It’s all in the atmosphere, scents and vibes!!
Set up your bachelor pad in a way that sets the sexual/seductive mood, and make sure that it DHV’s you as a sensual unique guy.
•Whenever an HB (hot chic) enters my lair, the 1st. thing she smells permeating through the air is either burning incense or some fruit-scented fragrance.
•In advance, I’d sprinkle few drops of “Eat it raw” oil around the apartment, in hopes of bouncing her back to my spot.
•You want her asking, “What’s that fragrance”?
•Essentially putting her sexual motors in forward motion from the get-go.
•I love watching MTV’s Jersey Shore [watched all episodes and seasons from the inception].
•Im not sure if The Situation was doing this ritual by design, or if it’s part of his Game, however this concept and routine is huge for us in the pick-up community [perhaps Sitch's been reading some of "The Game"]!
•Reason being; you wanna get the girl familiarized (visually) with the pad, thus building some comfort:
*Show her the bathroom
*Show her the dining area
*Give her a peek of the backyard
*Take her to see the pet outback
*Show her your kid’s room
*Introduce her to your roomies (if any)
•It’s a powerful yet subtle- psychological technique which the target (the girl) doesn’t even know is taking place.
•Same concept in which a good DJ applies @ the club; always play what the crowd demands and wants!
•So, prior to bouncing this girl(your date, etc.) back to the bachelor pad, you should’ve already fount out what type of music she listens to.
•If she says “anything”, don’t take that as an OK to throw on some stupid fucking Lil’ Wayne or some other dumb-Rap shit which kills sexual progression.
•Throw on some R&B, Soft Rock, or my favorite; Epic Trance [which is infused with a heavenly, cloud-9 type feel to it]!!
•By all means; avoid Hardcore Rap, Heavy Metal and anything upbeat [unless you're gonna fuck a Goth or aspiring-female gangster rapper].
•This is the most under-appreciated (consequently most crucial) aspect of “setting the sexual mood”.
•White lights must fucking go!!
•Brighter the atmosphere (i.e. room), the more it leaves the girl in a rational frame (which is to not fuck you).
•Those oldies-R&B guys were on to something when they sang about “Dimming The Lights”.
•Now, you obviously cannot have the place pitch dark, since that’d only startle the chic and activate her ASD(Anti-Slut Defense)
•A fluorescence effect (in a dark color) makes the best atmosphere.
•My bulbs were spray painted blue, and some dipped in a dark dye(done at home by moi).
•Another ritual of “getting her comfortable” in the strange environment (which is your bachelor pad), is to hand her a photo album for her to skim through (or just some photos).
•You want the target as comfortable as possible @ your place.
•Nothing builds more comfort than going through baby and family photos.
•It even makes a greater impact if those baby photos are of you or your kid(s).
•A nice trick/routine I learned the other day from Speer, is to make it easier for her to sit on the bed.
•I mean, the spot that you ultimately want her to be at; is on the slaughtering table/the bed!
•Best way to make this happen, or to even eliminate the chances of her NOT sitting on the bed, is to get rid of all the chairs from your room!
•When the target enters your abode, quite instinctively, she’s gonna be guessing where to sit.
•If there ARE chairs; she’s gonna sit in one.
•If there are NO chairs (in the room), she will have no choice but to sit on the bed (which is where you want her).
•But the biggest subtle mistake is to present her a chair to sit.
•Leave her no choice but the bed or the floor LOL.
Friday nights: my twitter timeline is hectic as it can get. Was just vibing with my boys J Roc & Ryan from the new MTV’s Pauly D Project, My man LS Fader, a head PUA instructor for Love Systems…
9:33 “Getting prepped and ready for the club tonight with my main man #Unit http://twitpic.com/99guzw”.
2:44 Reetweet by @LS_Fader- “ATB surrounded by a bunch of amateur club kids. Omg it’s like Fischer price my 1st club experience lmao http://img.ly/gN6D”.
I spotted 3 hot girls semi dancing as I walked the dance floor. I said to the nearest one(from the side): “Why don’t you free yourself and start dancing? Is your drink not strong enough”? She LOL’s, I roll off to come back [part of my strategy].
