I wrote about this last week, but here is the video version I put together earlier in the week for the reading-impaired.
I wrote about this last week, but here is the video version I put together earlier in the week for the reading-impaired.
The other night, I received an e-mail from a long-time subscriber asking:
“Hey Kenny, how do I contact a girl who I haven’t texted in a while? I mean, what do I say and what kind of vibe do I convey”?
What timing he has!
Last night while scrolling through some dead contacts, I came across the phone number of a super-sexy fiancée whom I’d picked up a while back [late 2013].
You can read that field-report post here:
Due to a jealous fiance and shitty-ass logistics: I wasn’t able to fuck her before she skipped town days later for the neighboring island.
Having stumbled upon her number last night, I decided to shoot her a text.
This is a great way to re-start an interaction by the way…especially with a girl with whom the vibe had went dead for whatever reason.
Check out the entire chat log from Whatsapp Messenger.
[My texts in white: hers in the blue background]
Now, the point of this chat log is to demonstrate a few things.
1.) How to restart the texting
2.) The vibe you want to create
3.) Women- regardless of their relationship status- are prone to getting sexual with other men
Restart texts are important in the sense that you have to re-engage the girl in order to seduce her, meet up or get a date.
Where most guys go wrong in their re-start texts, is that they come off as boring and having nothing to say but the generic and lame, “How is your day going”?
Girls get sick and tired of the lame texts from guys.
They will simply ignore your boring-generic texts, or reply out of pity just to be nice and not to break your fragile heart.
When you restart the text game with a girl whom you haven’t spoken to in a while, or even a girl with who you’d texted some days ago, you always want to fucking (re)start STRONG, humorous and flirty!
By “Strong”, I mean with a vibe that conveys:
Being “carefree” is a sexy attitude to which women gravitate.
When you come off as passive, submissive and permission-seeking, you instantly lower your value to women.
With the same chick featured in the screenshot [someone’s fiancée], how was my vibe in the re-start text?
Did I give a fuck about offending her?
Was I gun-shy to get sexual with her?
Did I come off as though I respected her relationship/engagement?
Was I seeking her permission in any way to say what I wanted to say?
How did she react?
Was she offended?
Note: Women never get offended when faced with a guy who doesn’t give a shit.
The irony is: guys who come off as though they don’t give a shit, are usually the ones women hook up with.
This is no secret because we all know that hot women prefer to fuck bad boys and assholes, while happily passing up on the guys who profess to be bearers of standard and respect.
Therefore, the vibe you want to create all of the time, especially on the re-start text, is such a vibe that conveys a bit of rudeness and forwardness.
Also: Don’t ask fucking questions!
I tell guys that all the time [“don’t use question marks in your text messages”], and I repeatedly get rebutted with: “But Kenny: you use question marks”!
“Well- you’re not fucking Kenny, right”!?
The difference is, once a girl knows already that you’re high value, Alpha and dominant; there are many things I can afford to get away with that would otherwise put the nail in the coffin for you and the Average Joe.
I can get away with asking cheesy interview-type questions and filling my texts with ? marks, simply because I would’ve already set the stage from the get-go that I am a dominant guy who isn’t afraid to get rough, dirty and sexual.
I would’ve already generated and created so much attraction that I almost can’t do/say anything wrong that would turn the girl off.
The mistake guys make in such a context [texting], is that they come in already having no value to the girl, already seen as weak, Beta and permission-seeking, yet they decide to sneak a sexual remark into the conversation [trying to be covert], but in turn get shut down coldheartedly.
In order to get away with being forward with women, you have to first present yourself as being the prize and having equal to more value/status than her.
If Brad Pitt, or any other male actor, some rockstar or Drake goes up to a girl and say:
“I want to fuck you”
Do you think she would get offended and throw a fit?
Of course not!
Because such a guy has more perceived value and more social value than the girl/groupie/fan does.
The beauty is: you don’t have to be a rockstar or fly around the world in private jets in order to command respect from women.
You simply set that tone/vibe from the beginning of the pickup…that you’re the type of guy who gets his way in life, and you’re golden.
Another important point I want to show you is this. If you check back the text log above, you will have noticed this subtle yet significantly telling comment that the girl made to me [below]:
Whenever a girl tells you that you’re “full of yourself”: never take it the wrong way!
It is a damn compliment!
