10 Tricks To Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Jealous
For starters, I must make this declaration crystal clear as possible:
I do NOT advocate nor entertain such positions as, “How to get my ex back”.
I abhor the thought of guys trying to win their exes back, simply because within such a framework, the one who is actively trying to win back the other, is essentially giving away his or her inherent power to the other party.
Guys who tend to browse the internet in search of articles and videos on “how to win my ex back”, are doing so from a position of weakness, void and sever neediness.
This is a terrible mind state in which to operate from.
Now, if you do want your ex back (by making her jealous), firstly ensure that you’re coming from the right place and the right state of mind.
You’re not doing this because you need her in your life or else you die!
Such a mindset is typical of the 99.9% of men who desire to get their ex back.
10 Tips To Make Your (Ex)Girlfriend Jealous
1.) Ignore Her
Arguably the most difficult tip of the 10. It isn’t easy to ignore someone whom you feel that you’re unable to live without. But suck it the fuck up and ignore her! Stop sending love texts and leaving apology voice mails and instead, go cold turkey on her for about a week…the least. This will undoubtedly make her wonder as to why you stopped contacting her. This also sparks jealous in the same token as she’ll undoubtedly assume that you’d fount another girl.
2.) Facebook Tagging
Assuming your ex has access to seeing your Facebook timeline (whether it be public or you and her are FB friends), start tagging other women in your posts who are hotter than your ex-girlfriend. This’ sure to make her click on the girls’ profiles to see what they are all about. And what is it about them that has your interest.
3.) Photos Of Women
Another tip for Facebook. Upload photos of yourself in the company of other women. Even if you have to beg and pay a random-hot girl to take a photo with you and her; then do it! No one will know that it was staged! Upload such photos to Facebook, and you bet that your ex will cry her eyes out at the mere thought of you meeting another woman.
4.) Photos Of Yourself
Another Facebook tip. Ensure that your uploaded photos of yourself from now on, are that of you doing fun and interesting things. Refrain from posting photos which depict yourself as being lonely, solemn, downtrodden, stressed, etc. Don’t seek pity! Women are heartless! They do not respond to pity from men! Hence, post photos of yourself at the club, bar or doing something new than what your ex-girlfriend is accustomed to seeing from you. Like- get a new hobby and post pics about it.
5.) The Occasional Phone Call
You always want to remain on her radar in some way or another. You should ignore her for a stretch, but always insert a periodic phone call or text (this’ at least after a week of not contacting her). You’re not calling her to cry over the phone neither to profess your undying love. You’re calling her in good spirits just to catch up shortly. This will always make her wonder as to why you don’t seem sad or even miss her. “Is it another girl in his life”? She will ponder.
6.) Other Women
If you’re sure to see her again somewhere (your ex), perhaps at a party or gathering, make sure that she sees you talking to other women. You don’t have to shove your tongue down the throat of another girl to make your ex jealous. Merely talking to another girl in her presence is enough to make her speculate and worried. Doesn’t matter if the other girl is ugly, fat, fatter, shorter, has a mole on her lip, etc, etc, etc. Those things are NOT factored into a jealous woman’s though-processor. In fact, the more unattractive the girl is in comparison to your ex, the more it’ll screw with her as she’ll say to herself, “Why is he talking to an uglier girl? I have more to offer than her”.
7.) Occasional Fake Text
Personally, I do this a lot. Well I shouldn’t say “a lot”, but whenever my girlfriend and I have a falling out and I feel to make her jealous, I would send her a fake text which appears to be intended for another woman but I had inadvertently sent it to her by mistake. The most recent fake text I sent to my girlfriend (during a falling out) was, “You don’t have to bring any DVD. I’m gonna borrow 1 from someone”. My ex, obviously being unaware of a DVD she was to bring by me, would instantly realize that this text was NOT meant for her but another woman. It’s very innocent and innocuous- but works like a charm. And don’t worry: your ex will not know that this text was a fabrication. She will assume it’s real but it got sent to her by mistake. It’ll instantly make her jealous and 8 in 10 times, she will reply to it for clarification. You shouldn’t abuse this by the way. Use it sparingly…or just ONCE per falling-out!