I returned and danced beside her(without touching as to test the waters of her body language). I said to her, “I know you’re ready for me. Show me how to dance”. She LOL’s and said loudly in my ears, “You look like a dancer already”. I roll off again after eye flirting with her [rolling off is part of my skill set].
I came back a while later and started to grind on her ass with my hands on her shoulders, then her waists…
I repeated this dance with her for 2 minutes, roll off, return, dance again. Doing this (rolling off) shows the girl that you’re not the average needy guy who’s gonna latch onto her all night and not give her space.
During the dance, I put my phone in her hand and said to her, “punch in your phone # before I get upset”(with a sly, dominant smile). She laughs and punch in her #. I said, “Good girl”. She LOL’s.
I lost her during the crowd and darkness, so I sent her a text, “Meet me on the walk way so we can chat”. Replied OK. But we happened to spot each other just after the texts.
She tells me that her girlfriends are ready to leave. I said to her, “But we’re supposed to hang out”(which isn’t true BTW lol, but I’m setting a mental frame here by assuming we’re hanging out. Nice trick).
So she says to me, “Do you wanna come”? So we all bounced to the outside of the club. She tells me she’s driving, so we all 4 go to the car, I’m leaning through her window, she tells me that she’s gonna drop her GF’s home and we hang out after. So, I can hop in now or text her to meet me at a central location.
WHY THE FUCK DID I CHOSE TO NOT HOP IN!!! DAMN!!!!
Instead, I said to her, “Nah, take your friends home, and I’ll text you to meet me at a certain bustop”.
At that juncture, I essentially forfeited the chance to bang this girl.
On her drive home, she now has enough mental space to backwards rationalize the situation and back out and flake.
Had I hopped in her car when she suggested at the get-go, she wouldn’t have the chance to back out, nor the chance to backwards rationalize and think things over.
Why I backed out mystifies the shit out of me!Consider it rust, as I haven’t seriously attempted SNL’s in almost 2 years.
Anyway, so I went to a nearby bustop then texted her to meet me at the bustop on ***** & *** streets. 10 minutes passed: no reply text.
At that point, I already knew what was up. I already knew I fucked up and miscalibrated. And I knew she wasn’t coming back.
It’s almost 5 am, I wasn’t gonna be caught out as the sun rises, so I sent her a last text: “Hey Trish, something came up, so we not gonna be able to meet”.
That text was basically a ploy to play it off (reverse psychology).
A night of pussy-banging vanished fast due to a critical mistake at crunch-time in the pick up.
Let’s follow each other on Twitter for my usual weekend debauchery. http://twitter.com/Socialkenny
If you’ve been following my blog since last year, you would’ve known that my primary ‘Sticking Point’ has been the dreaded ‘Flake’.
In 2011, my flake ratio had been about 8 in 10. Meaning; for every 10 phone #’s I got, 8 of them resulted in flakes.
That’s a friggin’ staggering 80% fail ratio!
With that said, I’m making a new proclamation for 2012: A return to my
SNL & “ONS” days!
Those unfamiliar with pick-up community jargon: that means Same-Night Lay & One-Night Stand.
*I Socialkenny proclaim that for the remaining quarters of 2012 [if the world doesn't destruct], I will NO longer focus my Game on “getting phone numbers”, because #’s lead to nowhere (in my case).
*If a girl asks for my #, I will refuse to give it to her. Point blank!
*No matter how tempted I am, I will NOT pursue her # at all, because #’s lead to flakes (in my case).
Make no mistakes about it, this is not the 1st. time I made such declaration to then backslide into the sphere of “#-Closing”. But this time, I’m serious as a depressed- fat girl at an all-you-can eat buffet.
In 2009, my ‘Lay Rate’ was hovering around 6 in 10. Meaning, for every 10 girls I’d tried seducing, I would end up banging 6 of them.
Now that’s fucking Rockstar status almost!!!
I went for the lay the same night. If after trying and the lay just doesn’t materializes, I would get her #. But 6 out of 10 times, I fuck the girl same night or one-nighter.
What has changed in my Game since 2009? I’m no longer going for the ‘BIG win‘, i.e., the pussy. I virtually stagnated myself by settling for a phone #, to then work off that.
