This is a lost art or 1 which has been cast aside by our generation.
“The Power Of Association”!
When it comes to lifestyle upgrades and flexing your association muscles; this wing of the pick-up community is seen as an advanced level of Game which newbies have a hard time executing.
Just 5 days ago, I was contacted by a female CEO of a huge firm with a job proposition for me here on island.
We set up a meeting at her plush office where we parlayed the finer points of the job offer: great wage, pays weekly, 5 days a week (weekends off), supervisory position, my own office [not a cube], given a grand tour, etc…
I’m sold!
The most striking quote from the meeting was when she said:
“We thought that you’d be the best guy for the new post”.
Personally, I don’t know why she’d thought that, but I wasn’t gonna frikkin’ argue here LOL!
Long story short: I accepted the new job and will commence tomorrow [Monday].
I will later share the juicy yet weird details of how this all materialized.
I’m no condescending guy!
You can’t be truly social yet condescending in the same package [a huge oxymoron].
After all, my pseudonym “Social” Kenny didn’t arise out of snobbery.
I advocate “Talking to everyone”; little, big, small, pretty, ugly, important, insignificant, old, young, hot, bitchy, homeless, whatever!
So I’m definitely not advocating for any reader to insulate him or herself into a world where they only chat with people of importance and social value.
However, that is a key component to “working the man”.
As a Pick-Up Artist, we’re virtually grabbed by the nuts and forced to becoming social, to the point that we can approach the hottest girl @ the bar and blow her the fuck away…figuratively speaking!
This seemingly frightening ability is also transference to job searching, networking and business.
One reason why it’s great to “talk to everyone”, is that you never know whom you’ll come across.
That tackily-dressed guy at the supermarket may just be most important guy you will have ever met.
That elderly-looking lady struggling with her grocery bags, whom you could’ve given a hand, might have been the president of a huge firm which is looking to fill some vacancies.
Boston man helps old lady cross the road
How about that guy you could’ve struck up a convo with while waiting on line for your cup of latte?
He could well be just another schmuck! Or maybe a promoter @ a high-end nightclub who could get you in for free every night if you desire.
What the hell am I getting at?
You never want to ruin your chances of advancement in life by sheer ignorance towards others.
You can shoot yourself in the fucking foot just by not saying hi to others.
Making an impact on (the right) people isn’t difficult.
Just be social!
Associating with the right people has a mystically contagious effect.
One day, you could be chatting with the owner of a restaurant franchise, small business owner, a real-state manager, then the ambassador to your country from China or Brazil, etc.
You’ll just be crossing path and (unknowingly) interacting with such characters as if there were a virtual chain linking you to them.
Such occurrences have happened to me many times over the years since assuming the Socialkenny persona.
Wherever I roam, there are 2 striking-characteristical moxies which stick out like sore thumbs: an “Inviting Smile” and “Sociability”!
Most men go about their daily commutes with the following facial expressions: blank, screwed, cold, uninviting, tight puzzled and lost (looking downwards) as if the universe had fucked them over.
In spite of having a shitty-ass start to my mornings, perhaps I burned another tea pot (since I can’t boil water for shit), you will always see a pleasant look on my face as long as I come across others in public settings.
An old lady bogged down with her bags from the grocery store, I’d rarely ever pass her straight without offering her aid or a lift (if driving).
Even if she declines politely (which is rare), my gesture will still be appreciated.
Now, remember the weird situation at the top of this article which landed me the new job?
Here’s the correlation:
A week ago while running some errands in my neighborhood, I came across an elderly-looking lady who was struggling to carry a huge gallon bottle of water.
Everyone else (as expected) since they’re so stuck in their own trance-like states, just passed her straight.
Such blind ignorance towards others just pisses me off, so I said to the lady as we were going the same direction:
“Let me help you with that heavy bottle”.
I didn’t leave it up to debate. I insisted!
She wasn’t gonna decline, so I took the bottle and walked with her and struck up a chat.
At the end of the interaction as we reached her doorsteps, she asked for my name, offered me some cash (which I declined) and we went separate ways.
By the way, this sort of act isn’t done for ulterior-motives on my part.
Even if it is; so fucking what! But it wasn’t.
The power of impacting people and associating with (certain) people is tremendous!
Now, this same elderly lady whom I’d helped that day, turned out to be the CEO of the firm in which I’m now newly employed.
She remembered my name and kept an eye and ear out for me, found me by inquiring, contacted me and the rest is history.
