How To Sleep With Married Women [A Slow Courtship]


There’s 1 intricate thing to keep in mind concerning the seduction of married women and the pace:

As long as she knows that you are well aware of her marital status (that she’s married); you’ll have to take a slower-methodical approach as the title suggests.

For example, if you have the hots for a female coworker who’s married, and she knows that you know that she’s married, it’s almost impossible to approach this situation with a flash-game mindset or One-Night Stand frame.

However, the married chicks whom you can pull fair amounts of One-Night Stands (SNL’s) with, are those whose marital status is pretty much discreet and unknown to you the guy.

For instance, if you pick up a girl at the bar who happens to be married, but she’s a complete stranger: then it’s highly possible to sleep with her that same night from the club…or in the club.

The fact that her marital status isn’t mutually known, it creates a sense of singledom for her, which means you can seduce her as if she was just any other girl without obligations to any man.

A married coworker, a married woman at church, etc. those types require a slow-pace seduction in order to sleep with them.

Don’t mean to sound redundant but I must hammer it home before I begin my deliberation: as long as she knows that you know that she has a husband, your sole recourse to sleeping with her will have to be a slow approach.

Think of the movies for a second.

As much as Hollywood is skewed with bullshit Beta-Males plot lines and fictitious advice of what not to do when seducing women, there’s a film or 2 which seem to reveal some true jewels pertaining to courtship.

One such film is “Unfaithful”, where a married cougar was lured into a steamy affair with a young-foreign hunk who swept her off her feet with his sheer bad boy laissez-fare approach to life and sex.

This of course wasn’t a One-Night Stand romp but a protracted affair.

Had he met her at the nightclub, overseas on vacation or randomly on the streets, he could’ve escalated rapidly towards sex being that her marital status wasn’t a well-known piece of information, unlike that of a married-female coworker.

“Unfaithful”: starring Richard Gere and Diane Lane

What Makes Married Women Cheat

Over the years, I’ve had my fair share of married poon, and I’m currently seducing 2 in a methodical fashion as I’ll be outlining in this article later on.

The common theme I’ve noticed with these affair-seeking girls is that 90% of them fall between the 3-5 year bracket of the time they’ve been married.

Why the significance? I’ll explain later.

It’s somewhat difficult to seduce a girl who has just gotten married for the simple fact that she’s still reeling off that newly-wed high which haven’t worn off as yet.

After 3 years however, the euphoric newly-web high seems to wear off where monotony and routine of married life sets in.

Between that 3rd. And 5th. year, I consider those milestones as the dissatisfied years.

I didn’t make the rule, but from my experience, the 3-5 year range seem to be the peak time which married women are most susceptible to covertly seeking extramarital sex.

Why is this?

Young marriages do not work, or rarely do. Young-married women often reflect on their lives and realize what they’ve been missing out on, who she could’ve been with, where else she could’ve been, whom else she could’ve been married to, her girlfriends are still young and bubbly out having fun…

Those factors fuck with a girl’s psyche which induce a sense of void.

She’s home getting fat, having kids, lackluster-social life, feeling undesirable, her husband being bogged down into marriage life or work, is also committed elsewhere or pretty much a boring-dissatisfied dude himself.

The stage is set for the wife to rebel!

It is during those times of inward reflection where a housewife or married woman in general, becomes open to rebel.

Rebelling may come in various forms:

* Online dating (virtual relationships)

* Porn

* Going out (more)

* Drinking

* Meeting new guys

* Talking to new guys over the phone

* Affair

A woman’s greatest fear and vanity is to feel old.

Her greatest aspiration is to stay young, look young and feel young, hence the cosmetic industry, makeup, mascara, etc.

My maternal grandmother is her in late 70’s and she’s still dabbing her face in powder, eye shadow and youth-rejuvenation creams.

Marriages rob lots of women of their youthfulness, youthful aspirations and youthful beauty. This is also the case with married men but to a lesser extent…which leads to cheating solely to get their Mojo back.

Therefore, the reason married women have extramarital affairs is numerous, but mostly in part to recapture their youth and to feel young, sexy and desirable again.