Quote: “You’re still that unbelievable guy”.
In retrospect: it is apparent that the girl and I shared prior involvement…though we never hooked up or anything.
However, when I’d picked her up back in 2013 in front of her fiance actually [unknowingly], I presented myself as a shameless, go-getting Alpha-Male.
Here’s an excerpt from that field-report post:
At this point, I figured I had to get her # before the fiance returns and possibly yank her away and fuck up the entire pickup.
HB: “Yea so I work here, so you can see me here some time”.
Me: “Wait wait wait, that isn’t good enough. Give me your # so I can call you weekend”.
Once again, I’m displaying power and out-framing her intentions.
She wanted to leave our next meeting up to chance.
I wasn’t about to leave it to chance so I grabbed her hand, “Wait”, and got her # instead.
The crazy shit though was while giving me her #, her fiance had came back to the entrance of the restaurant over hearing her wife-to-be giving me her digits.
In essence: my vibe was that of a boss who doesn’t seek permission from anyone.
The simple fact that you have the heart to cold approach women when no other guy is doing it, will have automatically set you apart from 99.9.9% of other men as a guy with balls and a boss’ attitude.
The final thing I want to touch on is my 3rd point: Girls will get sexual with other men in spite of their relationship status.
Lemme make this crystal clear: what I should’ve said was that Girls will get sexual with other men whom they perceive to be Alphas, in spite of their relationship status.
In other words, and as I eluded to in the previous paragraph, if you’re low valued and a weak permission-seeking guy: women will punish you harshly if you dare attempt to say/do something outside of the scope in which she has you…which you as the guy, inadvertently placed yourself there.
Hence, though women will cheat, get sexual, have phone sex and sexting sessions behind their BF’s and husband’s back, they will rarely ever engage in such activities with men whom they perceive to be beneath them…such as guys in the friend zone.
If she’s ugly and undesired: then sure!
Ugly girls need love too.
However, if she’s hot, has status and has lots of guys chasing her: then you don’t stand a chance as a guy whom she perceives to be weak, valueless and low on the totem-pole.
How would you know if women in general see you as a weak and valueless human being?
The best indicator is what you’re allowed to and not allowed to get away with…which is the grand lesson of this article.
Guys whom women perceived to be of worth, can get away with murder…proverbially…and literally.
If you’re a weakling in her eyes, you are vastly limited as to what you can say and do to her and with her.
No suggestion of hooking up if you’re a weakling in her eyes.
No suggestions of 3-somes…definitely not!
No sex talk or you’ll get chided out like a 5 year old being sent to the corner on punishment!
Any slight comment that remotely resembles that of a sexual insinuation, will get you scolded, ignored and blocked.
If a girl doesn’t respect you as a real man- an Alpha Male- she will show her disapproval quickly!
I’m able to regularly get away with sexual remarks and forwardness with women of all statuses, ages, races and classes, simply because they respect me as a real man.
Not because of anything inherently special about me. But from the vibe in which I give off from the get-go upon meeting them.
If you come off as a self-righteous saint: you will be expected to stay in that lane: ALWAYS!
If upon meeting a girl, you present yourself as Mr Respectable and Mr Non-Sexual; the girl will have expected you to remain there and to not deviate at all.
This is why it is really difficult to salvage damaged sets…even for the professional pick-up artist instructors like myself when it comes to coaching guys.
What I mean is, guys regularly sign up for my phone-coaching program in search of a remedy to their problem with ‘The One’…that 1 specific crush.
I routinely get that precarious guy who holds some sort of position in the church, who has a crush on a woman in choir.
All along, he presented himself as this saintly dude, asexual, pious as ever, would never offend women by flirting with them and so forth, yet that same guy comes to me for advice on how to fuck that choir girl with whom he’s been playing the Mr. Respectable charade for 2 whole years!
What is the problem here, and why is it so difficult for even a guy with my experience, to turn around such a set for someone who seeks my advice?
Quite simple: the choir girl would have already deemed him a non-sexual threat.
In her eyes: he is a weakling!
He has no value and no status in her reality as a sexual man…which means she will never allow him to get away with anything outside of the scope of friend-to-friend communication.
For him to now decide upon stumbling across a PUA website or from reading my stuff, that he should now turn the sexy and flirty on after 2 years with the choir girl, could only result in catastrophic failure via rejection and possible expulsion from the church upon report of this unforeseen turn of events!
