If I come across another blog post or twitter link of “How to win your ex back”, I swear I’m gonna take that fatal plunge on into the ocean and end it all in painful fashion.
Guys- there are too many fucking hot chicks out there to be pinning away after 1!
Tryna get your ex back is akin to dropping a quarter into a piggy-bank filled with quarters identical to the 1 you had, then trying to retrieve it when there are 100 more quarters just like it and even shinier.
Might be a fucked-up analogy to compare women to coins, but you get the point, right?
There is no such thing as a special girl among girls.
Either all women are special or none is. But there should be no 1 girl more precious than any other girl, that you think you should have to cry over her, kill over her or commit suicide over her.
The moment you begin to think that this girl is inherently more special than another, you’ll essentially be setting yourself up for huge disappointment if things happen to sour…as is the case with most relationships.
Now, breaking up with a girl or getting dumped isn’t easy to handle; especially if you’re the dumped.
We all know that.
My ex-girlfriend whom I’d written about in this post, had dumped me something ridiculous!
I mean, our splitting up was fucking epic!
You know it’s really fucked up when law enforcement and relatives get involved.
When she had dumped me, my suitcase was thrown out into the driveway. And on top of that; about an hour after tossing my stuff to the curb, she went out with 1 of the guys whom she was fucking behind my back.
That was fucking cold!
And to think that I was being faithful although I was a pickup artist who had the ability to meet and fuck other women…but I chose monogamy and it fucked me in the process.
So I had a pretty treacherous breakup some years ago.
She had cheated on me thrice (3 times), caught twice (with my own eyes in bed with another dude), and on top of that, kicked me out and dumped me like a piece of shit Beta-Male.
Now, would I be in my right fucking mind to ever desire to get back with such a BITCH who had treated me with scorn and disdain!?
I would’ve been crazy to browse the internet in search of an article that can advise me on how to get my ex back!
Sad part is; most men in that case would do anything to win back that ex.
It’s really ridiculous!
If a girl dumps you: fuck her!
The only exception to this is if it’s a case where you had dumped her un-justifiably, and after doing some soul searching about it; you acknowledged that you’d made a bad-judgment call.
However, to be the dumpee, crawling back to the dumper; you honestly deserve anything bad that will have come to you from thereon out.
I do admit that it’s easier said than done.
I’ve been there, so I empathize with any dumped guy who feels as though he cannot live without his girl (or ex).
Saying to the dumped: “Just suck it up and move on man”, is a crock of shit piece of advice that a guy who’s been dumped does not want to hear and will not take heed too readily.
It takes time to heal and to get back to one’s senses.
In my case, being that I was a Pick-Up Artist, it was easy for me to go out 2 weeks after my breakup and fuck some other chick in order to forget about my ex.
That was exactly the case by the way!
I was dumped, kicked out and living with an uncle, to fucking a fine-ass Jamaican girl and pulling 2 ONS (One-Night Stands) 2 weeks later.
Did I remember my ex?
What ex 🙂 ?
Now, if you’re not a Pick-Up Artist and don’t subscribe to any school of Game; this won’t be happening for you since you’re not at liberty to go pussy-hunting as I was.
You’ll be reduced to relying on luck or being hooked up with a girl through family members…which isn’t the worst thing.
As a guy who senses that his relationship is on its last-shaky leg, and you happen to stumble upon this article, know that you’ve come to the right place.
Becoming a PUA, or learning seduction, will be the best choice you’d ever made as an adult.
Now, in my case, I don’t want to give the impression that I handled the breakup unscathed.
The following days, I felt ashamed as a man, stressed to the max, was summoned to the police precinct in relation to some property of my ex’s, my buddies made a laughingstock out of me…
On another occasion, I happen to bump into her and the new boy-toy hugged up at a bus stop heading to the movies [her little sister gave me the scoop 🙂 ], which I then went berserk starting a huge-public confrontation so tumultuous that the cops were alerted by a passerby 😯 !
I wanted to kill!
I wanted to the kill the guy more than my ex, although he was merely an innocent subject in the twisted game.
Thanks to those Pickup Inner Game articles I’d read for nights on end, I was able to pick up the pieces within 2 weeks and got my cock wet again 🙂 !
Remind you; I was the model boyfriend, which goes to show that a woman will never respect a man who sucks up to her and is (too) nice.
She will cheat on him, violate him, then dump him like a piece of disposable-shit paper.
It’s for this reason I published a recent episode of my PUA podcast show about how to not get dumped and putting your woman in check in the relationship.
The underlying reason your ex will never get back with you at all [that’s if she’d dumped you] is because you haven’t shown her how much you don’t give a shit about her.
Sounds ass-backwards; I know!
With that, trying to devise ways of getting back your ex is a lost-fucking cause!
You are only digging the grave deeper…which you will have to lie in!
The only way to convince the girl who’d dumped you that she should get back with you is to treat her as though she fell off the frikkin” map…literally!
Once again- this is easier said than done (to execute).
Ok, back to my break-up story from 6 years ago.
So 2 weeks after being dumped, I pulled 2 One Night Stands (from the nightclub) and fucked another girl whom I’d only met 2 days prior.
I began to feel good again and desirable as a man! Not because I’d gotten validation from those women, just for record sake.
I got my mojo back quicker than expected.
I was tearing up the bars and nightclubs like nobody’s business!