Your Initial Attack: Contact Details Secured

Ok, now that the groundwork has been established, you know the type of married women who cheat, you know the reason they cheat and you know the perfect and ideal window to facilitate her cheating [3rd.-5th. year in the marriage]…

It’s time to get to work!

Before I proceed, there is 1 key factor which will indicate to you [the guy] that you’re sailing smoothly ahead: and that is the securing of her phone number.

Once a married women has coughed up her digits; it’s essentially an affair in progress.

She has already violated her man.

Don’t fall for the bullshit adage neither that she should have male friends whom she can talk to and call up in which to sing Kumbayah on into the sunset…[well that would be advice for husbands].

If your wife gives out her phone # to a guy who likes her and has possible romantic interest in her- then what the fuck will prevent her from taking it further!?

Let me take some deep breathes before I explode: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5….

Ok I’m good.


Get her telephone # or perhaps any other form of communication: Facebook, BBM pin, etc., then you’re 60% nearer to the prize.

Will it be an easy road after the contact-info swap?

Not necessarily.

If she’s a coworker, then getting her phone # isn’t all that relevant since you’re bound to see her often enough.

Your Second Attack: Compliments…

Flattery, Flattery, Flatter!

Compliments, Compliments, Compliments!

As a PUA who’s ardently against complimenting women on their superficial appearances, this is the 1 true exceptional case [for me at least] where complimenting a woman on her beauty will score points opposed to dropping them.

Whether this is done over the phone or in person, it doesn’t really matter to be honest, although in persona has a greater-positive impact.

Most women appreciate a unique compliment but more so the married ones.

Look at it this way, married women are HIGHLY undesirable in society.

They usually have kids, are older, considered off-limits, old-fashion, not cool, professional, and a whole slew of negative stigmas.

Single men just aren’t interested in shagging married women when there are tons of teenage hotties around who are free and disengaged from all the marital drama.

With that being the case, married women are often glossed over in the compliment department.

She is given the customary, “Hey Mary, nice hairdo”, from her male coworkers. But it’s usually welcomed with a sense of skepticism and flies over her shoulder.

The sort of compliments which work wonders are the ones with edge and may get you in some hot-fucking water…that’s if she’s some bitchy coworker who sees compliments as sexual harassment!

If she isn’t a coworker; then play ball without caution!

Templated Compliments To Use:

* “I really love the way you look today”.

* “Your fashion sense is awesome”

* “Does your husband compliment you every morning? He should”!

* “How do you stay so fit after 3 kids”?

Those are just template examples which you can use or make up your own.

Stroke her ego and flatter her indirectly.

She doesn’t get this from her husband nor other men, so you’ll be seen as unique in this sense.

The Third Wave: Feign The Counselor

Time to put her phone # or contact detail to good use.

Casual conversation in person or over the phone is a must!

What usually happens during these conversations are the grand revelations about her husband and the marriage:

* He has a girlfriend, which makes her justified in getting a boyfriend of own.

* He’s always out with the boys.

* She kinda regrets getting married so young.

* She felt pressured into marriage.

* She doesn’t have any free time for herself

* The kid(s) are stressful.

Such declarations are commonplace.

Her dissatisfaction will be amplified.

The most you have to do is listen and give your feedback in agreement.

In essence, you will become her quasi-marriage counselor. However, your job isn’t solely to listen and give advice but to supplant yourself as her savior; her temporary fix.

How do you do this? Read on!

The Fourth Wave: Become Her Savior

The knight in shining armor is often misinterpreted by the men’s lifestyle movement such as the Manosphere.

By no means whatsoever am I advocating “white knighting” and presenting yourself as the good guy whisking her away from the villain. In fact, you are the villain leading her on a brief escapade and a moment of relief from her humdrum marriage.

This isn’t “white knighting”, but the essence of what a true “knight” represents.

Ok, as an addition to the above section, you will transition from listening, empathizing to rescuing.

Just as you would chat up and seduce any other girl in the earlier stages; same applies here.

There is no special line or magic pill for this stage of the game. She’s just an ordinary chick and you approach it along those lines.

You’re trying to communicate that she isn’t just some married chick but she’s still desirable as any other girl out there.

