to register on their radar, or else they’ll just ignore you!

Also, by me going sexual, forward and intimate by saying I want to cuddle her body like a blanket, what I’m actually doing here, apart from the obvious, is that I’m killing any chance of the girl thinking that I’m looking friendship or anything non-sexual. By going sexual early, you ward off the friendzone!

Also, she issues her first token resistance by saying I don’t know her. Most guys would hesitate at that point.

Screenshot 2 (above): in response to her comment about she could be a psycho bitch, and that I don’t know her [token resistance], I sent an emoji of a weeping puppy just to show humor. I then strategically made a case for why it doesn’t matter if she’s a psycho, I am willing to take the risk! Remember what I’ve been preaching to you guys over the weeks: women love risk takers!

Additionally, I kept mixing sexual with humor, just so she clearly knows my intention is to hook up. Hence the reason for making mention of her rack/big boobs. Note: most guys would never do this (and definitely not strategically) because of fear of losing the girl by offending her. I don’t give a fuck! That is the vibe I give off. I take the risk in losing the girl by making sexual declarations. Did I lose her?

Clearly not!

Now, when I told her that I checked out 100 of her pics and seen how fuckable she is, most guys- at least the ones privy to pickup theory- would surmise that my comment was needy and shows desperation. What those guys don’t realize is that the girl darn well knows that I did NOT go through 100 of her pictures, and it was just humor! Women get this! Women are very fucking perceptive and are clairvoyant! This is why she wasn’t weirded out by my comment, but she laughed and said “you are killing me”, which meant that she is totally cracking up at what I said. So she clearly gets the humor in it, even when I said that I’m a stalker!

Okay, so she went on to ask me about the work I do. Note: whenever a girl pushes rapport/comfort, it is almost always a sign that she’s interested in you. In other words, by her asking me FIRST about my occupation (any personal question), it was an indication of her interest! If she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t care to ask that.

She thought I was BS’ing about being a dating coach, likely because she’d probably never heard of guys teaching other guys how to attract women and get dates. Also, she probably would not have expected a guy to be so transparent about such work. However, as I shared with you guys a while back: women are attracted to players, ladies’ men, womanizers, etc. Men teaching men how to attract girls, essentially lumps me into the so-called deplorable basket where womanizers dwell. So, never lie to women about having interest in women! I am actually the first PUA on a coaching level (any level for that matter) who publicly advocated for guys to not hide the fact that they are Pick-Up Artists practitioners or coaches.

Along with telling her that I’m a dating coach for men, I added some intriguing element to it by telling her that it’s a guarded secret that I don’t tell people. What does this do on a psychological level to the girl? It builds intrigue in her mind. It gives her the sense of exclusivity, that I’m cluing her in on something that is exclusive and guarded. Think secret society type of allure.

Screenshot 3 (above): always presume and assume! I made an assumption that we both like meeting new and interesting people. This doesn’t have to be factual. Just say it! Just assume it! It is a light form of embedded commands as they teach in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). By me saying that to her (that she likes meeting interesting new people), as the one who made that assumption, she will likely link me to those keywords “Interesting and new”. So I bypass her conscious brain and embed a soft command into her Hind brain (aka the Reptilian Brain), into her subconscious, to where she will then link me with “new, and interesting”. That is some advanced NLP stuff which I’ll share with you guys in a future article.

Strong-sexual declarations are key!

Thus I told her we’ll be making sex on her desk (since she’s a teacher). What does she do? She issues “TOKEN” resistance by saying that I don’t know her like that, and essentially, we shouldn’t be having this conversation (it’s “premature”…in her words). I recognized it was token/fake resistance, mainly because I elicited it and caused it to happen, so I bantered with it by telling her I like the getting to know each other process.

Also, by her calling me a gigolo, it’s essentially confirmation of her being down with my sexual program. You have to be able to spot these little cracks and cues whenever a girl speaks. They verbally (or textually) reveal stuff in coded language. Only few can decipher them (few men that is). With time and experience, you’ll be able to read women like a book also! But it takes time, which most men aren’t patient enough to take!