It is essentially a suicide mission.
You can’t one day be seen as a saintly weakling to women, then tomorrow decide to approach those same women who deemed you a saintly weakling, as a rebirth of Don Juan or some rebellious character out of an action flick.
It won’t work!
This is why I advise every guy who is new to pickup, to delete every single girl from his phone contacts and start afresh!
Bar fucking none!
There’s little to no hope in trying to hook up with a girl who had friendzoned you a while back.
She won’t care for your new persona.
All she remembers is the old you.
The weak you.
The non-sexual you.
The guy who didn’t have the balls to flirt with her.
Hence, you should not be seeking advice on how to get with an old crush.
If you reach that point: it is already a lost cause!
Sorry to say.
There are tons of fish in the sea.
What you want to do with every new girl you meet from here on out, is to present her with a carefree vibe as I illustrated in the hidden-camera video below.
Doesn’t fucking matter if you’re in the church!
If you want to bang the hot choir-girl: you must firstly (sub)-communicate to her that you’re the type of guy who would bend her ass over the piano, lift her apron and fuck the shit out of her…if given the proper logistics…like when no one is looking. :twisted: :twisted: :cool:
That is the vibe you must embody: whether in person, on the phone or through text.
With this same girl in the chat log from last night, by now, I can guarantee that she’s married, since when I picked her up back in November 2013, she was engaged to be married.
Not only that, but she’s a choir girl in her church. ;) ;)
The reason she got engaged to marry so young [she’s about 25] was that she wanted to adhere to the tenet of the monotheistic faiths which say “sex before marriage is unlawful”.
Ok- fair enough! I have no qualms with that.
Then why is she flirting with me, getting sexual with me and allowing me to get sexual with her?
I guess it’s alright…just as long as it doesn’t lead to actual penetrative sex. :?: :?:
All jokes aside: with that bit, I just wanted to highlight the hypocrisy of women in religion and women in marriage.
Regardless of a woman’s religious and ethical views, or her relationship status: she will almost always throw those aside whenever faced with a dominant-sexual male who isn’t afraid to speak his mind and to present himself as the prized individual whom girls should chase.
This is why whenever I meet a new girl, regardless of her religious persuasion, I’m always forward, sexual and rude with her.
With my re-start texts: this frame/position is no different.
You have to remember as the man between the 2 parties: you are charged with the responsibility of setting the tone.
Not the girl!
Therefore, if you set the tone as an interaction between platonic buddies, then the girl will naturally follow suit.
If you set the tone as an interaction between sexual prospects: then the girl will naturally follow suit also.
However, this tone-setting has to be done from the gate, within the 1st minute of meeting the girl- LITERALLY!
You can’t spend 10 months in the platonic-friend zone talking about schooling, work and the her life goals, then decide to turn it up the 11th. month by getting flirty, forward and sexual.
Also, once you set such a dominant tone from the gate with women, it is a lasting 1!
Since women are rarely ever approached by men [through text or in person] who are un-stifled, the rare Alphas usually stick out like diamonds in the rough.
On a final, final, final note: Always end the texting first before she does.
Something I referenced in a previous post was rejection.
Now, we all know that rejections don’t exist.
That isn’t quite what I wanted to tackle (whether rejection is legit or a figment of the imagination).
Seemingly, due to my apparent successes in the field and how easy it seems to get hot girls to chase me via text, some of my readers are under the impression that I don’t get rejected or that I get rejected far less than any other dude.
This misconception isn’t due to any imperical datum. In addition to that; I don’t give the impression that I’m impervious to rejections. And this can be substantiated by my many posts of failed sets, failed approaches and so forth.
I’m no Nick Krauser here [no mal intended Nick].
The reality is: I get rejected way way more than most guys.
If you understand the implications of the numbers game, then this reality wouldn’t be difficult to grasp.
The more girls you approach, the greater the odds that you’ll get blown out.
It is pretty much that simple.
With the reality that the more one approaches, the more one gets rejected, in order to avoid the sting and pain of rejection, most guys decide to not approach at all while electing to play armchair quarterback from the comfort of their computers.
It is much easier to risk getting rejected online opposed to under the scrutiny of watching eyes…though no one is really watching.
You have to have a rejection-proof mentality in order to become a pickup artist or play at this game.
