Proof That Girls Suck Shit At Game + Kenny’s Low Tolerance For It

Contrary to popular belief: Women have no game!

Well, to be clear on this, we in pickup have always known this. But guys on the outside as to my knowledge, seem to think that women are proficient at game.

Men might not verbalize this, but our actions in passively expecting women to proactively chase us, is a testament to the belief that guys in general are expecting women to game them.

Chasing isn’t quite “Game”.

Having a girl chase you through text by trying to have a conversation, isn’t at all Game!

Likewise with a guy who chases women over text.

“Game” is obviously a subtle art.

“Chasing” in the common sense of the word, is a senseless art.

Digressing.

At times, I fall into these mental lapses where texting women becomes a huge annoyance for me.

I call this 1 of the few side effects of being good with women.

You will have reached a point where upon every text received from a girl, somewhat irritates you in a strange way.

Your tolerance level for trying to make something happen with a girl would have been at a lowered state.

The other day, this sexy girl whom I’d picked up a while ago, hit me up on Facebook as depicted in the screenshot below.

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Evidently, my vibe was very dismissive.

However, that was an attempt at game from a woman’s point of view.

Literally!

That was her game!

Not only her, but almost every girl, when left to fend for herself in such a text conversation, will present shitty game and end up crashing and burning within 3 to 4 texts.

Sure I wasn’t up for a text engagement. But I never told her to stop texting me.

This was her chance to game me up and to strike up an interesting chat with some interesting question of hers.

She bombed!

All she was able to produce was

“Hello Ken.

Goodnight.

What’s up”?

Usually, as expected as the guy here, it would’ve been on me to make conversation and I would’ve been glad to do so…if it wasn’t for my jadedness as a result of this low-tolerance lapse that I’m presently experiencing…at least with this girl.

Now, make no mistakes about it: women suck at game because they weren’t designed to pursue men. So I’m definitely not expecting to be courted by any woman.

What I want to highlight apart from women having no game, is the desensitization of getting good with lots of women.

When you attain a certain plateau in game, the appeal of hot women will have lost a great amount of its savor.

It’s just like traveling.

If you’ve been to Hawaii quite a number of times, it loses its appeal than if it were the first time you been there.

On a related note: women can definitely sense when you’re high value, when you’ve been around the bloc and when you simply don’t have the time to entertain them.

The parting message here for you guys is to realize that it is always incumbent upon you to seduce the girl.

She won’t do it for you because she simply isn’t equipped that way in her evolutionary hardware.

This transcends all across the board.

Everything from logistics of a date to logistics of a pull, should be placed upon your shoulders as the man or else the plan won’t even leave the tarmac let alone take off.

A girl may very well like you. But to leave the gaming up to her, she will show her grave incompetence.

More Reasons Why You Should’nt Ask Girls Whether They’re Single Or Not

One of my favorite-nefarious pastimes as of late, is what I like to affectionately call: Exposing the Beta-Males.

You see, no matter how many times I scream and shout, rant and rave, preach and teach: guys still don’t get it.

What doesn’t guys get?

The fact that a girl doesn’t give a rat’s ass whether she’s single or taken. She having a boyfriend/man shouldn’t be of another guy’s concern if he’s looking to hook up with her.

Women get really annoyed whenever guys ask them their relationship status: single or taken?

The following screenshot depicts that annoyance from a female friend of mines on Facebook.

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On the surface, it seems to be an innocent and reasonable question a guy should ask a woman in whom he’s possibly interested.

However, that is just another case of guys using guy logics to try to interpret chic logics.

It just won’t work!

What seems normal and fair for a man, is likely to come off as weird, annoying and a turn off for a woman.

For a guy [and also logics would have it], it is reasonable to ask if a girl is single or taken.

For the girl on the receiving end of such a reasonable question: she interprets it as a matter of, “If you like me, why the hell would you care if I have a boyfriend or not”?

In a sense: women are right!

If you like a girl, why the hell should you care to even ask her if she has a boyfriend?

Why should the fact that she has a boyfriend deter you from proceeding to get to know her?

It shouldn’t!

Hence, that is the reason why girls will punish you by rejecting you once you begin to pry into her personal business of whom she’s fucking and whom she’s dating.

