The Mechanics Of A Perfect Pickup: Sexy MILF Field Report

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The greatest pick-up moments usually happen when the cameras aren’t rolling.

I wish I’d recorded this set just to give you a perfect illustration of what a next-to perfect pickup looks and sounds like.

Be as it may, while grabbing a chicken burger on my lunch break yesterday [May 12] at a grill joint next to the coastline, I spotted a sexy girl sitting alone about 30 yards away from where I was.

In pickup, we teach to approach the girl INSTANTLYthe 3 second rule– but as one advances in the game of seduction, certain rules can and will be broken.

The 3 second rule is one such rule that an advanced PUA can and will break.

The reason why you should approach the girl within 3 seconds or less is to avoid the dreaded “Approach Anxiety” from creeping up on you, thus giving you second thoughts about approaching the girl altogether.

As one advances to a level of mastery, AA [Approach Anxiety] no longer becomes a hindrance.

Hence in my case yesterday, I didn’t have to approach the target right away in order to keep anxiety and second thoughts at bay.

I patiently waited while my burger grilled.

Five or more minutes elapsed- she got on her cellphone, chatted away a bit. As she hung up, I decided to approach that exact moment.

With burger in hand, I approached her.

Me: “May I sit”?

I just sit anyway while I said that.

When asking a girl “Can I sit”, you don’t do so while actually awaiting an answer of approval from her.

You sit anyways as you ask “May I sit”!

Usually, I would just sit without asking. But I chose to ask that day.

Sexy MILF: “Sure! It’s a free world for everyone to do what they want”.

Me: “Certainly! You love your freedom don’t you”?

Sexy MILF: πŸ˜† πŸ™‚ “Yep”.

Me: “What would you do for it”?

Sexy MILF: “Anything to retain it”.

As I always teach you: after you will have thrown your opener/ice-breaker, you HAVE TO fucking routine stack!

In other words: change the subject!

Guys make the mistake of milking the fucking opener into boredom, thus sinking the ship before it even embarks from port.

Therefore, if you pay close attention to what I did: I opened the girl with a situational opener about the freedom to sit and freedom in general.

That was the ice-breaker.

Nothing special.

In less than half a minute, I conversational stacked into something else.

By doing so, I avoided running out of things to say about the opener [freedom of choice], thus avoid boring the girl with a stale topic.

Your opener is simply to open the girl and move on within a minute or less.

Don’t milk the fucking opener or you’ll find yourself in the awkward position, struggling to find another topic to jump to…which means that the girl will be able to see you all panicky, hesitant, stuck in your head going, “So……………., aaaaaahm…….., anyway……….uhm”.

To avoid those awkward-pregnant pauses; you must make that transition into another conversational thread.

Me: “By the way, while standing over there waiting on my chicken burger, I noticed you checking me out hard…so that’s why I came over here. Hi”!

As expected from any sane woman: she laughed as she found humor in such a ballsy declaration. πŸ˜† πŸ™‚ πŸ˜†

Sexy MILF: “Is that so! I just happened to look back. Wasn’t really looking at you”.

Me: “Yea right! That’s a classic cop out. Anyway, our eyes caught each other’s twice…I’m here now. So…”.

Note: by making such bold declarations, which I always do in every set, you not only put the girl on the spot, but you give her a plausible reason as to why you approached her in the 1st place…not that you have to give her 1 anyway.

In addition to that, making such assumptions about a girl, is a powerful routine in that it makes the girl have to qualify herself and justify why your assumption was wrong.

Sexy MILF: “What’s your name”?

Quick pointer: Whenever a girl asks you your name before you ask for hers, it usually means 1 of 2 things:

1.) She’s already into you

2.) She doesn’t know what to say, so she goes to the default and most logical question, which is to ask for your name

In my case, it was a little of both, but more so she didn’t know what to say.

The thing is guys, when it comes to cold approaching random women, you have to bear in mind that this doesn’t happen to women!

Guys just don’t go up to hot girls sitting on a bench and proceed to chat them up.

Cold approaching women is RARE!

Hence, whenever you do cold approach women, always brace yourself for the stunned and shocked facial expressions and comportment painted onto the face of the girl.

Most guys being unskilled at reading body language, would misinterpret this to mean that the girl is either freaked out or disinterested.

Eight in ten times, it is a case where the girl is a bit taken-aback by the sporadic and rare occurrence of being approached and chatted up by a random guy.

In addition to that, you must also bear in mind that women suck major fucking donkey balls at game!

If your game sucks- and it probably does at this point- quadruple your suckery just to give you an idea of how much a girl’s game suck shit!

It isn’t in a woman’s gender role to pick up men.

Therefore, you can never rely on a girl to chat you up, nor rely on her to carry the conversation.

Doing so will lead to nowhere-ville!

The reason for this is simply evolution, adaptation and conditioning.

There was never a point in human history where women chased men.