8.) The Fake Call…From A Girl
Get another girl to call your ex’s phone asking for you…preferably from an unknown number so she cannot be tracked or harassed by your ex. This can be any girl…even your sister…that’s if you have one! Just fabricate a little story to the girl whom you’re gonna utilize for the small task. Not only will this get your ex wondering as to why another woman would call her phone asking for you, but it will prompt her to contact you [presuming she wasn't before] to inquire about the anomalous and anonymous phone call. You can simply deny knowing anything about it rather than divulging rational information.
9.) Create A Scandal
For example: Do or say something(s) that is so outlandish and uncharacteristic, that it (almost) gets you in hot water in the court of public opinion. Create a blog or Facebook/Twitter videos which are based on relationship, dating and hooking up (for example). Share your articles or videos on social media where your ex is bound to see them. Ensure that you entitle your stuff with somewhat controversial and loaded phrases which are sure to cause some stir. This may not make your ex jealous, but it will communicate that you’re free-spirited and un-stifled.
10.) The Fake-Date Pic
Post a pic’ on Facebook saying, “Enjoyed my date last night with ***** [insert name of the fictitious date]“. Along with that status update, you should upload a photo of a random girl who looks hotter than your ex. The photo doesn’t have to be elaborate. Keep it simple and make sure it looks natural and not glossed-up. You can find such images on many free stock-photo sites. Since Social-media pics are public, you can steal a photo from some random hot girl’s profile…which is legal. Push comes to shove; simply ask a platonic-female friend of yours to work with you here (preferably a friend whom your ex doesn’t know). Then with her permission, you would use a photo of hers. It’d be even better if this female friend will allow you to tag her, which will serve to appear more authentic than just a random photo.
How To Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Chase You (additional pointers)
Some of you may see these tactics and trick as attention-seeking, childish and down-right shady.
May be so- but they work!
If you believe that you can get your ex crawling back by you begging, crying and chasing her, and publicly declaring how much you cannot breath without her, then I’ll be the 1st to burst your illusionary bubble to say that begging a girl to get back with you, does NOT fucking work.
Women can be very heartless and they generally don’t feel pity. They respond whenever hurt, and not out of pity for an ex-boyfriend.
If she does get back with you out of pity [the rare rare case], she will have had you in the palm of her hands like a little baby, which means she won’t respect you as a man. And in effect, she will eventually use and abuse you emotionally…then dump you once again…that’s after cheating on you.
Chasing your ex-girlfriend by calling her 10 times daily, texting her constantly, contacting her online when all fails, will serve no purpose but to chase her away even more.
Showing her (indirectly) that you have moved on without her, will burn her up on the inside, although she won’t ever admit this to you until after reconciliation…if it does happen.
The 10 tips/tricks I outlined, were my personal favorites which I have field-tested. All of which communicate to the ex that you are moving on and have moved on.
I’ve been in a monogamous relationship 5 years now.
Since relationships consist of bumps and bruises, ups and downs: I have been dumped before by my current girlfriend (albeit nothing to do with me picking up other women).
Hence, I know what works from personal experience. And I also know what doesn’t work and cannot work.
I tried the apology route.
I tried the begging route, “Babes, I swear we can work through this…please”.
The approach that yielded results 90% of the times, was a combination of ignoring her and utilizing the other tips which I’d shared.
In keeping with tip #9 [creating a scandal and doing something outlandish]: I did this to great effect in my most recent falling-out with my girlfriend.
During the period where she refused to talk to me, and likewise, I didn’t speak to her neither, I did the unthinkable: I uploaded a risqué photo of myself lying in bed (the said photo below).
Granted you might not have a sculptured body like mines [pardon the gloat] ;) , but hopefully you get the point of publicly doing something out there and unlike yourself.
This photo released in the public domain had crushed my girlfriend to the core!
Imagine your ex or girlfriend had posted a semi-nude or topless photo of herself to Facebook, Twitter or Instagram?
You’d either be enraged, appalled and felt as though you were the subject of betrayal.