It is none of your business guys!

Women will fucking cheat!

I said that a gazillion times already.

Women with boyfriends will cheat on their boyfriends.

Then why ask?

Why continue to piss girls off by hitting them up online asking if they’re single!?

Take a look at my comment on the same status update.

Notice how the girl agrees with my take on such a matter?

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I can imagine all the Betas who might have hit the girl up about her relationship status, feeling all butt-hurt that I showed them up to the girl like clueless idiots. 😦 😦

At the end of the day: the girl will choose to hook up, not with the guy who genuinely cares to ask about her status, but the guy like myself who doesn’t give a shit about her status, therefore doesn’t ask.

The girl will volunteer than info on her own at some point during the chat.

You don’t have to fucking ask her!

Plus if you’d been following my writings, you would’ve accepted the reality on the ground which I’ve been preaching at nauseum: “All girls have boyfriends”!

Hence, to ask a sane and hot girl if she has a man, is akin to asking a physiologically normal girl if she has a vagina. 😯 😯

Hello!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All normal and sane-minded girls have a boyfriend or 2 for that matter.

Asking her the obvious [especially over the internet], will have ticked her off royally.

You have to remember guys; you aren’t the only dude hitting up the girl asking the same lame-generic ass questions.

Twenty other Betas have asked her those same questions…that same day!

How much you think a girl can take before voicing it and putting you guys on the spot like school kids?

Wake the hell up!

I’m sick and tired of having to shame my fellow man as if he were a wet-behind-the-ears lad who hasn’t gotten a clue as to the female mindset.

Asking a girl if she has a boyfriend, does NOT show how considerate, upright, ethical and respectable you are.

It sub-communicates to the girl that you’re a coward, an evolutionary weakling, a dodo, someone who’s risk-adverse and a guy who just doesn’t get it.

Now, why would she sleep with you, given the fact that she sees you in such a terrible light?

Exactly- she won’t!

She will fuck a guy like Kenny who doesn’t ask questions, but wisely makes his pitch while banking on the sale being made in the end.

A woman in general, won’t respect a man who operates as though he cares about her best interest.

As vulgarly powerful as that declaration sounds; I’ve proven this hand over fist on a daily basis.

The more you care about a woman’s interest(s), your chances of sleeping with her will have diminished.

Trying to be that Mr. Respectable Guy who wants to know from the gate whether the girl is single ot taken [in essence, looking out for her interest], will actually backfire on you.

Now, I’m not saying you can’t ask the girl if she’s single.

Just that you shouldn’t do it as your opener/ice-breaker.

In other words, if there’s a girl online whom you fancy [on Facebook for instance], the worst possible approach to take in order to get to know her or to make something big happen, is to ask her if she’s single or taken as your initial message or your follow-up message.

Always allow the girl to divulge that information on her own volition.

Chances are, and this is from my experience: 99.9% of the time, she will come clean within the initial conversation to tell you that she has someone.

Therefore, you asking makes no sense at all.

Whenever I pick up a girl, be it online or through cold approach on the streets, the furthest question on my mind to ask her is her relationship or marital status.

I frankly DGAF!

If it’s the girl I want: I go after her.

I won’t be that foolish as to create unnecessary obstacles for myself such as asking about a possible boyfriend or husband, which will only cause the girl to feel slutty and as though she’s doing something wrong…like cheating on her significant other.

Allow the girl to make her own decisions!

On a final and related note, there also seems to be a great portion of men out there who stridently believe that they will win some sort of brownie points if they only appear to be considerate.

These guys are effectively conjoined with the so-called Nice Guys, who in reality, are actually the biggest-deceptive scumbags of Earth.

They only appear to care about integrity and principle. But present them a real chance to fuck a girl who has a boyfriend, and watch them hop, skip and tumble to get their peckers into that awaiting vagina.

Hence, so-called nice guys and the moral crowd who say stuff like, “I respect a girl’s relationship and I wouldn’t try to sleep with a girl who’s taken because it’s just wrong”, are more often than not, just saying so in order to win points in the ethics basket in hopes that some woman will find pity on him, thus rewarding him for his outstanding moral code…by sleeping with him of course.

