I didn’t know there was an ideal time of day to text a chick”!? 😯
Hey guys, a Christmas Eve article I decided to knock up for you at the last second.
“When is the best time to text a girl”?
One of the biggest concerns of women when it comes to giving guys their phone numbers, is the reality that they’re bound to be texted at all sorts of crazy hours…for no apparent reason but guys wanting to talk/text.
If a girl wanted another text-buddy for the sake of texting, she would simply reach out to a girlfriend to fill this void.
That’s a story for another time though.
Right now, I want to stick with the running theme, which is guys texting at any hour without executing foresight.
Now, if you’re texting a girl just for texting sake without any ulterior motive- then fine- text away!
However, if you intend to hook up or merely to meet up, you have to be more prudent about your timing and at what time of day you decide to shoot off that conversational starter by way of a text.
This is very subtle to say the least.
The average guy unfortunately, doesn’t realize that like everything else under the sun, texting has underlying rules that ought to be observed if one seeks to achieve a particular aim.
Texting Tips And Everything That Comes With It
As I’ve always hammered home over the years: women know what you’re up to!
Women were blessed with the uncanny gift of being able to see through men and our sneaky bullshit [whether you surmise that they’d learned this ability, it still doesn’t change the reality].
She knows that you’re not texting, “Sup”, just because you truly care about what she’s been up to.
For this subtle deception: she will punish you [the guy ] in various ways.
Part of this, and part of the reason why she’ll punish you for idiocy, is the non-ideal time that you choose to contact her.
Before I bring further clarity to this, I want to briefly recount an occurrence that took place a week ago…which is very common nevertheless.
I picked up a girl 1 evening at a junction while taking a spin on my Mountain bike.
She distinctively said to me:
“Please don’t call or text me at any funny hours”. I got these crazy guys who would text my phone at 3 AM when I have to get up for work”.
Being privy to this already, I said to the girl [building commonality through empathy]:
“Not to mention the crazies who call or text at the crack of dawn with the, “”Sup, good morning sweetie”” communique”.
Instantly, the girl knew that I was a man who gets it.
I understood the ineptitude of most clueless men who fail to exercise foresight before contacting a girl.
“Ok wise guy, so when should I text a girl whom I’m looking to meet up with or possibly to hook up with”?
The raw answer to that is that one should gauge a few things beforehand.
Before shooting off that text message, you should be asking yourself the subsequent questions:
1.) “What am I looking to achieve by shooting off this message”?
2.) “What time of the day is it”?
3.) “How will she likely receive my message(s)”?
If you’re at a loss to rationalize the above 3 questions; Then don’t text her!
You must be clear in your objective!
If you’re texting her for the fuck of it- then by all means- knock yourself out!
However, if your primary goal is to hook up with the recipient of your message(s), you have to be a bit more crafty and prudent about it.
Bearing this in mind: You should NOT be texting that girl in the AM, neither before 4 PM [unless trying to set up a rendezvous]!
You may want to read that piece of advise again just to ensure that it is well stamped into your brain.
Texting a girl in the AM [if it’s not about meeting up], sends the wrong message and sub-communicates to the girl that you just want to text.
I repeat: Texting a girl between the hours of 6 to 11 AM, indicates to the recipient [the girl] that you merely want to text.
Now, is this what you truly wish to communicate…that you’re texting her for texting sake?
Of course not!
Likewise with texting her between the hours of 12-5 PM.
Those are effectively daylight hours still.
Do you see the correlation here and the point that I’m actually getting at?
Firstly, texting women during the daylight hours [“Daylight” being the Achilles Heel] is counter-productive to hooking up.
“Daylight” isn’t synonymous with sex [quite the opposite].
“Hooking up” for the 1st. time, barely ever occurs during the daytime.
The greater percentage of hookups happens after the sun will have appeared to set in your part of the globe, i.e. the night time.
“Daytime” is synonymous with work, chores, obligations and anything which runs contrary to sex.
“Nighttime” is synonymous with reclining, romancing, hooking up…and fucking.
Bear those variable contrasts in mind and the following staples.
Day=’s no sex.
You should be well aware of this before shooting off those text messages…if your intention is sex.
With that being said, you want to text her after 5 PM (depended on how early the sun sets), or 6 PM.
To make this clear, I am not saying that it is impossible to text a girl during daylight hours to hook up at a later time or date.
Just that it is much more counter-productive to do so.
It’s essentially placing a mountain in your way then trying to scale it.
Therefore, always opt for the easier route, which is to text the girl at a time when she would have been more receptive (psychologically) to the suggestion and idea of sex.
This is effectively after sunset.