Thoughts of my ex who’d dumped me 2 weeks prior faded away silently.
She wasn’t even an afterthought.
What she did, and with whom, wasn’t consuming me anymore, nor did I care, nor did I ponder whom she was fucking.
Facebook wasn’t really that popular then as 1 of our modes of communication, but we were friends on the HI5 social network, which I no longer stalked to see who was commenting on her profile.
Neither did I call her, text nor visit.
Before I’d gotten back into the groove after the breakup, I would call her 20 times per day indirectly begging her to give me another chance…although this bitch was the one who violated.
I would send her txts after txts asking about the guy she was with, etc.
However, that wasn’t the case 2 weeks later.
I’d learned the hard way that You have to make a woman burn in order that she learn, or she will continue to treat you like trash as long as you treat her like treasure.
Two and a half weeks of virtually ignoring her and moving on with my life, I got a message on Facebook in reference to a photo I’d posted [we both were new to FB at that time]:
Ex: “I see you enjoying yourself and forgot about me. I still exist you know”.
Not even expecting to hear from her, I ignored her photo comment and thought it must have been some sort of honest mix up.
Days later, I get a text on my Palm Treo:
“Sup babes. I know you hate me right now. What’s up”?
To be honest, since it was so long ago, I don’t recall if I’d replied or not, or what I’d even said if I did reply.
However I can recall a week or so of constant calling (by her).
Two months later since the breakup, we started talking again.
She said to me over the phone:
“Why don’t you want to get back with me”. You seem so happy since we broken up”.
I don’t remember what I replied with.
Fast forward some weeks, I decided that I wanted to fuck her for the last time.
I wanted a revenge fuck for being dumped while being an upright boyfriend.
Ok, I rented a hotel room, invited her over, she talked all that shit about wanting to get back, I listened and told her I wasn’t sure about that…then we fucked.
I ejaculated in her mouth and said to her verbatim [I remember as if it was yesterday]:
“Aaaaaaah, I’m getting ready to meet up with another chick at the club so…you’re gonna have to leave now ok”?
She protested, asked if she could stay until I return from the club…when all failed, she left bawling her guts out begging to get back together.
I mentioned this in a post a while ago that my ex and I are cool to this day.
The beauty about getting over an ex who had dumped you is that your feeling of animosity towards her will have vanished over time.
I hated my ex upwards of 9 months since our breakup, and wouldn’t care if she’d gotten struck by a train and perished.
I would’ve rejoiced, just as any other guy would in my case.
But the universal elements allow no space for mal-feelings as time passes.
Four months after our breakup, she found herself constantly stalking my online profiles, stalking my home, calling and texting me to death, leaving all kinds of “I love you” comments on my FB pictures…!
A complete reversal of roles from the way I was acting when she’d dumped me.
That is power!
And you can only attain this power by treating an ex as though she’s trash and doesn’t exist to you.
Trying to get back with her or wasting your time reading “How to win my ex back” articles, is purely shameful and degrading!
Not only should you not get back with a girl who’d broken up with you, but wasting your time trying to, will only empower her on every fucking level!
Sure my ex was super pretty with a slamming body: but so what!
Her attitude stunk like shit and her decision to dump me was even more stink!
Was I to reward such treatment with reconciliation?
There are other fish in the sea.
This fish [your ex] will not want you back until you start to fuck other women!
As long as you keep in touch with her by any means; she will despise you for existing.
Overall- it was my fault!
She wasn’t a heartless bitch for dumping me and treating me like dirt.
I played the role of the Beta-Male nice guy who thought that nice was the way to go as far as a relationship goes.
But it’s a woman’s gender role to repel nice guys; particularly is she’s within her sexual prime.
She isn’t in control of that!
It’s in her nature to rid herself of men who are passive and weak, and instead chase after guys who are asshole-ish and dominant, who wouldn’t hesitate to walk out on her in a heartbeat.
So it isn’t her fault for dumping you; it’s your fault!
It was my fault and I’m wise enough to take responsibility!
I gave her all the reasons to dump me!
* Too nice,
* Too giving,
Any guy out there reading this article right now, and perhaps contemplating getting back with the dumper; please do Kenny a huge favor and slap yourself in the fucking face as hard as possible!
Wake up fool 😯 !
Is there a way to get your ex back?
I’d outlined the format throughout this article.
The only way to get an ex back is to ignore her and treat her like shit as if she doesn’t exist.
Any love-guru writer who promises that he can help you get your ex back by advising that you talk to the ex, communicating with the ex and reach out to the ex; is a pile of marketing bullshit and he needs to be called out on it!
The funny thing is, after you will have gotten back on your feet in singledom and start to see other women, you won’t care to get your ex back…at all 🙂 !
Just as I did, you will begin to weigh your options while lying in bed:
“I now have Karen, Jessica, Jamie, Anne….On the other hand; I have Julia the ex who had dumped me for another dude who treats her like shit, but now wants to get back with me. Sorry Julia, but I’ll pass”!
Hence the title: “You will not want your ex back” after meeting other women.
Lastly, check out this very great video by the PUA guru RSD Tyler: “Why breakup is good”.
“Wanting to get back with your ex is like a dirty high”.
* The Breakup by Johnny Dzubak of the Art Of Charm
* Why a breakup is good by RSD Tyler