I essentially abandoned what was working for me. It’s like an undefeated boxer abandoning what had kept him undefeated, to changing his fight style and now loses 10 in a row.
Why did I abandon the seduction model which was super successful for me (SNL)?
I guess as the pick-up community tilted its focus towards “getting #’s”, I bought into the new hype [I guess]. So, as most PUA materials became ‘date & relationship-focused’, I too became focused on dating then sex. So my knack for banging girls the same night had subsided.
With all that said, I’m now re-shifting my Game back to ‘Instant-Sex Game’
And that entails: ridiculously high amounts of KINO (touching), Escalation (plowing and touching), K-Closing(kissing), Flirting, Making her horny, Seductive Eye Contact (bedroom eyes technique), Voice Tonality shift (the Barry White voice) and Leading (taking her from a public location to a seduction location).
Everything I mentioned in the above paragraph was the essence of my Game back in 2009. I rarely got girls’ phone numbers.
If I spotted a girl I liked, chatted her up, let’s say at a bar, she was coming home with me [6 out of 10 times]. Or we were shagging outdoors somewhere (park, bushes, someone’s garage, abandoned-crack houses, behind dumpsters…).
Now that my focus has been on phone numbers first (since 2010), my ‘Lays’ has dramatically plummeted to a 1 in 10 chance SMFH!!
The old same-night lay Socialkenny has returned. So mothers, please guard your daughters if need be.
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I was browsing the blog of 1 of my mentors in “Game”, Thundercat, a well-known PUA and dating coach. And I stumbled upon a great-short article entitled: “Reasons why a girl won’t have sex with you “.
One of the greatest points he made was that girls flake, or don’t give up the booty because of her menstrual period, or grooming-related matters.
Very eye opening! And I’ll add my 2 cents to Thundercat’s.
A regular-female commentor to my blog made this great comment yesterday about why she’d flake:
Roxem commented: “Sooo fuckn true!! Cuz at first we like the guy so we want to make sure we make the best impression & we want everything to go perfectly. So if we have plans but then I get my period, yeah plans canceled!! (keep in mind I have endometriosis so my periods are WAY worse than normal). If I’m severely tired.. cancelled. OMG I have a huge zit?!! Cancelled“!
Roxem basically confirmed that menstruation is a key reason as to why a girl doesn’t give it up or flake. This is an eye-opener for me (since I wasn’t aware of this prior to reading Thundercat’s post last night).
As I retrospect (look back) on my many flakes of 2011, I used to beat myself up trying to figure out why certain girls flaked. With this new revelation: it makes massive amounts of sense now!
Everyone knows that women are somewhat ashamed to admit that they’re on their periods. They only share such a thing with other chics, because most men are weirded out by the thought of “Period”.
It makes sense as to why a girl won’t meet up, nor go on a date with a guy she wants to have sex with, since she figures he won’t bang her on her cycle ’cause it would gross him out.
If she does go on the date or meet up (whether at his place, etc.), if the guy tries making a move, she will put up resistance higher than Mt. Everest. Most times, she won’t even say, “I’m on my period”. She’d feel nasty and dirty and just keep rejecting his advances.
This happened to me a ton of times, but I never figured that she could’ve been bleeding, thus embarrassed, so sex won’t happen.
As the Master Pick-Up Artist Thundercat eluded to in his post, “Grooming” (or lack there of), is a major reason why chics flake or don’t give up the goods.
Seems fucking humorous, but think about it guy!
If a girl didn’t shave,l et’s say her legs today (might’ve forgotten), she will not be comfortable lying with a guy, with the possibility of he carressing her, to then find out that her legs are hairier than his!
Let’s say she neglected to shave or trim her cunt in like 2 months. So it’s pretty scary down there. She’d obviously become self-conscious about it, thus stopping sex from happening (since she doesn’t want to be embarrassed). So she’d either flake, stand him up, or if she does meet up, she would put up major resistance: as we call it in the PUA community LMR (last-minute resistance).
