The Sexual-Grace Period Redux – Advice & Warning For New Boyfriends


Boyfriends Beware!

Most men aren’t aware that there is such a thing as the “Sexual-Grace Period”.

It is more like a phase than anything else.

What it actually is, is the period just before, and just after, a girl gets into a new relationship.

That window in between both phases is what I dub the “Sexual-Grace Period”.

During that period in time, the girl will likely continue to fuck her ex-boyfriend- even though she now has a new boyfriend to whom she claims to be committed.

This is the “Sexual-Grace Period”.

Most men [new boyfriends], 99.9.9% of them, are TOTALLY oblivious to this- just as I was some years ago until I actually ran some case studies of acquaintances and my own experiences from previous relationships.

A night or 2 ago, I hooked up with a fuck-buddy whom I’d met randomly over Facebook about 5-6 weeks ago [photo below].

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When we first met and hooked up the following day, she claimed that she was single…and I do believe her…though no girl is ever technically single.

Be as it may- she was single- and we hooked up about 6 weeks ago.

Fast forward to a day or 2 ago, as unofficial fuck-buddies, we hooked up again.

Here’s the text log from Whatsapp Messenger.

What I want you to take note of isn’t necessarily the fact that she wanted to hook up so badly. But the underlying dynamics:

She now has a (new) boyfriend.

[Note: my texts in white. Hers in the blue field]

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Well- that was pretty straightforward.

On a side note, if you’d read my previous post about Selling an adventurous risk and not Sex, the above chat log is a clear example of what I wanted to communicate in that post.

Anyway, she had mentioned her new boyfriend to me about 3 weeks ago when we hooked up then.

No big deal to me.

We’re just having a fling.

I’m in no way emotionally invested here. So I have no reason neither to feel slighted nor harbor any rancor towards the reality of a new boyfriend.

From the text chat, it was obvious that she wanted to hook up that night, but wasn’t sure if her new boyfriend was going to stop by her place that night. :twisted: :twisted:

I remained cool about it and told her that we’ll meet up the following night…hopefully.

She was so sexual aroused that she begged me to come over though she was dead tired and it was kinda late [after 11 PM].

Question: why didn’t she tell her new boyfriend to come over since she so wanted to have sex?

That’s another story for another article.

Anyway, so we subsequently hooked up 2 nights ago and left it there.

The “Sexual-Grace Period” is the limbo phase that this chick is currently going through.

When a girl gets a new boyfriend, chances are, she will continue to fuck the guy(s) whom she was fucking prior to meeting the new boyfriend [at least for 6 months].

Hardly any guy is aware of this phase that a girl goes through.

No new boyfriend wants to think that his prized-new girlfriend is fucking some other dude…especially at the inception of the relationship.

Hence, it is this psychological deniability on the guy’s part, that blinds him to the reality and possibility that his new GF could be banging her -ex or some other guy.

Whenever we meet a girl and allow ourselves to become invested in her, we men tend to actually invest ourselves into the idea of a perfect girl while dismissing her likely shortcomings.

We sell ourselves a dream that this girl whom we had chosen, must be special and unique apart from any other girl.

That self delusion brings credence to the cliche of “Ignorance is bliss”.

Having these high and unrealistic expectations of our girlfriends, isn’t a logical frame in which to operate from.

Women are very well aware of this [expectation management].

Women also expect that we men [i.e. new boyfriends] to know that the “Sexual-Grace Period” actually exists, where she ought to be allowed to continue screwing the guy she was seeing before her new relationship was hatched and ratified.

Surely no girl in her right mind would ever verbalize this to the new boyfriend [that she should be allowed free reign to continue fucking another guy]. But she expects him to know this already.

However, men obviously never bothered to read that part of the memo when it was disseminated.

Therein lies the conflict and disconnect between the sexes on this subject.

Men aren’t nearly as smart as chicks give us credit for. ;)

In conclusion, before making that step towards exclusivity and monogamy with any girl, always keep in back of your mind the “Sexual-Grace Period”.

Be aware that there is an 80% likelihood that your new girlfriend will have still been hooking up with some other guy whom she was seeing before she met you, or before you 2 went steady.

It doesn’t have to be an ex-boyfriend neither. So don’t necessarily go on a witch-hunt trying to uncover an ongoing fling between her and the ex.

Just as in my case with the sexy girl written about in this post.

I wasn’t at all an -ex of hers.

We’re merely fuck-buddies.

To summarize that point; how should you as the guy go about this novel revelation that your new GF is still shagging someone else…and when will it ever stop?

To answer the first part: you as the guy, should also continue to sleep with the girl whom you were possibly seeing before going steady with your new girlfriend.

Women [your new girlfriend] wouldn’t expect differently of you since she herself will have been engaged in the same activity.

Why most men don’t have this option and the liberty to sleep with another girl, is because most men who get into new relationships, weren’t seeing/fucking anyone prior anyway.

