In the pick-up community, this concept is called “Hook-Point Theory” and “Curiosity Loops”, where the PUA denies the target (girl) closure by evading or refusing to answer her questions(at all or directly), and to say things to her which gets her curious.
Sasha PUA, a top instructor out of London, wrote a decent article on this: “Hook Theory”.
Whenever one is denied closure: he-she is unable to move on.
Classic example is families of tragedy victims.
When there’s a lack of plausible information (evidence), people in general (families of victims), tend to not move on.
However on the contrary,when given closure, the Next logical step after closure is to move on.
Saying all this to say, You never want to give the new girl closure (answers), or she’ll lose interest and move on.
[Yesterday, I picked up an HB8 during "Social-Circle Game" (we both have tons of mutual friends in common) @ a beach party, got her #, added each other on BBM.
This' how our 1st. chat went verbatim (word for word)]:
“My phone have a prob so I jus restarted it. So how old r you”?
[Great sign/ioi that she initiated The Rapport Phase FIRST]
“Ok cool. I actually thought your BF took your phone and deleted me lol”
[Notice how I refused to answer her question immediately about my age.]
“Sucking teeth he not even here”
[Great sign when she's dismissing her BF. Shows that she doesn't value him at that moment]
“Cool. My GF not here neither”.
[Always let her know honestly that you have a GF; especially when she has a BF. It levels the playing field]
“I’m 21. So if u have a gf, y u interested in me”?
[Who the fuck said I was into her romantically LOL? The fact that she's presuming I am, is confirmation that she's actually into me. Plus this' a classic Shit Test/Congruence Test.]
“Damn U young as hell girl!!! feels like I’m robbing the cradle!
[I'm negging her about being young, and showing some humor and playfulness]
“Yup young & sprung. Haha thats me”!
“Lmao I like that”
[I never tell girls I like them. I'd say "I like THAT", meaning something about them. But never them directly]
“Well I’m Old enough to be your father. Old and bold”
[I use a "False Disqualifier" PUA technique. Knowing that she's into me, I say something that could possibly turn her off (that I'm old). But at this point, she's too invested to be turned off]
“Good stuff I like that. So serious talk now. Which 1 of our friends told u abt me”?
[The False Disqualifier worked. She didn't get turned off, but more invested in the chat]
“Hold on! U wanna move 100 miles per hour”!
“We need a moderator here”
“I just want u 2 be real thats it
Kenny: “U do recognize me though from the beach party last week”?
“Yea I recall seeing you there”
“U hopped out the car, and u literally flashed your pussy as u came out. Was that on purpose;;)” ?
[I'm building some sexual tension. This incident was true however]
“WTF!! Me 4 real? I did nt 2 do that X_X”. Lol what was I wearing?
“Lol embarrassed? Can’t remember what u had on”.
[Notice how I'm refusing to get into details, not giving her closure. She took the bait again with this Curiosity Loop]
“yup I’m embarrassed. Did I have on a blue dress”?
[The hook Point/Curiosity Loop is killing her as she's fishing for more details for closure]
“I actually didn’t have on n e panty X_X”
[She's trying to bait me into giving her more details by telling me she had on no panties]
“Wow!!!:O Where the hell was my binoculars lol”
“:p too bad for you”
“Shut up lol. Back to real talk and let’s get our minds out the gutter for a second”
[I'm treating her like a little brat. Classic PUA technique]
“Yea lol u started it”
“Ladies first. U started it. BTW, I like what I see in that photo up there. Are u an ok kisser?
[She changed her photo to a couple kissing. I spiked her Buying Temperature getting her horny.]
“That’s cool! Usually girls under 25 can’t kiss worth shit”
[I use more Neg Theory with a playful sort of diss]
“X_X shame on u”
“Lol Why u copying off me with the kiss pic”?
“No u the copier. So u nt gonna tell me which friend u ask bout me”?
“Say it to my face that I’m a copycat and watch me plant a fat wett 1 on your forehead ! I’m gonna tell u”
[I'm once again deepening the Curiosity Loop and Hook Point by saying to her "I'm gonna tell you"]
“Lol so who cares if u do plant a fat 1 on my forehead”
“U care. I don’t care at all”.