Not only do women see through their deceptive game like sparkling marbles in a glass jar against a black backdrop, but girls often reward them with the friend-zone and platonic-relationship status. 🙂

How’s that as a reward for being a self-righteous prick?

I just want to leave you with a last bit of insight on female psychology.

Women rarely ever give consideration and credence to men with moral and ethical positions on dating, sex and relationship.

In other words; your upright outlook on such matters won’t at all sway a girl in your favor, rather the other way.
The reality is, dating isn’t a field for the feint of heart.

It isn’t a pleasant arena for those men who harbor such beliefs as, “Women are innocent and adorable creatures”.

Dating in the 21st Century is a cold-fucking world!

Women are slicksters beyond the average guy’s comprehension.

It isn’t that women have game.

They have tricks.

A huge difference between the 2.

Stay tuned for the next post where I shed some light on girls having shitty game and what you as the guy should do in light of that.

Cheers to the weekend!

These Pick-Up Prankish Type Videos On Youtube Are Very Misleading For Men


Picking up girls should not be a sprint!

I came across this video on Youtube a day or so ago that literally made my stomach churn.

Not to mentioned the video is entitled: “How to actually pick up girls”.

In part, I blame those fuckers at Simple Pickup for facilitating the grounds for guys like these to get the impression that picking up girls is all about the pick-up line.

Now you have clowns upon clowns coming out the woodworks with these prankish type of pickup videos showcasing the use of pick-up lines as a way to pick up girls…which always fails.

As I mentioned in a recent video of mines: “Pickup lines can very much work”!

It isn’t the lines that get the girl, but with what you back up the lines.

The thing that these pranksters don’t understand, included the average guy who may go out trying pick-up lines, is that a pick-up line works great as an opener in order to open the girl. But that’s it!

You cannot use the pick-up line as your green light to go for the phone-number close.

If you watch the video above, you will have seen this same mistake repeatedly committed by the guy in the video.

After he throws the pickup line which works great as an opener/ice-breaker by making the girl laugh, he foolishly transitions right into, “Can I have your number”?

With such an idiotic approach, it gives the impression to the girl [and the audience], that the pick-up line was what the guy was banking on as the reason why the girl should give up her phone number.

A pretty stupid reason to expect a girl to give her contact info.

This is why 9 in 10 times, all of these guys fail to get numbers.

The girl will flat-out say, “Nah”.

Just check it out yourself.

Watch any one of those pickup type prank videos on Youtube, and you’ll see that 9 in 10 times, the guys fail to get the girl’s number…almost all the time.

Hence, the epic and continuous fail of these clowns, give off the impression that pick-up lines can’t and won’t work because they fail them 98% of the time.

Pick-up lines are awesome: though we in the pick-up community frown upon the use and idea of using cheesy pick-up lines in order to pick up girls.

Nevertheless, it behooves me at the rate in which these youtubers fail yet it still never dawns onto them that they should change approach/strategy.

Make no mistakes about it: these guys watch PUA videos religiously which is where they get the idea of pickup from in the first place. So it isn’t as though they don’t have a workable format or information in which to utilize for success [the PUA’s approach].

Dammit though! You don’t need any more evidence than what is already seen from these guys to realize that they are full of shit and that such videos serve no purpose but to mislead men into thinking that pick-up lines used in the manner in which they use them, is a winning strategy.

All evidence point to the contrary.

Pick-up lines are great ice-breakers. But that’s as far as they go.

You must have something, i.e. a verbal gambit, in which to transition and build attraction.

That is the fundamental problem with those youtubers who put out so-called pick-up videos.

They go from opener/ice-breaker/pick-up line, straight to, “Can I have your phone number”?

Those idiots attempt to close within 5 seconds literally! 😆 😆 😆

On top of that, the manner in which they try to close by going for the phone number, is even more ridiculous in that they make a fundamental mistake that every guy in pickup is privy to: “Never ‘ASK’ a girl for her phone number. You tell her to give it to you”!

All youtubers and pranksters ask/beg for phone numbers.

Why is it a terrible idea to ask a girl for her number?

“Asking” signifies low value and permission seeking.

Someone who asks is almost always in a subservient position while the one being asked, is simultaneously placed in the position of authority.