Your girlfriend or recently separated girlfriend, shouldn’t be flaunting her treasured flesh in the public eye. What’s beneath her clothing should only be for your eyes only!
Hence, when I’d done this, although my GF refused to talk to me and claimed she needed a break/space, the fact that I did something so on edgy, was enough to not only make her jealous that other women were checking me out and liking the pic, but it made her chase me and re-initiated contact.
Such is the power of these tactics and tricks of mines.
On the contrary, trying to convince your ex-girlfriend that you’re such a wonderful figure, and even though y’all are separated, you are doing everything “in line” with social norms, such an approach will NOT cause her to chase, nor will it cause her to want to get back with you.
You have to communicate to the ex that you’re free-spirited, edgy, bold, whimsical and most of all- you do NOT give a rat’s ass whether you offend her or not by the things you do and say publicly!
You’re independent of her, her opinion of you, and free from her expectations.
If you really want to get your ex back, utilize as many of the 10 tips as you can, in any order desired until you get a desirable effect…which is the ex-girlfriend contacting you again, chasing you, or literally trying to get back with you.
Bear in mind that a great portion of women are fucking stubborn bitches to a fault!
Though they be crushed on the inside and undoubtedly miss you to death; the innate stubbornness of some women, will keep them from contacting you first.
Hence, with a great portion of those women/exes, you may never know on the surface whether the 10 tricks are working or not. But believe that they are working.
Some women (the ultra-stubborn ones) will try their darn best to conceal hurt, pain, jealousy and the feeling of longing.
My girlfriend for example, is the most stubborn human being I’d ever encountered in my 32 years of physical existence [no apologies in saying that]. And as a Pick-Up Artist who interacts with hundreds of women on a yearly basis: she takes the cake hands down, as the epitome of obstinate.
My girlfriend will never admit to feeling jealous, neither will she ever show transparent signs of jealousy…although it’s boiling beneath the surface.
However, the truth always comes out after the reconciliation when we make up and forgive and forget.
She will then say to me, “You know you hurt me deeply by flirting with that girl over Facebook? I wanted to kill you…and I actually cried the entire day”.
Only then will I have received verification that my tactics had worked.
Luckily for you, stubborn women as my girlfriend, aren’t exactly the rule, neither the exception. I’d say that 40% of women constitute the ultra-stubborn and will show zero reaction to your attempts to get her jealous.
Majority of women on the other hand (I’d say 60%), actually display obvious signs of hurt and aren’t bashful about letting their displeasure be known…even if the guy is an ex whom she had broken up with.
Nevertheless, do realize that whether you’re dealing with a tough cookie or an ultra-sensitive girl, if you utilize the above 10 tricks in the right manner, she is sure to become jealous, hurt and eventually reach out to you in some form or fashion.
The stubborn ones will contact you nonchalantly as though everything is A OK:
“Hi Kenny. How has life been? Seems like your very happy nowadays”.
This is her way of reaching out and also her way of saying, “I really miss you and I am hurt that you have moved on”.
She will NOT say that to you at all (during the initial re-connection conversation), if she’s the stubborn type.
Her stubbornness will keep her from being real at that moment.
The sensitive girl will contact you eventually with:
“I can’t believe you posted those things and you really don’t give a crap about me and how I feel”!
She will show obvious signs of displeasure, unlike the stubborn bitch (and I use that word intentionally).
On a final note, bear in mind that the 10 tricks are subtle and should be subtle.
Nothing is overt!
The more you try to force the issue and cram it down her throat, you will only come off as try-hard, obvious and insincere. So keep it subtle, simple and let the process work itself slowly.
Oh- on the last last note [really- the last note], lemme address a common fear which guys have when it comes to utilizing such tips:
Guys: “But Kenny, wouldn’t my ex feel as though I’m a player or a man-whore for doing these things…which will turn her off even more”!?
Simple answer is: it doesn’t frikkin’ matter!
Your goal is to get her back!
You cannot win her back by chasing, begging and portraying yourself as a saint of a man.
You have to play ball and get rugged.
You have to show her that you aren’t living to please her!
The more you show someone that you do NOT need their approval; the more they chase.
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