How to keep your girlfriend in check (when she does things to tests you)

If spanking fails; then try Kenny's tips

If spanking fails; then try Kenny’s tips

Every guy who’s ever had a girlfriend in his life would’ve arrived at the crossroads where she attempts to test him, mind fuck him or simply drive him nuts!!!

This isn’t rare by the way.

Women do test, and will test your patience and manhood along the course of the LTR [where you must pass her congruence testing]!

Quite naturally: the more you allow her to get away with such nasty behaviors, the more she’ll double down and fuck your manliness like a piece of shitty toilet paper…and eventually dump you as it’d be difficult for her to be with a guy who allows her to get away with shit [sounds counter-intuitive I know].

So how do you regain dignity, respect and the upper-hand in your LTR?

Punish her, punish her, punish her!

Guys, I can guarantee that once you begin to employ the following tips to your testy relationships; you’ll begin to see changes (for your sanity), and become a dominant guy again.

Take notes!


1.) Whenever she acts up, throws fits, picks fights without a cause; Give her space!!!

*Giving her space in such instance will torture her. The tortuous effect of “space” will have a triple impact if you live alone where she cannot monitor your movements during the “space”.

2.) Whenever she asks for space or does things which would signify that she wants space (or potentially be on a temporary break): Give her space!!!

*In my experience, I notice that women will periodically hint at a break/space when she desires to bang a stray dick or perhaps an orbitor who’s been dying to bang her.

*Worst thing you can do as a guy in this case is to plead and make a case to as to not go on a break. If you sense she’d fucked another guy on her break; then dump her!

3.) If she says something to you (out of anger or after an argument) like: “Don’t call me”! Then don’t fucking call her again!!!

*Ensure that she calls you back first. Try your damn best to refrain from calling her! Even if it means throwing your brand-new iPhone into the East River to keep from calling her; then do it!

4.) When she doesn’t reply to your texts messages or missed calls within a reasonable time frame (or at all); then ignore her until she does!

*I find this to be pretty difficult to maintain at times (personally). This is my achilles heel when it comes to LTR management.

*However, it’s a very powerful play in the game of relationship chess.

5.) If she refuses to have sex or deny you sex (out of spite), give her the impression that you’ll seek pussy elsewhere. Keyword here is: IMPRESSION!!!

*No need to rub it in her face that you’re gonna go pussy-hunting. Just give her the impression by simply remaining cool as a fan on the topic of sex (for a day or 2).

*Your coolness will give her the impression that you’re getting poon somewhere else, or else you’ll be bitching.

6.) If she dumps you unfairly, let’s say after a big fight or whatever, Just move the fuck on!!! Karma will ensure that she gets fucked and regrets her on-the-fly decision to dump you.

The overall strategic message is to punish her by ignoring her [by employing Freeze Outs].

Now, this won’t be the easiest thing to do, so don’t kid yourself into believing that you can follow all or some of the 6 tips with the ease of taking a piss.

As Alpha and dominant as I claim to be, I still struggle with implementing such hard-nose tactics whenever my GF tests me or gets overly disrespectful.

If you’re able to follow through though, the rewards will be self-gratifying.

There’s no greater feeling and boost to one’s ego and sense of worthiness, than to have the violator (in this case, a girlfriend) call you back after a week to apologize, ask for forgiveness or begging to get back with you.

This is a very fucking powerful frame to be the object of!!

On the contrary, you can NEVER attain this blissful feeling of dominance once you’re chasing this girlfriend or -ex [by calling her, texting, going to her place…].

Remember: the one who shows the most willingness to cling to a relationship will always be the one to get fucked since he’s coming from a position of neediness or a need to have this 1 special girl (who apparently isn’t that special).


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60 thoughts on “How to keep your girlfriend in check (when she does things to tests you)

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  1. I think my guy has done this to ne before and now Im mad!!! Lol… I got something for you Men who likes to play mind games…I will mind fuck you until your brain goes numb… Not lady like to speak in such nature but no need to dress it up! Ijs

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    1. Lol chics are always mind fucking guys! This is y’all tactics that yall use on us 24/7. I’m just advocating for men to reverse the role and give yall a dose of your own meds.
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      1. This will work on women with no skill or ability to freeze you guys out. Women let their emotions get the best of them…Thats why I tell my girl friends to think with their mind not their heart…

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        1. So you’re telling your girlfriends to think logically? Does that go against the grain with some of your friends? I REALLY don’t mean to come across as rude. I’m just wondering, thats all.

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          1. Actually alot of them are not capable of being logical…when it comes to Men but I tell them anyway! Alot of women get caught up in lust…dick numbs their brain & they think they are in love…then they fall for anything!

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          2. lol. Interesting way of putting it. Not everyone is as strong as you hun (or have the experiences you have). Some people find it hard to really know what they want in a relationship (or have misguided views of what a really connection is). Trial and error is the building blocks for most. If you want to help your friends try using empathy by painting a picture of what to move away from, and a picture of what to move towards. It’s not mind games if you “really know what they want”. The question is, do you really know what they want? other than dick of course 😉

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          3. Hey Dan, what about this article makes it seem that I’m putting women in a rational mindset? As a PUA coach, you should know that we teach women aren’t rational. I live by that also, so I’m not advocating for the girl to think rational.

            I don’t quite follow your last point about friends.
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          4. There’s nothing wrong with your article Kenny. Women love to test (as we know) are we man enough for them. I don’t know about “throwing your brand-new iPhone into the East River” though lol. Normally women are smart enough to know communicating with me is something they really want to do?