I highly doubt that there’s ever been a case recorded in history of a girl meeting some new guy, while coming off of a cold streak where she wasn’t seeing someone shortly before.

Girls generally transition from guy to guy, dick to dick, without allowing sufficient space at all for psychological recovery.

Chicks are notorious for rushing into relationships. And that is the reason why they constantly get stuck in this dilemma of sleeping with the prior and the current.

It is all a swift transition for her, leaping from cock to cock like it’s going out of style.

It is for this reason why I’ve always stated on this blog, that there is no such thing as a girl who’s single.

They just don’t exist!

Either she’s banging an ex, seeing someone semi-exclusively or sleeping around wantonly.

Either way you put it, a girl almost always have men/dick in her life…or at least at her disposal. Hence, there is hardly ever a period where she isn’t or cannot get her sexual urges checked.

Men on the other hand, we aren’t usually as fortunate to have options.

The average guy who eventually gets a girlfriend [likely through relatives, coworkers or social group], had likely crawled out from the cold of the dating pit where hooking up was just a figment of his imagination…through masturbation. ;)

Side Note; whenever a girl masturbates, it is usually by choice. When a guy masturbates, it usually comes from a dark place and a lack of sexual options.

Anyway, so that is why most men who get into new relationships, are very likely to have been faithful since they don’t have the option to cheat even if they wanted to.

Contrarily, a girl rarely ever gets into a new relationship observing fidelity by being faithful to 1 guy…at least for the first 4 to 6 months.

She will have been hooking up with someone else until…

This then begs the question: “when will it stop”?

“When will the new girlfriend desist from seeing an old flame”?

Through my intense research and studies of couples that I know, her cheating will likely last upwards of 4-5 months into her new relationship.

If she doesn’t get exposed as a cheating girlfriend by the new boyfriend, her cheating will generally exceed 7 months until either:

   1.) The other guy gets tired of fucking her so he moves on

   2.) She gets caught by the new boyfriend and is then forced to halt her sideline activities since she’s now being monitored heavily due to suspicion by the new BF

She rarely ever stops screwing the other guy on her own volition, her own moral conscience or consideration for the new boyfriend.

Flings are labeled flings for a reason: they don’t usually last very long by exceeding a year [not even 8 months].

An average fling may last anything from 3 weeks to 3 to 8 months the most.

From this fling, either a relationship is born, or 1 or both parties decide to end it and move on to the next fling.

Nevertheless, to answer the nagging question for a second time, “when will the new GF quit having her flings with the guy(s) she’s been sleeping with before getting exclusive with the new BF”?

Four to six months is the fairly standardized median…according to my vast experience.

Oh- and guys- please don’t fall for the misleading bullshit where a girl tells you that she is or wasn’t fucking another guy into her new relationship.

That is a lie!

If she has an ex-boyfriend, especially if they are still on civil terms, chances are, she will have been banging him upwards of 4 months into her new relationship [even if they had broken up in contention].

As a guy [the new boyfriend], this should not come as a fucking surprise once you understand women and their illogical logics…though an oxymoron in and of itself!

You shouldn’t be throwing a pissy-fit at the notion that your new girlfriend could possibly be fucking someone else.

Listen- when I got with my current girlfriend 6 years ago [actually and literally around this time in 2009]; I knew fucking better!

She couldn’t lull me to sleep with any deceptive tactic in trying to convince me that she wasn’t still seeing her ex for a stint.

I told her that it was NORMAL and expected. Hence, I don’t harbor any ill feelings about the situation.

I do believe that she was seeing her ex at least 2 plus months into our relationship…though she claimed she wasn’t.

However, as someone who studies women and their behavioral patterns, I never allowed myself to get all butt-hurt, negative and jealous about it.

I was cool with it, because I knew there was nothing I could’ve done to change the reality.

On my end, it was the same scenario of course.

When my current GF of 6 years now, swindled me into a relationship which I didn’t want at that time [yes- I felt I was swindled], I was actually seeing 5 other girls at the same time…with her being the 6th…[and by seeing; I meant screwing].

Months into that new relationship, I kept seeing 2 to 3 of those old flames until the fire eventually went out.

Saying all that to say- and as a warning to all men out there: Don’t trust any girl until she has proven her trustworthiness over time!

It is downright FOOLISH on your part to meet some girl today, rush into a so-called monogamous relationship tomorrow, then blindly expect the girl to be faithful and trustworthy!

Trust is something that proves itself over time!

You don’t meet a new girl today then allow her to sell you fucking dreams of how faithful she could be, or was, in her previous relationship(s)!

Trust is earned [at least should be]!

Let a girl prove that she can be faithful. And don’t just presume that she’ll be faithful solely because she’s now with you in this new relationship.

When you do find out 4 months down the line that she’s been sleeping with some other guy from her past, you’re left to feel all betrayed and suicidal that you allowed yourself to be duped by someone whom you’d entrusted.