Anyway, sensing that she’s already attracted to me [my sexual, uncanny and forward vibe], I make my pitch for the rendezvous. Always get to the point so the girl doesn’t get the impression that you’re merely interested in texting just to merely pass some time.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 4 (above): so when I asked her about weekend plans, she sent me a video clip with snow. Essentially trying to say that she’s snowed in. And furthermore, she’s not in the islands where I thought she was. So that is why I asked if she’s in Canada or something.

She suddenly realized that we’d interacted before. I actually didn’t remember. But this could’ve been true since I generally give my out-of-the-box take on love, relationship, sex and the sexes on various Facebook pages about said topics. I mean, I am sometimes all over the place (Facebook) opining on male-female relations. And I’m quite sure she and I had interacted since she’s nailed down my ideals correctly in saying that I had “interesting” (code word for eyebrow-raising and radical) ideas on men’s roles [should be leading], place of women [should not be leading men] and marriage [that monogamous marriages are flawed institutions that go against a man’s nature]. So yea: this chick has definitely ran into me before (online).

I basically ignored what she said about our possible interactions in the past, to stick with the theme of meeting up at my hotel. Again: she hit me with some token/fake resistance by saying that she isn’t a “good time girl”. In other words, she meant that she isn’t the hookup type. I blocked out her following line since it contained sensitive information as far as her work (teaching), name of the school, etc. So she tried to say that since she teaches at so and so prestigious academy, she cannot afford to do things outside of character…which is BS!

Anyways, whenever a girl accuses you of wanting to hook up, you either double down on it by owning it, or you downplay it as I did, by saying that it’s not about a hookup. In other words, hooking up isn’t the sole idea. What you don’t want to do, is to say to her that hooking up is totally off the table. Just find a way to communicate to her that hooking up isn’t the only thing on your mind. Or you full on, shamelessly say “yes! Hooking up is what it’s about”! Either way, this girl here knows my schtick, that I am all about hooking up! I never hid that! So no matter what I say, subcommunications speak louder.

As you could see, she wasn’t buying it (that it wasn’t all about a hookup). The reason I played it that way is because I sensed a thirst/desperation trap. I felt that she was trying to trap me between a rock and a hard place about hooking up. So the best thing for me to have done was what I did by letting her know plainly that I would want to, and I do want to fuck the crap out of her, but if she isn’t down, then it’s all good.

She offered some more token resistance by saying “I’ll pass”, in other words, she’s not interested in meeting up with me because she believes that I would essentially seduce her and fuck her. This was also confirmation that she’s in fact down, but is merely resisting out of custom. So I played it cool and feigned ignorant.

Also, when she mentioned “LJBF”: Let’s just Be Friends, this was NOT a friendzone! I repeat: she did not (attempt to) friendzone me! I gave her not 1 shred of reason to ever think that I was a friendzone candidate. So by her saying, “we can be friends”, it was essentially her saying, “we could be fuck friends”, but cloaked in “friends”. So guys, you ought to learn how to read women and their bag of psychological tricks! You must be able to see through it, feign ignorant, but plow as if what they said wasn’t uttered at all.

Moreover, she playfully hinted at me offering to meet up with her on a date (in public). So she surely wants to meet up, which is why she said “we could make it happen”. Already sensing that she’s DTF, and that her “friends” line meant “fuck” friends, I agreed to being “friends”.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 5 (above): even though she said she doesn’t want to meet in private, I stayed the course and gave her details about my location (the hotel), and how often I come to her part of town. By my next visit, she would’ve returned from North America, which meant we could meet. As I eluded to earlier, she’s super willing to meet up with me, indicative of the fact that she said “we have a date then”. As something to take note of: no girl gets excited about going on a date with a guy whom she deems as “just friends”. So again; she did not friendzone me at all! It was a ploy on her part, and I played it smartly by feigning ignorant.

Anyway, she clearly knew where my hotel is, as she listed about 5 establishments surrounding the hotel, hence she said “so many options”. The reason this worked out to be perfect is that, let’s say that she doesn’t want to come straight to my hotel room, we can always meet up for the so-called date at the wine bar that she recognizes which is adjacent to the hotel. In such a close proximity, there’s nothing standing in the way of me saying to her, “let’s go check out my hotel balcony! You will love the awesome view”! Think strategically when it comes down to planning date logistics! Always take the girl somewhere within walking distance from your resting place!