Through evolution, the female was expected to be pursued by the males of the tribe, and not the other way around.

With this being the dynamics on the ground, you as the guy, should never expect the girl to chat you up. Neither should you expect her to be displaying the most favorable signs of courtship.

Ok, so at this point, being that the Sexy MILF doesn’t have any game, she resorted to asking for my name.

Me: “Online, I go by Kenny. In real life, it’s Kennyata”.

She went on to ask me the standard-boring rapport questions, “What do you do”, “How old are you”, “Do you have a girlfriend, “Do you have kids”?

These questions weren’t just answered with 1-worders by the way.

I went into some interesting details like telling her I used to be a male stripper…which is a lie nevertheless. πŸ™‚

Sexy MILF: “So what do you do”?

Me: “I’m a writer. An author”.

Sexy MILF: “Published anything yet”?

Me: “Electronic documents and books. Nothing hardcover yet. Apart from that, I really don’t want to tell you what I do”.

With this, I was building intrigue and suspense.

Sexy MILF: “C’mon…tell me”!

Me: “I’m a male stripper. But please don’t let the cat out the bag. I cannot afford to have a bunch of woman pounding down my door just to get a lap dance”!

She blushed and laughed hysterically…which is what you should want.

This is where humor comes in as a super-attractive component in your pickup repertoire.

Sexy MILF: “Do you have a girlfriend”?

Me: “Oh course. Life is funny though. Had I said I was single, you would think I was gay or that something is wrong with me for not having someone. But yes- a straight man like myself has a girlfriend”.

Sexy MILF: “Is she the jealous type?

Sexy MILF: “Do you love her”?

Sexy MILF: “Do you live together”?

Sexy MILF: “Why don’t you move in with her”?

She asked a slew of questions pertaining to the girlfriend situation, to which I answered in vagueness.

Sexy MILF: “So, don’t you see any other girl out here that you would like to talk to? I’m not that young you know that, right”?

Such a line is a classic indication of a girl who’s interested but testing you to see whether you’ll wither like a flower or state your claim.

Whenever a girl asks you that question, it isn’t a sign of disinterest.

Most guys once again become discouraged and panicky, thinking that the girl is obviously not interested, which is why she suggests/asks “why aren’t you talking to other women”?

The girl just wants to see that you can validate why you decided to single her out.

Me: “I spotted you from afar and thought you were really sexy. Now that I got closer and we’ve been talking, I’m realizing how much sexier you are. Those lips, curves, top…”.

She blushed and laughed as expected when I delivered the sexual spike.

When you become a master at picking up women, you’ll begin to see everything to which you were once blind.

It’s like playing a game of cards with a loaded deck whereas you know which cards were dealt to the other players.

As you advance in this, you’ll begin to garner the ability to accurately predict a woman’s reactions to everything said and done on your part.

You’ll be able to time when she will laugh, smile, blush and frown in amazement.

You will see the hook point manifest right in front of your eyes.

In other words, you’ll be able to see the exact moment when the girl gives you that major IOI [Indicator of Interest] that says that she has fallen for you.

However, as you begin your pickup journey, and even throughout the pre-intermediary stages of the game, much of the nuance moments will be a blur to you.

When you attain the level of mastery, anxiety will have become a thing of the past.

You neither will get inside your head struggling to find the next thing to say and how to counter what the girl will say.

Everything will happen in automation mode.

Flirting will come naturally rather than forced.

It is no different from a newbie who uses canned routines and canned lines, but makes the transition to so-called natural game as he advances in the field.

I raise this point because I was asked by a follower of mines through my Facebook page, Kenny Socialkenny Joseph”>Kenny Socialkenny Joseph:

“Would stuff like Approach Anxiety and anxiety in general, just take care of themselves and go away over time”?

The simple answer is YES!

As long as you stick with it [chatting up strangers], every wrinkle, kink and issue will iron itself out eventually.

This is why there exist the following profound and true saying in pickup: “Field experience is king”!

Staying at home pompously pontificating and theorizing over the internet as to how to get girls without actually being in the field, is the worst way to go about tackling your fears with women.

Merely having book knowledge of the right things, lines and mindsets, won’t get you any step closer to mastery than it would for someone who doesn’t have a theoretical clue as to how to get laid.

You have to get out there and talk to women!

Ok, so at another key juncture of the Sexy MILF pickup, while we sat on the bench, pretty much shoulder to shoulder, she made a subtle change in her body language which is 1 of the biggest IOI’s you would want from a girl.

She angled and turned herself towards me.

Subconsciously done, it is a woman’s way of saying to you that she’s sexually interested by giving you her breasts in other words…by facing you when she previously stood/sat facing ahead from you [shoulder to shoulder].

This is also a subtle and subconscious sign of preening.

Women do this all the time in the club.

Whenever they spot a guy whom they are sexually attracted to, they expose their physical attributes directly towards the guy to whom they are sexually attracted.

