A female friend of mine posted this to Facebook yesterday.
Apparently, guys are still hitting up girls over the internet, asking if they are single.
When will dudes realize that asking a girl if she’s single [as an opener/ice-breaker], is a turnoff for women?
If you want the girl, the fact that she’s single or taken shouldn’t matter to you at all…and it doesn’t for her!
Women understand this. But clueless men over the internet clearly don’t [that her relationship status doesn’t matter to her].
If I desire to fuck a girl, the last thing on my to-ask-list, is to ask her whether she’s single and ready to mingle, or has someone already.
That doesn’t matter to me neither to her!
I approach every single girl as though she’s single and ready to mingle.
Inquiring about a girl’s relationship status never EVER enters my mind…simply because it doesn’t matter to most chicks (whether they’re single or taken). So why ruin your chances from the gate by having your initial message/inbox asking,
“You have a boyfriend”?
Quit being lame guys!
Women respond to whatever it is you put out there!
Therefore, if you bring up her relationship status, she will have no choice but to make it a focal point of the conversation.
Moreover, whenever you raise the question of, “Are you single”? It forces the girl to feel somewhat guilt-stricken to know that she’s being chatted up by some guys, knowing she has a BF.
Hence, to avoid all this; simply drop the, “Are you single or taken” question altogether.
It is counterproductive at best!
That is why women are annoyed whenever they are faced with such a question…especially as an ice-breaker.
Lemme further go on to say that the way women perceive this question within their mind, is like this:
“If he wants me, why the fuck would he even care to know if I’m single or taken!? If you want me: you want me”!
That is the way in which women interpret that question.
In the defense of men here, I will admit that that is a very pertinent question to know whether a girl has someone or she doesn’t.
I mean- after all, if a guy were to get involved with a new girl, he would want to know her relationship status prior to involvement.
That is very rational!
However, guys keep missing 1 of the greatest points of seduction which is that women are NOT rational thinkers when it comes to courtship, relationship, dating and mating [sex].
In other words: girls see things radically different than men.
Therefore, while a question such as “taken or single” seems very logical for men, it is seen as very annoying and illogical to women.
Frankly speaking, let’s level with each other guys. You really don’t give a rat’s ass whether a girl is single or whether she has someone already.
The only reason you even ask such a lame yet plausible question is because you don’t actually know what else to say, what else to ask, so you elect to throw out there, 1 of the most common openers/ice-breakers: “Are you single”?
You’re not actually doing this from an ethical standpoint [as most Betas would argue], but a standpoint of ignorance.
You simply don’t know what to say in order to break the ice online, so you opt for the most obvious.
Be as it may; if you genuinely want a girl, there is no reason to ask her if she’s single or taken.
If will not only piss women off, but it will kill your chances within 1 swoop!
So-called “Nice Guys” are largely to blame for this because they pretend as though they give a shit- so they ask her these lame-shit questions- when in reality, they are just looking for quick sex just as every other guy out there is!
Only that assholes like myself are honest enough to not mislead women into thinking that we care about their current, past or future affairs.
By the way, don’t expect the girl to tell you that she’s turned off and annoyed because you’d asked her if she was single and ready to mingle.
That would trigger and activate her ASD [Anti-Slut Defense] mechanism which will in turn, cause her to feel slutty.