Following that (she saying that “we have a date”), there came the greatest admission of her attraction for me, interest in me, and indication that she’s hooked on the idea of meeting with me (intimately and romantically), when she rang me 3 times back to back via Messenger, without me telling/asking her to call. And to top that off as you can clearly see in the screenshot above, she gave me her phone # without me even asking. This was a sure sign of her interest in me.

By the way, I purposely decided not to take her call as a way to get her to chase me even harder.

Before that though, I rang her back (as you could see in the screenshot), she answered, and I went on to tell her in no uncertain terms are we meeting without hooking up.

After she’d given me her # (without me asking), she went on to ring me again via Messenger (to no avail as I refused to answer.)

By the way, if you notice in the bottom screenshot (on the left), after her missed-call attempts, she sent me a 41 seconds voice note of herself breathing hard and moaning with a faint vibrator sound in the background.

That told me that she was masturbating at the very moment when she tried to call me the last time. Clearly this girl is sexually aroused by me and over the idea of meeting me and hooking up. But you would’ve never guessed this, judging by her token/fake resistance, and she saying that she isn’t the hookup type, and that she wants to be friends only, etc.

I shortly afterwards gave her my phone number, so she then went on to hit me up on Whatsapp (in the very last screenshot), asking why I thought she was a willing victim? By that I figured she meant why I targeted her for a hookup campaign. I wisely let her know that I don’t see her as an easy slut, but a challenge.

Whenever a girl asks such questions (“do you think I’m easy”), remember it is a trick question, so always tell her that you see her as a challenge, and that you like a challenge. Even though you know she’s easy (as all girls are to me), you clearly cannot say that to the girl (that she’s easy). So exaggerate about how much of a challenge she is!

In other words: feign being that ignorant person.

On that note, I implore you to re-read this post, study the dialogue and take note of the points where the girl dishes out token resistance. Also make a mental note of my reactions.

Believe it or not, but most times, you (the man) is responsible for killing your own chances with women via your poor belief system (limiting beliefs) and misreading of women (their actions and words).

Token/fake resistance for instance is 1 such place where men fall short of getting the girl because they misread it (token resistance) for the real thing.

In the same breath, token resistance is a congruence test, where the girl tests the guy to see whether he’ll fall for the trap, or elude it skillfully.

A perfect example of this (token/resistance built into a congruence test) is when a girl says something like: “You seem like the player type and I don’t think we would get along well. So I would have to politely decline your date proposal”.

Now, if the girl was truly disinterested in a possible date, and if she was truly turned off by this player vibe which she detects from you, then this wouldn’t even become a mention.

Would a girl waste her time saying to a pesky vagrant on the streets asking her out, “you’re not my type”?

Of course not! She would simply keep it moving without saying a word.

Likewise, if a girl online is truly disinterested, she would ignore your messages flat out. And even then, there’s always a remote possibility that she is interested, but is just going through the motions and playing hard-to-get in order to see whether you’ll pursue her or not.

With that being said, my rule is, and this should also be your guideline: as long as the girl replies then it’s still on!

You still have a shot!

The only time that you don’t have a shot is if and when the girl elects to not reply at all!

Hence, if you’re trying to pick up a girl online, and along the way (presuming the chat is going well), and she hits you with, “I have a boyfriend, so no thanks”: Plow forth anyway!

Chances are, it is just token/fake resistance!

The girl merely wants to see how persistent you are (or not).

If you check back the chatlog above between this MILF and me, there were about 4 instances of token resistance where I could’ve given up from misinterpreting her words as a rejection.

However, through vast amounts of experiences, I come to know how women think and behave.

On that note, and from now on, I want you to look at rejection and resistance in a brand-new light.

If a girl (online for instance) says something to you that resembles a rejection, I want you to disregard what she said, or either acknowledge it in passing, but plow anyway with your program (continuing the pickup attempt as you seen me do).

Don’t get befuddled!

Plow until she either gets on board or she flat-out ignores you.

Now, I don’t mean to plow foolishly by begging, chasing and whining.

As you seen in the screenshots, when she said “sorry but no thanks” to the rendezvous on my hotel balcony, I didn’t throw in the towel in the face of her token rejection/resistance.

