There’s actually a reason to add random hotties on Facebook besides trying to game them.
I really do see my Facebook as an extension of my personality and I’ll explain the benefits of this in just a sec.
Every now and then I have to remind guys that my Facebook is a strategic lure for attraction purposes.
Every guy or gal I add, and every friend request I accept, has a strategic significance.
Those friend requests which I decline or ignore (from guys mainly) are done so, because they will have served no strategic purpose whatsoever in attracting girls to my cause.
I get tons of friend requests from guys on a weekly basis (PUA’s), the bulk of them I ignore [sorry if you’re reading this and are 1 of them] for various reasons.
The most common friend requests I ignore are the ones coming from guys who either have no profile pic, or their profile pic is that of some cartoon or Hollywood character, cars, motorcycles, super heros, etc.
I frankly see no reason why grown-ass men should have Al Pachino (Scarface) or Tyler Durden (of Fight Club) as their profile picture, let alone an image of a Lamborghini or Bugatti (whatever those are).
Surely I understand the logics behind doing so [guys thinking that it makes them look cool], but it’s nevertheless lame as fuck and doesn’t do a thing in the way of FMAC [attracting women].
It’s pretty juvenile and I do NOT accept any friend request on Facebook from any such profile holder.
Apart from me holding the opinion that it is lame as hell, such profiles also do nothing to enhance my cause of DHV and pre-selection.
As for women, I never really have that issue since women aren’t nearly as lame and juvenile as men.
The worst I’ve come across is a woman’s profile pic being that of some cheesy-ass meme. Besides that, girls are generally straight forward by having their actual picture as their profile pic.
Whenever I add or accept a friend request from a male, I firstly ask myself:
“Will this dude and his profile enhance or kill my chances of attracting women”?
Will he become a pariah and a thorn in my side or someone who provides value on my posts and status updates.
From my experience, guys who don’t have an actual picture of themselves as their profile pic, almost always turn out to be trolls and weirdos, damaging my image as a cool and badass muthafucka.
You know how often I get some HB contacting me via inbox saying:
“Kenny, that guy is a weird creep leaving all those weird ass comments on your post the other day. I had to take a back seat and stop commenting because it was getting real weird”.
More mess I would have to clean up by either:
1.) Finding and deleting all those weird-trollish comments.
2.) Contacting the troll directly and warning him to desist
3.) Flat-out deleting and or blocking the transgressing troll
I wrote about 1 such comical chode the other day: a guy name Faisal.
Since my Facebook is an extension of my personality (all of us really) and what would be akin to a social circle of buddies, I cannot afford to harbor weirdos within my circle.
Doing so will not only fuck my chances of getting laid, but will also DLV me in the process [DLV meaning to lower my value in the eyes of others].
Fellow pick-up instructors for the most part, don’t screen and scrutinize the friend requests they receive (with the exception of my buddy, The Asian Playboy, who first brought this to my attention a while back).
They just accept and move on…reason being that the average guy who uses Facebook (whether in pickup or not) isn’t actively looking to pull ass on Facebook anyway. So whether or not he adds a ton of creepies to his friend list/online-social circle, wouldn’t hurt him (his chances) regardless.
On the other hand, since a bulk of my pickups and lays originates and materializes through Facebook, I have more of a reason to keep out unwanted loonies who will not add to my cause.
If you plan on pulling ass on Facebook like I do, I suggest you get your shit in order in the meantime, by un-friending the ‘MALES’ who are either trollish or weird, spewing their degenerate thoughts and ideas via commentaries across your posts.
Nothing is worse than having a girl whom you fancy, de-friend you on the account of some idiot who’s been bugging her to death.
The old cliches of: “You are known by the company you keep”, or “Birds of a feather flock together”, have damaging effects in such cases like when trying to pull ass on social media.
One clown has the potentiality to ruin every girl’s perception of you, by virtue of the fact that he’s a social-media friend of yours (this is also true outside of the net).
We see this play out [at least I do] on a weekly basis in bars and nightclubs.
