Tuesday afternoon, out of sheer hunch, I decided to message a girl whom I haven’t communicated with in nearly 5 months.
We met up once since picking her up online about 6 months ago.
We hung out kind of at her place but that (Day2) didn’t culminate in the lay, so I practically decided to next her.
Anywho, I hit her up yesterday, late afternoon, about coming to see her @ her place. She was down, so I let her know I’ll let her know when I’m coming.
I collected the pizza, made it to her doorstep, she told me to come in, dropped the pizza on her lap, hugged and kissed her on the forehead.
What was my plan going into last night?
Surely to get laid. However, and I talked about this in Netflix & Sex, there is an escalation process in which one is to operate for optimizing the chance of sex materializing.
Also, since this was the 2nd time we would’ve met (at her place), there was no reason for me to form the ass and dilly-dally around when it comes to what I want.
For the first 25 minutes, seated in front of each other (knees almost touching), we both browsed her Facebook timeline from her phone, opining on the stuff we came across.
The reasons why I didn’t pounce upon her (proverbially) instantly:
1.) One should display that you’re not desperate and over eager, so you play it nonchalantly for the first half hour
2.) She was still munching on the pizza
She ate half of the small-pizza pie, so I took that as my cue to now begin KINO escalation.
When it comes to going for the touch (KINO), I find that it is best to go for it on spikes of humor.
This is something I do religiously when getting romantic with a girl with whom I’m on a so-called date.
It also kills the weird and awkward factor when you go for the touch or hold on humor.
With that, after being there for about 25 minutes as she ate the pizza while we sat there browsing her Facebook together, I strategically mentioned something that I knew was going to cause her to laugh.
I can’t quite remember what that was. But I said what I said in relation to a post on her timeline, knowing it would cause laughter, so she laughs hilariously with me, and I seized that opportune moment to take her hand with both and mines, and began stroking her fingers sensually with my fingers.
Did she reject or react negatively to this move?
Of course not!
Timing is of paramount importance!
Always try to make your move (in regards to touching the girl) on a light, playful, hilarious and humors note, when the girl would’ve been laughing from something you’d strategically said or done (as I did).
Without an ounce of fear, I continued gently stroking, rubbing and caressing her palm and fingers as we sat knees to knees with her phone in her other hand.
From that seating position, my face was almost buried into her cleavage which was revealed.
There was zero negative tension to my sensual touching. There was tension in the air, but sexual tension (which is the kind of tension you want to create).
Nothing was awkward either. When going for the touch, hold or caress, do it as though it’s natural and normal.
At first, I expect you to be jittery and awkward. But once you secure her hand or finger(s), just let go and embrace it, and keep talking about what was being talked about before you took her hand or rest your hand upon her shoulder, etc!
Anyway, so we continued normal conversation about the stuff that popped up on her timeline as she scrolled down.
Oh- bear this in mind- content of the conversation is NOT important once you’re back @ the girl’s pad or she’s at yours!
It doesn’t matter what you talk about. As long as your physicals are in the right place (i.e. romance).
Great example: there we were talking about any old random shit that shows up as we scroll her wall. That’s pretty meaningless stuff. Meanwhile, I was physically escalating, being romantic and sexual, stroking her fingers sensually, in spite of the fact that our conversation was devoid of anything remotely romantic or intimate. So your words don’t matter at this stage of the game.
Sure it is nice to get the girl sexually arouse. But it’s so much more powerful to touch her in order to get her aroused as I was doing.
At no point during this hand and finger caressing did she pull away. Oh- she did pull away once- but that was to kill a mosquito on her leg.
The hand and finger caressing went on for 20 minutes I would say until I got increasingly sexual by resting my hand in her lap, pressed against her inner thighs as I sensually stroked her fingers.
Again, she didn’t reject nor react negatively to any of this because my timing/calibration was on point.
I touched her the right time with the right amount of pressure in the right places.
I can imagine there exist clueless guys who would’ve just jammed their fingers into the girl’s crotch and totally freaked her out.
There is a time and occasion for that. But when sitting across from, or next to a so-called date, you want to operate with tact, smoothness, agility and lightness. Nothing quirky, grand and too blatant.
Anyways, she had on a jacket inside at the dining table where we sat:
Me: “You’re not hot with that furry thing on”?
Girl: “I’m actually cold”!
She eventually got my drift [that I wanted access to the bare skin of her arms], so about 10 minutes later, she stood up to remove her coat. 🙂
I got up at the same time and took her hand and led her back to sit.
This time since I had more compliance, I could’ve escalated more rapidly and harder now.
Minutes later, she made mentioned of how hard she’s been working lately.
!”Ding, Ding, Ding”!!!
“She wants a massage”, I said to myself!
Always be ready to read these subtle-verbal cues that women put out there.
I got up, went behind her with my arms trailing across her shoulders, and as I stood in back of her (while she sat), I began massaging and running her neck and shoulders (both erogenous zones) with no backlash whatsoever.
Now- backlash will happen! Don’t get me wrong! Always expect the girl to either remove your hands, tell you don’t, or resist in some manner or the other.
Resistance isn’t rejections! Most girls will resist at some point. However, it just so happened that this girl didn’t give any resistance to what I was doing up to that point. But don’t think for a second that girls don’t reject m advances. Thy do! And more than they do with 99.9% of guys. The only difference in my case (though I get rejected 100 times more than the average guy) is that I don’t take resistance and rejections as the girl shutting down the show altogether!
Whenever a girl resists my advances, I take it mean that she isn’t warm yet to the idea of me being so intimate and sexual. So bear that in mind: the girl will resist at some pint during KINO/touching. But it doesn’t mean to fuck off. It more so means “not ready yet”.
Okay, so while massaging her shoulders and neck, I would hunch down and talk into her ears, ensuring that my lips made contact with her earlobe (another erogenous zone of a woman’s body).
This’ all strategic!
Her upper back was somewhat revealed because of the contour of her blouse, so I would intermittently kiss her softly on her exposed back and neck, while lightly running my lips across her back as I continued massaging her shoulders.
What were we talking about as thing was going on?
Bullshit on Facebook! She would open some dumb video clip, we would watch it then move on to another clip.
Saying that bit to say; you don’t have to talk sex while making sexual advances on a girl. Any ordinary topic will suffice, as long as you’re advancing sexually as you see me doing.
Her phone rang, and since I was right there hovering over her head as I massaged her shoulders, I was able to overhear her convo. Apparently, it was some dude who’s been trying to get with her. From the convo, it was clear that he was some chody guy trying to buy her since he told her he’d bought her something special for Christmas, to which she verbally shrugged off dismissively.
While on the phone I was lightly kissing her on the neck and running my tongue across her neck and ear.
Long story short: this all went on for another 15 minutes or so.
We never got to make out nor kiss for that matter. And sex definitely didn’t happen either. But we were set to meet up the following night (which would be today).
I’ll let you guys know how it goes…if I did manage to meet up with her again for the Day4 tonight (Wednesday).
In the meantime, download your complimentary guide of “Netflix and Sex”, to learn how to escalate on a girl back at your pad (or hers).