[Originally posted to social media]
Why is it a TERRIBLE idea to open a girl with, “Can I get to know you”? And why do girls shame guys for such a lame opener?
Here’s the deal: Pushing for Rapport before you even establish attraction isn’t normal. It’s fucking weird!
This is why in classic pickup, the order is: Attraction, Rapport/Comfort then Seduction (the 3 phases).
You cannot try to fucking gain rapport before making the girl attracted to you (to your vibe)! For instance, if a bum comes up to you on the street, and opens you with, “Can I get to know you”? How would you take to that? You would blow him the fuck off and get weirded out by such a request!
Why is this? Because the bum hadn’t built anything via dialogue before going for rapport! Had the bum showed you an interesting magic trick first, or shared with you a tip on how to do a certain thing [this would be considered Attraction material], and then he says to you, “what’s your name man, and where you come from” [this is a Rapport question], you would likely share rapport information with the bum by saying you are so and so from so and so.
However, had the bum gone straight into that (“who are you and where are you from”) as his opener, or before sharing something of interest/attraction with you, you would tell him to fuck off…or leave yourself.
How does this tie into women online?
Saying to a girl (early), “can we get to know each other”, is equivalent to the bum doing the same with you. The girl would get weirded out and turned off!
Why the fuck would she want to get to know you [enter the Rapport phase] when you haven’t given her a reason to want to know you [i.e. by building interesting convo beforehand]?
Hence, the classic mistake the vast majority of guys make, when they hit chicks up on social media with the lame, “Can I get to know you”?
They’re trying to skip Attraction and go straight into Comfort/Rapport.
It won’t work!
This is why under no circumstances, would you ever see me open a girl with, “can we get to know each other”?
I firstly open with HUMOR which equals Attraction, then build on that, then enter Rapport (which is optional via text).
Also, another reason why girls will blow you out whenever you come with that lame shit, “Can I get to know you”, is the usage of the word “CAN”!
“Can” is a killer in Game! Whenever you use “Can”, you are essentially asking the girl’s permission!
What the fuck would give you the impression that you should have to get someone’s permission to fucking TALK!!!?
That is an extremely Beta and Weak way of approaching women! Women aren’t attracted to men who seek their permission; especially not when it comes to freedom of speech!
Therefore, saying “Can I”, or, “Can we”, should totally be eliminated from your Game! It is low value!
All in all; you don’t have to verbalize to the girl that you want to get to know her! The mere fact that you DM’d her, says that you want to get to know her! So why the fuck state the obvious!? It makes you look inept, stupid and lacking social awareness and intelligence. Plus it makes you look unsure of yourself!
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