Women who are dissatisfied within their marriages have a tendency to view marital life as a curse or some misfortune which has befallen them.

“Why me”!?

Therefore, you job is to disassociate her from marriage as much as possible.

No talk of “where did you honeymoon”, “who proposed”, etc.

Don’t fucking remind her of marriage!

Talk of her passions prior to marriage and what she wanted to become but didn’t get the chance to be.

Talk of how much you fantasize about being with her.

Ask of fantasies she have.

This can be done over the phone, text or in person.

Seeing Her (Logistics)

This stage will present your greatest challenge.

Married women aren’t (always) afforded the liberty to roam as spinsters can.

They have responsibilities such as tending to home, kids, husband, etc, so getting her to meet up with you might be challenging.

She can’t just say to her husband, “Hey hun, I’m headed to the bar to chat with Jenny for a bit”.

If it’s possible; then cool…winning!!!

Presuming it’s unlikely, you’ll have to brainstorm another recourse.

From my experience, I find that most married women commit adultery during the day-light hours while they’re free to roam, doing business, running errands, grocery shopping, at work, etc.

If she works [during the day], you can always set up a lunch-break rendez-vous of some sort…especially if you live in a big town or metropolis where she can easily blend in cloaked with anonymity.

If it’s a small town where everyone knows each other, she might not take the risk to meet up with you at a cafe or restaurant.

Don’t be surprise though if she makes the logistics work by suggesting something else.

Sweeping Her Off Her Feet [More Logistics]

Whenever a woman is very dissatisfied within her marriage, she will take more risk than you would think.

In fact, there’s a part of her that wishes she was caught in an illicit affair just to facilitate a divorce.

This is more so the case if the marriage has already crumbled and she’s separated from her husband but still legally married and living with her husband.

Nevertheless, I find that the best way to approach such a situation is to give her the impression that you’re her knight in shining armor.

This is where the bad boy risk-taker persona comes in as you see portrayed in the movies.

What I’m suggesting is, if she’s a working woman, suggest that you meet her at her workplace, presuming she has privacy or works alone.

It doesn’t hurt to ask in order to find out.

One such married girl I used to bang, we would meet up at her workplace where she worked alone and had privacy in confines of her office space.

Also, if either she or you drives and or on a lunch break or running errands, you can always suggest going for a drive where you park and chat…then escalate kissing and possibly fuck right there in the automobile.

Unsure of how to make this happen? Read this: Getting romantic and sexual with a girl.

Now this may sound far fetched to the risk-adverse guy, but for dominant males like I am who are adventurers at heart: this shit happens!

Keep in mind: Perfect fucking logistics do NOT exist! You take it when you can!

Banging this chick at her place in a cozy king-sized bed which she shares with her husband isn’t fucking happening…but in rare cases where she totally has zero respect for him!

But that is the far-fetched angle!

Fucking her in a parked car, restroom or motel are highly possible and a risk she will take!

Also take note: the greater portion of affairs happen during the day-time hours at motels, hotels and within the workplace itself.

Affairs rarely ever happen within the home of either party. It’s just too risky.

Sweeping a married woman off her feet sexually is just that as the word sweeping suggests; it’s fast, brisk and swift.

Not much room for a romantic-candlelight dinner setting but a ravishing quickie in a public restroom…if you get the picture :twisted:!

Once again- think of the movies and how affairs tend to happen:

* Bachelor and girl meets

* Bachelor flirts with married damsel

* Bachelor frequents her workplace or vice versa

* Bachelor advances

* She confides in bachelor

* Bachelor fucks her in a bathroom stall on her job

Doesn’t sound pretty nor romantic, but there’s no space for such a courtship.

Courting a married woman should be slow and verbally romantic (with an edge) but a physical romance (dinner, star-gazing) isn’t necessary.

Having Affairs With Married Women At Work

If you’re against hooking up with coworkers- then read no more.

Sleeping with a female coworker who’s married is actually the easiest avenue since all the logistics are already well in place:

* She’s accessible

* You can chat in person

* You can flirt in person

* You know the ins and outs of the terrain so to speak

* A place to screw is always available: office, bathroom, closet, basement, car lot, parked car after work…

It makes things 10 times easier than if you had to plan or set up a meet-up.

