Strange thing just occurred as I’m sitting here at a lounge/internet cafe on the island of Barbuda [in the Caribbean]:
[Now writing this post from the cafe on my mobile phone]
Two hot girls just came in, the hotter one/HB-Big Tits (whom I’m attracted to), glanced @ me and smiled, send a few more SOI’s (Signs Of Interest), glanced and smiled again at me, I smiled back, gave a head nod, she smiled even more…
All is well until this happened:
Her friend gave her a signal of disapproval [via Girl Code] by shaking her head in the negative.
Then it was fucking over!!!
HB- Big Tits stopped checking me out.
Why did this happen (the sudden shift of interest)?
As we teach in the seduction community: you must win over your target’s friend(s)!
Her friend(s) must approve of you, must like you, must find you attractive also, or the girl whom you want will not engage you.
She will lose interest instantly once her social girls/BFF’s gives a signal of disapproval via girl coding.
HB- Big Tits was definitely into me (physically) and was open to the possibility of me opening her (which I was going to do).
However, that all vanished like Houdini the instant her friend shook her head ‘NO’.
Most likely, HB- Big Tits had probably said to her friend: “Hey Trisha, I like that guy over there. He’s checking me out too right now. Look at him”!
Essentially looking for her approval or disapproval.
Her friend however, not approving of my looks or energy (for whatever reason), gives HB- Big Tits a look which says, “Nah, he’s too ugly, too fat, too short, too poor, too Beta, too weak”…
Whatever the reasons her friend didn’t approve of me, it immediately had a damning impact on HB- Big Tit’s perception of me.
She went from Sahara desert hot about me, to Antarctica cold within a millisecond!
This is the nature of Game, courtship and pickup.
A girl can like you now, then before you get a chance to open your mouth to strike up a convo’, she hates you.
In her eyes, you can go from a Brad Pitt to Shrek within a split second of her social circle not accepting you or not liking you.
The grand lesson is this:
A woman’s friend(s) have more influence and sway over her and her decisions than she herself has over herself and her own decisions.
She relies on her friends for approval (whether she’s conscious of this or not).
Her friend’s opinion matters more than her mother’s, father’s, sister’s or her therapist’s.
I go through this all the time with my GF and her peers [frame battle]. She would stand me up on a date because her BFF’s convinced her to go with them to the movies instead. This is frame battling to the fullest as we say in pickup.
If her friend doesn’t like you: you’re fucked!
If her friend doesn’t like you: you don’t stand a chance!
If her friend doesn’t like you: she won’t like you!
If her friend doesn’t like you, and she (the target) liked you initially: she’ll now dislike you because her friend doesn’t like you.
If her friend doesn’t like you: she’ll dump you or contemplate it.
If her friend doesn’t like you: she will cheat on you with another guy whom her friend likes and approve of.
Classic Scenario between girl and her BFF:
Girl 1: “I like Jimmy a lot”.
Girl 2: “Nah, Jimmy’s a loser”.
Girl 1: “Lol why so? He seems cool to me”.
Girl 2: “Cool! Look at his bla, bla, bla, he has no style”.
Girl 1: “For real you’re right. I didn’t notice that”.
Girl 2: “Now Craig is hot! He’d be a good guy for you to get to know”.
Girl 1: “You think so”?
Girl 2: “Hell yea girl!! He looks like ****, has a ****, lives ****, knows how to talk to girls…”.
Girl 1: “You’re right Sandy”!
Girl 2: “So forget about Jimmy and I’ll introduce you to Craig instead”.
Now, subsequent to this exchange, Girl 1 will afterwards reject Jimmy, give him a hard time, not respond to his phone calls, etc. even though she was head over heels for him 10 minutes ago!
And Craig, whom Girl 1 wasn’t even attracted to prior to this chat, will now become super attractive to Craig because her BFF (Girl 2) has now approved of Craig and encouraged her to engage Craig.
This is the way girls operate!
They have social influence over each other like a ventriloquist pulling a puppet’s strings!
So to prevent this dichotomy from happening, you either have to:
1.) Befriend her friends, or at least warm yourself up to them.
2.) Approach girls who are out alone and not with friends (which is rare).
3.) Act before her friends have a chance to sabotage your chances (which is still a flawed effort since her friends can still fuck your chances later on).
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