Had you realized that the “Sexual-Grace Period” was a real thing, you would’ve managed your expectations with more prudence, by keeping them [your expectations of your new GF] at a very bare minimum until the girl proves herself worthy over time.

Furthermore, why do men trust their new girlfriend so easily anyway?

SCARCITY!

You’ve heard me say this a gazillion time but I must reiterate: Most men operate from a position of scarcity mode!

When something is perceived to be scarce, one has the tendency to latch onto that something while abandoning any semblance of forethought and rationality.

Since pussy is a scarce commodity for most men on the globe, whenever a guy does luck up and gets himself a girlfriend, through his scarcity mentality, he mismanages expectations, foolishly trusts someone he doesn’t know [i.e. new girlfriend], and begins to sell himself the “I have a perfect-girl” fantasy…not realizing that his so-called cherished girlfriend has probably downed more semen within the last year or 2 than a porn slut at a Bukkake gang-bang shoot.

When first meeting a girl whom you would possibly consider dating, she should be placed on a proverbial quarantine like an Ebola patient until further notice.

This means that everything she says out of her mouth should be scrutinized and deemed suspect until proven true by the test of time [lies will always find a way to surface].

Am I telling you to not trust women?

Not necessarily.

I’m telling you to not trust strangers!

That is sound fucking advice, don’t you think?

It doesn’t matter if you knew the girl for 15 years, attended elementary school together, sang Kumbayas in Sunday school together; a relationship is a whole new ballgame with lots of nuances and hidden clauses built into it.

A girl within the confines of a monogamous relationship, operates under different guidelines, has different expectations and behaves differently than if she were single…quite naturally.

Therefore, just because you grew up with and around Jenny, doesn’t mean Jenny within the context of a relationship, would be the same Jenny [quite the contrary]. So you should not trust any girl at the outset of a new relationship until and unless she’s proven herself: even if she’s someone you know wholeheartedly.

As for the girl featured in this article who virtually begged me to hook up with her the other night.

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You can clearly see from all I’d explained within this post, where, why and how her new boyfriend went wrong.

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For starters, he jumped into a relationship with someone he didn’t know for that long.

Sounds familiar?

Both sexes are guilty of committing this common mistake.

Only difference is that men operate from a lower state of consciousness through poor expectations.

Ok, before wrapping up here, I want to touch on actual “Sex” for a moment.

I am terrible in bed!

I’ll be the 1st to admit that! :lol: :smile: :lol:

Why do girls with boyfriends and husbands keep coming back then?

Why are they continually cheating on their boyfriends and husbands just to lie down with me…someone who isn’t at all good in bed?

Now, for the record; it isn’t that I can’t thrown down and be stellar in bed! It’s simply that I don’t care to put on a sexual performance for any one girl.

However, what keeps girls hooked to me [to the detriment of their relationships and marriages], is as I stated in the previous article, I sell a risky adventure. I sell women an experience. I sell them drama!

I do NOT sell sex to women by making the focal point of our communication how good I can be in the sack!

Fucking a girl good won’t keep her coming back [that is 1 of those Urban myths and legends perpetrated by insecure men that need to be debunked]!

Fucking her ‘MIND’ good will keep her hooked and wanting more of the experience and not necessarily wanting more of the sex.

I mind-fuck women into wanting me by creating a certain dramatic theme that will serve to enthrall and entrap her mind.

It is way beyond intercourse.

When all is said and done, I hope that you will have deduced the main theme from this article, which is that a new girlfriend will expect to be granted a free pass to continue sleeping with the guy whom she was sleeping with before she got with you…until that flame will have fizzled out.

Not only does she expect this “Sexual-Grace Period”, but she somewhat expects that you would also do the same.

It isn’t seen as cheating to women. During this grace period, she is still virtually allowed to do whatever she pleases [according to her modus operandi].

As a guy, you’re left with 3 daunting choices:

  • A.) You can either expect and accept it
  • B.) Throw a fit and break up prematurely
  • C.) Beat your girlfriend into submission [I don’t advise this 1]
  • D.) Do as she does by hooking up with someone other girl until the “Sexual-Grace Period” would have evaporated within 3 to 6 months.
  • If you haven’t checked it out already, ensure that you read part 1 which I posted back in 2013.

    The Sexual-Grace Period Part I

    I Don’t Sell Sex…I Sell Adventure, Risk & A Great Experience


    What are you selling to women?

    Are you selling sex, or a good time?

    Selling sex indeed is what I do.

    However, I package it as not just sex but a risky adventure nevertheless.

    Selling sex to women isn’t that appealing.

    After all, a woman can have sex on the platter at the snap of a finger. So there is no special appeal and draw to a guy offering her sex.

    What she doesn’t usually have at her disposal, is risky yet fun adventure where sex is involved as an additional perk.

    Selling the idea and promise of a good experience is what you should aim to convey, and not necessarily how good you are in bed and how great of a sex-perience she can have with you.

    You think she hadn’t heard that shit before?

    Of course she has.