What she said virtually went through 1 ear and out the other, I plowed anyway by telling her the location of the hotel and asked if she knew where it was.

I didn’t allow her objections to derail my mission!

Stay tuned for a very interesting article on how to captivate and hold a woman’s attention (online), something which you see me do within every pickup.

Women Want To Be Manipulated And Gamed


Back in 2015, I posted a shocking piece, “Is Pickup Manipulative”?, in which I made a case for why women want to be manipulated and need to be manipulated in order to be picked up, seduced and bedded.

Yesterday on Facebook, I added a sexy MILF who totes a huge pair (pair of boobs that is). I opened her some minutes later. Here are some screenshots from that interaction.

[My messages in blue]

Evidently, she knew that it was a ploy in order to inbox her: and it was.

Does it matter to her that I essentially tried to trick my way into a conversation with her?

Nope!

Continuing.

You see guys; girls know when you’re using Game on them. But they don’t care (as in it doesn’t turn them off)!

At the end of the day, women want to be gamed and manipulated!

They need to be actually (gamed)!

On an additional note, if you’ve been wondering how to start and carry an interesting conversation with a new girl- total stranger- well that was a perfect example above in the chatlog between me and this sexy MILF.

I eventually went on to picking her up (grabbing her #) and setting up the rendezvous for next week.

Will keep you guys posted.

Arab HB Update

Remember the DTF Arab chick with big melons whom I’d picked up about 3 weeks back on Facebook, but been blowing her off ever since (pictured below)?

Well, I finally decided to put some time aside to meet up with her few days ago (photo of us below taking selfies).

It was actually a meet and greet session opposed from a hookup.

I know she’s extremely DTF and wants to hook up ASAP since she’s been chasing me and hooked like an addict! But I put off the inevitable for another time.

Giving Her Bursts Of Attraction Over Time While Being Patient With The Process [the right kind of patience is a virtue in the game]


In this post, I will talk about how being patient (while being active) will have set you apart from damn near every other guy out there on social media.

Not only that, but you’ll see me employ my infamous roll-off strategy which does something to the girl psychologically.

This online pickup here kicked off back in May with its culmination days ago on December 28th. So that’s virtually 8 months.

Now, I just want to make it clear here that I did NOT spend 8 months, every day, chatting to this girl, hoping to get her number and a rendezvous proposed.

That would be a travesty and a gross waste of time.

What actually happened was I first opened her (via inbox) 8 months ago, then hit her up intermittently (on 3 different occasions) over the course of 8 months.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 1 above: by telling the girl that I intended to message her earlier but I was too busy checking out her sexy pic, it does 2 things: 1.) It shows that I am not desperate to reach her. 2.) It shows that I have sexual interest in her.

Also, if you check the time stamp, you will have noticed that she virtually ignored the first 3 messages of mines. Did I get all desperate and beg her to reply to me? Nope. I made an observation that she seems busy. I knew eventually that she would come around. 🙂

She then replied over a month later, saying sorry if I felt that she’s ignoring me. Of course she was ignoring my messages! But women do this at times just to see how the guy would react.

By the way, in order to create some urgency, as I do with almost every girl I pick up, I told her that I come to her city/town every other weekend, when I actually live in the same town. This creates a bit of intrigue as girls always wonder why I’m in their town so frequently( every other weekend).

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 2 (above): She shit tests me by calling me a whore for saying that I have a GF, but whenever I’m in her part of town, I am virtually single and dating. You noticed how I never backed down from the charge of being a whore, rather I justify it? Key, key play on my part which deepens the attraction.

I strategically employed my roll-off strategy by telling her my battery is dying so I’ll have to hit her up another time. Surely this wasn’t true (it never is). But the reason I do this is to: 1.) Demonstrate that I have other shit to do besides making her the focal point of my day. 2.) I am not desperate, hence I am patient enough to put off gunning for her phone number. 3.) It gives the girl a sense of loss. Those 3 things will have driven your stock way up in the eyes of women…and get their panties wett! So every now and then, you want to do this (roll off).

Additionally, I plant the seed early about netflix and chill @ my hostel or hotel on the balcony. Never lose sight of what your goal should be: to meet up. So you always want to communicate that early so that the girl doesn’t get the impression that you’re trying to become her text-buddy.

