One of the most commonly used idioms in the English-speaking world:
“Never judge a book by its cover”.
Now, we know what that means and entails in social settings and gatherings: you judge a person wrongly based on the exterior, then come to find out that the individual kicks ass and fits neatly into your social circle.
With stranger approaches though, that is approaching total strangers (women), men tend to get derailed and have second thoughts about approaching women who have cold and icy exteriors (faces to be exact).
A guy would prefer to approach, introduce himself to and chat up a chick who has a cheery smile on her face opposed to one who isn’t smiley and looks rather stern and uninviting.
This is quite customary irrespective of the sex or situation; no one wants to approach someone who looks uninviting, whether this be while grabbing something to eat, asking for directions, etc. we’d elect to approach the perceived easier targets i.e. the warm and cheery folks.
Well I’m here to tell you that you’ve been blunting your own fucking progress in the social department! 😯
You’ve been a discriminatory prick who judges women (the book) by the cover!
You didn’t approach that sexy girl with the stern-facial expression simply because you thought she would come off as an attitudish-little bitch. 😯
Lemme clue you in on something: the girls who appear to be uninviting are almost always the friendliest, most open, genuine and cheery…just as long as you take the initiative and man up to break the ice.
I know this from year’s worth of personal experience in seduction and cold-approach Pickup [that is approaching tons of random strangers on the streets]. So this isn’t just theorizing and bullshit guesstimation based on futile research as such from some social psychologist or someone who doesn’t have real-world experience in the field.
Electing to not approach a girl because she doesn’t look inviting, just might be a missed opportunity on a girl who could’ve been your next girlfriend, wife or something a little less committed: fuck-buddy. 😉 😉
Another thing that you should grasp: women who aren’t inviting and cheery on the outside, have been told this during their entire lives:
“Why don’t you smile”?
“You always look angry”!
“Change your facial expression for once”!
We all have friends who fall into this category. Perhaps you’re one of them (ice-faced). ❓
With this being the case, these girls grow up to be self-conscious in social settings and generally construct a wall of psychological protection for their self-esteem.
Most of them begin to think that they’re fucked-up in some chronic way and no matter what, just cannot attract guys (or people in general) into their sphere.
Therefore when you approach a girl who has a frigid exterior, her socially conditioned impulse is shut down (further) and congruence test the shit out of the guy who’d approached her.
Within a split second after the initial bump in the road, don’t be flabbergasted when the cheerful spirit pops out to greet you.
I see this happen all the time.
She just wants to be certain within the first 2 seconds, that you won’t judge her on the uninviting exterior, then she can let her inner glee come to surface.
This is no different than a chick who shit tests you and is frosty at the onset, then becomes a fuzzy ball of warmth as you decisively pass the shit test.
Never judge a woman from the first impression.
Her first impression is usually to test you, whether it’s a pleasant or rude 1.
Therefore, never alienate, marginalize or pass up on a girl who doesn’t appear as though she’s advertising toothpaste.
These girls (bitchy ones), even though they’re the hottest generally, are almost always passed up on by men while out with the girls mingling and partying.
They may feel socially awkward, left out and alienated, which is your chance to break the ice and get to know (or bang) a cool-ass chick.
This hearkens back to a night of clubbing I had in 2007 where I took home the hottest girl in the venue…well took her to my hotel actually. 😉
Hot girls are usually bitchy on the exterior, so 99.9% of the guys in the club that night, all elected to NOT approach her out of fear of being scolded, shot down, ignored and rejected in front of hundreds of club-goers. So they chose the perceived easier sets of girls to chat up…which usually doesn’t go anywhere. 😦
I on the other hand, being a budding Pick-Up Artist at that time, I was addicted to tackling the perceived-harder girls who seemed more difficult, hence I approached, isolated, finger-banged, seduced and took home this girl whom every other guy was scared shit to approach because they judged the book by its cover and misjudged poorly because this chick turned out to be one of the coolest girls I ever met in my lifetime…so much so that I even remember her name from a One-Night Stand which occurred years ago…she was also the first and only squirter I ever met to date- so that was a plus for the memory bank. 😉 😉
This is another reason why learning Pickup is great; you get the girls that other guys wouldn’t dare approach even with a pistol to their heads!
I have countless videos where I approach girls who weren’t inviting in their dispositions yet as I open them, you would’ve never imagined that those charmingly social girls were the same chicks who before I approached, looked as though they were prepping to kill someone.
All in all guys:
*Don’t pass up on a girl due to her perceived coldness and frosty exterior.
*Approach the girls who would otherwise be seen as off limits by you.
*When in nightclubs and bars, approach and chat up the perceived “bitchy” girls.
On a final note, and this’ probably the most crucial piece of advice: please do NOT fucking listen to your friends!
Guy friends have a tendency to do 2 things:
1.) Talk you into talking to a girl who isn’t worth it.
2.) Talk you out of talking to a girl who’s worth it.
You: “That girl is sexy as hell. I might go talk to her”!
Friend: “Are you crazy dude! That chick looks mean and stuck-up like she has an attitude! I wouldn’t talk to her ass”!
This is why I don’t do wingmen and I go out solo EVERYTIME.
I don’t want a Beta-Male mentality friend cramping my style with every girl I plan to approach while out. So if you have one of those guy friends who always try to talk you out of the approach or talk you out of taking chances in general: then ditch him until he starts to think differently!
This is 1 such video of mines which hammers home the concept of not being socially stifled, and also an infield clip where I approached a serious-faced chick sitting on a balcony of the bar/club.
No guys were approaching her so I took the initiative instead of being frozen by her uninviting and cold exterior…which quickly melted away as I approached and opened.