    This is why I never sell girls the idea of just sex since such talking-points are all too common.

    There just isn’t enough steam to take that ship anywhere.

    Ok, so how do you sell a girl an experience, a good time, an adventure in risk?

    If you read the previous article of the Indian girl seduction, I gave a pertinent and lengthy synopsis of how I make this happen.

    Now, on the surface, the chat log appears as though I was selling sex hard core.

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    However, what I was actually doing was selling the idea of having an adulterous and adventurous time where sex is involved.

    It is exploiting the dynamics at hand and using them in a way that gets the girl engaged in the idea.

    You may ask, “what were the dynamics at play”?

    1.) There was a risk factor involved since she’s married

    2.) Crossing ethnic lines is also taboo…which heightens the tension in a good way

    3.) The idea of meeting up with a total stranger also adds to the risk factor and also heightens the tension

    Those 3 factors are what I sold indirectly in that specific set.

    “Sex” was never my selling point to her.

    I sold an idea of risk.

    If you don’t know by now that women are junkies for risk, then you ought to hand in your resignation papers and stick to playing video games.

    The next time you find yourself engaged in talks of sex with a girl, do a little introspection and ask yourself:

    “Am I selling sex or a good time”?

    If you find that “sex” is what you’re selling to her; then you may very well want to dial it back and make “Risk and Adventure” the focal point of the interaction…at least the underlying theme.

    fabricate some sort of risk that you can interject into the dialogue in order to heighten the experience for the girl.

    If there are contrasts: highlight them!

    Sell the girl the idea that if you and her ever get together [i.e. to hang out], it may cause some sort of existential friction which is nevertheless a reason to proceed.

    This is why and how I get lots of women to cheat on their boyfriends and husbands.

    I don’t sell them sex.

    I sell them the idea that what we’re doing is somewhat wrong yet right…at least in the moment for this moment.

    I focus on adventure and the pending thrill we will possibly have behind the backs of their significant other.

    Now, I know this sounds completely counter-intuitive and backwards. But in that is where lies the beauty and the appeal.

    Let’s be real here, how many women over the internet have you sold the idea and promise of good sex in bed to, and it rarely ever leads to actual sex?

    A ton, right?

    You’ve probably never been successful at trying to sell sex over the net.

    Hence, I don’t have to tell you that selling sex as a guy is a futile strategy.
    You’ve realized this through your many failures.

    Ok, to summarize, if for instance I meet a girl over Facebook whom I’m trying to hook up with, I firstly try to find out by some means, what contrasts may exist between us.

    This is where the magic comes in.

    For instance, a great number of girls I sleep with, register as being somewhat religious.

    As an Agnostic who doesn’t believe in religion, I make that contrast a workable theme when interacting with a girl who attends church on a regular to semi-regular basis.

    Therefore, I position myself as the heathen attempting to lead her astray.

    Once again: I wouldn’t sell her sex. I sell her the idea that to deal with a guy like myself, would be a huge risk to her religious piety.

    I seduce her on that basis of contrasting views and lifestyles.

    This is the same approach I take towards interracial dating.

    I sell a taboo, which is that if we hook up, she could possibly be the recipient of some social backlash from her peers or family.

    Not that they would ever know that we are to hook up. But the perception is just as power [even more so] as the reality of someone in her family discovering that she’s been banging an race intruder.

    With that, you want to exploit the contrasts which exist.

    If there are none; then create some! But quite naturally, there will always be contrasts and conflicting views and sub-texts between all human beings.

    If you’re dealing with someone of another religion: there is contrasts there.

    If dealing with a girl of another race or ethnic stock; there’s an inherent contrast there.

    A religious girl and you’re an Atheist; contrast there.

    A key reason why most girls won’t sleep with you, is simply because there isn’t any tension or contrast since you haven’t created or highlighted any.

    Does the girl have a boyfriend?

    Well there you go: natural contrast there for you to work with.

    I know I’m beginning to sound repetitive here but I’m trying to hammer home the point that you should be selling a risk in hooking up with you, and not sell the idea of just hooking up.

    You have to remember that there’s a reason why women love Soaps.

    It is the contrasts, affairs, risks, thrills and drama.

    We see all sorts of taboos and explicit plot lines in soap operas.

    Start selling girls a soap-opera encounter and you’ll see how many women begin to chase you.

    Selling sex alone isn’t anything special for girls who are sold sex all the time.

    Sell an adventure!

    Sell an affair!

    Sell a risk!

    Sell a taboo!

    Sell a wrong!

    Sell a fantasy!

    Sell a unique experience!

    Seduction Of A Sexy-Young Indian Wife Over Facebook + Why Your Shitty-Belief System Ruins Your Chances

    Over the past days, my posts have been geared specifically towards Facebook game: the dos and donts, common mistakes, fixes and the rest of it.  

    Getting laid with completely random strangers from Facebook, isn’t just a delicate art, but a super-advanced form of game which 99.9% of guys fail in trying to execute.