This is quite common in the animal kingdom.

With female primates, i.e. women, it is no difference.

At that very moment, I realized that she was hooked on the vibe and also sexually interested.

Long story short: I number closed her [exchanged #’s].

Me: “Anyway *****, I have to get running now and get back to work before my boss fires me. But I won’t feel to happy leaving here without any way to communicate with you”.

Sexy MILF: “Well I’m on Facebook but I don’t really use it”.

Me: “Well that obviously can’t work. I have a better idea instead. Gimme your number and we keep in touch that way”.

Sexy MILF: “You sure that’s a good idea since you have a girlfriend and I have someone”?

Me: “Hello! I’m good! It’s all good on my part so I have no worries. If you have to worry about your boyfriend going through your phone, then I understand”.

By doing/saying this, you put the girl on the spot by insinuating that she doesn’t have a handle on her relationship, hence she’ll feel a need to prove your assertions wrong.

Sexy MILF: “Well I don’t have Whatsapp or anything so we’ll have to text through the regular date plan”.

Me: “That’s fine. We’ll just do it the old-fashion way until. I’ll call you later in the week sometime”.

We exchanged #’s and shortly parted ways.

Quick tip: You always want to be the one to say bye first!

You want to be the one who ends the convo first!

The one who ends it first, leaves with the most power, most value and most leverage.

This is why women (subconscious) always seek to end the conversation before the guy does: from texting to phone conversation.

Women understand that the one who says bye first, has the most power.

Hence, I countered the MILF by saying that I had to run and get back to work.

Doing so will have communicated to the girl that you are someone of higher value than she is.

It also says that you aren’t just some loafer or vagrant who has all the time in the world to devote to 1 convo and 1 girl…as if you don’t have a life.

Therefore, whenever you end a conversation first, the girl instinctively feels to herself that you are worth pursuing…or worth allowing herself to be pursued by you.

On the flip side: you should never end a conversation prematurely as lots of guys are in the habit of doing.

The chat between the MILF and me lasted about 25-30 minutes…perhaps 40 minutes.

By ejecting too early [within 5 minutes or less], you would not have had sufficient time to build anything.

This is the problem as to why most men fail to get numbers. And if they do get numbers, they fail to get SOLID numbers where the girl will actually answer the phone whenever they call or text.

That is the problem that has been plaguing the pickup/seduction community for years since its inception.

Too many newbies and students of the game were and are still focused on getting these quick phone numbers as if it were a sprint to the finish line: “who can get the number in the faster time ever”!

It is all cool and gratifying to the ego to get a girl’s phone number in less than 30 seconds.

However, 95% of the time, that quick-phone number will have converted to naught.

With that being said, whenever you cold approach a girl, your focus should NOT be on getting a number quickly.

You should be focused on how to build a solid enough connection before parting ways.

The longer the set/interaction lasts, it is fairer to say that the greater the connections you will have created with the girl…unless your game, vibe and conversation suck shit…which is likely. πŸ˜‰

However, it is much better to err on the side of boring the girl to death via sleep-inducing conversation than to jump in fast, get a number fast and exist fast!

The longer you stay in conversation, the more you will have learned about women, what makes them tick, how to spot and read their body language, etc.

Another point on getting the phone number I would like to touch on, is token resistance.

I see lots of guys get discouraged and give up instantly whenever a girl plays dilly-dally with coughing up the digits.

Once again, because of a deficiency in social intelligence and female psychology, the average guy misses the point that no matter how much a girl is into him, she is socially conditioned to play somewhat coy and hard-to-get.

Hence, upon grabbing her phone number, always expect to be tested in some way:

“Why should I call you”?

“My boyfriend won’t like if another guy calls me”

“I can’t give out my number”

“I’m not sure if I can give you”

“Do you usually pick up lots of girls and get their numbers”?

The list of stock lines goes on as to the type of play-hard-to-get stuff you’ll hear from women when going for the number.

More times than not, she merely wants to see how bad you want it, and are you willing to persist for it or give up at the slightest sign of resistance…hence “Token Resistance”.

In closing, the mechanics of a high-percentage pickup consist of simple things to watch for as I outlines above.

Being relatively new to this field: you won’t catch everything!

Heck- you won’t even catch 5% of everything.

It’s a process. And everything will open up to you over time.

What makes this a great example of a perfect pickup, though it didn’t have the flash of a kiss close or KINO, was everything else.

Without a doubt I’ve had these random interactions of cold approaches which included makeouts, mutual groping and even Same Day Sex.

Barring that, those weren’t the best examples of a pickup, simply because the average Joe who’s seeking pick-up advice, isn’t realistically going to try to pull a make out anyway. Therefore, in keeping things basic, the closest thing to a perfect pickup that the average guy can learn from, is the format l laid out from this field report.

Ciao!

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