You Will Not Want Your Ex Back [How To Handle Being Dumped]

If I come across another blog post or twitter link of “How to win your ex back”, I swear I’m gonna take that fatal plunge on into the ocean and end it all in painful fashion.

Guys- there are too many fucking hot chicks out there to be pinning away after 1!

Tryna get your ex back is akin to dropping a quarter into a piggy-bank filled with quarters identical to the 1 you had, then trying to retrieve it when there are 100 more quarters just like it and even shinier.

Might be a fucked-up analogy to compare women to coins, but you get the point, right?

There is no such thing as a special girl among girls.

Either all women are special or none is. But there should be no 1 girl more precious than any other girl, that you think you should have to cry over her, kill over her or commit suicide over her.

The moment you begin to think that this girl is inherently more special than another, you’ll essentially be setting yourself up for huge disappointment if things happen to sour…as is the case with most relationships.

Now, breaking up with a girl or getting dumped isn’t easy to handle; especially if you’re the dumped.

We all know that.

My ex-girlfriend whom I’d written about in this post, had dumped me something ridiculous!

I mean, our splitting up was fucking epic!

You know it’s really fucked up when law enforcement and relatives get involved.

When she had dumped me, my suitcase was thrown out into the driveway. And on top of that; about an hour after tossing my stuff to the curb, she went out with 1 of the guys whom she was fucking behind my back.

That was fucking cold!

And to think that I was being faithful although I was a pickup artist who had the ability to meet and fuck other women…but I chose monogamy and it fucked me in the process.

So I had a pretty treacherous breakup some years ago.

She had cheated on me thrice (3 times), caught twice (with my own eyes in bed with another dude), and on top of that, kicked me out and dumped me like a piece of shit Beta-Male.

Now, would I be in my right fucking mind to ever desire to get back with such a BITCH who had treated me with scorn and disdain!?

I would’ve been crazy to browse the internet in search of an article that can advise me on how to get my ex back!

Sad part is; most men in that case would do anything to win back that ex.

It’s really ridiculous!

If a girl dumps you: fuck her!

The only exception to this is if it’s a case where you had dumped her un-justifiably, and after doing some soul searching about it; you acknowledged that you’d made a bad-judgment call.

However, to be the dumpee, crawling back to the dumper; you honestly deserve anything bad that will have come to you from thereon out.

I do admit that it’s easier said than done.

I’ve been there, so I empathize with any dumped guy who feels as though he cannot live without his girl (or ex).

Saying to the dumped: “Just suck it up and move on man”, is a crock of shit piece of advice that a guy who’s been dumped does not want to hear and will not take heed too readily.

It takes time to heal and to get back to one’s senses.

In my case, being that I was a Pick-Up Artist, it was easy for me to go out 2 weeks after my breakup and fuck some other chick in order to forget about my ex.

That was exactly the case by the way!

I was dumped, kicked out and living with an uncle, to fucking a fine-ass Jamaican girl and pulling 2 ONS (One-Night Stands) 2 weeks later.

Did I remember my ex?

What ex ๐Ÿ™‚ ?

Now, if you’re not a Pick-Up Artist and don’t subscribe to any school of Game; this won’t be happening for you since you’re not at liberty to go pussy-hunting as I was.

You’ll be reduced to relying on luck or being hooked up with a girl through family members…which isn’t the worst thing.

As a guy who senses that his relationship is on its last-shaky leg, and you happen to stumble upon this article, know that you’ve come to the right place.

Becoming a PUA, or learning seduction, will be the best choice you’d ever made as an adult.

Read: Become a PUA from scratch

Now, in my case, I don’t want to give the impression that I handled the breakup unscathed.

The following days, I felt ashamed as a man, stressed to the max, was summoned to the police precinct in relation to some property of my ex’s, my buddies made a laughingstock out of me…

On another occasion, I happen to bump into her and the new boy-toy hugged up at a bus stop heading to the movies [her little sister gave me the scoop ๐Ÿ™‚ ], which I then went berserk starting a huge-public confrontation so tumultuous that the cops were alerted by a passerby ๐Ÿ˜ฏ !

I wanted to kill!

I wanted to the kill the guy more than my ex, although he was merely an innocent subject in the twisted game.

Thanks to those Pickup Inner Game articles I’d read for nights on end, I was able to pick up the pieces within 2 weeks and got my cock wet again ๐Ÿ™‚ !

Remind you; I was the model boyfriend, which goes to show that a woman will never respect a man who sucks up to her and is (too) nice.

She will cheat on him, violate him, then dump him like a piece of disposable-shit paper.

It’s for this reason I published a recent episode of my PUA podcast show about how to not get dumped and putting your woman in check in the relationship.

She Will Only Want You Back When You Demonstrate That You Don’t Give A Fuck About Her

The underlying reason your ex will never get back with you at all [that’s if she’d dumped you] is because you haven’t shown her how much you don’t give a shit about her.

Sounds ass-backwards; I know!

With that, trying to devise ways of getting back your ex is a lost-fucking cause!

You are only digging the grave deeper…which you will have to lie in!