This is why you never ask a girl for her phone number.

Furthermore, “Asking” denotes a lack of confidence and surety in oneself and frame.

A confident guy doesn’t ask.

Why should he?

He instructs and leads.

The way in which you go for a girl’s phone number is to do/say anything which doesn’t come off as though you’re asking for something.

Me: “Anyway Tracy, I gotta get back to my friends. Nice to meet you you little brat. Here! Take my phone and put your number in so we can set something up at a later date”.

That is 1 way in which you can go for a phone number.

Simply take your phone and put it in the girl’s hand and tell her to input her digits.

How much more confident does this method appear to be opposed to going :”So…can I have your phone number”?

Hence, in theory, these youtubers make 3 fundamental errors when trying to chat up girls.

1.) They rely solely on the pick-up line

2.) They ask/beg for the phone number

3.) Their conversations are way too short and basically nonexistent

When picking up a random stranger off of cold approach, or anywhere else for that matter, you have to give her a reason to want to keep in touch with you [nonverbal reason that is].

If you open a girl with a classic pickup line then within 5 seconds beg for her phone number, what incentive does this girl has in sharing that info with you?

Why would she?

What have you given her that would make her desirous of keeping in touch?

Absolutely nothing!

Nada!

Zilch!

Zip!

La shay [for those who speak Arabic]!

This is why 98% of the times, youtubers fail to get numbers.

In the rare event that a girl does cough up her phone number [and this may happen from time to time because lots of girls don’t want to hurt your feelings, so they give their #], it will have been a fake #.

If she does give her real #, she won’t answer when you call.

Hypothetically, let’s say that you actually get 1000 numbers from going from pickup line directly into phone number. Nine hundred and ninety-nine of those 1000 phone numbers secured, would have been for naught.

In other words, you would’ve gotten 1000 phone numbers with only 1 of those who would actually talk to you by answering her phone.

Since the world doesn’t quite work in hypothesis, going out using pickup lines straight into begging for phone numbers, you will fail almost all the time.

The girl will say “No, you cannot have my number”.

As I said before, you have to give the girl a reason to want to stay in touch.

A handsome-physical appearance isn’t enough!

This is why you need conversation/dialogue before going for the girl’s contact information.

The faster you go for the girl’s phone number, the greater the chance that she will deny you it.

Hence, the longer you wait to go for the phone number, the greater the chances that you’ll actually get it.

The girl now has a valid reason to want to keep in touch after you would’ve chatted her up for 15 + minutes.

The longer the conversation goes, the more the girl gets to know a bit about you.

She gets to sense whether you have a personality, humor or if there’s any chemistry between the 2 of you.

Furthermore, she gets to see whether you’re some wacky lunatic of whom she should be avoid like the plague.

If your conversations are only lasting 20 seconds on average: how the fuck will the girl decide which side of the fence you are on: whether you’re a crazy loner or a cool guy she’d like to fuck someday?

With this lack of information, she will always decline to giving you the number.

If she does give you the # within 10-20 seconds, you can count on it that it will have been a fake #. If it were real, she will screen your calls to death until you get the point that she doesn’t want to talk to you.

Why Do Guys Rush For Phone Numbers?

On a final note, I recall the days of my newbie years in pickup: it was a fight to see how fast I can get a phone number.

Why was this?

The quicker I can get the number and get the heck out of there: the better off I would be…so we all thought.

This is the mindset of every guy who rushes for a phone number.

He’s in effect trying to get in there and get out as fast as possible before shit fucks up.

Well- I’m here to tell you the not-so-obvious: this is the wrong damn approach.

It not only speaks to your lack of confidence and competent, but it denotes your inability to verbally connect with a girl.

These are the main reasons why guys in general, and those youtubers and pranksters, rush for the girl’s phone number:

1.) They want to minimize any possibility of anything going wrong

2.) They aren’t sure of themselves

3.) They have no verbal game, hence they must get in and out fast before it leads to a conversation which they [the guys] cannot handle

At the core of it all, it is a ‘Lacking’ why guys go from opener/ice-breaker to phone number within 20 seconds.

In the grand scheme of things, youtubers who put out shitty content, are misleading guys into having the wrong idea of what picking up girls is.