The obnoxious loud guy ruins it for everyone (his friends) by inadvertently painting his social circle as just as annoying and low value as he is.
This is partly the reason I go out exclusively alone.
I am personally responsible for how I’m perceived and received by others around me.
I make or break me! Not some clownish dude within my circle who gives off a low-value vibe that rubs off on me and taints the entire venue.
When you go out alone; you direct your show.
If you do happen to go out with the guys, make sure that they’re some cool-ass muthafuckas who will serve the purpose of attracting women instead of having a repellent effect.
Ok, sorry for going off on a tangent there…but it is all relevant whether online or at the club: guys within your company can either make you appear attractive or unattractive.
Therefore, delete all the guys in your Facebook who are making you look bad.
Outside of the internet in your personal life: cut off every guy who is dimming your spirit and bringing you down with their foolishness. When I say “foolishness”, I’m not speaking of your buddies who kid around and have fun. I’m speaking of the guys who are afraid to be social, afraid of women and have no interests besides playing video games all day.
Guilty By Association: The Negative Now Plus
I’ve just discussed why you should disassociate yourself from guys who are indirectly lowering your value to women.
That was the negative side to being guilty by association.
Is there a positive?
Just as there are guys within your social circle who can kill your chances with women, there are those who can enhance your chances.
I will firstly expound on how the fellaz enhance my profile, then how the ladies also do so.
Ok, roughly 80% of male associates with whom I am friends on Facebook are either fellow pick-up instructors or pick-up practitioners/students and sympathizers, with the remaining 20% of male friends and associates being either relatives or guys with who I grew up.
With those dynamics, the greater percentage of males who comment and participate on my stuff is bound to be those who subscribe to the school of pickup.
As pick-up subscribers, you are urged to be ultra-vigilant of what you post, and whether your postings will have a high value or low-value effect.
With that, you’re likely to see more fruitful and interesting dialogue across posts since most commenters would’ve been in-tuned to what it is to become an interesting guy.
Hence, whenever I update my status there’s an 80% chance (based on my male figures) of some guy posting/commenting some high-value shit that will either spark discourse, interest or a humorous punch.
I want to maximize the chances of sparking a good discussion, hence I keep guys around who generally do this.
As I touched on earlier, the benefit of having such guys in your online-social circle such as on Facebook, is that they enhance your cause and your perception by women.
If your male friends in general are cool-ass dudes who have interesting opinions and ideals of their own, and aren’t bashful about sharing them, that could only boost your perceived stock in the eyes of women (such as those who see your postings).
On the contrary, if your male friends are generally lame-ass dudes who don’t have an opinion about anything, or they are hollow-minded individuals, they won’t do much to help your perception in a way that will attract women to you.
Truth is: women love a guy who has some depth about himself.
Most guys whom women encounter on a daily basis, are empty frikkin’ shells. This goes for online and offline encounters.
Reality of this “empty shell” is evident through the fact that most guys’ social-media posts consist of either sports-related content or entertainment and media content…both of which does nothing by way of attracting women.
Therefore, you want to have guys around who will provide value on the things you post, which will in turn give women the impression that you surround yourself with guys who provide value.
Women are very simple (humans for that matter) and they broad-brush an entire canvas based on 1 minute factor.
In other words: they judge by first impression as we all do.
Thus, make her think you are way cooler than you actually are!
One way in which I achieve this is by harboring kick-ass guys who post kick-ass content and have kick-ass ideals about life itself.
If the males within your circle are preoccupied with posting about the latest NFL game or their favorite Star Wars movie, then that is no way to create attraction whatsoever but to kill it.
Remember the old adage: “You are judged by the company you keep”?
Perception is everything in this game.
As for women- the ones in which I add to my Facebook- they also serve the purpose of enhancing my product/stock.
The plus side to having women on your Facebook is that there is no downside to it like that of males.
Having women as your Facebook friends CANNOT DLV you (make you look bad)!
I remember years back, guys in pickup used to hold fast to the belief that having fatties, old and unattractive women commenting on their stuff would chase away hot women.
