When She Doesn’t Get Back To Your Message: “What Do I Do”?


In keeping with the theme of the previous post on Congruence Testing, I was asked the following question on my Facebook page:

Great post! What’s the procedure if she doesn’t respond? And how long do you give her?

Now, that question was predicated on the fact that the girl never got back to me promptly.

My quoted answer:

Good question Dan. I was anticipating such a question which is very logical. When, or if she doesn’t get back that day, you ought NOT to
send another text that same day. And definitely not reminding her about the fact that you asked her for her #. What you do is to allow a few days to go by (perhaps 3 days), then hit her back with something cheeky and funny. Something totally unrelated to the last convo where you tried to get her #. You want to essentially show her 2 things:
1.) You didn’t get desperate.
2.) You didn’t hold it against her or get all butt-hurt that
She didn’t get back to you.
Now, after getting back to her 2-3 days later with something humorous and unrelated, you then go for the # again. 99.8% of the time she will give it up right away since you did pass her congruence test the last time (and she remembered). So that’s how you go about it. Totally do NOT bring up the fact that you asked her for her # last
time. It’ll only make you look attached and worried

There isn’t much I can add to the answer I gave Dan.

If a girl ignores your last message, the quoted format I laid out above is the most effective strategy in order to re-engage her.

By all means: do NOT bring up the fact that she didn’t get back to you, or that she ignored your last text(s).

If you do take that risk, ensure that it’s done HUMOROUSLY!!!

At times, I would message the girl with something like:

“Hey bad ass, I like how you flatly ignored my last message like a worthless lad. But don’t worry…I would punish you so harshly for your bad behavior” 🙂 .

I would ensure to put a smiley face at the end just to hammer home the fact that I’m being humorous and not butt-hurt.

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