The Summer is upon us, which means more opportunities for guys who live in colder regions to get laid more since hotties are now crawling out of their Winter hibernation looking to get laid also [mutual accord]!
Irrespective of the season, talking dirty with women should be a huge part of your seduction repertoire.
Firstly, let’s begin with the 3 most common follies and mistakes guys make when it comes to sex talk:
Miscalibration: Bad timing is the most common mistake we make as men. I’ve witnessed guys try to strike up sex talk at a crowded bar counter to no avail. Not that this is inherently a bad idea, but you have to be socially aware enough as to when you can go verbally sexual and when you shouldn’t.
Rushing The Brush: Another common mistake when it comes to talking dirty is to jump right into it without warming the girl up first. I’ve also witnessed guys attempt to talk dirty with girls but they run with it before crawling and taking baby steps. This also shows a lack of social intelligence on the guy’s part.
Gun-Shy: Although not a mistake per se, but more of a conditioning, the average guy gets paralyzed at the thought of getting verbally dirty with women [sexually]. It feels unnatural and wrong.
Sparing you the drawn-out proceedings, I’ll get straight into the heart of the matter!
The When And Where Of Sex Talk ( Talking Dirty)
Sex talk can be done with a girl over the phone, text and in person.
The impact of course will be more profound if done in person as on a date or lying in bed with the girl.
Contrary to popular belief and falsified bullshit put out there by women, talking dirty with your date is actually possible and a great sign of things to come!
This has to be done more subtly however since you’re in the presence of others [at a restaurant, etc.]. Nevertheless, it’s highly possible!
Flirting quite naturally has the potential to lead to dirty talking since flirting is the proverbial spring-board to getting you there.
Although adamantly against taking girls on dinner dates, presuming you’re still trapped in the matrix of romcom-dating advice and you’d taken the girl to a fancy restaurant, you can kick start the dirty talking in the following fashion:
Me: “Wow, this lobster is so tasty! Taste it”!
[I would feed her a piece of my lobster]
Me: “How do I taste ;) “?
Me: “Can you handle more of me…I mean the lobster”?
[I'm inducing some sexual tension which will cause her to blush, flush and engage in the mutual flirting]
Me: “Let me taste a piece of you”.
[Motion for her to put a piece of what she's eating into your mouth]
Me: “Eem, yummy! No complaints”!
Me: “Are you always this tasty”?
Ok guys, that was just a template of how to get sexual over dinner.
Notice how I didn’t dive right in and say something like: “I want to fuck you”!
I abide by the “crawl-first model” by insinuating sex with the eating of lobster, then I gradually got more sexual.
That is how you introduce dirty talking while on a dinner date or any date for that matter.
The key is to start small by insinuating and hinting at sex.
Dirty Talking With a Spouse Or Girlfriend
Talking dirty with your girlfriend or wife is an easier process than if the girl was someone whom you’d never been sexual with.
For guys who are uncomfortable with talking dirty, this can be challenging. I’ve been there, so I can personally attest to this as being fucking awkward!!!
Nevertheless, it comes down to crawling first!
This is where texting comes in pretty handy for starters.
Let’s say that you’re feeling quite frisky and your GF is currently away at work. You can send her the following txt dialogue [straight out of my phone with my girlfriend :)]:
Me: “Babes; for some strange reason, I’m feeling turned on right now. What did you do to me this morning”?
GF: “Lol, I don’t know what it is”.
Me: “Well you have to figure this out because I’m here with a hard on at work”.
GF: “Lol oh boy”!
Me: “What color panties you have on. Wait don’t tell me: blue thongs”!?
GF: “Lmao wow you’re psychic babes. It’s blue and black striped”.
Me: Eem, that seems so sexy when you type it. Type it again”!
GF: “Lol blue and black striped”.
Me: “Please stop it! If I cum on myself, you’ll be blamed”!
GF: “Lol blame me for everything huh”!?
