How Not To Chat Up Girls On Social Media [6 Critical Mistakes]

A female friend had earlier shared the following screenshot with me.

Some more “How not to chat up girls on social media” tidbit.

This guys here is a classic and common example of what not to do.

Mistake #1: The over-use of “Baby”.

Mistake #2: trying to force rapport by telling her he wants to get to know her.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with telling a girl you want to get to know her. The problem comes in when you give the girl zero reasons to want to get to know you.

This guy’s opener/ice-breaker was essentially, “I want to get to know you “. Huge Mistake since he hasn’t built any attraction material by giving the girl a reason with something interesting.

Mistake #3: again, pushing for instant rapport by asking her where she’s from. Additionally, one can access the FB “about me” section in order to see that info. So why ask!? It makes you look like an inept jackass; someone lacking Social Intelligence! Something you’ve seen me stress hard over the past days (social intelligence). So, asking questions you can easily ascertain by looking @ the girl’s profile, will turn women off. It makes you seem lazy, and robs the girl of that special feeling that she was singled out, and that the guy actually did some homework.

Mistake #4: “I am single”! Telling a girl on social media that you’re single, is tantamount to saying, “I’m a registered sex-offender”. Like…”why are you single dude”? The girl may say to herself. Perhaps you’re a fucking serial killer or a lunatic, hence why you’re single, and no women want to associate themselves with you. So, as I’ve been telling you guys for ages; Never tell girls you’re single! If anything, tell her you have a GF, but you’re just looking cool ppl to hang with”. Or, tell her you have a GF, but it’s complicated…or the relationship isn’t working out. But never tell girls you’re single. Only sex offenders, rapists, serial killers, men with AIDS and lunatics are single. Okay!? Think Preselection!

Mistake #5: “Looking a good woman to be with”. Why is that a mistake? Dude, see why the fuck are you auditioning to become her man, before even having a convo or before fucking!? What if the girl isn’t looking for a relationship? Yet, he killed himself by putting himself into the boyfriend/provider category from the jump, instead of casually going with a, “let’s just chat and see if we like each other” vibe. So, never tell a girl that you’re looking for a GF! Because once she says to you, “I’m not looking for anything serious right now”, you are fucking done! You cannot then go back and say to her, “well…since you’re not tryna get serious…let’s fuck”.

Mistake #6…the most fatal: Ringing someone unannounced through Messenger! As a guy; this pisses me off when women do it. Imagine how women feel when 20 no-game-having Beta-Males are doing it daily! You have to fucking have Empathy in the Game guys! Don’t be a dick! Only call when it’s been agreed upon!

All in all; the guy made 6 common mistakes (some fatal). He isn’t the exception BTW. He’s the norm!

Now, on the flip side, I totally get the opposing argument that girls on FB are always complaining that they’re single, yet their inbox is full of guys trying to get to know them. I understand that rational argument too. But that’s no excuse for HORRIBLE social skills!

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Last Weekend’s Botched Lay Attempt…Update


Okay guys, so last weekend, I posted a field report about this chick who caught an asthma attack while I was 5 seconds away from penetrating her (almost).

You can read that post here as a refresher: https://kennyspuathoughts.com/2017/07/23/asthma-attack-debacle-field-report-in-botched-weekend-plan/

I totally had no intentions of ever talking to her again. So I hadn’t contacted her since last Saturday.

She then hits me up on Messenger days ago.

I posted the following to my Facebook:

Why’s this chick even contacting me?

Anyway, so guys, if you remembered, over the weekend, I posted about a chick who came to stay the weekend (Saturday) with me. She virtually popped up @ the bus terminal and woke me up @ 7 AM telling me she’s coming to stay with me…unannounced…practically.

She did come, but the shit ended on a crazy note with the chick catching an asthma attack. So she had to be rushed to the hospital. Thing that really irked me is she caught the asthma attack as I getting sexual and about to slide my finger up her vaj! 😦

Long story short: I didn’t get to fuck. So she practically wasted my time, wasted a trip, and got me to pay for her cross-country bus ticket (about $115).

She hits me up on Messenger this evening, wondering why I haven’t hit her up since Sunday morning when she bounced.
I explained how it all went down in a field report on my PUA blog (link below).

All in all; after the shit went down the Saturday night, she took the bus back home the Sunday morning after coming for her shit from my crib. I had no intentions of ever saying shit to this chick again.

Dialogue below.


When Gaming Hot Girls…Part 3…Learn The Correct Order: Attraction Before Rapport!

[Originally posted to social media]

Why is it a TERRIBLE idea to open a girl with, “Can I get to know you”? And why do girls shame guys for such a lame opener?

Here’s the deal: Pushing for Rapport before you even establish attraction isn’t normal. It’s fucking weird!

This is why in classic pickup, the order is: Attraction, Rapport/Comfort then Seduction (the 3 phases).

You cannot try to fucking gain rapport before making the girl attracted to you (to your vibe)! For instance, if a bum comes up to you on the street, and opens you with, “Can I get to know you”? How would you take to that? You would blow him the fuck off and get weirded out by such a request!