It wasn’t until I blew the roof off of this misconception that guys started to shift their perception on such untested theorization.
There’s no imperical datum which proves that unattractive women kill your chances with women.
I think back to a popular meme from almost 5 years ago when a few guys (my detractors) in the Men’s Rights Movement made about me “hollering at fatties” on Twitter.
According to those clowns in the Men’s Rights Movement, holding dialogue between a- quote unquote- fattie and yourself, is deemed “hollering”, thus it devalues your perceived worth to other women in general.
Again- I thoroughly debunked this myth by virtue of the fact that women of all sizes and facial dimensions regularly leave comments and have dialogues on my FB statuses, yet I manage to pull super-hot chicks in spite of the misconception that “fatties and unattractive women kill one’s chances with hotter girls”.
What men with zero experience fail to realize is that women aren’t looking at other women and going, “Well- she’s a fat girl, so this guy must be a loser for exchanging comments with fatties. Move along”!
Women see things through a different lens than men do.
Men are visually stimulated (we go after what we see). Women generally look at personality traits and other inner qualities about a guy.
A socially inept guy may think to himself, “If I’m seen talking to a fat chick, other chicks will think poorly of me and reject me”, but a woman is actually thinking, “If this guy is having such spirited and interested interactions with numerous girls (albeit fat or old ones), then he must be an interesting guy”.
Thus “Pre-Selection” and “DHV” (Demonstration of High Value).
As shallow as women are most times, women are not looking at other women and judging the worth and value of those other women based on the other women’s hotness or lack thereof.
That is what men do! Not women!
Saying all that to say: there’s no downside (DLV) in having women interact on your stuff.
Fat, old and unattractive women commenting on your posts will NOT chase younger and hotter women away!
This is a misconception fostered by men who have no real-world experience in getting ass on a consistent basis [i.e. those in the so-called Manosphere and Men’s Rights Movement] .
Not to blow my own horn or anything, but I’ve banged more hot women off of Facebook alone over the last 20 months, than most pretty boys will have ever slept with over a lifespan.
Moreover, in the pick-up world, I am ‘THE’ quasi-authority on Facebook pulling [“pulling” would mean picking up girls on FB].
Hence, I am well qualified to speak on what works and what doesn’t.
Furthermore, whenever I add a girl on Facebook or accept a friend request from a female, I do that in hopes of creating dialogue on the stuff I posts.
I dread having to add women who will have added no value to my cause.
This is why before accepting a friend request from a girl, I firstly scan her profile to ensure that she’s sociable, engaging and interactive.
How do I decide this? By quickly scanning a few of her status updates.
If she ignores the bulk of her comments; I think twice about accepting her friend request because she’s likely to ignore my comments also.
With that, I try to only add girls who are interactive on their stuff and on other’s.
Do I add random hot girls just for aesthetics (physical beauty)?
I do it all the time!
This is part of my method, where I add random hot girls, for no other purpose, besides they being hot.
Such women may not be interactive at all. But they serve as window-dressing to capture the eye of other women who lurk through my profile.
However, greater details and emphasis are placed upon the women who will encourage and spur dialogue by simply sharing their ideas on my posts.
Even if their input is a mere “LOL”, “SMDH” or emoticon: it still serves its purpose which is to get other women to see that I socialize with other women, or that there are (other) women out there who actually give a shit about my opinions and what I post.
That is the point overall!
That is the attraction factor!
That is where the DHV and pre-selection factors come in.
If you’re unfamiliar with the concept of DHV in the game, let’s just say that it involves anything that makes you look attractive to women (it has nothing to do with looks actually).
Example of DHV-ing is having interesting shit to say.
You have the concept of DHV stories, which is having something interesting to say but in a storied format.
Having your own opinions about thing (albeit they are interesting and thought-provoking) is a DHV (Demonstration of High Value), because as I mentioned earlier, boring people (which are most of us) have no opinions to share. And if they do, they are never worth listening to…which is why such individuals are deemed boring to begin with.
Overall, as long as you post interesting stuff, women will find you interesting.