Most guys who get into pickup, never make it pass 1st base. And this is because it is difficult for them to push pass so-called rejection.
As for myself to date, I get rejected every week.
Every day actually.
Does it affect me?
I am somewhat immune to rejection nowadays…which is where you should aim to reach eventually.
The more rejections I get, the more resistance I build towards it. But make no mistake about it: I get rejected all the time.
I get rejected over text, phone call and in person.
The final point I want to touch on is the notion by AFC Beta’s that to get rejected and persist and not give up, is somehow seen as desperate.
Yea- go fucking figure.
Guys who are not into pickup, usually never get it.
On a particular men forum which is non-pickup related [flooded with Beta-Males and keyboard jockeys], someone had posted some links to my articles, ironically in an attempt to paint me as a desperate pussy-chaser.
As expected: Average Frustrated Chumps [AFC’s] stick together as they are dumbed down by mainstream as to what is effective dating, so I was chided out and branded as desperate for doing pickup.
Once again, this sort of mentality is fostered by men with zero to limited experience with the opposite sex.
They see trying to get laid religiously as an act of desperation rather than a natural and primary function of every male who walketh the Earth.
Somehow, to them, pickup is seen as something desperate men get involved in.
What they are actually saying in essence, is that every guy should play armchair quarterback and hope and pray for pussy to fall into their laps.
If you’re ever proactive about getting ass: you are somehow branded desperate according to group think and the mainstream-dating world.
Well, to be honest, I’d rather be desperate and chase ass to get laid than desperate and stay home and spank the monkey.
As word of advice to every guy out there who is serious about pickup: your fellow man will not understand!
You will be envied, despised, hated and shamed by the average man.
You have to learn to withstand these sort of public scolding and realize that guys who hate on you and deem what you do as desperate, are only confessing to their inferiority complexes and lacking in the dating and sex department.
Therefore, pay no mind to detractors. And pay no mind to rejections.
Both do NOT fucking exist!
My haters- the ones outside of pickup- do not exist to me.
They are like empty drums making noise in the wind.
Likewise with girls who reject me and the ones who aren’t into me.
Where do I even begin!
Sunday night, a young-married MILF whom I’ve been gaming on and off for the last 4 weeks [she’s 1 such girl I’d frozen out by week 1 for anti-DTF behavior], hits me up via Whatsapp Messenger saying that she’s stranded at her girlfriend’s house and doesn’t have a ride to take her home, so she would like me to accompany her home by foot since she doesn’t live far from her girlfriend’s [though it’s very very far from where I live].
The thing is, throughout various parts of the island, intermittent blackouts have been experienced due to maintenance issues by the power-supply company.
It just so happened that the area in which the girl lives, had blacked out, which subsequently led to her contacting me to walk her home…granted she could’ve called a cab.
[My texts in the white background. Hers in blue]
The question is: why me?
Well- for starters- she knows how I feel about her in that I’m sexually interested in her.
She’s also well aware that I lost a great deal of interest in her as of late, hence this was an opportune moment for her to redeem herself.
Once again, this is a powerful way to get a girl to chase you [by ignoring her after you would’ve done a great deal of attraction].
Having just made it home from having dinner at my grandma’s, disrobed and ready to upload some videos to Youtube, I was contemplating whether to actually put back on some clothes in order to make a long ass journey to meet up with this hot MILF.
Why the hell not?
I’d been salivating for this moment ever since I picked her up some weeks back.
Anyway, so the designated location where I was to meet her was outside of a high school.
Her girlfriend was to walk with her there, then I take over the rest of the way. :twisted:
[Her texts in blue, mines in white background]
Anyway, almost an hour later, I got a ride which dropped me off in the vicinity of the high school [this was after 8 PM].
I walked the rest of the way to the school’s area and waited around.
Remind you it was pitch-fucking dark due to the blackout in this area, so I almost couldn’t see my hands in front of me.
I sent her the following message at 8:30 PM.
I waited around a bit longer but the girl was a no show.
I decided not to text again right away to not appear overly eager and anxious.
After some minutes, I noticed a flashlight emanating from the school grounds. Somehow, I thought it was the girl.
As I approached, I realized it was a security guard with a message for me:
“Excuse me sir. You were waiting on someone right”?
Security: “She just left about 2 seconds ago. She was looking for you so she asked if I seen a gentleman waiting around but I told her no. She end up getting a taxi and told me to tell you”.