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          5. Well what I was getting at with tossing away your phone is that it’s a very rough process in keeping oneself from contacting an HB, especially in the case of ONE-itis.
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  2. I like the idea of soft nexting.

    Any time she does something that is crossing boundary or just some shit, soft next her, just temporarily cut the contact for a week or so and switch your focus, attention and energy to something else and more positive in your life.

    The idea is not to punish her, but to not waste energy on someone who doesn’t deserve it, and also to send a clear message that not matter how much you like her you are ok with not having her in your life.

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    1. Good way to put it Bogs.

      A soft Nexting is definitely what I was trying to communicate.

      Also “Freeze outs” lol! How the fuck did I forget to mention freeze outs, which is basically what this is.

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        1. LMBAO! You should win the prize for the most ballsy chic in the blog world.

          Unfortunately for men, you’re right to a great extent! Men struggle with reversing the roles on women. So only a selected few of us can pull it off. Your BF seems to be 1 of them.
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        1. Hey Bogs, why am I not able to receive comment notification from your blog? This has never worked for me, and I’ve been trying for months now but never receive a notifica’ via e-mail as to follow-up comments. You may need to check the plugin.
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          1. Ok I think that’s the issue. But then again, it’s not, because we never receive am e-mail to confirm subscription. I guess I’ll subscribe through another channel and see
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          2. I have no idea, but I will be soon moving my blog to another hosting (it is windows hosting now, and will be linux one), hopefully email problems will float away lol

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          1. Also, I’m not receiving updates on your blog’s comments neither. Unless you haven’t responded to the comments I left on your posts yesterday?
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  3. remaining cool drive women mad.i like the post man, bt sme of the tactics can be hard to implement esp when one is totally pissed.hw u doing man where were u the past days u were not posting anything.

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    1. You’re totally right Kui Gee. That’s why I said that these things are hard to implement and follow. Especially when upset as you said.

      Right now, I’m currently freezing out my GF over some BS she pulled on me last week. The freeze out has been exactly a week now.

      The reason I haven’t been active for a week or so is because of the GF issue. Her testing and drama fucked my head up, so I had to lay off for a week. Plus internet service problems which might be solved now.
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  4. Kenny you’re back with some good game! Checking your girl when she is being disrespectful is a MUST. I feel like women will do little slick shit just to get a reaction out of you. Even if you establish early on that you are not the type of guy to test, your girl will still test you. That want you to put them in their place. Also, no chick is above being charge to the game.

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    1. Good point! There’s a part of me that does play the game and get reactive because women do love a fight. But when it’s blatant, gotta put them in check.
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      1. Let me get in the middle of this check yo chic party! Sometimes thats all we want is a little discipline and we are good. It makes us know we got a man not a boy…(some may call this foreplay) wink

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  5. in the game emotions are the worst.it feels right lyc to apologise, do that simp stuff and get over the drama bt it doesn,t work.like in LTR the chick keeps up the drama,the tests yet she knws u ar the fuckin alpha male.it seems like to keep the attraction u don have to lyc her and if u shw it do it less.never show u like its a gud frame hwever from time to time emotions always ruin it.

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    1. Agreed. You got your inner game stuff well in check it seems to me Kui Gee. Your comment makes me want to write a piece strictly on inner game when it comes to testing. Because that is what it basically comes down to. Without inner game, you’ll always be fucked in LTR’s.

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    2. Agreed. You got your inner game stuff well in check it seems to me Kui Gee. Your comment makes me want to write a piece strictly on inner game when it comes to testing. Because that is what it basically comes down to. Without inner game, you’ll always be fucked in LTR’s.
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  6. Totally been on the receiving end and annoyingly the shit works a damn treat!! Sometimes we wanna make his blood boil a little so we can feel kinda cute bout the fact he cares, juvenile but truthful!

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  7. This is not good advice guys. Speaking from a female pov we have a lot more respect for a man that can hold his own by calling us out verbally on the spot with his clever vocabulary than we do for a dude than acts like he read “The Rules” you’ll lose her giving her the silent treatment, I’ve been smooth talked away from every guy that tried that mindfuck on me then I read ‘Not Your Mother’s Rules’ and had to laugh! You’re stealing from the other teams play book! Check with the love dr @ askmen you’re messing up by not maning up

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  8. The sad thing is that this is true in many cases but i can’t help but feel like “fuck this shit!” Why do we have to fuck with our own heads to fuck with someone else’s head to maintain order in a relationship? If this is natural then fuck i have a lot still to learn. I just want to focus on being happy, doing my thing, pursuing my dreams, making good relationships and eventually having an awesome family!!

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    1. I was just thinking that maybe it’s to remind us that talk is cheap and action is the real deal. Also that women have more hormonal changes to deal with than men, so we got to learn that when they’re awesome, it has it’s price. So they will talk the shit and maybe regret it and holding them accountable is going to be bad for both of you, so yeah, fuck it, they’re just words, lets see what you can both DO when the dust settles!
      *color me enlightened*

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  9. Bahahahaha! All that will do…ignoring her as a punishment…is make her think…”fuck it”, I’ll go out and screw someone else!”. You PUA guys are so hilarious…to most of us women. We see right thru your silly antics.

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      1. We’re 4mos in our relationship and had a small discussion yesterday about how I don’t put my foot down on anything she says and does. And it drives her crazy and feel like crap whenever she feels like she’s treating me like shit. She even told me that im a BF any woman can dream of.

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  10. Hi K, im 4mos in our relationship and we just had a discussion yesterday. How she clearly admitted to me that she finds me the BF that all women can dream of. I basically do agree to everything that she says and does and she told me that I never put my foot down on any of them. And it does drive her crazy because it makes her feel like crap for treating me the way she does

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