    This form of online game [FB game] isn’t like meeting women on dating and hookup sites where people are there exclusively in search of someone, love and sex.

    Moreover, seducing a total stranger over Facebook, is radically different from hitting on a girl whom you already know, and with who you share mutual friends already.

    When cold picking up girls on Facebook who know nothing whatsoever about you, you’re essentially starting from scratch, having no worth or value to the girl.

    *You’ll firstly have to convince the total stranger [the girl] to accept your friend request in the first place.

    *You then have to make a solid-first impression since she knows nothing about you.

    *Then you will have to convince her that you’re cool enough, sane, not a stalker, and worth chatting to.

    Those are just the tip of the proverbial iceberg of the many tweaks and tactics one will have had to employ in order to attract a total stranger over social media in hopes to take to bed.

    A huge part of my shtick is my proficiency in making this happen: taking random strangers whom I meet on Facebook to bed.

    Some days ago, I’d met up with the protagonist written of in this article; a sexy East-Indian girl whom I met on Facebook about 3-4 months ago.

    Specs..:
    *Ethnicity: East Indian Hindu
    *Age: 25
    *Body Type: Trim
    *Hotness & Sex Appeal: 9.5
    *LTR Status: Married
    *DTF-Meter: Super High
    *Region: The Caribbean

    [Photos censored to protect her identity from stalkers and internet trolls]

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    Before we actually met up days ago, it started off with the following chat dialogue between us over Facebook [I had taken/saved the screenshots immediately after the chat for educational purposes].

    I’ll walk you through the sub-textual dynamics at play.

    For the record: over the course of 3-4 months since friend-requesting her, I only messaged her twice…and hi and bye doesn’t really constitute a conversation, does it? ;)

    This was all strategic by the way.

    Every verbal move I make is a strategy.

    I want you to bear in mind the formula of mines which I shared with you in the previous 3 posts on the topic of Facebook game.

    Instead of bombarding hot girls with messages and coming off as a guy who hasn’t visited vagina-ville in ages, I employed my usual techniques with the said East-Indian girl (as I would with any other girl I plan to bang):

    What are those techniques?

       *I ignored her 90% of the time,

       *Only commented on her posts sparingly [those comments being no compliments in the positive]

       *Purposely ignored her replies on her statuses

       *Strategically bait her into chasing me

    As a result of my potent strategy of wait, bait and patience, is the following conversation we had days ago before ultimately meeting up for the 1st time…and I shouldn’t have to spell it out for you as to what came of it.

    [Pay attention to my sub-texts. Everything is a strategy to ultimately getting the girl]

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    It is pretty clear that she was the one to hit me up.

    I indirectly complimented her sexiness rather than doing it in a cheesy-lame way by giving a direct compliment as most guys would [women respond more to subtle and the indirect].

    How is my vibe here? Banterish, humorous and poking fun instead of coming off as a subservient-low value vagrant. Guys don’t poke fun at hot girls because they are afraid to mess things up and lose the princess’ favor [pun intended]. :smile:

    Notice how I also said to her [which is strategic], “I don’t usually check out slim girls” [which isn’t quite true BTW]. That seemingly innocent statement serves 2 very powerful yet contradicting points:

       1.) It makes her feel somewhat complimented that I actually check her out when I allegedly don’t ordinarily check out girls of her physical frame.

       2.) The statement is also a subtle neg which lowers her value and knocks her off the hot-girl pedestal.

    I’m also ULTRA-sexual and forward with her right away! How do I get away with this, and why did she not get offended by a stranger being so forward? Because within the frame of the interaction and the dynamics I’d created over the course of 3 months: I am the prize. I am the one of higher value. Hence, I’m able to get away with what would’ve gotten any other guy chided, ignored, un-friended and possibly blocked.

    So- how does she respond to me leading sexually? As you can clearly see, she engages me, reciprocates, while indirectly noting my Alpha-Male persona.

    In pickup, there’s a concept dubbed “expressing vulnerabilities”. When I told her that “I’m shy and scared to speak my mind” [an obvious non truth], I was doing just that. The girl obviously knows that I’m no shy-scared guy. But it doesn’t matter; you always want to verbally share some sort of weakness/vulnerability just to humanize yourself.

    Soon after, I called her a “little pervert” (which is a neg). Which guy says this to a super-hot girl whom he’s trying to get with? None! Once again, the average guy operates from a position of scarcity, neediness and servitude whenever he’s chasing ass. Hence, he wouldn’t dare say a thing to the girl that could possibly be misconstrued as a negative [a neg]. However, when you’re the ‘CHOOSER’, and the Alpha, hot girls will usually become submissive in your presence.

    Now she becomes sexual as she learns that it is okay to be sexual with me and to not fear the backlash of being perceived a whore.

    With her statement of “negro guys do it the best” :) , this is obviously a compliment and a qualification. Very powerful shit whenever a girl does this.

    Side Note: I’ve never been called a “negro” before, so that was kinda interesting…and a bit odd. :I :?