To their credit, they aren’t the only ones who propagate this.

The average Joe on the street who may have the balls to approach women [be it so-called ‘Naturals’], also make those fundamental mistakes.

Ask the average guy on the street: “What advice can you give me in how and when I should get a girl’s #”?

He will say something among the lines of:

“Just step to the girl, introduce yourself, get her name then ask for her phone number”.

That’s it!

That takes no more than 10 seconds to execute in theory and reality.

Hence, the average guy on the street is also deluded about how to pick up girls.

No amount of meaningful dialogue and connection is even given consideration: Just in and out with lightning speed!

This sort of game doesn’t fucking work! And you don’t need me to tell you that.

Online: the same is the case.

Guys rush for phone numbers even as their openers/ice-breakers.

I see this shit all the time on Facebook! 😯

Some clown in the comment section would say to the girl on her status:

“Hey sexy lady. Can I get your number”?

The girl will of course flat-out say “Hell No”!

Therefore, this quick-lightning approach to getting girls numbers isn’t some rare occurrence.

It is actually the standardized approach yet the wrong approach.

If you want a solid phone number which leads somewhere: you must prolong the fucking interaction.

In the event that logistics don’t permit- the girl really has to go in a hurry because her bus is near- then and only then should you close fast by getting a quick number.

In such a case, it is even a 20% chance that the girl will be into you. But due to logistical constraints; you had to go for the quick number though your chances of getting the girl will have only been a dismal 20%.

As a last bit of advice, don’t watch these pickup videos online of pranksters and youtubers using pickup lines, and think to yourself for a minute that thus is the way to approach women.

You must have dialogue to back up the pick-up line or else you will fail.

The videos you should be watching are those of PUA’s such as my Vietnamese buddies out of Maryland, Phu and Cong of the Black Sheep Society.

Those guys are just 1 out of many dozens of solid pick-up/seduction outfits on the internet…myself included of course. 😉

Quit watching Simple Pickup shit and other channels of the likes!

Those dudes are clowns.

During my browsing, I came across a channel of a Mexican American PUA based on the West Coast, USA.

His game is rock solid also.

Peace!

Getting A Girl To Your Place Through Text

Ok guys, some super-advanced game which goes contrary to some staples in pickup.

Getting a girl to come to your place without having been on a date or anything of that nature, is not a walk in the park.

Furthermore, getting a girl to commit through text and to actually follow through, is also not an easy task.

It is for this reason why in pickup, it is advised that you try to set up the so-called date through the phone or face-to-face only, and not through text messaging.

That is sound advice without a doubt.

However, you can always take a shot in getting a girl to come to your place through text.

Before I proceed, let me make this clear about the dynamics here. I am not specifically referring to girls whom you would’ve already been well acquainted with, already slept with, already dated, etc.

I am highlighting prospects whom you never slept with, never dated, never been out with, possibly never met in person [such as girls met online] and girls whom you don’t know personally.

It isn’t outside the realm of possibility to get a girl to come to your place if she were someone whom you fucked on a prior occasion, or someone who has already been to your apartment/abode…though it would’ve still been challenging to a degree.

This article will highlight and break down and some strategic prerequisites in facilitating the path to getting the girl to commit to coming by your pad.

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Ok, for starters, let’s tackle the negative aspects: why doesn’t a girl usually jump on the idea of going to a guy’s place…especially if she doesn’t know him well?

What does she has to worry about?

Quite naturally: it’s a huge safety risk.

She can get raped, held captive and hacked to death [interestingly enough: women rarely ever logically take this into account].

Hence, there are great reasons for trepidation.

She has good reasons to not come to your place.

Over the phone or face-to-face, it is a tad bit easier to get a girl to say “yes” to stopping by your place.

Saying “yes” to your proposal isn’t the problem.

Having the girl actually follow through will be the tricky part.

Chances are: she won’t follow through.

However, in person or over the telephone, since there’s more social pressure upon the girl, she is likely to respond positively to coming by…though she will likely flake and not show up when the time comes.

Ok, so the thing is, after you will have picked the girl up, whether online, on the streets or wherever [and by “pickup”, I mean securing a phone number, Facebook contact, etc], you can now move to the next step of trying to get the girl to your place.

