How Not To Chat Up Girls On Social Media [6 Critical Mistakes]

A female friend had earlier shared the following screenshot with me.

Some more “How not to chat up girls on social media” tidbit.

This guys here is a classic and common example of what not to do.

Mistake #1: The over-use of “Baby”.

Mistake #2: trying to force rapport by telling her he wants to get to know her.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with telling a girl you want to get to know her. The problem comes in when you give the girl zero reasons to want to get to know you.

This guy’s opener/ice-breaker was essentially, “I want to get to know you “. Huge Mistake since he hasn’t built any attraction material by giving the girl a reason with something interesting.

Mistake #3: again, pushing for instant rapport by asking her where she’s from. Additionally, one can access the FB “about me” section in order to see that info. So why ask!? It makes you look like an inept jackass; someone lacking Social Intelligence! Something you’ve seen me stress hard over the past days (social intelligence). So, asking questions you can easily ascertain by looking @ the girl’s profile, will turn women off. It makes you seem lazy, and robs the girl of that special feeling that she was singled out, and that the guy actually did some homework.

Mistake #4: “I am single”! Telling a girl on social media that you’re single, is tantamount to saying, “I’m a registered sex-offender”. Like…”why are you single dude”? The girl may say to herself. Perhaps you’re a fucking serial killer or a lunatic, hence why you’re single, and no women want to associate themselves with you. So, as I’ve been telling you guys for ages; Never tell girls you’re single! If anything, tell her you have a GF, but you’re just looking cool ppl to hang with”. Or, tell her you have a GF, but it’s complicated…or the relationship isn’t working out. But never tell girls you’re single. Only sex offenders, rapists, serial killers, men with AIDS and lunatics are single. Okay!? Think Preselection!

Mistake #5: “Looking a good woman to be with”. Why is that a mistake? Dude, see why the fuck are you auditioning to become her man, before even having a convo or before fucking!? What if the girl isn’t looking for a relationship? Yet, he killed himself by putting himself into the boyfriend/provider category from the jump, instead of casually going with a, “let’s just chat and see if we like each other” vibe. So, never tell a girl that you’re looking for a GF! Because once she says to you, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now”, you are fucking done! You cannot then go back and say to her, “well…since you’re not tryna get serious…let’s fuck”.

Mistake #6…the most fatal: Ringing someone unannounced through Messenger! As a guy; this pisses me off when women do it. Imagine how women feel when 20 no-game-having Beta-Males are doing it daily! You have to fucking have Empathy in the Game guys! Don’t be a dick! Only call when it’s been agreed upon!

All in all; the guy made 6 common mistakes (some fatal). He isn’t the exception BTW. He’s the norm!

Now, on the flip side, I totally get the opposing argument that girls on FB are always complaining that they’re single, yet their inbox is full of guys trying to get to know them. I understand that rational argument too. But that’s no excuse for HORRIBLE social skills!

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3 thoughts on “How Not To Chat Up Girls On Social Media [6 Critical Mistakes]

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  1. Hi Kay I read this message information from some random Guy to a woman. He must have something wrong with him. Then he gets nasty after she did not bother to Chat with him. Yes my Girlfriends have the same problem with stupid men online. I have women coming to me not the other way around. I do not chase.

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    1. Some dudes can’t handle rejection, it contradicts their self image or ego and they lash out cause of it. You can tell the guy in the message probably hasn’t dealt with much or any women cause what he did is impulsive. When approaching women, it’s best to put your ego aside but stay true to your values.

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      1. Good points made. Essentially what you’re saying in a nutshell is to be congruent. The guy was totally not congruent. And yes, ego is a big thing guys need to put aside

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