The Moral Argument

My view on sleeping with married women is that the it isn’t the single guy’s responsibility nor should he bear the brunt of the ethical and moral responsibility.

He’s just doing what he was programmed to do: to pursue sexually eligible women irrespective of her social and economical status.

As for the married woman, it’s on her to be resolute within her vows and respect of her marriage and husband.

If she violates this; then she should be the sole proprietor of responsibility and blame.

She should know better!

But as the case with majority of women who marry young [under the age of 35]; they were either pressure into doing so under the guidance of a girlfriend, “Girl, if I were you, I would marry Tim before some other girl snatches him up”.

Or, she felt inadequate as all of her girlfriends were being led down the aisle in grandeur fashion while the boat seemed to have left her behind.

I mean, those are the silly-emotional justifications nowadays as to why the average western girl decides to jump the broom.

It’s rarely ever based on screening for a qualified quality man, or an assessed look at his background and tendencies whether he’d make a good husband or a slacking one.

Therefore, the marriage is destined to fail from the inception.

She didn’t marry for the right reasons but to allay her fears of losing her boyfriend, although knowing ahead of time that he will be a terrible husband. So her mentality becomes: “I can fix him”.

When she realizes she cannot fix him: thoughts of rebelling and infidelity surface.

Therefore, I have no moral hang-ups in shagging married women.

If I were to ever marry and my wife cheats on me; I’d take it as a blessing in disguise.

She was exposed as a cheater, which means I should move on and find a more quality woman who is less prone to cheating.

Here is Mark Manson’s [Entropy PUA] take: Is it ever ok to bang married women?

Summarized Recap For Men Who Want To Sleep With Married Women

* Chat her up.

* Compliment her.

* Get her # or contact info.

* Call her up (or text).

* Avoid talk of marriage.

* Flirt

* Suggest meeting: cafe, motel or a drive.

If she’s a coworker:

* Chat her up.

* Compliment her.

* [Optional] Get her # or contact info.

* [Optional] Call her up (or text).

* Avoid talk of marriage.

* Flirt

* [Optional] Suggest meeting.

* Flirt heavy at work.

* Go KINO (touch her and make physical contact).

* Have some balls and escalate on her whenever possible in the workplace.

I’m leaving you with a clip from the 2002 film “Unfaithful”, just to give you an idea of how dominant Alpha-Males seduce married women.

Although it’s fictional, sleeping with married women however, usually starts and culminates this way: chance encounter, romantically rough, thrilling, dominant and spontaneous.

Related Content:

Taking another man’s woman (part 2) by The Player Specialist, a writer at

Affairs with married women by David Wygant.

26 thoughts on “How To Sleep With Married Women [A Slow Courtship]

  1. I agree with A LOT of what you say about marriage! Which is why I’m not a fan. 3-5 years is probably around the time when the reality of that commitment sinks in and not the idealistic BS they thought it would be. Marriage is work, I’m sure it can be fulfilling and all that too, but it’s not as magical and amazing as people make it out to be. Especially if you marry too young or for the wrong reasons. And I think women’s fear isn’t about getting old, it’s about being undesirable (and we’re told that only youth is desirable hence the billion dollar cosmetic and surgery industry).
    Your advice is basically to make them feel desirable again, and alive (by asking what their passions and hobbies pre-marriage were). Smart. I don’t completely agree with your morality stance, I think you are trying to let yourself off the hook. In general, I think women have more responsibility in dating, single or not, because we have more at stake. But that doesn’t excuse the temporary knight in shining armor-lol- as innocent. He is complicit and acting selfish. Both parties are. I don’t think him initiating it should place all the blame on him either. I get that it’s not his responsibility to make the marriage work (that’s hers!). It takes two to tango.


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  4. I luv luv luv young female primates. (All things being equal a 24 year old female cant compare to a 20 year old female.)


    • I agree. I have fucked 3 women on their 18th birthday when I was 26-28. So I was much older, but started flirting with them about a month before, so I could be the first to legally bang them. Nothing beats fucking an 18-year old bareback on her birthday!


