Hey guys, I’m just going to post this post verbatim as I did 3 nights ago to Facebook. Afterwards, I’ll give an additional take on the matter.
So, I have a new neighbor, a chick who moved in yesterday to the house next to my apartment. As expected from a master pickup artist; I approached her last evening, chatted her up real quick and got her phone #. I haven’t called a chick’s phone in years, but I decided to ring her instead of texting last night. After about 2 minutes of small talk, she mentioned that she’s afraid to sleep alone since she’s new to the area and no one lives with her. I was like, “Ding, Ding, Ding”!!! I took the hint/cue and said to her, ” Well I live alone too. You can come upstairs to my apartment and sleep, or I come down to your house and sleep with you”. She’s like, “Fine! That would be great because I’m scared shit plus it’s dark in this area”! She then threw out a disclaimer (as expected) when she said to me, “Oh! There’s only 1 bed. So we’ll have to sleep in in together. But no sex though”. As a master seducer, I knew this was all standardized game and plausible deniability at work. So I’m like, “Sure! No sex. I’ll keep my distance on the bed”. I grabbed her a water from my fridge and went downstrairs to her yard next door. She lets me into her crib, we sat on the bed and then she began what was a 3 hour ramble about her boyfriend kicking her out, how they spent all day @ the precinct arguing over rights of certain appliances and shit. She also mentioned how her BF (ex) is likely to stalk her while we sleep. That made me a bit uneasy.
But anyway, after 3 plus hours of ranting and blabbering, I told her to cut the damn bedroom light out because it’s blinding me. That was my cue to her that intimacy was about to go down. We got more comfortable on the bed and I told her to lie down; so we did. She kept chatting away so I playfully said, “Hush”, with my finger to her lips. All this time, my hands were resting on her hips while caressing her thighs. I slowly and gradually escalated (KINO) to sliding my hands under her shirt in order to fondle her tits…to which she didn’t resist…to my surprise. I toyed with her huge-ass nipples for a good 10 minutes. This chick literally has some of the biggest and longest nipples I’ve ever touched in my life! I’m a tit-man, so this really excited the shit out of me! While I played with her breasts with 1 hand, the free hand was rubbing her booty like R. Kelly. My dick began to get that feeling within; an erection had developed. I knew she felt that shit since I was grinding on her ass through the thin fabric of my jogging pants. Long story short- after a while- there came LMR (as expected): she began to show signs of resistance by telling me that it tickles when I breath on her neck. In other words, she was telling me that I’m too close. I backed off by discontinuing to toy with her neck. After a while, and I’m guessing this is when she got really turned on (apparent from her slight moans): she removed my hand from her tits. Remind you guys; this is totally normal(during LMR) with a girl whom you’re laying down with for the first time. She’s bound to stop you at some point from rubbing on her tits or attempting to fondle her vagina. So, I took my hand from beneath her shirt while continuing to rub her thighs with the other hand…which she allowed. Minutes later, back to her tits. She allowed then resisted by removing my hand again. At that point, I felt like saying, “Girl! You’re about to sleep alone! I’m leaving”! But I decided not to go into full-blown savage mode at that moment. In any case, after the tug of war, I fell asleep just as she did. Woke up around 4:30 AM this morning, attempted a last-ditch effort to fuck her, but it didn’t go down, so I told her I had to get going since it was early/late and the sun was about to break soon, so she had nothing to fear since it was almost sunrise. She walked me out and that was that.
At the end of the day, what I wish for you guys to take away from this long-ass Facebook post is pretty much 1 theme, ABA: “Always Be Approaching”! Fortune favors the bold! Surely I didn’t get to fuck this total stranger last night, but I took my chances for sure like a real man!!! So, that hot girl who lives next door to you, instead of gawking, stalking and being a pussy-ass chode of a man by not approaching her; be a real man and approach that girl!! It didn’t take 10 seconds for me to make my move once I spotted this girl from upstairs and realized how fuckable she is. I approached immediately! Went to her door, welcomed her to the neighborhood, spat a little game, got her digits and got to sleep in her bed…the same night in less than 3 hours of meeting her. “ABA”: Always Be Approaching!! No need to waste time trying to figure out the girl, trying to find out if she’s single, etc. Make a move and deal with those matters afterwards!
Lastly, learn how to read women and the subtle cues and signs they give off (verbally and nonverbally). Surely this won’t come over night, but with vast amounts of experience with dealing with lots of women (as I have), you’ll gradually develope an acuity and 6th sense for reading women.
Oh- lastly- as for this girl whom I met last night (my new neighbor), sure I would’ve loved to smash last night since we slept in the same bed! But sometimes, it takes time! It may take a day or 2 before the girl gets comfortable enough to want to accept your dick inside of her. So this wasn’t a failed attempt in my book. This is where Mystery’s “7 hour before the lay” principle comes into effect. A girl whom you’d just met, a sober one, is unlikely to sleep with you before spending at least 5-7 hours with you first. I had only spent 3 hours with the chick before trying to smash. So go figure. The more time spent, the more comfort built. I’m not a man who likes to waste time. If I get a girl’s # today, I’m expecting to fuck her…today! This clearly doesn’t always work out, but it is the thought, mindset and frame that counts (rapid escalation theory).
Lastly, there are tons of reasons why a girl may not sleep with you at a given time. Perhaps she’s on her period, and she’s feeling all yucky and dirty. Hence, never think that the girl is resisting because of anything on your part.
Interesting stuff huh?
The lessons here are many, and very instrumental for those who desire to become masters at this.
I however want to briefly tackle the subject of proactivity and rapid escalation, otherwise known as KINO.
There’s nothing to lose in moving swift as a lizard-hawk on its prey. In fact, you should move swiftly.
This is why in pickup we aggressively harp on the 3-second rule, and that you should approach the girl as soon as you spot her!
The more time you allow to just sail by, the greater the chance of losing the girl.
As for rapid-sexual escalation, that should also become your rule of thumb.
When in the company of a girl, being a pussy about putting your hands on her, will ultimately cause you to lose the girl.
I have a theory which I’d been peddling for ages: it is best to be perceived by the girl as a guy who goes after what he wants (sex), than someone who’s afraid to go for it. Even though you may have a failed attempt just as I seemingly did with this girl; a the end of the day, she will respect my game and willingness to gun for what I want unabashedly!
On that note, you will enjoy the follow-up post to this one.