    Ok, so now I ramp things up a notch by referring to my shlong as a Mandingo ;) .So I wisely played the Big Black Dick card…though I don’t feel that I’m well endowed in that department.

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    Girls love a challenge so I set the vibe in such a way; to be sexually challenging.

    Ok, so this was becoming borderline sexting with talks of BBC and Indian pussy.

    Once again, I negged her by insinuating that she’s a crybaby sexually. Doing so baited her into qualifying herself. In other words, she is forced into trying to make a case to the contrary [Jedi shit here].

    Now, the “penis pill” line was a shocker. :lol: :lol: Who the hell says shit like this to a girl he’s trying to impress!? Exactly- I wasn’t trying to impress anyone. In seduction, this is called a “False Disqualifier” technique. It is when the PUA does/says something to the girl that would seem to be a turn off. Telling a girl you’re gonna buy penis pills is basically implying that you have erectile-dysfunction issues…or looking to artificially enlarge your package.

    So why do I do/say it? Because I don’t give a crap whether I lose the girl or not. This is a super sexy vibe to impersonate.

    Ok, so how did she receive my penis-pill line? Did she laugh, make fun of me, run away and ignored me the rest of the night? Of course not. She got even more turned on.

    In all honesty, I wasn’t at all sexually engaged neither aroused. I was merely talking shit, pushing envelopes and purposely calling out the giant elephant in the room: her husband…since she’s a 25 year old married chick. How did she respond to me bringing up the hubby? “Dnt worry abt that”.

    Hey- I didn’t make the rules. :? :l

    Anyway, soon afterwards, she reinforces her desire for dark meat by saying she never had 1 before. Again, this is a hard sell on her part in trying to get me to buy into her supposed BBC fantasy…a fantasy which I doubt she ever had prior to our chitchat.

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    Noticing that she’s selling very hard, I put “buying” on the table.

    Girl: “U look like you tried everything”. That is a compliment as she sees me as a guy who gets around sexually and is well experienced [Pre-Selection is huge].

    As the old saying in pickup goes: “Girls are attracted to men who sleep around and are sexually experienced”.

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    Im guessing I don’t have to tell you that she’s extremely sexually excited and wants the real deal and not just text.

    I purposely bring up her husband again just to see what she’d say. The risk factor gets heightened as I insinuate that she should find her way to my part of town so I can fuck her behind her husband’s back. :cool:

    Teasing, teasing, teasing. So how is my vibe up to this point? Am I chasing her for sex, or is she the one chasing me for sex?

    At that point, sensing that I would like to bang this hot-young Indian wife, I make the wise transition to get off of Facebook by telling her to send her phone number [“TELL” and not “ASK”]. Again, I strategically set the frame of she being the chaser/seller while I am the selector with the leverage here by promising her that I may give her a chance sooner than she thinks.

    Was she DTF? You bet. Her DTF-Meter was on overdrive. :cool: :cool:

    In conclusion of the chat which didn’t last that long at all, it should become readily apparent to the reader that I actually practice what I preach in executing my method to get ass from Facebook. When I mentioned to her, “sometimes it seems like I’m too busy to even send u an FB message”, it is a clear indication of how infrequently I chat with this chick [which had only been 2 times in 3-4 months].

    There are numerous times that she would notice me online and send me a message but I would intentionally ignore it. I’m doing the total opposite of what any other guy would do…which is to ignore a nice piece of ass as if she were some ugly duckling who was becoming a pest.

    Men of importance and status don’t have time to be flooding girl’s inboxes, begging for dates, sex and wanting to text and talk for 10 hours on end.

    Bookmark that point!

    Hence, that was the underlying reason why I cut the conversation prematurely. You must always be the one to cut the convo short- the one to end it- and not the one who gets the conversation closed on him by a hot girl.

    The one who ends the conversation first, leaves with the leverage and the most power in the situation. The one who gets the convo closed on him or her, is left feeling inadequate and of lesser importance. This is why chicks always aim to end the conversation first because they are well aware that doing so, will have given them the upper hand…which women already enjoy since most men blindly give away every position of power and leverage.

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    Well- I don’t have to tell you that this was a foregone conclusion [hooking up] some days ago.

    Question: was this just a case of sexting and getting a girl horny?

    No!

    There are tons of sex-deprived guys out there in internet-ville who could’ve hit her up, or whom she could’ve hit up if it was just a matter of sex-talk to get off online.

    Why then did she decide to take me on while rejecting scores of other dudes who constantly message her?

    Was she just attracted to my talk and promise of big-black cock?

    Surely not. There are other black guys getting at her through her FB posts, photos and inbox.

    Then what?

    Common sense would have it that she wasn’t attracted to me because of my promise of sex. Obviously she had been interested in me prior to our x-rated chat.

    She was attracted to my vibe and not my looks nor my talk of sex.

