Tons of guys ask me ad nauseum: “How do I get girls to reply to my messages on Facebook, and what do I say to make things easier in regards to date and sex down the line”?
This brief post won’t exactly expound on the topics of what to say and how to get sex. But it will give you a more than general guideline on how to lead the girl’s mind in the right direction by using the awesomely deadly and powerful old-school PUA tactic known as ‘Cold Reading’.
Cold Reading In PUA Seduction
An example of cold reading is trying to guess a girl’s sun sign- then- whether you guessed it correctly or not, you go on to read her personality by telling her some things about herself (or her sign) in hopes to strike some accord.
That is cold reading in a nutshell.
It is reading someone without firstly having any info about that someone (hence the “cold” part of “cold” reading).
My game weighs heavily on some form of cold reading.
I would tell the girl something about myself, project this something upon her (a cold read)- then viola- she predictably agrees with my take on her, or her personality.
Here’s a pertinent example from last night where I chatted up a total stranger on Facebook. Remind you; this was my first time inboxing her since being FB friends for some months now.
[My messages in blue]
Were you able to spot the cold read and how the girl agreed to the frame I set?
If you didn’t notice, then your ability to read women suck donkey balls!
Here it is again:
Me: “…you seem like a girl who knows how to appreciate a guy who can mix things up instead of being the same boring lame 24/7. So…are you spontaneous and a bit on the adventurous side”
“Yes I am”!!!!
She emphatically expressed her fondness for the adventurous and spontaneous!
In essence, I set her up for accepting the frame which I set.
In other words, by telling the girl that I’m a lover of spontaneity and adventure, and that I see that she can appreciate guys who aren’t boring, I forced her to accept the best option…which is to admit to being fond of what I’m fond of (spontaneity and adventure).
This is called frame control and leading with a bit of indirect-cold reading.
Her emphatic reply goes to show that she’s down with the frame I set, hence the title of the post: “Tell her what she is and she will become it”.
Why does this all matter in the first place you may say?
Well this is why: guys generally make the mistake of framing the interaction wrong.
Instead of putting the girl into an adventurous frame as I did, most guys would foolishly set a good-girl frame by saying shit like:
“You seem like a respectable woman”
“I love a good girl”
When you say things like that to a girl whom you are intending to hook up with eventually, you blunt your progress by inadvertently forcing the girl to play the respectable-girl role.
From the contrary, when you do as I did, push the adventurous frame unto the girl, you encourage her to accept the more attractive frame: being adventurous.
With that, would you rather go on a date with a girl who sees herself as a “good respectable girl”, or a girl who sees herself as an adventurous gal”?
That answer is clear as day.
Good saintly girls don’t do adventurous shit on their dates.
Adventurous girls do adventurous shit on their dates…like fucking on the balcony, in a restroom, etc.
You get the picture.
On a side note, your Facebook profile should reflect the personality of someone who has fun, and who is an attractive man via his personality.
For instance, you can’t expect to get women on Facebook to engage in messaging you, and to want to meet up, if your profile looks like shit and reeks of Beta-Malery.
Hence, everything must appear congruent.
What constitutes a shitty unattractive profile?
Posts about sports, Lebron James, Soccer, memes which has nothing to do with the sexes, posts about your faith, links to music and Pokemon clips, etc.
What ultimately gets chicks keen on me is my high-value profile.
With that, I can afford to cold message chicks and get forward off the bat.
In a matter of weeks, I will try to complete a e-book product called “Pimping my Facebook”.
It’s a step-by-step guide on transforming your Facebook from the lame profile it currently is, to something high value and attractive.