Me: “If I were at your job right now, I would so fucking crawl under that desk and go to town on your kitty cat”!
GF: “Lol such a freak Kenny. Coworkers around so how would that happen”?
Me: “Don’t worry! I’m a sexual stealth ninja. They won’t see a thing but hear you moaning silently”…
Ok guys, that was an actual excerpt from a sex chat I had with my GF via Blackberry messenger [BBM].
Notice how I’d started small at first just to test the waters then I became more sexual as she was playing along.
At the end of the chat, the convo became more vivid as I told her how much I wanted to slide this cock down her throat until she begged for me to stop!
That was a perfect example of how to initiate sex talk with your girlfriend or wife.
With a girl you’d never been sexual with: it gets a bit trickier.
Dirty Talking With Strangers
Generally, you can get away with murder when it comes to a girl you’ve already shagged. A new girl (stranger) for that matter: the awkward factor heightens.
For a master Pickup Artist and seducer like I am: this is just another cake-walk in Central Park ;).
Presuming you’re not a master seductionist…yet, you’ll have to precede with caution as to not get too heavy too early.
Ok, I’ll lay out a scenario of a bar setting and how to initiate sex talk/dirty talk with a stranger chick.
Flirting at the bar
Fore-note: Bars and nightclubs are sexually charged environments where chicks are opened to being hit on and treated as sex objects.
But how many guys actually get sexual with strange women at bars? Perhaps that 1 drunk guy in the entire venue?
The defining factor between you and the drunk guy is that you’ll be coherent oppose to the drunk guy who lacks coherency and proper calibration.
Fore-note #2: Be aware of your surroundings [have Social Intelligence]. You cannot initiate sex talk while the target girl is within earshot of her girlfriends. This is where the drunk guy goes wrong…although he has the right idea. You will have to isolate her first. If she’s alone; then you’re golden :).
Check out the following dialogue I’d recorded on audio [word for word] of a recent bar pickup of mines:
[Approaching random-bar girl]
Me: “Hey quick question; why is it that chicks in bars always choose Margaritas as their first drink of choice”?
HB: “Lol I didn’t know that we do that. Maybe is because it’s a light drink and we want to start light”.
Me: “Great answer! Gimme a high 5 for that one”!
[I then gave her a hi5 just to hold her hand a bit to establish KINO]
Me: “So what’s in your glass”?
HB: “Apple Martini”!
Me: “What! You know what they say about girls who drink Apple Martinis right”?
HB: “Lol what”!?
Me: “You’re gonna be really offended by this…[building tension, anticipation and intrigue by pausing]…They say that girls who drink Apple Martinis…are lacking good sex”!
HB: “LOL what!!!! Lol that’s hilarious”!
Me: “Yea I read it on the Internet. You know everything on the Internet is true, right”?
HB: “Lol noooooooooo!!!!! You’re funny”!
Me: “Plus I have a bit of psychic ability and I’m able to see through things and read intentions. I know what’s on your mind right now”.
HB: “Test me lol”!
Me: “You’re such a naughty little girl! My crystal ball says that you’re thinking about sex on the beach right now. Perhaps it’s the cocktail and not actually sex on a beach” ;)!
HB: “Lol your crystal ball isn’t that accurate, but a sex on the beach sounds nice” ;).
Me: “Let me get you palms”!
[I took her hand and go into an ESP reading of her palms]
Me: “The middle line in your palm is long. That means that you’re a person who does whatever she wants and hates when others try to bound her”.
HB: “Yep! That’s me”!
Me: “And the short line which connects to your passion signifies the type of person you are sexually. It means your very wild but needs someone to bring it out without being too direct”.
[Remember guys: this palm reading exercise of mines is total bullshit and it's based on nothing but pure freestyling]
Me: “I sense that you can be a very sexual person once you meet the right guy who won’t judge you”.
HB: “I am to be honest”.