Where’s my luck!?
The thing is, it wasn’t that I arrived late.
I happened to be waiting on the Northern side of the high-school premises while she was standing/waiting at the Southern side where the security guard was.
Hence, we were there at the same time but just on opposite streets on opposite sides. :( :( :mad: :mad:
Ok, so this begs the question:
Why the fuck didn’t she just text me and say, “Hey Kenny, I’m standing by the school but I don’t see you”?
As I’ve written about recently: girls won’t necessarily take responsibility and the burden for making things happen.
The more the girl actively participates in such an instance [meeting up, hooking up, etc], the more it makes her feel slutty and she begins to backwards rationalize things, gets buyer’s remorse and plausible deniability issues set in also.
Therefore, you cannot bank on a girl giving you the logistical details or else it’ll make her feel like an accomplice to a crime.
I mean, this same thing happened to me just Friday night with the NYC girl.
In a way, it’s sort of a catch 22 for men.
Girls want you to not appear desperate by texting away eagerly. Yet if you don’t text to get the logistical details down, they [women] won’t provide it on their own volition anyway.
Hence, it’s a damned if you do damned if you don’t kind of situation for men.
Anyway, so the sexy MILF decided to take a taxi as she felt that I took too long to get there…when she could’ve just texted to find out what was keeping me.
Be as it may, what I really want to touch on as a parting tip for you guy, is the idea of seizing every opportunity whenever it arises.
Girls will covertly present you numerous opportunities to hook up with them, spend time with them and to meet up with them.
It is for you as the man, to seize those opportunities before the window closes where the girl no longer presents you those opportunities.
Though I failed last night by inches to meet up on a D2 with the married MILF, that is besides the point.
If a girl likes you, she will throw these baits out there, hoping that you’ll take them and act upon them.
Failure to do so, will result in the girl coming to the conclusion that you’re not serious about spending time with her, you’re all about games, thus she will withdraw all of her interest as a result.
On top of that, you have to have a proactive mentality towards the game.
Laziness won’t pay off!
I’ll go out on a limb to say that the #1 reason why guys fail with women, is because of Laziness.
Too Lazy to go out.
Too Lazy to party.
Too Lazy to get their fitness right.
Too lazy to travel.
Too lazy to walk.
Too Lazy to invest time and energy.
Too Lazy, and too many excuses.
C’mon guys, I’ve pursued bangs in the past which left me having to walk home- on foot- for almost 2 hours.
You can read that field report here: http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2014/04/26/cock-blocked-out-of-sex-by-teen-moms-baby-weekend-field-report/
You may not get to see the girl nor get the lay. But what counts is your awareness and attunement and willingness to be proactive.
Guys still want to lay on their asses and expect that women and dates will just fall out the sky and into their laps.
Be mentally prepared for those moments when a girl sends you that txt message asking, “What are you up to”?
On a related note, if you remember the old Mystery Method model of pickup, Mystery had a theory that it takes 8 hours to sleep with a girl.
What he was trying to say, is that had you done everything correctly [attraction and comfort] and had at least 8 hours in the bank of time spent with a particular girl, then there is no reason why she won’t feel comfortable sleeping with you.
Now, what does this have to do with my situation or with you?
Every minute/hour spent with the girl is time invested in the proverbial bank.
In theory, the more time you get to spend with a girl, the more comfortable she becomes.
Comfort begs sex.
Where most guys go wrong here, is that they linger way too long in the comfort zone and end up getting friendzoned.
However, if you have the format correctly [comfort + seduction], you will have realized the importance of capitalizing off of every breakthrough which presents itself, that allows you time to spend with the girl.
An hour here, 30 minutes there, 10 minutes there, 2 hours here, etc. until the lay opportunity presents itself.
Therefore, if a girl wants you to accompany her home [as in my case from last night]: Do it!
You don’t do it because you’re such a nice guy who cares about safeguarding every woman’s life.
You do it because it is 1 step further to sleeping with the girl.
A very common question I get asked is:
“How many girls do you pick up”?
The answer simply varies due to numerous factors.
Managing one’s bang-prospects in the form of girls picked up, requires the strategic approach of an ardent tactician in his craft.
I may go a week where I deliberately pick up 2 girls.
The following week, I may pick up 20.
By “pickup”, I mean to get their phone numbers.