The above 2 examples spill off into “being caught off guard”. The girl never expected to have sex that particular night or week. She never thought she’d have met you. So the sheer fact that she got caught by surprise-she won’t have a choice but to NOT give it up.
Same goes for attempts at SNL’s (Same Night Lays) or ONS (One-Nigh Stands): the girl was caught off guard, so she might not have shaved her legs to perfection, coochie unkempt, pedicure lacking…), so she will not give it up that night.
*Bad-hair day is another classic reason for flakes and why she won’t meet up/no chance of having sex.
We all fucking know that chics are obsessed with their hair. Most sane girls will NOT go on a date with a jacked-up hairdo, stale weave, etc. She’s just not gonna meet up! Period!!
Then again, she’s not gonna tell you the reason as to why she flaked or not willing to meet up. This is essentially Chic-Logics and how women are irrational beings.
Guys, please don’t look at it as bullshit. Imagine if you forgot to brush your teeth, ate some onion-rings, and your date wanted to tongue you down. Of course you won’t fucking do it LMAO!!
Funny story. I remembered once (years ago), I met a girl at the club, seduced her, she invited me to her place (of course via some PUA tactics on my part). When we got there, she insisted that I remove my sneakers before entering the bedroom (some shit about the rug). Not expecting to take a girl home that night, I got careless and I wore a pair of kicks that smelled like an NYC sewer SMFH! So when she told me to remove them,in my head,I was like, “Oh shit, hell NO!!! I’m not about to embarrass myself and have this chic’s crib smelling like a bag of stale-corn chips“! I tried working around it (having sex in the living room instead), but she insisted the bedroom. I eventually gave up, and hit her with some lame excuse as to why I had to leave. So I essentially didn’t give her the dick she wanted because of stinky feet.
Adding to that, a lot of us guys who have pride, or are pretty much sane, would’ve done the same to avoid an awkward situation.
Same as a girl who has pride would be embarrassed to remove her shoes to get in bed if her toes were visibly jacked-up.
Same as she would flake or turn you down for sex if she’s on her period.
Just as a girl who gave a shit about her appearance won’t show up on a date on a bad-hair day.
But it’s so ironic after all these years of studying Game, I never thought that flaking and LMR (last-minute resistance) could’ve been results of her Period & Grooming (lack there of). My PUA mentor Thundercat aka Joseph Matthews, was spot on with his observations.
Don’s list was spot on from my experience.
Ok let’s get to it!
“I never cheated”:
LMAO, this one is a classic fib we’ve all heard before.
Now I’m not saying that all women cheat, but for the ones who do, under most circumstances, they’d deny, deny, deny!!!
Let’s face it: society is unforgiven towards women who get their freak on on the side.
We men get praises and badges on honor for infidelity: players, pimps, dons, gyalist [a Caribbean term for players], etc.
With that in mind, every woman knows she has to be extremely cautious in guarding her infidelity against the social backlash of being labeled a slut or hoe.
So it’s much easier for her to lie and say she never cheated.
“I don’t give head”
Another classic fib I usually get from girls I’d just met.
This one is so friggin’ common…I expect to hear it from every new girl I meet!
It’s pretty much the same as the first reason: not wanting to be judged as slutty.
A girl is willing to do ANYTHING sexually, as long as she’s certain she won’t be judged for those actions.
So let’s say she just met a hot guy, they hit it off, the sex topic comes up, she isn’t sure about this new guy (as to if he’s a critic or not), so her natural inclination would be to deny doing sexual acts which may be seen as taboo, nasty or slutty.
So it’s much easier and safer to lie about going down town.
“I don’t have one-nighters”
Which guy on the face of the Earth never heard this lie before!!!?
If you’re used to getting laid, well you SHOULD be familiar with this fib.
I don’t have enough fingers and toes to behind to count the amount of times I’d picked up a chicc in a nightclub, who tells me she doesn’t have SNL (same-night lays), but later that night I’m banging the shit out of her!
The Reason she lies about not having one-nighters or Same Night Lays:
Just as the above the 2 reasons I’d outlined: this one comes down to not wanting to be judged and deemed a whore.
Every guy would love to brag about having one-nighters.
But for a girl!!!! She avoids admitting to this like it’s a fucking plague!