The only way to convince the girl who’d dumped you that she should get back with you is to treat her as though she fell off the frikkin” map…literally!

Once again- this is easier said than done (to execute).

Ok, back to my break-up story from 6 years ago.

So 2 weeks after being dumped, I pulled 2 One Night Stands (from the nightclub) and fucked another girl whom I’d only met 2 days prior.

I began to feel good again and desirable as a man! Not because I’d gotten validation from those women, just for record sake.

I got my mojo back quicker than expected.

I was tearing up the bars and nightclubs like nobody’s business!

Thoughts of my ex who’d dumped me 2 weeks prior faded away silently.

She wasn’t even an afterthought.

What she did, and with whom, wasn’t consuming me anymore, nor did I care, nor did I ponder whom she was fucking.

Facebook wasn’t really that popular then as 1 of our modes of communication, but we were friends on the HI5 social network, which I no longer stalked to see who was commenting on her profile.

Neither did I call her, text nor visit.

Before I’d gotten back into the groove after the breakup, I would call her 20 times per day indirectly begging her to give me another chance…although this bitch was the one who violated.

I would send her txts after txts asking about the guy she was with, etc.

However, that wasn’t the case 2 weeks later.

I’d learned the hard way that You have to make a woman burn in order that she learn, or she will continue to treat you like trash as long as you treat her like treasure.

Two and a half weeks of virtually ignoring her and moving on with my life, I got a message on Facebook in reference to a photo I’d posted [we both were new to FB at that time]:

Ex: “I see you enjoying yourself and forgot about me. I still exist you know”.

Not even expecting to hear from her, I ignored her photo comment and thought it must have been some sort of honest mix up.

Days later, I get a text on my Palm Treo:

“Sup babes. I know you hate me right now. What’s up”?

To be honest, since it was so long ago, I don’t recall if I’d replied or not, or what I’d even said if I did reply.

However I can recall a week or so of constant calling (by her).

Two months later since the breakup, we started talking again.

Just talk!

She said to me over the phone:

“Why don’t you want to get back with me”. You seem so happy since we broken up”.

I don’t remember what I replied with.

Fast forward some weeks, I decided that I wanted to fuck her for the last time.

I wanted a revenge fuck for being dumped while being an upright boyfriend.

Ok, I rented a hotel room, invited her over, she talked all that shit about wanting to get back, I listened and told her I wasn’t sure about that…then we fucked.

I ejaculated in her mouth and said to her verbatim [I remember as if it was yesterday]:

“Aaaaaaah, I’m getting ready to meet up with another chick at the club so…you’re gonna have to leave now ok”?

She protested, asked if she could stay until I return from the club…when all failed, she left bawling her guts out begging to get back together.

The Power Of Time And Choices

I mentioned this in a post a while ago that my ex and I are cool to this day.

The beauty about getting over an ex who had dumped you is that your feeling of animosity towards her will have vanished over time.

I hated my ex upwards of 9 months since our breakup, and wouldn’t care if she’d gotten struck by a train and perished.

I would’ve rejoiced, just as any other guy would in my case.

But the universal elements allow no space for mal-feelings as time passes.

Four months after our breakup, she found herself constantly stalking my online profiles, stalking my home, calling and texting me to death, leaving all kinds of “I love you” comments on my FB pictures…!

A complete reversal of roles from the way I was acting when she’d dumped me.

That is power!

And you can only attain this power by treating an ex as though she’s trash and doesn’t exist to you.

Trying to get back with her or wasting your time reading “How to win my ex back” articles, is purely shameful and degrading!

Not only should you not get back with a girl who’d broken up with you, but wasting your time trying to, will only empower her on every fucking level!

Sure my ex was super pretty with a slamming body: but so what!

Her attitude stunk like shit and her decision to dump me was even more stink!

Was I to reward such treatment with reconciliation?

Hell no!!!

There are other fish in the sea.

This fish [your ex] will not want you back until you start to fuck other women!

Read: The empty-restaurant effect and why women will only want you if you’re banging other women

As long as you keep in touch with her by any means; she will despise you for existing.

She Was Created To Desire Men Who Treat Her With Disregard

Overall- it was my fault!

She wasn’t a heartless bitch for dumping me and treating me like dirt.

I played the role of the Beta-Male nice guy who thought that nice was the way to go as far as a relationship goes.

But it’s a woman’s gender role to repel nice guys; particularly is she’s within her sexual prime.

She isn’t in control of that!

It’s in her nature to rid herself of men who are passive and weak, and instead chase after guys who are asshole-ish and dominant, who wouldn’t hesitate to walk out on her in a heartbeat.

So it isn’t her fault for dumping you; it’s your fault!

It was my fault and I’m wise enough to take responsibility!

I gave her all the reasons to dump me!

* Passive,

* Too nice,

* Non-confrontational,

* Apologetic,

* Too giving,

Any guy out there reading this article right now, and perhaps contemplating getting back with the dumper; please do Kenny a huge favor and slap yourself in the fucking face as hard as possible!