Lastly, I always test women for independence. No one likes to admit that they aren’t independent. So by putting the girl in a corner by assuming that she’s NOT independent, she will likely rebut in defiance of any man trying to lock her down by rebutting with, “I’m an independent girl…and unruly”. On that note, I got sexual. Again- always look to make a sexual declaration early as possible so the girl gets no idea that you’re merely looking to become friends.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 3 (above): I baited her into a challenge frame to where she said I can’t handle her. Key note there guys: by following what you seen me do with the previous lines about independent, it would’ve led the girl into the direction of saying something like, “you can’t handle me”.

Again I hit her with “my battery’s dying” line, so we’ll have to catch up. This’ my 2nd time pulling such a stunt with her.

I then hit her back on July 1st with some sexual humor, making her laugh. Note: when getting sexual with a girl over text, always try to do so by mixing humor and sexual. Humor will keep the girl from getting offended.

All throughout, you keep seeing me mixing humorous and sexual.

Again: I hit her with “I’m gonna message you back when free”… By appearing busy, it gives the girl the impression (a good impression) that you’re someone whose time is needed elsewhere. In other words; you’re important. Subcommunicating to the girl that you’re willing to stay on the phone, or talk with her indefinitely, gives off the impression that you’re lonely, desperate and have nothing else going on for you.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 4 (above): challenge frame again. What I love about sexually challenging girls is that it’s essentially flirting. Also, you should make assumptions in the negative as I did when I said to her, “boring guys just don’t seem to do it for you”. By framing my line in such a way, it forces the girl to say that she doesn’t like boring guys. And since I mentioned it, I couldn’t possibly be one of those boring guy.

[My messages in blue]

Screenshot 5 (above): Okay, so now I hit her back up about 5 months later on Christmas day (as you see in the time stamp of the screenshot above). So that was days ago. Honestly, I had completely forgotten about her since I’m so used to gaming tons of girls per week on Facebook! She only came to mind once I seen her posted a sexy-ass pic on Christmas. So I messaged her upon that.

Once I sensed that she was still open for meeting up, I threw my ultimate pitch of Netflix & Chill at my hotel when I’m back in her town on the weekend (which I am in her town, but I strategically say I’m not in order to build intrigue).

The fact that she knew where the hotel is, made things (logistics) much easier.

[Her messages in gray]

Screenshot above (the 6th): she said “of course”, in response to knowing where the hotel is located since it’s a centralized location in the city anyway.

Here’s th thing also that you should take note of that I mentioned in screenshot #5: I almost always leave things open by telling the girl I’ll be available between Thursday-Sunday for us to meet up.

In the pick-up community, that is generally considered a faux pas (a huge blunder), since the time of a so-called date should be defined and agreed upon. Surely I agree! However, by giving the girl a wider window between Thursday and Sunday instead of 1 day/night, it creates a situation to where the girl has flexibility also, in the event that she’s busy on the night that you chose to purpose the rendezvous.

Hence, by me saying “Thursday to Sunday”, if she’s busy Thursday night, she will immediately say so and suggest Friday, Saturday or Sunday. By pinning her down to 1 day and 1 day only, it increases the chances of flaking on you. Because if she had prior plans for that same night, she will decline…or stand you up. So I find it a more prudent strategy to give the girl 3 nights from which to choose.

Anyway, I tried securing her # on the 25, but I didn’t get a response from her until the 28th.

Did I panic? Of course not!

I was patient with the process.

Overall guys, this is what I call spiking attraction over time.

When a girl isn’t quite biting, or she’s replying infrequently (albeit with good vibing), you don’t have to rush the brush and press the issue.

That is why I strategically decided on 3-4 different occasions to discontinue the chat (while on great note) in order allow the attraction to grow with each instance of me falling back.

Also, by chatting up loads of other girls, it actually keeps me occupied to where I don’t feel any sort of urgency to look back on a girl whom I strategically put on the back burner in order to build intrigue and attraction.

Lastly, when you could show a woman that you don’t have to go for it right away, it sets you apart in her eyes as someone of value and importance.

More online pickups to come.