First off: I must make it clear that this article is NOT a “how-to” on getting your ex back!
Frankly, as I’ve stated many times in the past: any guy who tries to get his ex back, needs to be dragged to an open field and burned at the stake Medieval style…or stoned to death! 😯
What this article will actually deal with, is getting back a fuck-buddy, fuck-friend, booty-call, friend with benefit or whatever you want to call it.
A fuck-friend doesn’t last forever.
Depended on the girl’s situation (or yours), it can last perhaps 2 weeks and abruptly die.
Since women hop from boyfriend to being single then back to boyfriend as though it’s a trend (which it is), there will come a time when she says to you:
“Hey Tom, I’m back with Gary now…so I’m not gonna be able to see you like that…if you know what I mean”.
“Like that” refers to the booty-call/friends with benefits situation.
Therefore, booty-calls aren’t indefinite and they usually die out quickly.
Generally, I just let it run its course and move on to the next chick [I think most of us do].
However there will come a time or 2 where you meet a fuck-buddy whom you just want to continue banging a little bit longer.
You aren’t quite ready to let go as yet.
Since it’s a world of free wills; irrespective of wanting to continue a fuck-buddy fling with a specific girl, you can’t force her to comply [unless by rape] so the good thing will come to an end.
Now, this article basically outlines getting that fuck-buddy to come back.
It isn’t strategic but much of it is left to the fat bitch karma and time itself.
How do you get a fuck-buddy to come back?
Same strategy in getting an ex-girlfriend to come back or getting your girlfriend to comply when she starts to act rebellious and disrespectful towards the relationship by treating you less than a man.
Throughout my PUA years, I’ve had many fuck-friends, too numerous to count!
However, 2 of them mainly stuck out as women I’d wanted to continue banging but not date [it isn’t wise to go exclusive with a fuck-friend].
I’ll highlight the main one for the purpose of making the case here.
I met a girl some years ago, we hooked up the same night we’d met [nothing strange there], she had a boyfriend but were on a break [yea right], so our One-Night Stand progressed into a 2 week fling where we might have shagged down 5 times…if my memory serves correct. ❓
After the 2nd week, as anticipated, she hit me with the “me and my boyfriend are back together” story.
I hit her up maybe a week and a half later for a quick booty-call but she wasn’t available [claims to still be on splendid term with the BF].
I really wanted to fuck this girl few more times although I was still sleeping with numerous other girls as expected as a seasoned PUA.
A month went by, I totally implemented some freeze-out tactics by ignoring her completely then I got an unexpected text:
“Where are you? I wanna see you tonight”.
I knew this wasn’t to talk about politics or how has life been, but it was all about the booty-call. 😈
We hooked up that night- went our separate ways.
The fling behind her boyfriend’s again back continued for about 2 weeks then discontinued.
Once again I was clobbered with the “I’m back with my boyfriend” line. 🙂
By the way guys, this is typical shit!
It’s very common for a girl to “CLAIM” to have broken up with a BF just to fuck a guy on the side [hopefully you], then put that guy on the side further to the side while “CLAIMING” to get back with her secret boyfriend.
This is common shit you’ll face on a day to day basis when getting to meet lots of chicks.
This also underscores a point which I’ve been hammering to death for years and that is: all women have fucking boyfriends!
There’s no such thing as a girl who’s single!
If she claims to be single today, she’ll claim to have a BF next week. If she has a BF today, there’s a strong possibility that she’ll play the “I’m an independent woman” card a week later…depended on whom she’s addressing.
So if you do meet a girl who says she’s single, check back in on her in 2 weeks time and you’ll be shocked to find out that she now has a boyfriend or has since reconciled with an ex [an ex which she failed to tell you about].
Anyway, for some strange reason, this chick’s vagina had a hold on me.
It wasn’t “hooked” neither some crazy-ass irrational infatuation of sorts, nor was it ONE-itis being that I didn’t want this girl for myself as in an exclusive situation.
I could care less that she was fucking other guys and had a boyfriend. I just wanted to get my fuck’s worth out of that vagina.
Some months of zero contact went by this time [think it was about 9 months] then the all-too-familiar script played out again:
“Hey, can I come by you later”?
Me: “Who’s this”
Girl: “Sabrina. What you don’t remember me now”?
Me: Lol “Shut up! Ok cool. Shoot me a txt before you pass by so I can get this place in order”.
We fucked that night…as expected.
Our nefarious fling continued for 2 weeks or so- then ended…as expected.
Now, this particular girl and I have been fucking on and off for the past 5 years: 2 weeks on, 9 months off, 2 weeks on, 6 months off, a week on, 8 months off, etc.
This fuck-buddy relationship has been the longest I ever had with 1 particular chick. I’ve virtually been fucking her for the past 5 years with huge chunks of off periods.