    Tons of stereotypical-pretty boys and jacked specimens message her on Facebook, but she ignores their messages 95% of the time [I asked her to show me her messages just to see the type of guys who hit her up]. So I definitely don’t have an advantage in the handsome and looks department. ;)

    What separated and usually separates Kenny from every other dude online promising cock, is the subtleties beneath the surface.

    I don’t promise girls dick. I promise a good time in taking risks and having a grand adventure in my presence.

    I focus on my vibe, tone, energy, persona and attitude while every other guy is banking on his 6-pac abs selfies, dick size, finance, expensive car and other superficialities which hot girls are already accustomed to.

    What a hot girl isn’t accustomed to coming across on Facebook, is a guy who is smartly persistent yet knows when and how to calibrate, back off and allow her space to chase.

    Hot girls aren’t used to guys who see them, pretend as though they don’t see them and aren’t fazed by a pretty face, nice ass and perky tits.

    Therefore, if you’re under the impression that all you have to do is talk sex with girls on Facebook and they’ll just spread it for you, I can put my head on the chopping-block and say that you’ve proven this wrong time after time by getting nowhere with sex talk and sexting.

    Another thing that usually happens to most guys whenever they rely on “sex talk”, is that even if the girl does engage and reciprocate, she won’t dare to meet up for sex with those guys.

    Sure she enjoyed the jolt of sexual texts. But it isn’t usually enough to make the girl want to hook up.

    Hence, the reason why I challenged the girl, dismissed her sexual advances somewhat, poked fun at her while simultaneously creating a situation where she will be dying to see me in hopes that her sexual desires will manifest.

    You have to be skillful and prudent in the game in order to subtly persuade a hot girl to want to see you and fuck you outside of cyberspace.

    Most guys, even if they manage to get phone sex or exchange sexual texts, aren’t lucky enough on a consistent basis to get girls begging to want the real thing.

    With this East Indian chick, you can clearly see how, why and when that switch was flipped.

    Demographic Stats And The Skinny On Looks And Mindsets

    The Caribbean is a very diverse region though heavily dominated by those of African descendants.

    East Indian families [both Muslims and Hindus], have been migrating to this region from Indian since as early as the 1850’s [as peasant workers].

    East Indian families on the island of Tobago in the Southern Caribbean

    East Indian families on the island of Tobago in the Southern Caribbean

    East Indians Across the Caribbean

    East Indians Across the Caribbean

    They are the second-largest ethnic group in the Caribbean apart from the Afro-islanders who make up the majority racial/ethnic stock.

    Carnival across the islands

    Carnival across the islands

    East Indian women Across the Caribbean

    East Indian women Across the Caribbean

    As for racial tensions, there are occasional flare ups between Blacks and East Indians. But for the most part, they all coexist peacefully.

    Now, the thing is, black men in the island of Antigua, generally don’t pick up East Indian girls…which is typical throughout the wider Caribbean.

    Ethnic/racial lines in dating [interracial dating] between Blacks and Indians are rarely ever breached in these parts.

    I mean, men in general are scared shit to approach women of their own race and ethnic group. So you can imagine how far outside of the realm of reality it is for guys to try to breach ethnic lines in order to get laid.

    This is largely why this particular East Indian girl [and others like her] whom I’d picked up on Facebook, had never fucked a black guy in her life…though she lives in a predominantly Afro-black region and had likely grown up having mostly black friends just by sheer demographics and numbers alone.

    Apart from that, I want to tackle some pointers in hopes to offer a fix for those who desperately need it.

    Firstly, there is inherently nothing special and different about Kenny.

    Sure I’m a graduate of the underground schools of seduction with a doctorate in female-behavioral psychology. But that was learned, and not intrinsically instilled inside of me from the moment I emerged out the womb.

    My ability and proficiency to seduce women from all walks of life, all ethnicities and socioeconomic backgrounds, was a diligent process, just as it is for any other guy who manages to master this art and mindset.

    “Mindset” will make or break you.

    Your mindset and limiting beliefs are responsible- 75% of the times- for why you fail to connect with women and fail to get laid.

    It isn’t your fucking looks or lack thereof!

    Your failure with women boils down to your poor-belief system.

    A great example of this [poor-belief system] is guys who embody such talking points:

    “I’m not her type”

    “Hot girls only date guys with money”

    “My looks matter to women”

    “She wouldn’t date guys of my race”

    “I’m too short”

    “I need to get a good job or hit the gym in order to attract women”

    “Girls are stuck-up and difficult”

    Every preconceived excuse you harbor about women and dating is actually ruining your chances with women.

    “Looks and Types” have been the biggest-fucking bullshit sold to men over the last 25 years by the media.

    “Girls have types and they only fuck guys who fit their ideal type and criteria”.

    Hogwash!

    Girls aren’t fucking guys based on their ideal types!

    Girls are fucking guys based on the vibe and energy emanating from the guy’s being:

    *Masculinity

    *Confidence

    *Competence

    *Know-How

    *Attitude [contrary to what you believe]

    *Balls

    *Charisma

    *Free-Spiritedness

    …and those are just to highlight a few.