Never had I met a chic who admitted having one-night stands.
When she does end up sleeping with me the same night, it’s always the same story, “I can’t believe I just did that. I never slept with a guy on the same night. You’re the first”.
What a fucking ego-stroker for me.
I would have loved to believe that I was her first-but bullshit!
What do the 3 lies have in common?
It’s much safer (socially and emotionally) to just deny ever doing those things.
No woman wants to be judged, defamed nor characterized by the men she’s hoping to court her.
To say to a guy with which she’s hoping to have a relationship, that she sucks cock, or that she’s cheated before-that would be a turnoff to most men.
Women being privy to this, know that it’s much easier to just lie in order to NOT turn off a would-be boyfriend/good man.
Whoever wrote a book about how women are such emotionally attached creatures when it comes to post-sex…Kill yourself!!!
This article isn’t addressing all chicas [I love Spanish]. I’m specifically talking about the club/bar girls.
Now, I’ve learnt a lot about women, being immersed in the seduction community.
But one piece of advise which really pays dividends is this:
“Always assume that a girl is a one-nighter or same-night lay”.
And that quote is specifically addressing club/bar chicas.
We guys tend to always prejudge women as being angels, re-incarnations of Mother Teresa, prudish, monogamous…when we should enter the interaction with the mindset, “she’s down for whateva”.
Ok, let me fast forward to the relevancy of my situation.
Few years ago, I’d picked up the hottest girl in the club [ read here ].
We made out, with some PU tactics, I managed to get her back to my guest house.
Not having a fucking condom, I wasn’t able to bang her.
Side note: it seems like whenever I forget to buy rubbers, those are the times I’m presented with most lay opportunities!
When I do have a stack of condoms on me: I’m never getting lays [talk about a paradox].
Anyway, so we settled for some mutual- oral play since I wasn’t able to bang her raw dog.
Holy shit: this girl literally squirts!!!
She’s the first and only squirter I ever met! This chic fucking squirts like 10 yards: no fucking kidding!!
I gave her like 5 squirting orgasms within 15 minutes via finger fucking her.
I felt like a kid in a candy store or a guy who just discovered some crazy shit!
Anyway, we had fun! It’s in essence an SNL eventhough we never had intercourse.
Even the occasions I did bang girls the same night after the club-the same theme almost always plays out, which is:
‘The girl moves on’.
I was leaving that morning to go back to the neighboring island(Barbuda), so she walked me to the ferry just around the corner.
A day passed- she never called me.
I phoned her later, we chatted few minutes but I felt a coldness about the vibes, as if she didn’t wanna talk.
Not as if she felt hurt or dissed, but her vibe was as if she’s not fucking into me. Like “why is he calling”?
Not getting the hint that “girls just wanna have fun”, I phoned her the next day but no answer.
Phoned her few days later, no answer!
Phoned her from someone else’s mobile about a week later, she answers, then her tone sunk as she realized it was Me.
Believe me guys: I wasn’t being needy here like some AFC pussy.
I was merely following post-sex protocol: which is to not totally cut her off if I’d liked to see her again.
But I never got the memo nor the hint that this chic was merely looking to get laid that night!
So wasn’t looking for strings attached nor the possibility of an LTR (relationship). She wanted to fuck!
But we men find it hard to believe that women can be so “like us”, or promiscuous.
So I treated this case and girl as status quo and end up looking like a needy dick in the end.
Moral of the story?
Never assume that the girl at the club/bar whom you’re gaming is looking for something long term.
Assume she’s a Same Night Lay, and treat it as such by pressing the issue to bang her that night.
If you do manage to pull it off: don’t get excited like I did!
Be nonchalant and let the vibe flow.
Don’t call her after sex.
If she’s interested in seeing you again: she will call!
If she’s really just a one-nighter, then she won’t call. Or she would call just to allay the perception that you’d see her as a slut [woman's #1 fear].
But I’d totally played that the wrong way.
Ok, with that out the way, lets get to the action!!
Few years ago, after reading an online-seduction article on gaming hotter girls [cant remember by which dating coach], I was pumped as hell to try out some new stuff! I was flying solo that night (no wingman to fuck up my game).
