I had an epiphany exactly a week ago while running some heavy day game on the crowded streets of the city.
Most girls hit busy-shopping areas for either 2 purpose: 1.) To window shop, 2.) To actually shop.
Regardless of which 1 it is, you will have had a situation where girls enter stores or malls.
What does the average day-gamer do when faced with the precarious decision of whether to follow or discontinue the attempted pickup?
This is highly unproductive to say the least (ditching the set just because the girl has to go window shop)!
I now come to realize that it is super advantageous to follow the girl while she shops…or window shops.
Not only are you giving yourself a shot to ultimately pick up the girl. But you gain the added benefits of learning how to persist without looking stalkerish.
Furthermore, why don’t guys in pickup follow girls while they shop?
The sole reason is the perception that they would look stalkerish and desperate.
Do these guys actually have statistics on which to rely as to why they come to this bleak conclusion?
No they don’t!
Well- I’m here to tell you that deciding to follow the girl into stores while you continue to game her up, is NOT needy, and does NOT look desperate, but smart, perceptive and persistent!
The #1 killer in pickup is lack of persistence on the part of the guy.
There are many #1 killers. But “lack of persistence” really ranks at the top of the list!
Guys fail to persist because they don’t want to be perceived as needy and desperate.
A fine premise! But it is flawed!
One of the most popular and eye-opening articles I had ever written, dealt with how one cannot be deemed desperate while chasing the girl in person!
You can only look desperate over text or any other indirect and impersonal mean of communication.
If you chase a girl over Facebook or text: she will simply ignore you, block you and move on!
A woman cannot just delete and block you in person since this require physical effort such as grabbing her stuff and leaving.
A girl is not going to just leave the nightclub because some guy is trying to talk to her. It takes more effort to physically leave than to hit the mute or block button on a messaging app.
Saying all that to say, persisting or following in person, isn’t likely to be seen as stalking or desperation, as long as it is done in person.
If the girl genuinely isn’t interested- push comes to shove- she will let it be known that she doesn’t want to be followed or persisted upon.
Anything short of that; then it should still be game on!
There’s a classic saying in pick-up that I live by religiously: “Make the hoe say no”!
What that simply means is that you persist until the girl says “NO”, “Don’t”, etc!
Now, I am not speaking of sexual advances upon a girl. I am specifically referring to attempted pickups.
You shouldn’t throw in the towel unless the girl adamantly says “NO”!
While I was out sarging in the city last weekend, of the 7 girls whom I’d picked up (exchanged #’s), 5 of them I followed into stores as they shopped and window-shopped.
I wasn’t concerned in the least that they would think that I was desperate, simply because of what I shared with you guys, that women rarely see physical pursuit as an act of desperation, rather persistence.
What a woman watches for are your overall vibes and sub-communications.
Are you nervous?
Are you shifty and fidgety like someone on the run from the law?
Are you giving off a vibe of uncertainty about yourself?
Those things will naturally turn a woman off during a pursuit. But as long as you pursue with shameless confidence, then your “following” will be perceived a positive.
With all that being said, the next time you’re faced with a situation where you’d approached the target, began chatting her up, but she’s headed into a store or mall; follow her!!!!
Insist on going with her by saying something like: “Oh! You’re going in there? Let’s go”!
It’s a free fucking world! She wouldn’t dare say to you, “Why are you going into the same store”?
That would be kind of weird and audacious on her part.
Now, when should you not follow her into a store in order to game her?
1.) If she says “don’t”.
2.) If she’s visibly uncomfortable; which will require some perceptive skills on your part in order to spot discomfort within a split second.
Barring those 2 reasons, the girl heading into a shop, should not be a justification for you to abandon set!
With this 1 chick most notably over the weekend (last weekend), after I’d cold approached her, about 15 seconds later as we walked and chat while I charmed her up, she detours into a giant place which sells female-cosmetic stuff.
There’s no way a heterosexual man should be caught dead in such a place! But I followed the girl anyway!
Here’s an actual still-shot from a short video I took with my cellphone cam, of myself in the said store (full video may be posted shortly).
Did the girl see this action on my part as desperation?
Or did she see it as persistence, while saying to herself, “this guy goes after what the hell he wants”?
Of course the latter!
Women see go-getters as charming and sexy!
A man who goes after what he wants with reckless abandonment, or without regards for social norms, is seen as HIGHLY attractive by women!
Hence, the girl was not saying to herself, “this stranger guy is a total desperate loser for following me into a lady’s store”. But, “this stranger guy is a total go-getter, and he doesn’t even care to be seen in a lady’s store”.
By flat-out giving up just because the girl is entering a store, not only will you be losing the girl altogether. But you would have shown the girl how much of a socially inept pussy you are for not going for it!