However, I have to warn you that attempting to get a girl over to your place by text, has it’s limitations and reaches.

This is not going to work with a girl who had previously rejected you, friend-zoned you and so forth.

Hence, it is best to operate from scratch with girls whom you’d just picked up.

Other exceptions are girls whom you might have picked up a while back, still have their phone numbers, but never really connected with by contacting them.

Be as it may, you want to start with a fresh girl, fresh set and fresh slate.

For instance, the chat log below is from a girl whom I’d picked up days ago [1 of about 2 dozen women].

Everything was fresh in that we recently met days ago.

Your chances of getting a stranger to come to your place is greater than getting someone whom you’re already acquainted with to come by.

I know this sounds counter-intuitive as fuck, given the fact that I mentioned safety issues as a reason for trepidation.

Anyway, so as you can see from the Whatsapp texts below [my texts in white], I was able to get this stranger whom I’d picked up days ago, to agree to come to my apartment and to actually follow through: by text.

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Therefore, you don’t have to known the girl for a lifetime (or at all) in order to get her to your pad.

As I said previously: it is much easier to get a girl to come over whom you don’t really know, than one who already knows you.

Read this article of mines: Familiarity kills attraction.

Be as it may, before attempting to pitch the idea of she coming to your place, standard pickup game still applies!

This isn’t a shortcut of any sort.

You still have to have text-game skills and the ability to attract a girl through text (though this is limited) in order to even think about convincing her to stop by your place.

If you don’t know the basics of text-game and how to get a girl invested and engaged via text, then you may want to check out the following posts of mines.

Hook Theory

Dos and donts of text game

Ok, after you would have built some sort of connection with the girl by text through normal text game whereas the girl is engaging, texts back and so forth, this is the framework that you actually want.

I repeat: the girl has to be responsive and engaging or else you have no shot in hell in getting her to commit to going by you.

You don’t want to actually make your suggestion on the 1st day of course.

I find that it is ideal to throw the pitch on the 3rd day of texting.

By no means does this mean to be engaged in texting back and forth for 3 whole days with this 1 girl.

I mean intermittently for the 3 days: a text here and there. A few minutes of texting over the course of 3 days will suffice in setting the stage…providing you’re doing it right [text game].

You don’t necessarily need to try to build rapport/comfort through text in order to get the girl to come by your place.

You just need to appear cool enough, sane enough, fun enough, funny enough, high value enough and non-needy.

This can all be achieved within 15 text messages or less…over the course of 3 or so days as I routinely do.

Ok, so the dialogue of your text messages doesn’t matter.

Just as long as you’re not talking to the girl about friend-zone shit or subjects that’ll land you in the dreaded friend-zone.

After you would’ve done enough to significantly get the girl invested, you can then get ready to make the proposal for her to come by your place.

How do you know if and when the girl is invested and engaged?

When she texts you first out of the blue with the customary:

“Sup”

“Hi”

“Hey”

That is all the indication you need to know whether a girl likes you or not and is invested: a simple 1-worder greeting via text.

You see the thing is: chicks have no fucking game!

Women are the absolute worst at game!

If you leave it up to a girl to seduce a guy over text, she will almost always fuck it up.

I’ll speak to this in a future article.

Ok, so once the girl initiates the texting, you now have all the leverage and grounds to suggest that she comes over to your pad.

How do you get a girl to initiate the texting?

If you had done everything right in the text-game department: building curiosity loops, etc, she will text you first…and bright and early in the morning too.

Now, it isn’t that you must have the girl text first in order to make your pitch.

However, getting her to initiate the texting is akin to having a 50 yard head-start advantage in a 100 yard race: it cannot hurt your chances to win but only improve them.

Ok, so on the 3rd day, after I noticed that this chick was totally into me, she had initiated the texting a day prior and so forth, I went on ahead to tell her that we should meet up.

“We” is very crucial here.

You always want to phrase the rendezvous as “We” and not “I”.

“I” and “Me” makes you seem somewhat try-hard and selfish.

Hence, instead of saying (through text): “I want to see you”. You want to say instead, “We should see each other”.

Always replace your “I’s and Me’s” with “We’s, Us and Ours”.