There are some weeks where I would be ‘On’ like a precision-guided missile, hitting up every avenue and crevice on the streets like a pick-up madman.
Other weeks, I’d be content with just 1 new number as I would’ve already been gaming up a significant portion of women to begin with.
Be as it may, on average, I pick up about 3 new girls a day during a decent week while on a hot streak.
Pickups over the internet account for about 25-30% of my overall conquests as far as phone numbers go.
If I pick up 20 girls this week, 6 or so of them, would’ve been from Facebook or an online-dating site.
However, the vast majority of my pulls are made from street pickup [cold approaches].
Now, the raw fact is this: if and when I do pick up an average of 20 new girls during a week, there’s no way humanly possibly that I or anyone for that matter, could actually game 20 girls simultaneously and still remain effective.
The numbers are just too great without enough time within a 24 hour span to grab and keep the attention of 20 new girls…not withstanding that young girls are ADD and ADHD.
What would typically happen in such a case is, I would narrow down the 20 to a workable and manageable 5-6 girls.
By a process of rapid elimination, I would marginalize or delete the girls whom I deem are more prone to flakiness and head-games.
How do I come to the determination of which of the 20 girls are into head-games?
I would have gathered this piece of information from our initial interaction.
Now, this doesn’t mean that my assessments are always spot on.
For all I know, I routinely eliminate solid leads who may have been DTF, while keeping on board flaky girls who have no intentions to ever meet up.
It is a gamble nevertheless and an elimination process must take place.
At times, presuming that most of the 20 girls picked up were solid fuck-prospects, instead of elimination 15 of them by deleting their numbers, I would keep their numbers stored in my phone for future seduction purposes where I can game them the following week or so.
Why I don’t particularly like doing this is because of the potential and likelihood that the initial-bubbly vibe will have evaporated and the girl will not have remembered who I was.
In the event that 2 or 3 of the selected 5 girls turn out to be flakes and dead leads, I can always substitute them out for 2 to 3 of the other prospects which I’d put on the back-burner to potentially be eliminated.
Be as it may, 5 to 6 new girls a week are workable…at least for me.
Presently [as of this week], I would say that I’m working on 6 girls actually.
By “working on”, I mean trying to fuck.
If by a week’s time there is no significant breakthrough with a specific girl: I eliminate her by either:
1.) Deleting her #
2.) Putting her on the back-burner by freezing her out while subbing her for another girl
If by about 10 days and a significant breakthrough doesn’t materialize in a meet-up with the girl: I basically move on, knowing that the following week, I will have met and picked up a new set of 20 girls anyway.
Hence, I have low to zero tolerance for going back and forth via text or phone convo for weeks and months on end like most guys do.
If by week 1 the girl doesn’t commit to meeting up for the Day2; I suddenly lose interest in pursuing the lay.
I also sparingly recycle girls who may have fucked around and flaked on me a time or 2.
For instance, if a girl decides to play head-games in week 1 [though all women are prone to playing head-games to some degree], I would cut her off, freeze her out but keep her number stored on standby.
Perhaps 3 months down the line, I would hit her up again to start afresh…essentially giving her a chance to redeem herself.
You have to take into consideration existential factors which might have been at play on a prior occasion.
Perhaps the girl was going through a mean breakup when I picked her up and she just wasn’t quite ready to commit to fucking another guy yet…hence her flaky and indecisive behavior.
I would put such a girl on the proverbial back-burner for about 3 months, and hope that whatever she might have been going through, would no longer be an impediment to a rendezvous together.
Hence, a quasi-recycling procedure in your overall seduction repertoire is advisable.
I’ve met girls who were cold and bitchy today, but were darlings 4 months later. So, I always try to exercise discretion and to think for the girl since it’s very unlikely that she would come clean as to why she’s being flaky, bitchy and so froth.
Current affairs can turn a charming darling into a wretched-cold woman overnight.
Anyway, so at any given time, I’m poised to tackle 5 or 6 women through a combination of texting and phone calls, with the next goal in mind being to meet up.
I see no point to engage a girl in texts and calls for 5 successive months just to make something happen.
The reality is, and from my experience, if by the 2nd week [3rd week the latest], and you haven’t managed to meet up with the girl yet, it is good as dead.
Hence, it is advantageous to get the ball rolling right away while the initial attraction is still there and at a reasonable temperature.