What is really satisfying though, and you might have to face this also, is when a falling out occurs (instigated by her) then she comes crawling back for some good-old cock. 😉 🙂
There’s no greater feeling of justice in the world than to have a BITCH [and I used that word deliberately and justifiably] hit you up out of the blue (after some months have elapsed) in order to hook up.
In 2 instances with the same girl, we had fallouts because she’d taken offense to some minute bullshit I said about something that I can’t even remember what they were…so she hung up on me and sent some unflattering texts to put the icing on the cake.
Time is on my side.
About 6 months later of no contact, the familiar text message buzzed my phone:
“You’re free later”?
At this point, I was left with 2 option:
1.) Hold a grudge for her bitchy actions 6 months prior and turn her down.
2.) Take retribution on her pussy by fucking the living daylights out of her.
Me: “Yep I’ll be free later”! 🙂
The points I wanted to get across here was just to get you guys up to speed with the way in which fuck-buddy situations are structured, how they run, why they run the way they do, why they die off and how to revive it in due time.
There’s no quick-fix technique in getting a fuck-buddy to come back for more sex [at least, I haven’t discovered it yet].
She is fucking other guys and probably have a boyfriend as you might have known, so there exist variables which change the dynamics of time and when and why she would crawl back.
The main reason, the underlying one, why my fuck-buddies would come back, was first off NOT the sex!
I repeat: girls do NOT come crawling back to Kenny because of good sex!
Honestly- I’m terrible in bed! And that’s being real [from a penetration standpoint mainly]!
What gets women hooked to me sexually that they have to come back be it after 2 weeks or 2 years, are the theatrics and the rituals apart from penetration.
Sex is 90% non-physical (as for myself)!
If she just wants and needs a guy who can penetrate her; dildos are there for that.
What the dildos and sex toys can’t provide are the drama, mind-fuck, psychological stimulation and roller-coaster rides.
I put very little emphasis on the penetration aspects of sex [only 10% or less].
Therefore, whenever I have sex with a girl or leading up towards it, I will have gotten her pissed [think make-up sex], crying or wondering whether I was sane or just broken out of an asylum.
Women are fueled by drama and live on drama like a ritual!
Once you can create a ritual out of sex which drives women crazy, they will always miss that since 9 in 10 times; they won’t get it from any other guy since most guys are under the illusion that “good sex and dick size” keep girls coming back.
I have guy friends who brag about toting 12 inches (including women to vouch for them), yet these dudes are only good for 1-offs: 1 bang and go. Chicks don’t ever return for seconds.
It’s because these guys (the average male) put 90% emphasis on penetration opposed to creating some sorta drama during or before sex, with foreplay and teasing being a huge part of sex also.
Most men are so sex-crazed that once they get some alone time with a girl they’d screwed once, they virtually rape the shit out of her with without foreplay nor theatrics.
This can only take you so far.
Therefore when a girl runs back to me after 9 months or 3 weeks, it’s a confession that she isn’t getting such stimulation (sexual drama) from her boyfriend or any guy for that matter.
She isn’t running back to me because of awesome SEXUAL penetration out of this fucking world!
I’ve made girls cum from sheer dirty talk (some drama again) without even fucking them. And yes they’ll hit me up days, weeks, months and years later under the guise of missing the sex [sex we never had] and wanting to hook up.
Hence for my shortcomings in bed [simply not giving a shit about penetration], I make up for them in various ways.
The fuck-buddy girl whom I wrote about was simply missing the sexual drama and had to come back for some more.
Not only was she cheating [a huge source of drama in itself] but hinted that her boyfriend was also cheating so that gave her justification to creep with me [more drama].
Therefore the ways in which to get a fuck-friend to come back, and by extension an ex-girlfriend are:
1.) Create drama and ritual
2.) Create sexual drama
3.) Use lots of foreplay
4.) Use freeze-out tactics whenever things fall apart
5.) Let time run its course as your ally
These tips are also super applicable in cases where the girl had dumped you.
The only way to get a girl back is through freeze-outs which is the opposite of chasing and calling her.
Before I go, another former fuck-buddy hit me up earlier today [March, 10th.] virtually begging for sex.
This’ a chick whom I haven’t heard from in like 4 months. Last time we spoke, she literally blew me off and flaked due to some unknown reason then I got these Whatsapp messages from her today [my txts in white, hers in blue]:
As you would’ve gathered from the messages, she came over and we fucked.
She too has a boyfriend (as the other girl)…a husband actually. Once again, it goes to show that majority of women whom you will have met and shagged, will be taken and in relationships/marriages [there’s no such thing as a “Single” girl].
Such is the power of freeze-out tactics and giving women sexual drama and drama in general.
The only way to get a girl chasing you is by creating drama and ignoring her for extended-durations of time [unless she’s easily submissive].
Any dating coach who says that he can teach you how to get your ex back or a fuck-buddy back by remaining in constant contact with her, that dating coach or blog-writer needs to be put out of business or put to shame.
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