It gets rid of the ulterior-motive factor whenever someone mentions “I, I, I”: “I want, I need, I think”.

By making it “Us”, it shows the girl that you’re at least factoring in her.

Now, when I texted the girl saying, “we should meet up”.

Her reply was, “Ok, where”?

Sorry I don’t have the actual text log from whatsapp to support this.

When she asked “where”? This is where, when and how most guys go wrong in suggesting a date rather than the girl to come over.

The reality is, if the girl declines to come over on your offer, you can always fall back on a Plan B in suggesting a so-call date instead.

However, you can’t go from a date proposal, she refuses, to then try to get her to commit to coming to your place.

That is ass-backwards!

If she declines to go out for a cup of coffee with you, why the hell in the world would she accept going to your house?

She won’t!

Therefore, you want to shoot super high firstly, then work your way down with the less riskier option.

If she declines to come to your place, you can always suggest a date which she is likely to agree to since the risk and safety factors aren’t that grave.

Be as it may, she asks “where (should we meet up)”?

I asked her if she knew the directions to my area and apartments.

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I didn’t say “let’s meet at my place” at that point.

I slowly insinuated it by trying to see if she was familiar with my area in other words.

Doing so had planted the subtle seed in her mind that I meant for her to come by my apartment without me having to actually spell it out.

As a guideline for you, that is how you want to initiate it: by asking her if she knows where you live, how to get there and so forth.

The girl will have known the deal.

She isn’t stupid.

She knows that you want her at your place. But she also knows that due to societal judgment of women as whores, she has to be spoon-fed certain details and suggestions.

Anyway, she didn’t quite know the apartments in seaside [where I live part time], so this is where I told her that I would guide her…as in give her directions for her to get here.

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Now, I broke 1 of the cardinal sins of seduction by giving her a choice in the matter by putting a bit of responsibility on her…which could’ve backfired on me and resulted in buyer’s remorse and an unintended activation of her ASD [Anti-Slut Defense].

However, as a pick-up veteran, I am allowed to get away with breaking rules that newbies would’ve otherwise gotten fucked in attempting to do.

Ok, so what am I actually talking about here?

You never want to leave the decision-making up to the girl when it comes to logistical matters of a meet-up: such a date, time, place, venue, etc.

However, I made that mistake as you’ll see in the screenshot below [by essentially asking what time was good for her].

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As a rule of thumb: don’t ask her what time is best for her.

You set the time and date and get her to commit to it.

If she can’t make that time/hour, suggest another time/hour without actually asking her as I did.

As for time and timing: Always set up the meet-up to your place the same day or the next.

Never set things up on Monday for Wednesday.

The girl will not fucking remember…or she’ll pretend to forget.

Not only that, but as time goes by (hours and days), this leaves enough mental space for something to go wrong as in the girl having second thoughts after lying in bed and reflecting on her day.

You want to leave no room for her to backward rationalize why she should not go to your place.

This can only be achieved by making the plans for that same day.

Make the plans/suggestion at 12 PM for 6-8 PM…if you get what I mean.

If the girl is free in the AM’s and you are always: make the plans/suggestion at 8PM for 10-11 AM the next day.

Rapid planning leaves less time for the girl to come up with excuses.

That’s pretty much it guys.

It’s all about building attracting, getting the girl invested to chase you, then using that to your advantage by suggesting she come to your place without having to actually say it but to find out if she’s familiar with your area.

Remember: you don’t always have to settle for going on lame-traditional dates!

The reason you always felt that you had to go the traditional date-first route, is because you never actually tried the “come to my house” first strategy as I’d shared with you.

You’ll be amazed at how many girls are open to stopping by your place without going through the usual crap of dinner, date and movie for 3 months on end.

Just as much as you’d like to cut to the chase: women will like the same also.

If you do encounter resistance upon suggesting she stop by your pad- resistance in the form of “why do you want me to come by you”- always keep it simple and be smart in that you don’t say to her, “Come by so we can fuck”. Instead, “Come by so we can check out this movie”. Or, “Come by and help me cook”.

If you encounter further resistance to that: call it off for another day or 2!

If all fail, you are always at liberty to going the traditional route of a so-called date or something of that sort.

Ciao!

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