On the other side of the spectrum, you don’t want to be a clueless idiot texting the girl at 10 PM looking to hook up.
That would’ve been way too fucking late…unless the girl was the one who initiated contact via text!
Be as it may, the ideal time would have been from sunset to 9 PM.
To give-and-take, let’s say between the hours of 6 to 9; a 3-hour window.
You have 3 hours to try to get laid that same night by setting things up through text messages.
Anything before or after that 3-hour window opens and shuts, will have been counter-productive!
Now, it is very conceivably reasonable that you’re left to ponder, “How and why does Kenny come to this conclusion? Where are the evidence, facts and documented cases by the experts”?
To this I laugh. 😆 😆 🙂
I am the fucking expert buddy!
Don’t be fooled by the Converses, denim jeans and my non-bureaucratic getup.
Ok, let’s crunch some random figures just for the hell of it.
Over the last 4 years, it is without a shadow of a doubt that I must have secured well over 1,000 phone numbers from girls whom I’d picked up in every conceivable way possible: random-street approaches, supermarket, restaurant, nightclubs and bars, work, day-care centers, online, online-dating sites, Facebook, etc, etc, etc.
It is a well-known fact, and explicitly documented throughout this website, that I live and breath the art of picking up chicks from all walks of life.
This [my prowess and abilities] isn’t in question.
Thus, I have the track record to back up any claim I make on any topic of meeting women.
The law of average and estimation, is what I utilize in order to weigh and come to a cogent conclusion on any piece of information I disseminate.
Hence, I am the expert here with enough real-world experience to put MTV to shame. 😉
On average, texting a girl outside of the 3-hour window [6 to 9 PM] in hopes to hook up, will have yielded a dismal return on time invested [through texting].
I’ve proven this to myself hundreds of times…LITERALLY!
This is why I can say with competence that the best and optimal time to text a girl [in hopes of hooking up the same day or a later date], is between the hours of 6 and 9 o’clock PM.
Anything after 9, is pretty much a done deal…unless the girl initiates contact…which means she’s either bored or horny.
Anything before 6 PM, is equally damning, because the girl will have just assumed that you’re looking to text with no strings attached.
I’ve had my fair share of hooking up with hotties through text. And I can clearly say that 95% of those hookups, were established between the 6-9 PM window…5 PM depended on the Winter solstice and the sun setting earlier…so it’s a give and take between 5 and 6…but you get the point. ❓
In conclusion, I hope that you will have taken away the most meaningful piece of strategic advice towards texting to hooking up:
If you text a girl during daylight hours, she will assume that you’re just some bored guy who wants to text…which sadly is the case more often than not.
If you text her after dark, she will assume that you’re a guy who gets it, and wants to fuck.
Bear in mind those 2 positions before you shoot that text.
Now, which guy would you rather be?
The text-buddy or the guy who gets to hook up?
No-fucking brainer! 😉
Oh- before I wrap this up, I must quickly address another question that most guys will have had in concern to my text-game format, in that I advise you to only text after dark if looking to hook up.
The following question usually arises [if I were you- I would also ask]:
“Wouldn’t the girl I was texting, think that I was just texting her for sex, thereby judging me as a pervert whom she should avoid”?
The simple answer is NO..well Yes and No!
“No” in the sense that she will not avoid you under the guise that you want to hook up.
“Yes” in the sense that she will believe that you just want to hook up.
Moreover, I think it is due time that I share with you the piece of memo which society [inclusive of women] has been hiding from you since a little-naive lad.
“Girls Love Sex Too! And They Also Love The Idea Of Hooking Up”!
Don’t tell anyone I’d shared this piece of classified info with you! 😈 😉
Apart from the apparent humor here; chicks get it, and they very much are desirous of mingling with like-minded individuals who also get it- that sex isn’t a vile act from which we should shy away.
Hence, she is NOT going to punish you for trying to hook up with her [texting after dark].
If a girl stops talking to you, whether in person, over the telephone or text, chances are, it had nothing whatsoever to do with your sexual interests.
Girls don’t reject guys because guys want to shag them.
We’re all humans! And gals, being way smarter than boys, know this!
The sexes were meant to clash bodies through sex.
Therefore, NEVER should you continue to fall for the bullshit fake-out perpetuated by women, whenever they say such things as:
“I deleted him because he wanted sex”!
“I blocked him because he said he wanted to fuck me”!
“I hate men who think I’m some sorta sex object whom they can fuck at will”!
“I rejected him because he was forward”!
Don’t fall for it!
Those are just surface window-dressing excuses she uses to justify [to others] rejecting you in whichever way she does reject you [ignores you messages, etc].