I’ll speak more to that in a subsequent post.
While hanging out alone outside of a lounge Friday morning, this captivating girl walked by with the grace and elegance of a swan.
It was so apparent [her sexiness] that traffic had literally stopped for a nanosecond while guys in cars paused, stared and cat-called.
A random fellow standing next to me exclaimed to me:
“Damn yo! You see that fucking ass on her”!
Yea- it was that critical!
Always up for a challenge and an opportunity to get my cock in new poon, I went in pursuit of this elegant traffic-stopping girl…who stood about 6’2 might I add [and that’s without high heels]. :shock:
Side note: the setting reminds me of that infamous “Walking in NYC as a woman” video where 90% of the guys just stood there, admired and threw out some random pick-up lines to no avail.
The 2 guys who did have the balls to approach, were completely game-less and clueless AFC’s.
It also goes to show that most guys are content with just watching and staring but never approaching and pursuing.
How else would you have a shot at getting the girl if you don’t approach?
Furthermore, 99% of guys will NEVER approach a sexy girl who stops traffic merely with her walk, because most guys are terrified of rejection- especially in the public eye where others might be watching.
Be as it may, as a Pick-up veteran who understands that rejections don’t exist [it’s all in your head], and who isn’t afraid to “go for it” in any situation; as the girl walked by and every guy in the immediate eye-shot stopped and stared, I pursued her without an ounce of fear.
I had my Sony HD cam on me, but this happened so spontaneously, I didn’t have the time to record the set.
Me: “Hey! Girl in the blue dress”!
I shouted to her from about 20 yards behind of her.
Me: “Hello! Girl in that blue-flower dress thingy”!
She recognized that I was addressing her so she stopped mid-road, looked back and said something which I couldn’t quite hear because I was still at a distance, plus it was windy as hell out.
Nevertheless, she stopped and waited for me to catch up.
Great sign! ;)
Now, let’s pause there for a bit.
What is the average guy’s impression of a super-hot girl as this one was?
You name it!
Most guys are under the impression that hot girls are bitchy and are difficult to talk to.
Hot girls are the easiest to approach and the most sociable women since they’re accustomed to having to have to interact with lots of significant people who are vying for their time, such as: bosses, coworkers, agents and other men of notoriety.
Hence, a pretty girl has to be sociable in order to get favors bestowed upon her.
However, most guys don’t bother to approach them because they feel like they don’t stand a chance.
Anyway, so the dialogue went like this verbatim.
Me: “Oh okay, so you didn’t want to stop because of the facial hair and I’m looking all wild. I bet if I had just gone to the barber and got a fresh metro-sexual cut, you would’ve stopped in a heartbeat”.
Girl: ” :lol: :lol: :lol:
Me: “So…I’m kenny”.
Girl: “I’m ***”.
Me: “For some reason, you don’t look like an island girl”.
Girl: “Maybe it’s the accent. I’m from New York”.
Me: “Oh for real? Where at”?
Girl: “The Bronx”.
Me: “No shit. I used to live in the Bronx. Crotona Avenue”.
Girl: “Ok I know where that is. I’m from Fordham”.
Me: “Where at? Fordham is so big. That could be anywhere”.
Girl: “Oh, near the university”.
Me: “A side bloc, or literally on Fordham Road”?
Girl: “Fordham itself”.
Me: “So what brings you here to the islands”?
Girl: “I have family here so I’m visiting. What about you”?
Me: “Same…except I live here”.
Girl: “But you have a strong New York City accent”.
Me: “Yep. The accent is hard to kick I guess. By the way, that dress is very short. How do you manage to not get mauled by dozens of guys”?
Girl: ” :lol: :lol: I get all these guys approaching me since I’ve been here. Damn it’s overwhelming”!
Me: “I can imagine. So how long you been here”?
Girl: “Since Sunday”
Me: “A whole week and I’m just now seeing you. We have to make something happen fast then”.
The chat went on for about 15 minutes as we came to a shed of sorts and sought refuge from the island sun.
Me: “Anyway, I’m not gonna keep you any longer since I have to get breakfast [it was about 10 AM]”.
Girl: “Yea, I have to make me some too”.
Me: “So you know what’s the next logical step from here, don’t know”?
Girl: “What? You want my number”?
Me: “Smart chick! Yes”!
Me: “But does your # work down here though”?