This model, principle and quasi technique is the cornerstone to my upcoming e-book [a 7 step challenge], “7 Ways To Become Social (With Women)”.
7 ways to become social (with women); e-book by Socialkenny PUA
I do these sorts of things on a daily basis over the past 4 years or so.
I never pass someone and just not say anything.
Guys who are totally fascinated and paralyzed by hot women, make the HUGE mistake of wanting to JUST talk to hot women instead of talking to everyone.
In essence, neglecting to flex their associating, social and networking muscles.
I can already hear guys going:
“But Kenny, isn’t that gonna make me look weird as a 20 year old guy walking and chatting with a 60 year old”?
“Wouldn’t that turn off potential hot girls by making me look like a sleaze-ball who fucks grannies for a living”!?
Get out of your fucking heads guys!
This is all a figment of your warped, socially shot imagination.
No one gives a shit who’s helping the old lady or who has a granny fetish.
Get over yourself!
Just do it!
As I said at the top: you never know whom you’re talking to- so just talk!
If you’re @ a coffee-shop, or let’s say @ a locale like downtown Manhattan where mobile-food vendors are virtually everywhere, instead of mutely waiting on a cup of Joe, strike up a quick chat with the dude standing beside you, or even the vendor or the cashier.
You don’t have to get into an hour-long chat about where you grew up.
Just say, “Hey dude, do they always take this long to serve coffee here”?
He answers, you reply, he replies, get your coffee and go.
If you discover that he’s a guy of some value to you; then feel free to swap #’s, e-mail or cards after the chat.
It’s not homo and it won’t be weird.
You’re not picking him up [assuming you're straight]!
Also, instead of passing strangers left and right; do the following:
*Give a head nod
*Say hello or what’s up
*Raise your hand in acknowledgment of others (as if throwing up a peace sign)
*Greet people as if you know them
Just fucking say something or gesture something!
Associate yourself with people of perceived importance.
Be seen doing this!
If you’re constantly associating yourself with guys who don’t get laid who don’t have shit going on for them: guess what- you’ll begin to internalize this state of nothingness also.
No 1 person has more human value or importance than another.
However, perceived-social value is as real as Big Foot!
Just kidding since that was the worst possible example!
My point is well take nevertheless.
The entrepreneur has more social value than the doorman at the Waldorf Astoria.
Don’t ignore the doorman neither just because he’s of less perceived-social value.
On a further note, the average person is scared shit of “The Man” and of people of importance.
We’d rather talk with the middleman than to face the head-honcho.
Not that the middleman or the taxi-driver is more approachable. But we feel as though they’re more on our level.
Well this is bullshit!
And for precautionary measures, don’t do these things with a gain in mind or they will backfire half of the time.
So if you’re chatting with Mark Zuckerberg at a seminar or public event, and your sole aim and angle is to “get a job”; your intentions will seep out which will send red flags of, “Alert, Alert! Another one of those disingenuous job-seekers who’s just being friendly to me to pop the big question. Run run run!!!
Therefore you never want to be talking to people of positions of power and high-social value with a “gain” at the forefront of the dialogue.
It’d turn them off big time!
Just being seen having a dialogue with people of influence is all you need to get by in this fucked-up world!
Don’t beg!
Just associate and socialize with everyone.
Talk to everyone without a tangible gain in mind.
Just as picking up hot women. As we teach in seduction, you don’t want to come off as though you’re angling for something: a #, conversation, sex…
Make it feel as though you’re chatting just for chatting sake ’cause you’re a socially interesting guy.
You’re helping just for helping sake.
The moment people smell “Angle” (ulterior-motives); you’re fucked!
This also ties into working a nightclub by associating with everyone in the venue.
One of those guys you will have chatted to just might be the promoter, owner, the owner’s son, the GM himself or the GM’s daughter…
You get the picture!
This concept and applying it has not only paid dividends for me in the job market, but in dating, pickup, sex, business, @ the bank, @ restaurants, bars and clubs.
Helping the right person and associating with the right people is transferable to almost any aspect of life.
Tomorrow, I’ll be embarking on another job adventure/opportunity which was presented to me by an elderly lady (a CEO) whom I’d helped carry a bottle of water a week ago.
Hence the power of networking and associating with the right people.
Your chances of lucking-up in anything in life is greatly increased with the more people you interact with, say hello to or give a helping-hand.
Landing that gig, job, girlfriend, dream house or fortunes, nowadays comes down to networking and who you know (associates).
Gone are the days where the best-written application, resume, cover letter and stellar portfolio meant that you were winning.