Hence, whenever you do decide to hit up her inbox or hit her up via messenger, instead of having this, “what does this lame guy want” reaction, she has a, “this might actually be interesting” reaction.
You also must bear this little fact: before a girl responds to your first message, or immediately after she does (by being polite), she scans your profile and timeline in order to see what type of stuff you post to Facebook, which would give her a realistic sense of the type of individual you are (she also checks some of your photos just to see what your lifestyle looks like).
Remember: Facebook is an extension of your personality.
If you post lame shit in general, then you must be a lame dude in person.
If the bulk of your postings online is that of Football, Soccer, Basketball, sports, etc, then quite naturally, those are what interest you mostly offline; in your real life.
Women aren’t too excited about being in the company of guys who are sports fanatics [I don’t think I have to tell you that].
With that, when a girl scans your timeline and notices that the bulk of your postings is sports, she will flat-out ignore your message as she would’ve already deemed you an uninteresting lame.
If she does reply to your initial message(s), it is likely just to be polite (via protocol). And she’ll ignore your subsequent messages.
Therefore, you want to ensure that whenever a girl checks out your profile, she encounters posts which make you seem like an interesting guy.
Lastly, and keeping with the previous point, my reciprocation rate is anything between 95-99%.
That is, of every female I inbox/message on Facebook, I get a reply (which leads to some form of conversation), 95% to 99% of the time.
My messages are hardly ever ignored on Facebook!
With 95-99% reciprocative rate, I am almost always guaranteed to get a reply.
Now, these aren’t just mere replies to my initial message. I’m talking about back-and-forth text exchanges which often lead to pickup if that was the intended purpose of my communique.
When you stop and think of those numbers for a second in a quantifiable and relative manner, only then you’ll be able to see how dramatically profound they are in a positive sense.
For instance, the average Joe messages about how many random women (strangers) on Facebook on a weekly basis trying to pick them up?
Perhaps 1 or 2…if that.
Kenny messages on average (during an intense-hot week), perhaps 20 random women on Facebook per week in hopes to pick them up.
Of those 20, 19 of them are bound to reply and engage me in text conversation (hence the 95-99% rate or reciprocation).
For various reasons, I would end up only proceeding to close (grabbing a number) of about 10 of those girls.
Notwithstanding that, with the high number of random hot girls I contact on FB, a 95-99% reciprocation rate is just ridiculously stupid to say the least!
Most guys would be lucky to get 2 replies out of the 20: let alone 19 replies.
Besides “having game”- which is good enough itself- women can (and will) check my timeline just to gauge the congruence factor to see whether I’m the real deal or just a faker.
Once my game and postings align, the girl sees that I’m a man of interest and in turn, she’s poised to engage me by responding to my initial and follow-up messages.
All the girl merely wants to see is that you’re interesting and sociable and are attuned to matters which interest them.
Posting statuses related to sports, video games, movies, Star Wars, and the latest Rap or Pop song/video, will NOT make you an interesting guy in the eyes on women on Facebook!
As much as chicks dig movies and pop music and are always posting about those things, they don’t exactly look for men who enjoy those things also.
Women love drama and controversy, thus they mostly gravitate to posts which speak to relationship and dating issues.
They want to see that you hold your own opinions on the dating, mating, romancing and other male-female related topics.
Ninety-five percent of my Facebook posts are dating, pickup/game, relationship and sex related.
Why so? Because women love to talk about these things!
They are up their alley!
Contrarily, women don’t give a fuck about Football, Basketball, the World Cup, etc!
They may very well like and watch them! But they don’t particularly care for men who post about that shit!
Sports aren’t female-gravitated topics! So when she browses your timeline/wall and all she sees are postings about the NFL, video links to Mayweather vs Burto [as much as I’m a boxing aficionado], statuses about the UFC, etc. she shakes her head and moves along by either ignoring your messages (had you messaged her) or elects not to engage you altogether.
If you wish to maximize your chances of attracting women and getting laid on Facebook, you will want to grab your copy of my infamous product, Facebook Bang, where I expound on this concept in more details.