Hey fellaz, another solid Facebook game post for you.
This tip has been pounded to death already (at least by me). But an encore/redux is always necessary as a refresher course for those who may not have grasped the concept at first glance.
“Always End The Chat First”!
That is the technique per se which I’m sharing with you guys…again.
Why should you end the conversation before the girl does?
The one who ends it, leaves with the perceived value, power and leverage.
This is why girls ALWAY look to end the conversation on the guy, instead of having the guy end it on them (which never happens by the way).
Women know that the person who first says, “goodbye…I gotta go…TTYL”, becomes the more valuable one (perception-wise) in the grand scheme of things.
As a guy, we rarely ever view it that way, since men aren’t strategic about this stuff.
Well- wake the fuck up!
Women are full on strategic!
Thus, learn to flip the script by ending the conversation first [online, through text or over the telephone that is].
Here’s an example from earlier today [June 28th] of me doing just that.
Now, this girl had just friend requested me earlier, and I pounced upon her A Fucking SAP!
Oh- BTW- here’s another tidbit I want to share with you before proceeding: If a girl adds you as friends on social media (Facebook in particular); assume attraction!
Assume that she wants to fuck you!
When a random girl adds you on Facebook, it is a subtle confession that she likes you, is attracted to you and would like to see what your world is like.
Obviously, this may not quite be the case if the girl already knows you well, tons of mutual friends, etc.
However, if she’s a random; then assume she wants to fuck you!
With that in mind, I received a friend request earlier from a “Random”.
Now- typically- I receive friend requests from random women on Facebook.
Eight in ten times: I would decline the add for 2 reasons:
1.) The girl is ugly, hence doesn’t fit my type nor does she pass my boner-test
2.) She lives outside of my jurisdiction…i.e. another town, city or country
If the girl passes those 2 prerequisites (she’s sexy and lives in my town…or nearby); I will accept her friend request and pounce upon her immediately!
Sometimes, depended on my mood and how much time I have to shit around (or not), I would elect to not message her right away.
With the hottie who added me today; I decided to pounce [my messages in blue. Hers in gray].
Now, why did I go so extreme in calling her “petty as fuck” as my opener/ice-breaker? Leverage! Once someone adds you (particularly a random stranger as in this girl), compliance and leverage automatically go to the person who received and accepted the friend request. In this case: me. In other words, I can get away with saying anything to the girl without offending her since I have leverage and compliance due to the fact that she was the one who sent me the friend request (minutes earlier).
Also, the reason I called her petty was because I took a quick scan of her statuses, just to get a glimpse of her style, and I came across posts which read, “I blocked 5 guys today for blowing up my inbox”. Or, ” Anyone who dares call me through Messenger will be blocked”. The typical stuff that self-entitled hot girls are accustomed to posting.
Additionally, calling a hot girl petty, or any other form of derisive adjective, is a ballsy move in and of itself. No guy does this to a (random) hot girl. By you becoming that guy who says the unimaginable, it sets you apart from the masses, and the girl instantly assumes that you are high value or high net worth 😉 .
Furthermore, and to solidify my point; did she take it offensively that I called her petty? Of course not! She knows I’m the Alpha-Male! Since she was the one to add me, she had likely checked out my profile beforehand, and realized the type of guy I am. She liked: then added me. With that, I already knew that she was attracted to me (my vibe). And once a girl is attracted, there is hardly anything you can do/say that will offend her. That is why she never took offense to me calling her “petty as fuq”.
Let’s continue right through.
[My message in blue]
[Her message in gray]
[My message in blue]
[Her message in gray]
Who ended it?
What does this accomplish (ending the conversation first) apart from what I mentioned at the top of the post?
It shows the girl that I am not desperate for her, nor her time.
I ended things by saying “we have some fucking to do”.
How did she react?
Was she offended!?
Did she block me!?
Of course not!
Again- why did she not get offended by me saying we have some fucking to do?
Leverage and compliance!
Without compliance from the girl whom you’re chatting up, anything said or done out of line, will cause a negative reaction from her.
Having compliance is a virtual green light to do or say anything to the girl.
Now, in the grand scheme of things, what type of frame did I set between me and her?
Was it a friendly, friend-zone frame?
Was I coming off as someone who wanted to become her boyfriend (the boyfriend frame)?
Think about that.
The mistake most guys commit as to why they don’t get laid [though there are MANY existential mistakes] is that they inadvertently, and often times deliberately (through ignorance), box themselves into the boyfriend/provider frame or the best-friend frame.
Which frame did I put myself into?
The lover’s frame: “the guy who wants to fuck you” frame!
Moreover, whenever you converse with a woman while giving off the vibe that you would like to date her, or become her boyfriend at some point, she instantly removes sex from the item list (if it was ever on there). Then she’ll purposely make you wait forever for sex. In essence, she will punish you by withholding sex because you had put yourself in the boyfriend/provider frame.
This is the same for the guy who gives off the “I wanna be your friend” vibe. He gets friendzoned by the girl because he foolishly gave off the friend vibe, thinking he could friend his way into sleeping with her.
Hence, when you give off the “I wanna hook up” vibe [earlier as possible], the girl has no choice but to accept the frame you push [“let’s hook up”].
By me telling this random hottie that she’s fuckable and that we have some fucking to do, there’s no ambiguity about my intention, nor the frame in which I push [the lover’s frame].
This is why a girl will, and would never friendzone me [due to friendly frame], nor make me wait weeks, 2 dates and months, etc. for sex [due to boyfriend frame].
I don’t give off the impression of someone who’ll wait for sex (this is because I get sexual and forward right away).
Additionally, I don’t give off the vibe of someone who wants to become her new best friend who sits and chats with her about all the other guys who fucks her and fucks her over.
I give off the sex-worthy vibe PRONTO!
Listen- for argument sake- let’s say that I don’t get forward with a girl in such a context as the one above. My vibe will have still been void of “boyfriend and friend”. So technically, you don’t have to be forward and sleazy with a girl in order to give off the “let’s hook up” vibe. Just simply avoid giving off the “let’s be friends” vibe.
Since I’ve digressed a ton here, I want to end this post on the main topic of getting a girl to chase by ending things first.
As you’d seen from the screenshots in the post: I strategically ended it first.
Where do I go from here?
Firstly: what is my goal?
Sex! To hook up with this chick (any chick for that matter) as soon as possible before the chemistry fizzles out.
Knowing that (my goal for rapid sex), I will contact her in another day or 2, throw my usual pitch about netflix and chill, get her to agree to meet up [they always do], swap numbers then seal the deal from there.
It’s all academic dude.
Same script: different chick.
The fact that I didn’t go for broke right away (since I told her “TTYL”), this move sub-communicates to her Hind Brain aka the Reptilian Brain (the part of a person’s brain which governs passion, sex, desires, etc), that not only am I high value and valuable, but it gives me a mystique appeal, along with the non-desperation vibe.
We all are familiar with the old adage: “we want what we can’t have”.
Things that appear to be out of reach and forbidden: we desire them much more than if they were right at hand. And the fact that those things are out of reach, we humans place more value on those things.
With that, you should now understand clearly how powerful this concept of mines is: ending the conversation before she does.
Doing so will have simultaneously created the following 4 powerful impressions:
•I harbor an air of mystic and mystery
•I am not desperate hence I have options
•I am high value and high net worth
•I am forbidden fruit and out of reach
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