Why is this? Because the bum hadn’t built anything via dialogue before going for rapport! Had the bum showed you an interesting magic trick first, or shared with you a tip on how to do a certain thing [this would be considered Attraction material], and then he says to you, “what’s your name man, and where you come from” [this is a Rapport question], you would likely share rapport information with the bum by saying you are so and so from so and so.

However, had the bum gone straight into that (“who are you and where are you from”) as his opener, or before sharing something of interest/attraction with you, you would tell him to fuck off…or leave yourself.

How does this tie into women online?

Saying to a girl (early), “can we get to know each other”, is equivalent to the bum doing the same with you. The girl would get weirded out and turned off!

Why the fuck would she want to get to know you [enter the Rapport phase] when you haven’t given her a reason to want to know you [i.e. by building interesting convo beforehand]?

Hence, the classic mistake the vast majority of guys make, when they hit chicks up on social media with the lame, “Can I get to know you”?

They’re trying to skip Attraction and go straight into Comfort/Rapport.

It won’t work!

This is why under no circumstances, would you ever see me open a girl with, “can we get to know each other”?

I firstly open with HUMOR which equals Attraction, then build on that, then enter Rapport (which is optional via text).

Also, another reason why girls will blow you out whenever you come with that lame shit, “Can I get to know you”, is the usage of the word “CAN”!

“Can” is a killer in Game! Whenever you use “Can”, you are essentially asking the girl’s permission!

What the fuck would give you the impression that you should have to get someone’s permission to fucking TALK!!!?

That is an extremely Beta and Weak way of approaching women! Women aren’t attracted to men who seek their permission; especially not when it comes to freedom of speech!

Therefore, saying “Can I”, or, “Can we”, should totally be eliminated from your Game! It is low value!

All in all; you don’t have to verbalize to the girl that you want to get to know her! The mere fact that you DM’d her, says that you want to get to know her! So why the fuck state the obvious!? It makes you look inept, stupid and lacking social awareness and intelligence. Plus it makes you look unsure of yourself!

If you’d like to learn in its entirety, how I pick up and seduce hot girls (any girl) on social media, purchase your copy of Facebook Bang, or my othet Facebook products.

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/2015/05/12/facebook-bang-the-bonus-product/

When Gaming Extremely Hot Girls On Social Media: Secret Society Members Recognize Each Other

[Originally posted to social media]

“Watch Her Qualify Like A Muthafucka In The Presence Of A High-Value Player”.

Anyway, so leaving off from the previous post, just as I predicted; she hits up my inbox right away after I stopped responding to her comments on her status. This was done strategically to reel her in.

I counted to 10, and my Messenger went off…as predicted…as always. Girls are super predictable. All women operate the same!!!!

Anyway, so check how the dialogue went. Remind you that this is absolutely the 1st time she and I ever communicated.

I want you to also take note of the dynamics here: here is a hot girl whom I doubt EVER hits a guy up first on social media…EVER! And here she goes hitting me up first…on her own free will while I chill back and waited for her message to come.

Moreover, this is a girl who blows off tons of guys on a regular basis, toys with guys, shames guys, out/expose guys by posting their screenshots to her FB as means of making fun of guys and calling them thirsty and desperate…and lame! Yet, she hits me up, chasing me, trying to make convo, QUALIFYING, while I ultimately brush her off by using my favorite technique of telling the girl “I’ll hit you up another time”.

Which guys would do/say that to such a hot girl?

None! Except a high-value guy who’s a fellow member of the secret society of players, which is dominated by women.

So, who’s doing the qualifying here? Who’s pushing for rapport here?

Speaking of rapport, the mistake that these guys made (almost every guy does), is that they tried to FORCE Rapport/comfort from the get go as their opener, by asking the girl if they can get to her know. Why the fuck would you open a girl with that!!!?

Anyway, I’ll speak more about that in a subsequent post.

So guys, what’s the magic here overall? Is it my Denzel Washington looks? 🙂

Nope!

It’s the fact that I’m well aware [having Social Awareness] that you CANNOT or Should NOT use direct game on hot girls on social media! Why not? Such girls get hit on too fucking much! The only way to get their attention (initially) is via Indirect Game, but not hitting on them at all! Just as you’ll see me do; I did NOT hit on her, nor did I compliment her (directly).

Now, what is the overall benefit of my approach here? Having the girl qualifying herself and trying to prove to me that she has guys chasing her, it means (in her mind) that I’m high(er) value. Hence, she would never reject me if I were to game her, try to get her # and a so-called date. All this is possible because of an innocuous comment on her post, and the fact that I’m not chasing her.

Whenever a woman meets a man who’s a fellow member of the secret society of players, she goes Bonkers and opens up to him.

Read: http://bristollair.com/2008/inner-game/nature-reality/secret-society/

So check out how she shames guys for me [note: she’s a total stranger].

If you’d like to learn in its entirety, how I pick up and seduce hot girls (any girl) on social media, purchase your copy of Facebook Bang, or my othet Facebook products.

https://kennyspuathoughts.com/2015/05/12/facebook-bang-the-bonus-product/

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