Ordered a cocktail, then headed to the dancefloor to survey some ass while tryna look as normal as possible (and not like an AFC/weird guy).
I usually dont go for the hottest chic in a venue [too much competition]. But this time-instead of settling for an 8 or 9, a hot ass HB10 caught my eyes from the get-go!!! Not only my eyes; this chick had every guy’s attention at the Coast night club!
I mean it was mesmerizing the way she twirled and whined like an Indian- belly dancer.
All the average guys, naturals & players were hovering around this chick like fucking helicopters. Some tryna talk to her, others tryna dance with her, others asking her to let them buy her drinks…
Of course she shut them down like a true b***h would.
I’d typically be one of those rejectees [thanks to the underground-seduction community].
So I threw on my James Bond cool demeanor while I gave her “the eye”.
Not a gawking,deer in the headlights stare. But a dominant look with a sly stare & smile which exude, “I’m not like those other chumps”.
I mean,we spoke to each other via body language & eye contact. Not a word said, but our bodies were in tuned. It’s divine; cant put it in words but I just felt it.
While all the guys were facing her,I was the only one slightly turned away. That shit must’ve made her insecurity alarms go off (questioning her beauty), “why isnt he paying me any attention, am I not pretty enough, is he not attracted-why not”?
That’s what usually runs through the minds of high-maintenance types, when they’re not given the attention they think they deserved, they then question themselves.
Sure, she had all the attention a girl could ask for (from about 20 men in her circumference), but those men weren’t challenging. They indicated their interests way too soon, thus disqualifying themselves before the game began.
I was “the only” challenge she had.
She eventually got jaded and tired of all the attention, so she exited the dancefloor and went to look over the railings into the bay [the club overlooks a bay since it was on the island's coast line].
So I made my way over to her (from the side, so I didn’t startle her by coming up directly behind her like a creep)…
And I said these magical words to her “I can dance way better than you“, then walked off right away [slowly, confidently and cocky].
Now you may ask, “what was so magical about that line”? But the magic wasnt in the line(words), but the audacity to go up to the hottest girl in the club and say something bold with a cool-sly smile.
She expected me to throw some cheesy-ass pick up line, compliment or offer to buy her a drink like 95% of guys would. But I flipped the script with a C&F line [pick up slang for something ballsy and challenging], which totally fucked up her mental circuitry.
And to top it off-I walked off instead of staying there like a needy-guy (subcommunicating that I was lonely and wanted to chat). So I walked away slowly to the nearest bar in the venue where she would be able to see where I went.
Now remember, Im following a script here: according to the pick-up article I’d read a week prior to this, if done right (the take aways, body language, etc.), she would track me down to continue the chat.
All I had to do from then on was to not get lost in the crowd where she couldn’t see me.
Still skeptical of this working (she following me and tracking me down), I ordered another Malibu & pj and got sidetracked by 1 of the TV’s in a lounge area. Then I felt a tap on my shoulder-which scared the shit out of me! Turned around, and it was the HB10-Hot Girl.
At this point, Im paralyzed with anxiety not knowing what to say since I didnt expect she’d actually come over to me!!!
So she leaned in animatedly and yelled, “why do you think you can dance better than me”?
I cant remember what I said aftrewards but 10 minutes later, we were making out heavy in a secluded area of the club. I end up taking her back to my expensive hotel, but had no fuckin condom so didnt get to lay her [fuck]!!!
All that heavy making out for shit!
Had to settle for some oral play. This girl was actually my first squirter BTW. That shit was crazy lmao.
Ok guys, that approach may not work for everyone nor on any girl, but it’s a very powerful technique for seducing in clubs or bars or any night venues.
Frankly, it’d work better in bars where the music isnt that loud and it isnt over crowded.
And it’s not the words, it’s the balls to not supplicate and suck up to a 10 just because she’s hot.
Having the balls to walk away, knowing and believing that she’ll pursue you (eventhough I didnt believe it at first).
And she didnt have to re-open me; I had the solid option to go back up to her later on, knowing she was already attracted and open since our dancefloor flirting.
Yours truly: SocialKenny signing off till later.