[Guest post from my buddy, renown PUA-dating coach, Kingy of PUA Method out of the UK]
Work Smart For the PUA by Kingy
Work Smart For the PUA
Article Written by Kingy from http://www.puamethod.com
A lot of guys out there are training at pick up but they are training wrong. There are a few key rules which must be implemented every time if you wish to reach a mastery level at pick up
Focus on your sticking points (brutal self-honesty required)
Be honest with where you are weakest. Most people only want to practice at their strengths because it feels better to be good at something. Most people dont achieve mastery and get exceptionally good at something though.
The top four most attractive Qualities a PUA can have are:-
- Genetics / Aesthetics
Aesthetics, the things that you can work on are displayed below.
Other attractive qualities are:-
- Being Emotionally Healthy
- Social Value
- Physically Healthy
- Being a Challenge
- Has his life in order
What are your weakest things sticking points? These are the areas which you should now start to focus on when you are practicing to become better with women and dating.
Build fixed attractive qualities and not variable ones
Work on the areas of attraction which are fixed because these will give you a natural boost even if you are having an off day internally.
Some areas of attraction like confidence and humour are dependent on how you are feeling that day. There are other areas of attraction which will be constant at all times. Some of these things are:-
- Being in good shape
- Being healthy
- Teeth Whitening
- Shoe Lifts
- Stylish Clothes
- Piercings or tattoos (attractive to a certain type of woman)
These things all contain attractive value which wont fluctuate. It doesnt matter if you have a bad day these things will stay the same. The advantage a good looking guy might have is that he has a level of attraction value that doesnt change. Plus the good looking guy is more likely to get IOIs from other girls in the venue which will boost his confidence and give a feeling of entitlement. That said, look at all the areas you can improve that contain fixed levels of attractiveness. Then when you game you wont need to be at 100% best night ever but instead maybe for example 70% a good/average night and you can still get laid.
What is the objective?
Most guys who dont know what they want to achieve in this game. It usually takes them several years longer to achieve their desired results. A person who set out with a clear objective of what they want to achieve will get there a lot quicker. A clear objective along with meditation will give you lazer focus and allow you to cut right to the chase.
In this infield video of me you can see I have a clear objective. In my mind, before I even approach, I know where I can take her for an instant date. I know where my second location will be (the park). I know that to get sexual with her it will probably need to be on our second location. (Doing this on the second location dramatically reduces escalation LMR.) Going for what you want and knowing your desired outcome really helps a guys game.
Dont be afraid to fail
A lot of people give up because it hurts their ego too much when they dont get the results they want. Failure is needed for you to succeed. It is impossible to get good without failing and recognising what you are messing up on. Failure builds inner strength but also shows you where you need to improve.
Work on the highest impact tasks
As mentioned earlier it is important to focus on your sticking points but also it is important to focus on your sticking points that have the highest impact. If you have a sticking point of not being able to dance well, will this really help you to get better with women? How attractive is knowing how to dance? Honestly, this is a very low percentage thing. So dont waste time doing it. If you want to learn to dance for the enjoyment of it, that is fine. But dont pretend this is helping your ability to pick women up. Select the things that will have the biggest impact on your level of attractiveness.
Highest gain least Effort
As well as focusing on your sticking points that have the highest impact it is also important to focus first on the ones that require the least effort. Building your confidence or humour can take a lot of time. These are definitely things that need doing. First though why not get a style make over, get some lifts for your shoes or lose weight. These are all things that will give you quick results without needing much effort. Do these first along with approaching women on a regular basis. Then you can see how far away you are from achieving your goals when working on the higher effort things.
Get Training or Ask for Help
To many guys are too proud to get help. They brag about the girls that they had sex with on the forum but in reality the girl is average and he is just deluding himself. Get help or at a minimum find a wing who gets the level of results that you would like and spend as much time approaching women with him as possible.
Peace n Love,