    It rarely ever has shit to do with looks and types in why a girl decides to or declines to spread her legs for some chap!

    Hence, if you’re thinking that only if you were as good looking as that Adonis physique male model, chicks will begin to worship your cock, then I’m here to tell you that you’re fooling yourself in what you believe to work and what doesn’t.

    I’m no damn black Brad Pitt in his heyday. But I still regularly snag and shag girls almost half my age whom you would consider to be way out of Kenny’s league.

    That is because Kenny doesn’t operate within the frameworks of any league and looks.

    I’m in every girl’s league!

    That is the mindset I have and it should be yours too!

    The mindset of winners! Rather than parading around trying to weasel your way into a girl’s party by hoping that she’ll take you on.

    Whenever I come across or interact with a girl who gets my libido kicking, regardless of her race, age, status or social value, the furthest thing from my mind is how hot she is, racial and ethnic lines, leagues, types, my non-model looks, etc.

    Winners in the game of POON don’t think that way.

    When I approach a super-hot girl, whether online or in person, the dynamics I establish is that I am the one outside of her league [I’m in the majors while she’s playing in the minor leagues]. And she’s the one who needs to step up to my league by proving her qualification to me.

    With the super-hot girls, you have to set such a hard frame of you being the one with higher value [aka the prize], simply because those super-hot girls are used to dealing with guys who have status, position, a name…in other words: BOSSES in their own field.

    It is a foolish game to stroll along and approach such girls coming from a frame of scarcity, weakness, supplication and lesser value…hence why most guys aren’t cut out to be Pick-Up Artists, and why over 80% of those who do get into pickup, eventually lose steam, fail and are forced to quit on themselves within a year’s time .

    The idea of cold approaching hot girls in order to generate instant attraction out of thin air, is just too complex and frightening for most guy’s fickle-belief system and warped reality to bear.

    Coupled with the fact that most guys truly believe that women choose based on looks, money and types, you have a simmering recipe for disaster and continued lonely nights while jerking it to porn, or praying that one of your coworkers takes pity on you and eventually hooks you up with an ugly friend of theirs.

    As for the young 25-year old East Indian Hindu wife whom we’d explored in this article, I have to remind you guys that this is the type of chick who gets hit up on Facebook 50 times a day by droves of thirsty-nice guys hoping to compliment their way into her undies.

    Her Facebook resembles the below screenshot [it actually does as I nonchalantly requested to take a peek at her FB app while we were together].

    C’mon- if hippos are enjoying male attention by having their chat inbox inundated by desperate men, you can imagine a girl who’s above a 7 on the proverbial-looks scale.

    As for her marital status [married]; I’ve always held the POV that if a married woman decides to sleep with me, the perceived ‘moral injustice’ should not be place on my shoulders as a legally single man. Hence, I’ve never held any inner conflict about shagging married women.

    They are fair game to me. And I’ve slept with more married women over the last 5 years than those who claimed they were single. :shock: :shock:

    With the divorce rate in the western hemisphere at an all-time high, this shouldn’t come as a shocker to you since marriage holds little to no weight girls nowadays.

    As for race, I’ve always said that race doesn’t mean shit! It doesn’t deter me from trying to seduce and sleep with a girl.

    I’m no stranger by the way to sleeping with East Indian girls, while the average black dude doesn’t dare venture there because of limiting beliefs of insecurity in thinking that Indian girls just don’t dig black men because of religious and cultural customs.

    Kenny on rendezvous last year with one of the many East-Indian chicks picked up

    Kenny on rendezvous last year with one of the many East-Indian chicks picked up

    All in all guys, what I wish to get across to you from my recent seduction of this East Indian hottie, is a basic message of how powerful it is when you utilize strategy over reckless abandonment.

    There is no girl who is inherently out of your league but the ones you inadvertently place there by chasing them through pedestalization.

    Sleeping with a random-hot stranger whom I cold meet on Facebook, isn’t some rare phenomenon for me. 

    This is a weekly occurrence where I meet girls from scratch, generate massive amounts of attraction then have them desperately chase me for sex within 2 to 4 days. :twisted: :cool:

    If you’re having girls on Facebook ignore your messages; then you’re doing it wrong…which means you are over texting, sending too many messages and not allowing sufficient gaps in time for the girl to chase after you!

    Remember: the hotter the girl, the more attention she gets from guys on social media blowing smoke up her ass.

    You have to make yourself stand out from the crowd of clueless Beta-Males or else you’ll be treated like every other Beta-Male in the crowd: ignored, dismissed and deleted.

    For more general to advanced insights and tactics on how to get laid often and easily with random strangers on Facebook, Grab a copy of “Facebook Bang, which I recently put on the e-market in December 2014.



    BTW: Personally, I’m super attracted to East Indian girls here on island because they have this certain sexy swagger about them that I’ve yet to figure out and define.