Girl: “Yea. T-Mobile has a plan where I can still use my SIM card and # as if I was back home”.
Me: “For real”?
Girl: “Yea. Call it and see”.
“Ring, Ring, Ring”!
Girl: “That’s your # right”?
Me: “Yep. So I’ll hit you up later on Whatsapp to see what’s your plans”.
Girl: “No problem. I’m supposed to go out with my cousins tonight. If anything, we’ll meet up while I’m out”.
Me: “Yea. BTW, where do you stay”?
Girl: “At a hotel on ******* street”.
Me: “Ok. That isn’t too far from here”.
That was the pickup.
Nothing spectacular or out of the ordinary.
Later on that day [Friday night], I got caught up doing other shit so I never bothered to text her to meet up since I can always do that the next evening.
The following evening, I did text her but got no reply.
Later Saturday night, I got a return call from her saying that she left Saturday morning.
If it was 1 fundamental error I made in the initial pickup, it was that I never bothered to get the logistical details of when she was to leave and return to NYC.
Had I known she was leaving Saturday morning and that Friday night was to be her last on island, I would’ve undoubtedly contacted her that Friday night to hang out.
However, I dropped the ball and decided to put it off for Saturday night, not realizing that she was scheduled to leave Saturday morning. :( :(
Rookie mistake that periodically happens to the best of them.
Hey guys, as a note for future reference whenever picking up foreign girls: Always get her logistics as far as when she’s leaving.
I was left to SMH at how close I was to potentially shagging this girl [women on vacation are the easiest to fuck].
I literally had my night planned to include bringing this chick back to my apartment which was in a mess nevertheless [what a godsend in that I didn’t waste my time to even tidy the shit up].
I spent the balance of the night editing some video and stuff since I was too distraught to even go out and game.
Contrary to popular belief: Women have no game!
Well, to be clear on this, we in pickup have always known this. But guys on the outside as to my knowledge, seem to think that women are proficient at game.
Men might not verbalize this, but our actions in passively expecting women to proactively chase us, is a testament to the belief that guys in general are expecting women to game them.
Chasing isn’t quite “Game”.
Having a girl chase you through text by trying to have a conversation, isn’t at all Game!
Likewise with a guy who chases women over text.
“Game” is obviously a subtle art.
“Chasing” in the common sense of the word, is a senseless art.
At times, I fall into these mental lapses where texting women becomes a huge annoyance for me.
I call this 1 of the few side effects of being good with women.
You will have reached a point where upon every text received from a girl, somewhat irritates you in a strange way.
Your tolerance level for trying to make something happen with a girl would have been at a lowered state.
The other day, this sexy girl whom I’d picked up a while ago, hit me up on Facebook as depicted in the screenshot below.
Evidently, my vibe was very dismissive.
However, that was an attempt at game from a woman’s point of view.
That was her game!
Not only her, but almost every girl, when left to fend for herself in such a text conversation, will present shitty game and end up crashing and burning within 3 to 4 texts.
Sure I wasn’t up for a text engagement. But I never told her to stop texting me.
This was her chance to game me up and to strike up an interesting chat with some interesting question of hers.
All she was able to produce was
Usually, as expected as the guy here, it would’ve been on me to make conversation and I would’ve been glad to do so…if it wasn’t for my jadedness as a result of this low-tolerance lapse that I’m presently experiencing…at least with this girl.
Now, make no mistakes about it: women suck at game because they weren’t designed to pursue men. So I’m definitely not expecting to be courted by any woman.
What I want to highlight apart from women having no game, is the desensitization of getting good with lots of women.
When you attain a certain plateau in game, the appeal of hot women will have lost a great amount of its savor.
It’s just like traveling.
If you’ve been to Hawaii quite a number of times, it loses its appeal than if it were the first time you been there.
On a related note: women can definitely sense when you’re high value, when you’ve been around the bloc and when you simply don’t have the time to entertain them.
The parting message here for you guys is to realize that it is always incumbent upon you to seduce the girl.
She won’t do it for you because she simply isn’t equipped that way in her evolutionary hardware.
This transcends all across the board.
Everything from logistics of a date to logistics of a pull, should be placed upon your shoulders as the man or else the plan won’t even leave the tarmac let alone take off.
A girl may very well like you. But to leave the gaming up to her, she will show her grave incompetence.