Me: “My crystal ball also says that you have no panties on and that you love going commando”.
HB: “Lol so not true”!
Me: “Don’t underestimate me. But quick question: why is it that…I’m so sexually drawn to you? Gimme 2 reasons”.
HB: “I dunno. Ummmmm…maybe my body and eyes…”
Me: “And the fact that you’re not wearing any underwear”!
HB: Lol shut up I am LOL”!!!
Me: “Nah seriously, you’re the first girl I ever met at a bar and been so sexually excited about”!
HB: “Is that what you say to every girl”?
Me: “Yea!!! But I mean it this time. I’m popping a mean fucking boner just from having a casual chat with you”!
HB: “LOL you’re killing me for real”!
Me: “I’m sorry for being so sexual and perverted! Spank me please so I can learn my lesson that it isn’t cool to go up to random girl and be so forward”!
HB: “Lol nah I’m not gonna spanking you! I actually like it”!
Ok guys, hopefully you get the point of how to go sexual (verbally) with strange girls at bars.
Dirty talking should be commenced subtly using sexual innuendos before getting sexually explicit.
It’d be pretty stupid to go up to a girl at the bar and say to her: “You have a nice ass and it’s getting my cock hard”.
I’d be easy for a guy like me to get away with. But for the average Joe reading this, an approach like that will totally crucify you and set off the creepy rape-alert inside the girl’s head.
As you become good at this [sexualization], you will then be able to get away with full-blown sex talk from the get-go with random strangers at nightlife settings.
Few More Pointers On Sex Talk:
Refrain from engaging in explicit-dirty talks with a girl whom you haven’t met yet in person, i.e. a girl you met online.
Doing so will create too much cognizant dissonance, thus making her feel slutty for talking that way with a guy whom she never even met before…then she will flake on you!!!
Leave the dirty talking and sexting for girls whom you’d actually met in person, or the ones you had been sexual with before.
In the past, I was guilty of making this crucial mistake many times where I would meet a girl on Facebook through mutual friends, we hit it off from the start, dirty talk ensues via Facebook chat, we set up a meet up- then she flakes at the last moment.
If she doesn’t flake, she will flat out make a bunch of excuses as to why we cannot meet up.
With that being said: leave the heavy-dirty sex talk until you’re in person vis-a-vis with the girl.
Sure you can flirt over text or phone conversation, but keep it light in order to avoid making her feel slutty.
Now, if this is a girl you’d already been on a date with and actually picked up in person, then it’s ok to get explicitly sexual over text and phone conversation.
However, it’s still much safer to keep it light until you meet her again for the day 2, date or meetup, where you can actually bang this girl when it’s all said and done.
If she’s your girlfriend; the above rules aren’t applicable since you’d already been sexual with her.
Dirty talking is an art.
If you’re bad at it [bad timing], it’d fuck you up and you’ll loose the girl.
If you’re half-way decent at it: you’ll be looked at as a sex God by women whom you come in contact with.
It’s an art and skill which can be mastered easily as I had done.
Your biggest challenges will be your own mind and inhibitions:
“I don’t wanna be seen as a pervert”
“What if she slaps me for being forward”?
“I prefer playing it safe”
“I’m too shy to talk dirty”
Your own mind will fuck you out of easy pussy!
Tame your inner inhibition when it comes to talking dirty with women, and just let it all hang out but with tact and skills.
Start small and non sexual!
Instead of saying: “I wanna eat your pussy”!
Start off with: “I’m in the mood to eat something sweet”!
Let her guess as to what you’re talking about. You’re planting seeds of sex, which is 100 times more powerful than being blatant…in this case.
“Using sexual innuendos to turn girls on”:
If all fails as far as becoming comfortable with sex talk, a great way to achieve this is to speak with a phone-sex operator. You can simply request an explicit chat solely (instead of actual phone sex), just to get a sense of what it is and how it is to talk dirty to a woman and have her engage in the dialogue.