Learn to network the right way and associate with the right people and you’ll be getting ahead in life on little or nothing but a sociable persona.
Related content:
“Infiltrating Social Circles With Alex Kayza”
Check out this episode of the Pickup Podcast Show with AJ and Jordan Harbingers as they interview Alex Kyza, he runs a luxury concierge company out of England, which specializes in networking, working social circles and working your way up the proverbial-food chain in social situations and nightlife venues.
I learned a lot from this single episode years ago as to networking important people [whomever they may be to you].
Need tickets to the Oscars?
Kyza can hook you up by networking with the right people, and show you how to network yourself!
He isn’t a Pick-Up Artist at all, but his tactics and abilities in networking are totally and practically applicable to Game!
Download the 2 part episode in .mp3 format (for free)!
Download “Infiltrating social circles interview with Alex Kyza part 1″.
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Couldn’t agree more man. This is what it’s all about. The vast majority of all job openings in the US (I think 70% +) are never posted publicly. They’re just filled through networking.
And the vast majority of romantic relationships come from social circle–friends, coworkers, college, etc.
Talking and being social with everyone is so important and produces such profound changes. Being able to carry on a conversation is essential to attracting women. If you can’t even carry on a basic convo with a random average person, how the fuck are you going to do it with a hot chick, much less SEDUCE a hot chick? This is something so many guys just cannot grasp. They want to jump from having bullshit social skills to working “routines” on hot babes. No perspective.
And I also love what you said about seeing people as different and having this hierarchy mentality. Total bullshit. A dominant, high-value man doesn’t “discriminate.” He doesn’t lose anything by talking with a random person for 3 minutes, even if they are very “low value.”
I always saw it as “hey, at least I’m practicing my convo skills.”
But the problem is, too many guys in pickup see it as a way to “get value” from others instead of building themselves up to the point that they can “give value.” Classic scarcity mentality vs abundance mentality.
Congratulations on the new job!
Yea I actually heard that somewhere too with the same figures as to job posting in the US. Even here, jobs aren’t posted.
Speaking of social circles, you’re right again. Most guys who get lucky is through social circle opposed to getting lucky with a random chick. So social circle is also networking.
Lol I had to laugh when you spoke about guys aiming straight for the hottest girls when they can’t even hold a 2 second convo with a 6 or something. Walk before you crawl really applies here.
Everything else you said was in your comment was pretty much summed up.
Thanks!
What was the key to u getting hired? And congrats on the job. Love your website.
@Mark- The key to me getting hired was my sociability and people-friendly disposition which I’d displayed. In retrospect, talking with the CEO today (my first day @ this job), she basically told me that she had other prospects for the job whom she’d interviewed based on their applications but she shot them down because they lacked that edge in sociability which I had. The job entails interacting with ppl and potential buyers, so I came in handy there.
Great advice Kenny. Everyone wants to feel accepted and appreciated, by taking the time out of your day to engage them you fill that fundamental need. Good looks on the downloads, I’ll have to check those out.
Yea basically. You’re hinting to their value and making them feel like someone just for a time. As you said; a fundamental need and a void.
BTW, what’s up with your website? Last times I checked some months ago, seems like it was shut down.
It was for about 2-3 months, but it’s back and better than ever. Keep rocking.
Good stuff Kenny.
I do this when the mood takes me and I am often struck by the doors that are opened. Bottom line is life / dating / career is mostly about relationships..
Still, I would say though that I guess it helps if you’re a naturally socialble guy. Some guys are more than others. Not that you can’t do it, just that it comes more easily and instincively to those who actually enjoy taking just for talkings sake.
Cheers mate!
You’re right; everything is relationships. And at times, I wish I was naturally a social guy. As I wrote about not too long ago, I was a wimp throughout high school/secondary school. I literally didn’t talk to anyone. I was frozen scared of women. So I do find that nowadays, this sort of feeling would rear its head for a bit.
Oh and congrats on the new job! Of course!
What a gentleman Kenny! re: old lady
And I think women would see that as very manly and someone who can be a caretaker.
I think seeing a guy be friendly and talking to everyone would make him more attractive and give him value( I think you have a term for this, where women use others’ opinions to determine whether a guy is worth it or ‘attractive.’) And as you said, you are less suspicious when he starts talking to you because you’ve seen him talk to everyone else.
Congrats!
Things like that come across with a good impression to women (helping an old lady with her bags and stuff). It’s only men who see such things as a turn off thinking that women will see you helping an old lady and believe that you’re some perv screwing granny
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