Wake up fool ๐Ÿ˜ฏ !

Is there a way to get your ex back?

Sure!

I’d outlined the format throughout this article.

The only way to get an ex back is to ignore her and treat her like shit as if she doesn’t exist.

Any love-guru writer who promises that he can help you get your ex back by advising that you talk to the ex, communicating with the ex and reach out to the ex; is a pile of marketing bullshit and he needs to be called out on it!

Again: The only way to get an ex back is to ignore her and treat her like shit as if she doesn’t exist

The funny thing is, after you will have gotten back on your feet in singledom and start to see other women, you won’t care to get your ex back…at all ๐Ÿ™‚ !

Just as I did, you will begin to weigh your options while lying in bed:

“I now have Karen, Jessica, Jamie, Anne….On the other hand; I have Julia the ex who had dumped me for another dude who treats her like shit, but now wants to get back with me. Sorry Julia, but I’ll pass”!

Hence the title: “You will not want your ex back” after meeting other women.

Lastly, check out this very great video by the PUA guru RSD Tyler: “Why breakup is good”.

“Wanting to get back with your ex is like a dirty high”.

Ciao!

Similar Content:

* The Breakup by Johnny Dzubak of the Art Of Charm

* Why a breakup is good by RSD Tyler

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  1. Great article!
    And what I observed about this,is this girls continue telling there ex how they still love them and the funny thing is that the fools buy it,thinking there’s still hope not knowing that she’s saying it in order not to feel guilty or to be perceive as a bad person

    If she loves you she will be with you simple.less if you really wronged her and all measures she took to improve the relationship failed
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    Letting go is much more easier than chasing a ghost,a mirage but most won’t do it till they crash and burn upon finding out that she’s already going out with another guy.SMDH

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    1. Great point! That was 1 of the points I wanted to hammer home was that a guy will only learn most times when he crash and burn. And it’s like chasing a mirage. And thinking there’s still hope is pointless.

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  2. Hi, I have a question. Would you apply these same terms to a woman wanting her ex back? If not, do you care to share some advice on that?

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    1. No! Definitely not! The thing is where most women go wrong is that they believe that what applies to men must to women and vice versa. Both sexes respond differently to various actions. The advice given in the article is strictly for men to utilize. Men do not respond (positively) to negative treatment from women. So for a girl(friend) to treat a guy as though he doesn’t exist or treat him with disregard: the guy will suddenly lose interest. But for a guy to do this with a girl or his girlfriend or his ex; she will respond positively…that is most women by the way.

      Sure a woman can ignore a guy and it will drive him nuts. But remember that women are attention seekers by nature. When she doesn’t get that attention from the guy she thinks she deserves it from, it’ll affect her more strongly than if it was a guy.

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  3. infinitymadness2,if she want him by her releasing her mistakes is a different thing,what SocialK is saying is for the boy friend to let go when he is been dumped.meaning don’t try winning her back because she dumped you for a reason,may be she fall for some one else without you knowing,cheating and so on…

    Chasing her will only hurt you more and you will end up losing you dignity.

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    1. thanks for your response…I guess i am going through my own situation and am wanting a real mans perspective on it…a bit complicated, I assume, without having any real details…

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    2. I do get the concept of not chasing after being dumped. I agree with your point on letting go being easier but not likely realistic. Reading this again (your comment and his) I assume my case isn’t too different in terms of the final outcome – thinking there is still hope is pointless ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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  4. Is a hard thing to do,we all admit that,but fetching for detail will only hurt you more because you won’t find any,if he want the relationship to work he will talk about what went wrong.

    But if a relationship just end suddenly without any major issues then there’s more to the story.

    Yeah,is good to have hope as long as you don’t act upon it.

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    1. That’s true. Fetching for details is actually the #1 cause of not being able to move on. Great point Dosman. I’ve been there bro’. Fetching for answers and trying to make sense of why you were dump, what you did wrong is the wrong way to go and will only suck you deeper into the abyss.

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    1. As always Dos’. But you raised a solid point that made me reflect just now on my past situation. The more answers I chased after, the more I started to think of my ex and it drove me crazy, thinking about who she’s with, who’s screwing her, if she’s laughing with another guy more than she did with me…

      The video by RSD Tyler that I posted at the bottom of the article is solid! Good inner game stuff for getting back in state after breakup.

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    2. Guys, my thing is, I’m looking at this as a girl who’s in love. So i tend to find a way around all of his sneakiness or bad behavior. I have asked him a million times, WHY. Why did he cheat. What is wrong with me. What am I missing. I never get an answer…and even when he does respond I rarely believe him…
      I just wonder if I am fighting a losing battle and should just move on? ๐Ÿ˜ฆ ๐Ÿ˜ฆ ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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  5. http://infinitymadness2.wordpress.com/2013/10/25/intro-for-all-my-new-subs/
    Here is an intro to me, which will link you to my situation. It’s a bit long but to make it short, my husband cheated. I found out, over the past 4 or so months we’ve done the same thing repeatedly; I’ve played tough and ignored him, he came around, I let him back but cannot forgive OR forget – so the cheating/woman is constantly thrown at him. In time (days) he has up and disappeared, phone off, lame excuse, etc. Rewind and repeat.
    I do love him and want to be with him but my fear of him still seeing this woman cannot let me let it go.
    It’s been almost half a year now and I’m wondering if I just need to seriously let go of the love and hope I have left in my heart…

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    1. Well thing is as I’d said in the article, it isn’t easy to just move on. So I’m not here telling you to just move on. It’s a process as it was with me. To say just move on is the worst idea. But, since you’re not looking to move on but reconcile, I still do understand. I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years. I fought to work it out in spite of tough times. So contrary to popular belief; I am for working things out, but that’s in the case where you were dumped for a good reason or if you were the dumper.