      • Just to add to my comment above, I am friends with all 3 on FB today, but unfortunately one of them died last year. One of the other 2, I was engaged to briefly, but she turned out to be a serial cheater (which reminds me, I should try and bang her again). She’s been married 5 times now, and her last husband died on her recently, so probably time to tap that again.


  5. It’s so weird how guys have it all figured out. I just wonder if you know that we know exactly what you are doing? We know you’re just trying to have sex with us, not be our friend or come in to save the day…but somehow the process still has to be played out for us to go along and actually do it. I’m sharing from experience. I knew the whole time his game and what he was doing but I still had to let this process go on with us…one thing I can say is if you’re trying to have sex with a married chick is don’t ever talk bad about her husband. One thing that will turn her around quicker than anything you could do. I in no way think it’s ok to cheat but it happens and I just think it’s so weird you guys all know exactly how to get a girl to do it


    • I agree Kayla. I advise guys of the same thing too which is to never talk bad about the husband or the boyfriend if it’s just a relationship. As for women knowing what we’re up to. That isn’t a big deal. I personally expect women to know


    • It’s true. Absolutely DO NOT badmouth her husband. And do not make jokes about him either. Women have no sense of humor in this area whatsoever. It ended a great time I was having so fast it put me in a sort of shock. At first I thought her reaction was a joke, or maybe she was just testing me. It took me a long time to realize that I had killed the affair stone dead. She never spoke to me again.

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  6. In my life I have had sex with 8 married women. 2 of the 8 hit on me. To me if you look at their situation, married women are the easiest to sleep with. The most recent one has been married over 10 years. I met her at the gas station. She actually pm’d me on facebook, I had to work her from there. It took about 3 weeks.


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  9. Your comment about not fucking in her marital bed is not true for me. In my experience, if a married woman wants to fuck you she will do it anywhere you want, and if you want it in her bed she will let you have her there.
    I have found that there is a point where a married woman will give you a good hard stare right in your face – after which it is either plain sailing following her cues leading to her bed, or you are rejected as her potential lover and either dumped completely or used by her for some purpose other than sex.
    When I was a lot younger I went along with a married woman’s requests to perform little favors for her because I believed she liked me and would eventually fuck me. After months I found out from one of her friends that the object of my desire thought of me as a useful fool with whom she had no intention of ever having sex, and that she was just using me as an alibi to meet her actual lover.


  10. SocialKenny – I have a question for you.
    There is the married woman that I used to work with and always wanted to sleep with, but was afraid to push it too far and get a sexual harassment claim. She has since left the company. I ran into her a gas station, and she gave me her cell phone number. Since then she has also given me her personal email which she claims NO ONE but her has access to.

    We have gone out for lunch probably a dozen times (in a small town) and sometimes she asks me out to lunch.
    I need some advice on how to finally get in her pants as I feel I am getting close.

    I think I definitely missed an opportunity to escalate it at our last lunch.
    I casually mentioned, that if I were ever to have an affair, it would be with her.
    She said she was flattered, but wasn’t sure if she could do that. I didn’t have a reply (which I should of!), so I changed the subject and let the issue drop.
    Now, today she emails me asking me out to lunch next week (so apparently she is still interested).

    How do I close the deal and get into her pants?
    How do you respond to a woman that says she is not sure she can have an affair (when she seems to want one, and is looking for some sort of justification to proceed)?

    Please let me know your thoughts on how best to sample this mighty fine poontang.



    • All that lunching is her asking the one big question: does he find me desirable?
      You must answer that question in the most direct way you can – then keep repeating how desirable she is until her insecurity is overcome.
      After that, it just becomes a question of opportunity to have sex – with the most excitement for her. You may need to suggest some dangerous things to her (to get her stimulated), but one way or another you will know if she will do it or if you are wasting your time.
      By “dangerous” I mean stuff that is risky which she has possibly wondered about but never tried – such as having sex with a lover while her husband is taking a bath. It is up to you to find her limits and push her beyond them. Talk hypothetically or as part of a story and she will respond with an obvious (to you) invitation or counter-suggestion. It is all part of her sexual bargaining which, for a skilled seducer, can be conducted right in front of her husband without him even realizing what is happening.


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