With “Abundance” Comes A Natural Buffer Against Flakes + Having Girls On Standby

Successfully meeting and dating lots of women comes with inherent-logistical challenges:

*Time constraints



Those are just the 3 primary logistical issues one will have faced whenever he acquires an abundance of women.

I cited in a recent post how I manage the abundance of women I meet [through a process of elimination].

Nevertheless, it gets deeper than that.

“Flaking” is an inevitable part of dating.

No matter how fucking skilled you are in this field- as long as women have a mind of their own [and they do]- they will always be susceptible to indecision and change of mind.

Hence, you can expect to have planned a meet-up or date with a new girl, and she purposely ignores your calls and messages on the actual day of the date [flaking].

Additionally, some chicks will pretend as though they were struck across the head with acute amnesia and completely forgot that they were to meet up with you! 😦 😑

These occurrences [flaking] are inevitable…even for master-daters like myself!

The best we can do [as guys] is to reduce the possibility of flakes…operative word “Reduce”, and not prevent.

Any guys who says he can teach you a flake-proof method is fucking blowing smoke…albeit I understand pick-up marketing since I’m a novel marketer myself!

Point is; girls will forever stand guys up and flake out at inopportune times!

You can only reduce and buffer flaking but not eliminate or avoid them…unless your game consists of strictly SNL [Same Night Lay] pulls.

My potential flakes are naturally reduced, cushioned and buffered by virtue of numbers, percentages and consistency of my pulls/pickups.

It’s essentially akin to having a standby generator in case the main-electricity circuitry chips out.

With my system, if a girl flakes out on me, I almost always have 1 or 2 standby chicks upon whom to call. πŸ˜‰

Now, these chicks obviously aren’t aware that they are standbys and 2nd and 3rd options. But they don’t have to know.

What I usually do is, let’s say that I have 2 so-called dates confirmed for the weekend:

Friday: Jackie

Saturday: Amy

Instead of banking on both girls sticking to their part of the agreement, I leave space for disappointment…as you should always do [I prefer to call it “space for flake”].

My meet-up proposals are always solid because I know how to fine tune certain things in order to minimize last-second excuses.

However, even with 100% certainty that the girl will show, I always leave room for disappointment [“space for flake”].

If 1 or both girls doesn’t show at all, I would not have been that disappointed since I left room for it…mentally.

In any case, if I have a so-called date confirmed for Friday and Saturday, I would’ve made plans with 1 or 2 other girls for those same nights as well. 😈

In effect, I would have created a situation where I have 4 girls to meet up with…but I would have to disappoint 2 of them. 😦

The original 2 girls I would keep plans with for Friday and Saturday, then I will break the disappointing news to the other 2 who are on standby. 😦 😦

In most cases, I wouldn’t even tell them that something pressing came up [as an excuse].

I would simply pretend as though I completely forgot I had plans with the standby chicks by electing to not contact them at all.

At times, I would turn my phone off as the day of the date approaches. πŸ‘Ώ

This is why I always inform the girls I meet up with that it is a “CASUAL” meet-up and NOT a fucking “FORMAL”, dress-your-best occasion, where we’re going to dine at some upscale joint.


I ensure to inform the girls days ahead of time to NOT get all dolled-up, not waste time going to the salon and getting mani and pedicures for our casual meet-up!

This is why I prefer a walk-in-the-park rendezvous where the girl can just throw some flip-flops on, slick her hair back into the simplest ponytail and throw on an old dress or some shit like that!

Pressure free!

In that case, if and when I have to disappoint the girls on standby [essentially flaking on them], I save myself some guilt [’cause I do have a heart 😦 ], knowing that they didn’t waste time and money on prepping, getting their hair and nails done, buying new outfit, etc. So when I have to disappoint them: “Oh well”!


Ok, so in the event that girl 1 [Friday] or girl 2 [Saturday] flakes or has other plans with the girls or something, I fill that gap with girl 3 or girl 4.

This isn’t last minute by the way since I would’ve already planned something with girls 3 and 4 about a week in advance.

My meet-ups/dates are usually planned anywhere from a week to 2 weeks in advance.

During this pre-date period, I would’ve been gaming the girl some more and getting her extra warmed up to the idea of meeting and fucking.

We may even sext or have phone sex during that period! πŸ™‚

This all helps and doesn’t hurt your chances.

The further the date is [let’s say 2 weeks away], the more engaging you will have to become in order to keep the girl engaged and on the radar.

Remember: girls suffer from ADHD and ADD [Attention-Deficit Disorder]!

They have short-fucking attention spans!

Hence, if I meet a girl today and am unable to meet up with her until 2 weeks down the line, I will have had to chitchat and text her every other day just so she doesn’t fall off the map and forget about me.

Remember: girls are ADD!

I also seize quick opportunities on the fly where I can squeeze a DTF girl in, in the event that flaking occurs somewhere.

For example, about a week ago when I had already planned dates for Friday and Saturday [this actual weekend that is], a chick whom I’d met 10 years ago but reconnected with recently, hit me up.

I pretty much went ultra-direct sexually towards the meet-up since I already knew she was DTF from the last convo we had some weeks back.

Here are the screenshots from about a week ago when she texted me out of the blue.
[Her texts in white. Mines in green]








Essentially, she’s girl #3 in the event that either girl 1 or 2 had flaked this weekend.

If girl 1 and 2 sticks to plan, I will then have to disappoint girl 3 from the text-log above.

Ok, so that was a perfect example of how having abundance acts as a natural buffer in case someone stands you up.

You almost always have the option to replace a dropout with a girl on standby.

The parting message here for you is pretty clear: gain abundance of women!

You won’t get stuck in situations where all of your eggs are in 1 basket and your chances of getting a date are depended on this one girl.

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