      I’d cheated on my current GF about 2 years ago and actually impregnated the other girl. My gf understands my lifestyle but she was just angry that it’d gone so far as pregnancy. But she dumped me for that. I was wrong! In that case, I manned up and sought to make things up and got back with her.

      Now, if I was dumped over nothing; then getting back would be stupid.

      Your case boils down to not knowing how men operate on a primal level.

      Men were created to have variety. Simple!

      It’s unnatural for a man to be with 1 woman. Sure he can do it, and there are loads of monogamous faithful men, but it isn’t natural for us. Society force this on us. But it’s ingrained in every man to sleep with numerous women.

      As a woman, you aren’t trying to hear this nor accept it. I understand. But trying to tame a man in this way will not be easy. You tried, it worked, he came back but strayed again.

      Why does a man stray? As I said; it’s in his nature, so he doesn’t feel he’s doing wrong.

      You’ve ignored him and all that and it worked but he reverted to cheating.

      What other strategy have you tried?

      How about doing the opposite which is to just accept that he’s cheating? I mean because if you’re fussing about it to no avail, why not stop fussing and let it be and see how it goes? That can actually work.

      The more you show someone that his or her action affects you, the more they have the tendency to take advantage and have that power over you.

      When you act disaffected and non-reactive to a degree, it’ll make him wonder, “Wait, why isn’t my wife making a scene over my phone being off, me coming home late, etc. Doesn’t she love me anymore? Perhaps she has another man on the side”.

      That is the way to make a man behave and get in line: you allow to cheat in the sense that you don’t make it affect you, it will then nag at him as to why you no longer care, then he will inquire, he will begin to chase, then he will stop cheating.

      Also, as much as a man was biologically programmed to cheat, there’s only so much cheating he can do before he gets jaded and tired with that lifestyle of having to hide, sneak, turn phone off, fabricate alibis, etc.

      So just as every other girl does in your case; you’re going about it wrong by fussing and stuff. Sure it won’t be easy to take the route I advise, but what do you have to lose? You know he has cheated or is cheating, so by you just dropping the arguments, it cannot get any worse but only better.

      BTW, I’ll blog about this tomorrow or so.

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      1. Wow…you have literally taken my breath away…I understand what you are saying, and agree to some extent but I don’t have the strength to do that. How long will it take? A month? A year? I will be in a straitjacket by then.
        I appreciate your words, and I will be looking for your blog about this. I have read other pieces (i say pieces because you’re that awesome) you’ve written before and I knew from the first time I saw your blog that I would have this conversation with you, someday. I don’t think your response is what I expected though and I truly respect you for coming so open and clean.
        I will go home tonight and meditate. Sit alone and think about your words. I will think about whether this is a reality I could live with. In my heart of hearts, I want to be with this man, but I don’t think i can accept him sleeping with the woman I saw him with.
        It is true that what you don’t know won’t hurt you, and my only real wish in all this is that he would’ve loved me enough to protect ME from this.

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        1. I hear you. I guess it’s fate we meet up here :).

          Ok, so I didn’t say it would be easy. But you already suspect he’s cheating. What difference would it make to just accept that reality and live with it until he gets back to his senses?

          The only other 2 options would be to

          1.) Leave him.

          2.) Cheat on him.

          Leaving him isn’t an option you want to use according to you.

          You don’t have cheat on him but you can start to talk to other guys.

          How about that? Have you been talking to other men?

          You may see it as playing games, but it’s more like withdrawing your affection for him and spending your time doing something else, like talking to someone else.

          Because if you’re trying to comfort him in order to turn things around; it won’t work. You have to withdraw your feelings and affection.

          So now, there are 3 options:

          1.) Dump him and hope he runs back

          2.) Accept the reality, let him cheat until he can’t no more

          3.) Flirt with another guy in order to get him jealous and straighten up

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      2. hie man need your help .I cheated and got caught she dumped n took me back after 2weeks but the problem she dumped me again after being together like 6month coz on sunday she wanted me n had to go sort some business she got mad.Saying u distant I jus cam from holiday bla bla bla n she starting to have this feeling of me cheating its weird coz like last week she was planning a holiday for us for our anniversary .So as she was talking I tried to say to her I was sory if I made her feel that way coz of my business that’s wen she said we shud call it day n I got kicked out .I haven’t spoken to her since do you think she come to her sense or she got tired of feeling that im cheatin wen im not or maybe theys someone else

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        1. There could be someone else but I wouldn’t jump so far. I think it’s a matter of her losing respect for you in other areas. Perhaps you come off as too apologetic over things and she’s tired of it. Perhaps you slacked off in other areas. A woman will rarely ever dump a guy because of cheating suspicions.
          The best thing for you to do is just give her a break…as in allow her to feel some pain that she actually kicked you out. She will regret it. But you have to allow her to feel this pain by NOT begging for her to take you back in

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    2. Well,what you are feeling is natural, the only options is to forgive and never bring it up or to let go and move on.

