Should we get rid of the attraction-scale rating system in the seduction community?
Maybe not! But for some guys, it’s actually stumping their progress with the hotties.
Sure, I rate women as 4’s, 7’s, and HB8.5’s, just as every other guy.
Whether you’re into pickup or not, most men on the globe have a numerical-looks system whereby he rates women: She’s a 10, 5, 8, whatever…
Personally, I never rate girls as 10’s!
Shit, I rarely even rate a girl a 9!
If I do happen to rate a girl (on this blog for instance), it’s solely for the purpose of clarification and getting a point across to my audience. But I personally don’t rate any specific girl higher than a 7.
Beyonce, Kim Kardash’, Megan Fox: neither of those hotties rank on my virtual-looks scale.
I can approach any 1 of these celeb chics without acknowledging their star power or perceived beauty. Just totally approach them as if they’re some annoying rascals I really don’t want to be around.
I’m totally against idealizing women and swelling their egos to the size of MetLife blimps by considering them 8’s, 9’s or 10’s. So rating a woman based on her outward appearance (facially) could be the nail in the coffin for most guys before they even approach the girl.
Over at David Wygant’s seduction blog, we discussed this a bit on How to approach a group of women. But many of the commentors didn’t get the heart of the problem.
Many of our fears and anxieties about women and about approaching women, come from our perception of their outward beauty.
The greater her perceived beauty, the higher the anxiety or fear to approach and game the shit out of her.
On the contrary, the less we see her as beautiful, the more easier it’ll become to approach her.
So our fears about women all stem from her beauty (or what we men see as beauty).
Now try to smell what I’m getting at.
Let’s say you’re a single guy, eligible bachelor looking to get some action tonight.
You enter your favorite bar, pub or nightclub and spot a fucking stunner [maybe she’s alone or with friends].
The first emotional process which takes place upon seeing this fine-ass chic is to proverbially size her up from a distance by rating her: a 7, 8, 9 or 10.
She’s a fucking dime!!!
The second thing to take place in this chain of reactions is a sudden rush of anxiety, fear and mental blockage.
What is this based on (this irrational fear upon seeing this girl whom you’re super attracted to)?
Her bouncing boobs!!!
In a nutshell; her appearance!!!
How do you totally flip this shit to almost eliminating this irrational fear?
To not rate hot women as hot!
This is 1 of “the” magic bullets to getting rid of approach anxiety.
Just a simple alteration and tweaking your mind set!
That extremely-hot girl you’ve been gawking and drooling over; tell yourself that she’s not hot at all!
Psyche out yourself into believing this!
Make yourself believe this! That this otherwise HB10 you’re looking at, is actually beneath your standards in the looks department.
She doesn’t add up!
Make that your mantra and repeat it to yourself and believe that shit!
However, for us guys who are used to banging hot women, we aren’t (so) fazed and dazzled initially by a beautiful piece of ass, so we may not need to actively activate such mindset/frame when faced with hot girls.
Such confidence comes with experience and a strong inner game.
On the contrary, the average guy who isn’t so fortunate as to swim in vagina-ville regularly, it’s best that he hones in on this mindset and mantra whenever faced with women he perceives as (very) beautiful.
Whenever I spot a super-hot girl, within a millisecond, she goes from a 10 to a 4- INSTANTLY!
That split-second transition enables me to approach her without an ounce of fear. So much so, that I will banter and fuck with her, neg her and treat her like a little brat who needs my approval.
Girls of exceptional beauty do NOT faze me at all, nor do they hinder me from approaching them.
This mindset is largely possible because I’d altered my perception of what female beauty is.
Instead of focusing on her big boobs, nice ass, and saying to myself “how hot she is”, I flipped the friggin’ script with some mental mantras on the spot:
“She’s not hot at all”
“My grandma is hotter than she is”
“She has fake boobs…they must be implants”
“Wow, look @ those rolls”
You’re cutting her down to size by fabricating things about her (to yourself), which will then make it easier to approach her.
When I first hatched this concept a few years ago, with every hot girl I seen and was to approach and open, I recited the specific mantra to myself a few times, and I made myself believe it!!!
Subsequently, approaching and opening the girl was as effortless as taking a morning piss.
However, if when you see an HB9 or a super-attractive girl, and the first mental notes to rush to mind are:
“She’s fucking hot!”
“Wow! She’s beautiful!”
It’s fucking game over!!!
You’ve massacred your chances before even approaching the girl [that’s if you were able to muster up the cojones in the first place].
So it’s all a mind game.
Approach anxiety and fear of approaching hot women is just a mind trick that can easily be fucked, hacked and altered with a little mantra and mental reworking as I cited above.
• “She isn’t that hot”
• “Her boobs are fake”
• “My ex was prettier”
• “She’s the least hot out of her friends”
• “She’s ugly”
• “Is that a rash on her forehead”
• “She looks like a shitty conversationalist”
Guys, these are just templates, guidelines and examples of mental mantras you can recite quickly before approaching a hot girl.
You don’t have to use them word for word. Just ensure that whatever mantras you come up with, that they are negative.
It’s 100 times easier to approach and open a girl whom you have put in a negative or not-so perfect basket.
Just as there won’t be much anxiety in talking to a girl who is unattractive with major-physical flaws.
Any guy can approach a UG (ugly girl) and remain calm and unaffected (since you aren’t lusting and drooling over her).
So with these negative mantras, you are transforming a super-hot girl into an ugly duckling, which enables you to approach and chat to her with confidence opposed to anxiety, fear and a need to pedestal.
Plus hot girls suck in bed, so that’s an added bonus in cutting hot girls down to size enabling you to game them without looming, paralyzing anxiety.
Try it out!!!