“I’d kiss u on the lips, but I don’t wanna start drama”
“Hmmmmm well excuse me”
“They say 1 good kiss can drive a girl fucking nuts”!
“full a ur self”
“;) Just like u. That just might be the reason why I’m sort of drawn to u”
[I'm "Qualifying her" and letting her know indirectly that I like her]
“Lol how u know Im full of myself”?
“Our mutual friend told me” :>
“Who is this mutual friend source Kenny”?
[I'm instigating the hook point theory by eluding to the "Anonymous-mutual Friend".]
“My source also said to me you’re full of yourself, Cocky like a MOFO, parties like an animal and love to watch Jersey Shore, but u cannot cook. That’s a negative. Really disappointed girl”!
[I'm throwing in some more "Negs" and "Curiosity Loops"]
“:( Is this source name W*****i”?
[The more she digs and pry to find closure, the more she subconsciously becomes attracted to me and will think about me more]
“Lol funny thing u mentioned him”
“Cuz I can cook that’s a lie$ Is it?
“It’s no big deal”.
[I'm deflecting the chat by saying it's no big deal, which it is to her]
“But he thinks I’m cocky 2
[She's now questioning herself and how she's perceived by her peers. So sensing her inner insecurity, I break the tension by pointing out that we're the same]
“We both are cocky. Little cockiness and confidence is good”.
“:D ;;) sure is”!
[She now feels comfortable with admitting she's cocky because I told her I was cocky too. I'm essentially leading her]
“:D We got a lot to talk about though. Later!”
[Building more Curiosity Loops and Hook Points by telling her I have more to tell. She will dwell on this for a while, wondering what it could be: good or bad. More she thinks about it, the more she's thinking about me, and the more she'll become attracted to me and want me].
Summarized-Tactical Breakdown Of My BBM Chat With “Ms. Conceited” (her BBM name):
*I fucked with her
*I handed her shit
*Didnt back down from her shit tests
*Had an “I don’t give a crap” badboy vibe
*Never complimented her
*Didn’t over text
*I didn’t come off as a Beta pussy
Now, the next girl you meet,no matter how or where: online, Facebook, Match.com, POF, street pickup, hooked up by family/friends, blind date, etc…
*Apply the Hook-Point and Curiosity Loops techniques fucking IMMEDIATELY which will HOOK the fucking target like fish on bait!!
And don’t just passively read this “how-to” article.
If the way you communicate with women seems to often go south(unknowing to you) ,then the catalyst of the problem might just be a lack of Curiosity Loops and Hook Points.
Men who are successful with women (online, via phone, etc.), they naturally apply HPT’s and Curiosity Loops into their chats (even unknowingly so).
Men who always fail with women, happen to never use them.
So get off your lazy ass and take mental note of how I interacted with the HB8 on BBM.
Grab your Android, iPhone or Blackberry, open up a note-taking app, and type something like this:
“From now on,every new girl I meet in my life, I will apply Hook Points and Curiosity Loops immediately to my conversations”!
Examples of HPT/Curiosity Loops you can say to the target (the girl you’re chatting with):
*“Yo, I have something really funny/interesting to tell you”!
*“Something happened yesterday, but I’m afraid to tell you”.
*Since I met you, there’s 1 thing I notice about you, and it’s strange”
*I seen a girl looked just like you last night. Very strange”
*“Remind me to tell you a secret later”.
*I like something about you, but I’m not sure if to tell”.
*Hey, you’re in your 20′s right? I figure that”.
Remember; the key is to NOT NOT NOT give her an answer(closure) when she says, “Oh what is it”.
Also remember, if she’s NOT interested in you (for whatever reason), she will NOT take the compliance test bait!
She will simply say something like, “Oh ok”.
Essentially not giving a shit about what you’re not telling her.
When she does pry to find out what it is, keep brushing it off, putting it off or just ignore it.
Say to her, “You’re too curious for your own good”.
And believe me,the second you apply these 2 simple theories of pick-up to your interactions with hot women; you will begin to see INSTANT changes, and women will be hooked!
And the added bonus; you’ll begin to get more pussy!!
As Levar Burton used to say on The Reading Rainbow when I was a kid, “Don’t take my word for it- check it out”!
For the reading-impaired, check out the video version with quick breakdown and easy to grasp examples of Hook Points and Curiosity Loops.