      But I had rather advice you to try and work things out,talk to him when he is in a good mood,you bringing his cheating in an argument will only push him away because of guilt

      @SocialK, I think why men cheat all boils down to principles and believes and for your case your girl knows you’re social.

      The problem here is that she can’t trust him which is normal after being betrayed.so is either to forgive or to forget..

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      1. But what do you do when you can’t do either? ๐Ÿ˜ฆ I soooo badly wish I could do one or the other and live with it but it seems I can’t keep on either side for too long.

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        1. Lol you’re welcome bro
          going through one of your article right now

          “Will power, the power of belief and that you were
          predestined to fuck the girl you
          desire!!”

          I can’t help but laugh at the concept:willing your way into a girls vagina.youre not gonna kill me lol

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        2. thanks to both of you! You guys have given me a perspective I hadn’t considered or would’ve imagined.
          I will focus on me and time.

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          1. And please take it easy. Don’t rush anything nor any decisions and actions. Just take it easy. From my experience (currently), the more I tried to rush an action or implement a new strategy, the faster it crumbles.

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  6. Kenny man you’re defending a woman as if she has a guy’s best interest @ heart. Why would you advice a girl on how to fuck over her husband bro? Rationalize that. #Just Saying.

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  7. What advicse do you have for my case. And I found your link on a yahoo answers post that was voted best answers by the poster so i u can give me some advise.

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  8. ok i had a falling out with my girl of 6 months yesterday she didnt like what i did over something. i didnt do any thing bad or cheat since i don’t even have other chics to cheat with if I wanted to. it was very petty on her part and she thinking of breaking for that. any advice?

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  9. I’ve only been dumped once, and at first, I wanted to win him back, but as soon as I realized I needed to ignore him for being so stupid, he came crawling back begging me! So I believe you never go chasing someone. If they want you, they will prove it… Where do these people come from who waste their time begging for exes??

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    1. Tiff the marriage expert. Thanks for chiming in with some valuable piece of information :). Overall, ignoring the other is the most powerful tool that can be used. Call it turning a blind eye if you want. Just that ignoring a woman usually affects her more deeply than it would a man since by nature women are more sensitive and emotional.

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      1. hey man,i just got dumped by my girl for another dude,here’s the story,before she met me she was in a relationship with that guy n they had issues n they broke up n she got close to me and we ended up being together,n she was “just friends” with him as she put it .So after a couple of months they got back! n she only told me about it when i went to her place for a surprise visit n he opened the door!she cried n stuff n said she was in love wit him n all n she didnt wanna hurt me since i was so nice to her n so she was just being nice to me all this dasys,i was shocked n hurt and i left the place without saying a word,n she kept talking to me almost everyday even after dumping me n she wud fight with me if i ignored her calls!and just a month later they broke up again..and she got close to me and this time she promised she’ll stay with me “forever” and that guy disappeared for like 3 months or so, even though i knew she was texting him occasionally he never replied i never asked her why she’s texting him coz i was busy “trusting” her.One day she comes up n says she needs a “break” for herself to make her mind free n shit and i asked if somethings wrong she convinced me that she loves me n its just a casual break it’ll be for 2 weeks,no calls no texts n i agreed!…3 weeks later…Boom she’s back with him again!!n she says she has no idea wat and how it happened!! i mean wtf!! she keeps saying sorry n shit.M shattered man she promised me so much up to a point of marriage!!!and she did this to me…eventhough i love her m ignoring her texts n calls…part of me wants her back n part me says move on…wats the best thing to do bro?

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        1. Well, you know the right answer brah, you’re a back up, a plan B, you can’t even last a year with her what make you think you’ll last in marriage? She loves him more, and there’s nothing you can do about it; its the matter of the heart. Just let go, she’s not worth the trouble and cut all contact with her; it will help you recover faster. And I hope u reed this article and the comments.

