I See Shyness As The Main Thing That Keeps Guys From Getting Laid


Shyness is a social conditioning and probably the reason you aren’t getting laid!

I have a male coworker who possesses the following attributes:

• About 21 years old

• 6’3 in height

• Slim built

• Very good looking

• Has super swagger in mannerism

…Yet he doesn’t get laid…testament of his v-card which he still holds.

This dude has zero reason whatsoever why he shouldn’t be slaying lots of pussy!

He’s society’s ideal of male beauty: tall, dark, young and handsome…very inviting smile and welcoming personality.

The fact that he falls into the nice-guy bracket is another story for another time as to why he doesn’t get laid.

Ok, so after closely examining his dilemma from our many discussions on the subject of women and hooking up, it became readily apparent that the primary reason for this guy not getting laid, is his shyness…nice-guy vibe aside.

The thing that always puzzles me about shy guys is their apparent detachment from the reality of why they suck with women and dating.

They never seem to realize that their most OBVIOUS sticking-point is SHYNESS!

With this being the case, no matter how many techniques and tweaks a guy like myself can provide them [Outer Game]; the techniques still won’t profit them if they’re unable to break out of that shell of shyness.

In my entire years of teaching pickup, I’ve yet to meet a shy guy who realized and admitted that his pitfall with women was his shyness.

I get the impression that most men (the shy types especially), are expecting women to approach them to break the ice.

How do I know that this is the prevailing impression of shy guys?

My coworker in question constantly laments about women not being social and appearing stuck-up.

He arrived at that conclusion [women are stuck-up] because girls aren’t approaching him in spite of his good looks.

Though I never personally give him tips on how to go about meeting women. But even in his presence, I’m constantly approaching and chatting up strangers while we’re out on lunch and tea breaks.

Thus, this guy has more than enough evidence as to why he sucks [shyness] and what he needs to do to get positive results [approach].

Why Women Get Clingy After Hooking Up

There are some chicks who are totally fine with hooking up- “hit it and quit it” style.

Then, there exist those who get all clingy in a genuine sense and a portion of those, just to save face.

I met a girl last week whom I end up hooking up with 2 nights ago.

Last night, she sends me this text message via Whatsapp messenger.

Her concern was that I hadn’t contacted her since hooking up nights ago.

She also kept bugging me about my non-responsiveness toward her messages last night. Therefore, I said to her [in the screenshot], I haven’t reached hom yet to charge my phone…because I told her that my phone was on its last batter which is why I hadn’t responded [that may be true or false].

Nevertheless, what bracket does she fits in:

A.) The girl who just wants to save face after hooking up by ‘PRETENDING’ to not want just a 1-off?

Or

B.) The girl who genuinely gets clingy after hooking up?

To be honest; it is too early to tell and I haven’t really dissected the variables.

What I have no patience for though, are women who get clingy after hooking up: whether her clinginess is feigned or genuine.

Couple with the fact that I do NOT mislead women into the belief or notion that I want more than just sex or more than a 1-off.

Likewise with this girl. When we first met, I stated clearly that I just want to fuck!

Now, not all cases you can be this direct with a new girl and still get her to concede to your desires.

However- with this girl- she apparently registered high on my proverbial DTF meter. So there was no need to beat around the bush.

Regardless of those factors and pre-managed expectations; girls are still liable to get all emotional and clingy…even after just wanting to hook up.

This brings further credence to the old-adages of pickup that:

* Women really don’t have a clue of what they want!

* You should never take at face value anything a woman says she wants.

In addition to that, my good buddies and fellow seductionists, Wayne Jordan and Dominic (Donny G) chimed in on the Facebook post with some pertinent points as to why girls will get clingy after hooking up.

Wayne’s point is from an evolutionary biology one. And it’s clear to see how and why it’s super valid on the subconscious level.

By all means, a girl should be super concerned about sleeping around simply because it’s very likely that she can be put out of commission for nearly a year to then have a newborn to care for. So by all means; girls have a valid reason to be concerned after hooking up.

Donny G makes another great point which is more surface level but still as important.

Anti-Slut Defense (ASD) is basically a girl’s mechanism [saving face] to appear non-slutty.

Anyway, while hooking up is great and all, most guys don’t take into consideration the pending headaches that come as a result of post-sex management by the girl.

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