If a girl claims that she no longer speaks to Joe Blow because Joe Blow wanted sex, then you can guarantee with all certainty, that she wanted a reason to not talk to Joe Blow in the 1st place, hence she used that line [his sexual interest] as an excuse to stop talking to Joe Blow.
Girls don’t reject guys because of their sexual interest!
They very well know that every sane guy who has a dick in his pants, wants to fuck them!
This isn’t news-flash people!
It is often times the opposite though.
What do I mean?
A girl will reject you and desist from communicating with you, because you’re not showing any sexual interest in her [sounds counter-intuitive].
Are you shocked!? 😯 😯
This is why you should always communicate your sexual interest EARLY to every woman whom you meet and interact with…if your intention is sex.
If a girl blocks you on Facebook or Whatsapp, or she refuses to reply to your texts, it has nothing whatsoever to do with your forwardness or sexualized comments.
Granted there are guys who drown themselves by sheer stupidity and a lack of calibration in going overboard. But those characters are still few and far between.
All in all, YES- the girl will know that SEX is your intent when contacting her at a specific hour [after dark].
To take it a step further; look at it this way.
If a girl rejects you early, in what you think was due to your sexual interest: better now [early] than later, don’t you think?
The vast majority of guys who don’t get rejected early, are usually buying time [unbeknown to them] until the girl finds an excuse to finally reject them; whether this be in the form of ignoring their messages or through downright verbalization such as “Leave me alone”!
Therefore, just because a girl tolerates you for 6 months by talking/texting [which is highly unlikely], does NOT at all indicate her liking for you!
It only means that she hasn’t found a semi-plausible reason to reject you yet…since you’re likely to have been walking on thin ice by not giving her a reason to reject you.
However, how would you feel that you’d invested 6 whole months worth of time into a particular girl, playing it safe, to then get rejected after 6 months of courting?
That is 6 months- half of a fucking year- down the drain! 😡
Hence, it is never a wise strategy to try to buy time by playing nice just to avoid being rejected.
You should aim for sex early.
If she rejects you early- fine! She was just going to waste your time anyway. Plus you had saved valuable time which you can now invest into something/someone else.
If she doesn’t react negatively to your sexual angles through text for instance, then it’s fair to assume that she’s somewhat down. But it’s just up to you [the guy] to play the game right from thenceforth.
Just to illustrate, in the week prior to Christmas’, I’d picked up a girl who works at a pizzaria here on island.
We exchanged numbers, and the following night, I texted her [abiding by my 6-9 PM method of texting to hook up].
My position as you would’ve guessed, was to meet up with her.
No waste of time asking lame rapport-building questions such as, “where were you born”?
Those questions- if asked- should be done in person after we would’ve met up.
Anyway, so my messaging to her [via Whatsapp] was crystal clear: “I want us to hang out”.
I didn’t have to tell her that I wanted to hook up.
The fact alone that I decided to contact her between 6 and 9 PM, was a clear enough indication that I wanted to hook up. So she knew the deal, though I phrased it as “we should hang out tomorrow evening”.
Remind you: this is the very day after we’d met in the pizzaria.
At the end of that same night [2nd. night], I’d deleted her phone number and moved on.
That was a classic example of the running theme here in the 2nd part of this article: I refuse to waste time on chicks who aren’t DTF during the same week.
Ok, to backtrack to the pizzaria girl, after a bit of texting, I let her know that I am not fond of texting [which is a bold-faced lie 😉 ] and I prefer we meet up and get acquainted in person.
She went into a 100 questions as to why we should meet up when we can text.
Red Fucking Flag!
This was all the information I needed to decide that she was only going to waste my time.
Hence, I shortly afterwards told her sayonara [goodbye] and deleted her phone number.
It’s been about 4 days [today is December 24th.] and she hasn’t since contacted me.
Therefore, my judgment-call was correct [she wasn’t about business].
Had she really been interested in getting to know each other, she wouldn’t raise the 100-questions frame battle, which is only an excuse for not wanting to meet up.
What would’ve been the plausibility of maintaining contact with such a girl for 3 months of un-ending texts?
You have to be willing to cut loses after spotting signs that a girl isn’t down [though you should be super mindful of not giving up too quickly].
It is better to get rejected or to reject the girl early, than late.
Texting a girl during her working hours [presuming it’s daylight hours] is akin to buying time while simultaneously wasting time.
Texting her after dark, is cutting to the chase [even without saying so] that you’re all about the business.
If she’s with the business of hooking up: she will respond positively.
If she doesn’t respond favorably: move along while it’s early and save yourself the headache.
I’ll leave you with an interesting video from Todd Valentine, on guys who hide their sexual interests from women [making a terrible mistake].
You’ll see how much this relates to texting girls also.