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          1. Thanks bro…been reading the articles n posts…i guess girls are naturally attracted to assholes who treat them like shit…they don’t care abt a guy who does all the possible nice things to them…m just sad that i got played n used…its shocking how some ppl change so quickly! i haven’t replied to any of her texts

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  10. MY HEART IS FULL OF JOY I GIVE THANKS TO GOD ALMIGHTY AND DR ANU HE SENT TO MAKE SMILE ON MY FACE. I AM JASMINE FROM U.S COUNTRY I GOT MARRIED FOR 11 YEARS LIVING HAPPILY WITH MY HUSBAND WITH 2KIDS BUT OF RESENT MY HUSBAND BEHAVIOR WAS CHANGE FOR BEEN DOING WHAT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND ALL MY THOUGHT WAS BECAUSE I DON’T HAVE MALE CHILD FOR HIM, WAS MAKING HIM TO BE PERFORMING STRANGE BEHAVIOR HE DROVE ME OUT OF HIS HOUSE SAYING THAT I CAN`T LIVE WITH HIM ANY MORE OVER 6 MONTHS . NOT KNOWING THAT THERE WAS A SPIRITUAL PROBLEM CAME UP IN MY MATRIMONIAL HOME THE SAME SPIRITUAL PROBLEM MAKE ME NOT TO HAVE A MALE CHILD FOR MY HUSBAND AND WANTED TO DESTROY MY FAMILY. ON A VERY FAITHFUL DAY I WAS READING ON BLOGGER AND I SAW A LOT OF TESTIMONY ABOUT DR ANU ON HOW HE WIPE OUT SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS AND RESTORE BROKEN MARRIAGE. AND I COPY THE EMAIL ON INTERNET AND EMAIL HIM HE ONLY ASK ME & MY HUSBAND DETAILS AFTER THAT ALL HE PROMISE WAS, MY HUSBAND WILL CALL ME BACK HOME. 2DAYS AFTER ALL DR SAID CAME TO PASS MY HUSBAND CALL ME BACK HOME WITH SMILING FACE I WAS SO SURPRISE, NOW MY HEART IS FULL OF JOY DR ANU RESTORE MY FAMILY NOW! WILL LOVE EACH OTHER MORE THAN EVER BEFORE. YOU OUT THERE YOU MITE ALSO NEED A HELP OR YOU ARE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE IN YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME ALSO GET TO CONTACT HIM HIS EMAIL. anuspiritualhome@gmail.com

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  11. MY HEART IS FULL OF JOY I GIVE THANKS TO GOD ALMIGHTY AND DR ANU HE SENT TO MAKE SMILE ON MY FACE. I AM JASMINE FROM U.S COUNTRY I GOT MARRIED FOR 11 YEARS LIVING HAPPILY WITH MY HUSBAND, WITH 2KIDS BUT OF RESENT MY HUSBAND BEHAVIOR WAS CHANGE DOING WHAT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND ALL MY THOUGHT WAS BECAUSE I DON’T HAVE MALE CHILD FOR HIM, WAS MAKING HIM TO BE PERFORMING STRANGE BEHAVIOR BECAUSE WE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT LONG TIME AGO, HE DROVE ME OUT OF HIS HOUSE SAYING THAT I CAN`T LIVE WITH HIM ANY MORE OVER 6 MONTHS . NOT KNOWING THAT THERE WAS A SPIRITUAL PROBLEM CAME UP IN MY MATRIMONIAL HOME THE SAME SPIRITUAL PROBLEM MAKE ME NOT TO HAVE A MALE CHILD FOR MY HUSBAND AND WANTED TO DESTROY MY FAMILY. ON A VERY FAITHFUL DAY I WAS READING ON BLOGGER AND I SAW A LOT OF TESTIMONY ABOUT DR ANU ON HOW HE WIPE OUT SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS AND RESTORE BROKEN MARRIAGE. AND I COPY THE EMAIL ON INTERNET AND EMAIL HIM HE ONLY ASK ME & MY HUSBAND DETAILS AFTER THAT ALL HE PROMISE WAS, MY HUSBAND WILL CALL ME BACK HOME. 2DAYS AFTER ALL DR SAID CAME TO PASS MY HUSBAND CALL ME BACK HOME WITH SMILING FACE I WAS SO SURPRISE, NOW MY HEART IS FULL OF JOY DR ANU RESTORE MY FAMILY NOW! WILL LOVE EACH OTHER MORE THAN EVER BEFORE. YOU OUT THERE YOU MITE ALSO NEED A HELP OR YOU ARE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE IN YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME ALSO GET TO CONTACT HIM HIS EMAIL. anuspiritualhome@gmail.com

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  12. Kenny, My girlfriend of 10 months just out of the blue said she couldn’t do it anymore and wasn’t happy. We met in school and had to transition to LDR for the summer. We literally just got back from the beach and things were fine, she was saying she loved me up until the day she said all of that. I haven’t spoken to her in a week but I do want her back, what do I do?

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    1. Hey Chris, you question is very timely and it seems like you were brought here for a reason. I will publish an article later in the evening which is entitled, “How to make your girlfriend jealous and make her chase you to get back together”. The tips mostly involve Facebook, as in making her jealous through social media so that she chases you.

      I don’t advocate getting back with a girl who unfairly breaks up. But every guy has their own path. So that article will address that concern. This is a very common occurrence which you’re facing.

      I will e-mail you the link to the article when I publish it in about an hour.

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      1. Yes I do, and I have been looking for places for advice everyday and found this one just today. I’ve been posting photos of myself having fun, or out with people, and more than once with attractive women. No one, not even her brother (or any of my exes I asked for advice from) understand her reasoning. She went from being in love with me to not, in what felt like overnight.

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        1. Well actually, you did 1 of the tips which I advocate which is to post fun pics and so forth. Women usually go into these phases. Don’t take it personal. But you do have to punish her to learn a lesson or she’ll continue to take you for granted. Plus everything should be strategic in getting her back. You obviously understand that it take strategy and not tears.

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          1. I do, I’ve been trying my best. The only form of communication at this point will be a gift I sent to her family made by mother. Long story short, her grandfather is very ill and my mother (a rather spiritual woman) made a prayer shawl for him. I sent the gift with a note to her family, not at all addressing her in any way that should arrive within the next day. She was aware that my mother was making this gift but I doubt she knows Im still sending it (I keep my word on such things) after the fact she dumped me.

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          2. But otherwise to that I made it clear I wouldn’t contact her. I’m somewhat expecting a response but I’m not sure how things will be right now. Pins she makes and what not on social media are all over the place so its rather confusing.

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  13. What if she dumps you because you over alpha’d the whole situation, and she’s convinced you will cheat on her/ she doesn’t trust you?

    My gf had been showing loads of signs of interest. Buys me more things than I buy her, comes to my place far more than I go to hers, gives me sex whenever I want it. Admits I’m easily the best lay she’s had (all her previous boyfriends were Asian beta’s so I believe her). But she has told me since we’ve known each other that she doesn’t like my playerish vibes, and she knows im very popular with the other local girls (im foreign in her country) and she doesn’t like that other chicks dig me. And she came to me last night and said that she constantly feels jealous when I go out with buddies, and is convinced im gonna fuck another girl at some point, so its over. I think she sees me as untameable and unattainable. Shame cus I can be a good boy for the right girl!

    What do you make of this Kenny? Is it worth trying to get her back with some beta techniques to balance out the over alpha-ing?

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    1. A woman will not dump a guy because he’s over alpha nor because she’s convinced he’ll cheat.

      If she does uses that as an excuses, it’s just that- an excuse for the real reason.

      Also, it’s a woman’s gender role to try to tame a man. That’s what she lives for, so that is no reason to dump a guy. There’s something going on on her part that she isn’t telling you.

      In a way though, you have to learn to soften up at specific times.

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  14. Me and my ex broke up 7 months ago since she became really close with another guy and started telling me how she doesn’t feel anything to me.
    Being my first relationship and a long one (4 years) I took is very hard, broke up with her and told her to NEVER contact me ever again. She started dating that other guy right away (of course) and I was left with a big dry thumb up my ass.
    Few months later I got laid a couple of times, started getting in shape and met my new girlfriend, fast-forward to yesterday I got a text from my ex “I cheated on you twice. I had to say it to clear my heart. Bye.”
    I deleted her message and blocked her, she however most likely saw the picture of me and my new gorgeous girl which led her to go nuts…
    I do feel emasculated due to the fact that I got cheated on, TWICE without even noticing it. I might need to check myself for STDs since we weren’t using the rubber. She might also be lying and trying to get my attention (her hamster wheel is rolling). I am both damaged and fascinated by her behavior.
    What do you think, Kenny?

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    1. Great job CVF! I love to hear success stories like these. Usually, guys who get cheated on and dump, hardly ever recover that soon or at all. They usually regress in all ways.

      You did the right thing in ignoring her text for help.

      What happen I believe is she did see some pics or heard somehow that you’re dating someone.

      Now, she realizes what a mistake it was to go with the other guy because he’s probably cheated on her or treats her like trash or something. Now she wants to get back with you. So this’ what it’s all about on her end.

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  15. CVF, you handled it well, like a grown man suppose to. I don’t know if you’re looking for a confirmation or something to hang on. But most girls do this to get attention or to hurt you, especially when there current relationship starts to deteriorate.

    What she said is not important right now, regardless of it being true or not, just focus on what you have now.

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  16. Hi Guys,

    I need some serious help. I am going to keep it short. I was in a relationship with a divorced man for the past two years. He has a 10 year old kid. We had a great relationship where I gave him a lot of love. He kept insisting that I get married to him since past 2 years. I told him I am ready to get married to him, its just that we need to get our finances straight after which we can get married right away. Just last month he suddenly says he wants to break up with me because he wants to marry this other girl he met a few days back. He even got engaged to her in 3 weeks. I don’t know whats happening. How do I make him beg me back. I did plead to him for 3-4 days to come back to me but he did not relent. But then i got to know he is engaged and i stopped calling. Its been a week I dint call him and i dont intend to. How do i make him beg me back? I need some serious advice.

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  17. Hey, I really need some help coping with my recent breakup. Excellent article by the way.

    My ex and I were going out for 6 months. Everything was awesome. Then one day she pretty much dumped me over the fact she is moving away indefinitely to Europe next year. I was absolutely gutted because following that she sent the coldest, most hurtful shit to me when discussing the breakup, just unwarranted cruelty on her behalf. Then i find her back on Tinder (she popped up) and adding dudes to her FB. She also deleted all the pictures of us. I blocked her and went no contact for a week but after seeing the Tinder thing I blew up and sent her an angry message which led to a fight and, man it’s all fucked up. I went full beta during those messages, even after I was doing the NC thing so well.

    Any advice on to how to regain my dignity and overcome going full beta during the breakup?

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  18. @socialkenny – I know this is an older post but I absolutely LOVED it. I am always interested and fascinated by men’s opinions. You seem like a straight-up man and I respect your honesty. As a woman, I have to admit you are 100% right about us – even though I wish you weren’t! I do have a problem and I was wondering if you had any insight? I was dating a man for a few weeks. We had insane chemistry, talked numerous times a day, and laughed all the time. We just clicked. I am busy and so he pursued me 100%. He also told me I am the first woman he has emotionally connected with since his divorce 3 years ago. Neither of us have kids, and both of us are looking for a LTR. Anyway, one night he took me out for dinner and made a few pretty innocent comments that I took offense to. For example, he mentioned that he usually dates dark haired girls (I’m a blonde). Anyway, I took offense to a few things he said that I know weren’t meant to be hurtful (Maybe I was tired? who knows?) Anyway when he texted me as usual after our date that night I got a little feisty. I told him that he made me feel bad about myself related to his (pretty innocent) comments, that I’d had an ex in the past who tried to cut me down to size so I wouldn’t try to date other men, and I then told him that I wasn’t sure about having a relationship with him after all. Well. This was stuff he had never heard from me (Miss Self Confident) before. He apologized, he stated it was never his intention to make me feel that way, etc. He insisted that this whole thing was making him really upset. I suggested we just say goodnight for now and figure things out later. The next morning, I realized I’d been acting dumb and I texted him. No response. I texted him 3 more times that day. No response. Two days later I offered a genuine apology and explanation. Again, no response. So. Here we are almost 3 weeks later and I have heard NOTHING from him. However, I keep seeing him online and he is working the dating site where we met like a full-time job. Given the amazing connection we had, I don’t want to believe that it’s really over over one dumb misunderstanding. Do you have any advice that might help me out?

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  19. Hi Confuse!

    “….that Iโ€™d had an ex in the past who tried to cut me down to size so I wouldnโ€™t try to date other men, and I then told him that I wasnโ€™t sure about having a relationship with him after all.”

    If a woman compare me to her ex, and also say she wasn’t sure about us at this early stage in our relationship. I will see it as a Red flag and also walk

    I don’t think there’s anything you can do about this, but to try and move on, if he changes his mind Good. The way you reacted and the ‘ I wasn’t sure about us’ Scared him; being that he’s looking for a LTR

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  20. Hey mate I liked thisblogpost alot. I have a question, I got dumped by my ex a year ago and I did most things wrong and every time i backed off she came back but I was too eager and my beta self took over. I asked her out 2 months ago after she approached me at the gym she flaked and is now basically ignoring me. I agree with everything said on this post and its time for me to man up for once and move on (better late than never I guess).

    But what im wondering here, my ex lives close to me just a few blocks away and I know shes seeing another guy now. I dont care I have been hooking up with other girls but what im wondering is how I should act when we meet eachother in real life, at the supermarket, gym etc should I just blank ignore here not even say hi? Honestly my natural instinct is to just cut her out completely and blank her, shes been treating me like a doormat and she has absolutely no respect left and I know its my own fault but as this point I just want to move on. Obviously its socially wrong and I might look bitter by not even saying hi, but is it OK to act this way? If we pass eachother on the street to just look at her and walk past and not say anything or am I being bitter?

    Thanks

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    1. Here’s the thing Ken: with so much time having passed in your situation, you can afford to still pursue her even just to become fuck buddies if anything. You tried setting something up with her weeks back but she flaked. That is uncharacteristic of s girl in such a situation. You definitely played that wrong to have her flake. Though I’m for you moving on. It wouldn’t be the worst thing to still hang out with her and bang her…but just not give in and become her BF again. You have the potential to be in the driver seat here.
      As far as how you should act, anything but needy and stalkerish is fine. Get flirty. Be friendly. Be humorous and playful. Be anything but giving off the vibe that you’ve been crying at nights over her.

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      1. Thanks for ur reply boss, yes I agree with you that would be optimal but at this point it just feels like she has lost the respect for me and I feel the only way for me to regain it is to completely ignore her until she makes an actual effort and go from there. If she dont then I just move on and have fun with other people.

        “Be anything but giving off the vibe that youโ€™ve been crying at nights over her.”

        This is where I failed in the past, its time to move on and enjoy my life without her as if shes dead, but imagine a person kept flaking you over and over or basically ignore you when you try to talk to them you think its ok if I just flat out ignore her atm? And obviously if she makes contact I will play it from there. Or should I still be somewhat nice and friendly saying hi etc even though I feel somewhat disrespected at the moment.

        Thanks again.

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  21. I changed all the her to him, she to he, etc. Im a female but this article rocks. Hopefully i can get over him fast with this. Thanks.

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